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Rowan Villiers

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  1. The only thing that is really important to me is to make sure these changes aren't going to require updates to the rigging of the current generation of mesh bodies, and by extension all clothes made to fit them; can anyone give me any additional detail about that?
  2. PeeWee's answer is the correct one... minus one detail. A person can disclose whatever they like about themselves, but unless they do it in a public way via open chat or their visible profile, anything they tell you in IM is confidential... IN THEIR EXACT WORDS. It definitely violates TOS to relay any EXACT messages or copy/paste any logs of IMs with this person without their express consent. However... your hands are not tied in reference to your friend, as you can tell anyone what someone told you IN YOUR OWN WORDS anytime you like and will be committing no TOS breaches. This is the loophole you were seeking. So by all means, spare your friend/patron some heartache if you like, as long as she'll believe you without the "proof" an IM log would provide. Also- your sim your rules- you can ban anyone you like and any of their alts with no reason at all, if you so choose. Bear in mind the negative light it may shed on your establishment if this dishonest putz decides to start some sh!t, though.
  3. You're really going to have trouble getting people to believe you're more mature than the average 17 year old when you spell worse than my 9 year old. I'm just sayin. Maybe you should spend less time in SL and more time reading/doing homework.
  4. If you didn't gather from the other answers, you are not likely to get your money back, and the seller has no obligation to refund anything... ESPECIALLY if you deleted the item, which may have been transferrable and helped your case by making it possible to return what you bought. I'd treat this as a learning experience and be more careful when you make future purposes. IMs demanding refunds are probably ignored, by the way. You should really check this person's profile, as most creators have at least one pick devoted to their store policies.
  5. You really don't need the Bloodlines crap to start a vampire clan(even in the White Wolf style), and most serious rp'ers hate it. It makes people lazy; roleplay is about telling stories, not clicking HUDs. Just a heads up.
  6. Because the more items you purchase at once, the more likely they are to not get delivered at all. Even 10 at once is pushing your luck. You're paying extra by using paypal, just so you know... a surcharge on every order. You're much better off purchasing Lindens in "bulk" depending on how much you wish to spend and paying that surcharge only once. I'm sure it also makes the checkout process faster as well.
  7. I like this idea. As far as the op goes, if the person is truly so superficial as to lose all interest after one picture, then they weren't worth bothering with, and good luck to them ever finding anything meaningful. Most people I know look significantly better in person. The girl in this situation should just be glad she dodged a bullet, because a guy like that sounds like a cheater waiting to happen. What happens when you start to get old together? Pfft. Looks are one of the least important aspects of any long term, happy relationship, because the people in those relationships realize that's the one thing that is going to change no matter what you do. People stressing looks are still too immature to handle serious relationships, because they have no grasp of that yet. I don't put rl pictures in my SL profile anymore, because even though I'm not a model by any means, it leads to lots of creepiness and very unwanted IMs from strangers. **edited to fix typos**
  8. With on-board graphics only, you may get the older viewers to work, but it will be a laggy and frustrating experience. Even a very cheap GPU would make worlds of difference, and I suggest you look into that if you really want to use SL. Nvidia cards seem to have less problems as SL is built on Nvidia. Best of luck to you.
  9. The "add" option is the one that you need to use, but you have to have a V2 style viewer for this to work. In the future, providing your viewer will lead to more accurate answers. If you're using a V1 style viewer such as Pheonix, you can't wear both.
  10. I've been DJing for years in SL as well, and even though I'm catching a little disparagement in reference to we who use a playlist, I've never had any complaints about my sets. It's not as simple as autopilot, and anyone who thinks so is a **bleep**ty DJ. There's an art to constructing a playlist that has a flow from one track to the next, that builds to a climax and cools you off, that has a logical progression with no jarring genre or tempo changes, that has nothing to do with random songs thrown on in a autoplayed set list as I guess the ones who are giving us all bad names do. Also, the personality of the DJ is almost as important as what they play. Now that my offendedness is satisfied, let me say that SAM is far superior to WInamp, and some places will not hire you with Winamp because it's thought of as being, well, amatureish. There are ways of obtaining SAM that don't cost anything at all *cough* though I'd NEVER suggest those. Of course. I just want you to be prepared for some people to be a bit disdainful of your broadcaster choice if you go Winamp.
  11. I've never deleted anyone that I've considered myself to be real friends with. Co-workers I no longer work with that I was never fond of, exes of friends I was only nice to because they were with my friends, random noobs I helped and then lost track of... sure. But I have friends I haven't talked to in literally years that I would never remove, and as I myself just came back from a nearly 2 year hiatus from SL I'm glad my good friends didn't remove me. The way I see it, even if they're gone, they might be back as long as that account still exists... and if they do come back, I want to be the first to pounce. Then again, I don't flagrantly add people... and I don't see a long friends list as any type of inconvenience. Not sure where that comes from, considering everyone online can be filtered to the top, but w/e.
  12. Np at all, I'd hate to see anyone have to use invisiprims when there's another choice!
  13. I agree with most of this, however I have a box that I keep transferrable things I don't wear anymore in to help out noobs. I mean if they're worth keeping; I don't give noobs crappy stuff. I have all my things separated into folders and subfolders and more subfolders lol... and my favorite designers get their own subfolders, sometimes several if they make ensembles, individual pieces, shoes... I really wish there was an option to click a link and go somewhere without it copying a LM into my inventory EVERY TIME. It's really irritating. Another tip- rez those "object"s before you delete them, especially if you've ever built anything! It's been suggested that I make outfits, but honestly... I rarely wear exactly the same thing twice, so it's not a lot of use to me, and I save items that way because I don't have multiple copies of the same thing in many folders.
  14. Your idea of "too big" is just an opinion. As I stated repeatedly... SL is not RL. There is no reason to apply rl norms to SL unless you choose to, and even now most people don't. By saying "everyone and everything else" isn't realistic, you're making my point for me. This is a virtual world/metaverse/pick your term. To say that if it doesn't conform to the real world it isn't "right" is just like I said, silly. What needs to disappear, probably, is the comparison to real world height and size that really doesn't matter, because that's where all this "but their scale is wrong" crap comes from. When I say "SL scale" I'm referring to how my slider is IN THE MIDDLE, exactly. That makes me average, in SL. That makes people who are waist high on me child size, in SL. The "shoulds" and "woulds" are all nothing but opinion. This is how things ARE. I don't see most of the grid rebuilding because of some numbers in an appearance editor screen that don't really mean anything, where they're being used. They are just numbers. This stuff isn't real. People take shtuff way too freakin seriously.
  15. Well said. With the block feature, which turns annoying trolls and morons into little clouds of silent nothing, as well as how easy it is to copy/paste their shenanigans into an abuse report, there is never any reason to suffer from "bullying" in SL.
  16. Ok, there's a couple of issues here that people are only barely touching on- for one, SL is not RL. I am slightly above average height for a caucasian woman in rl(5'6"), and in SL my slider for height sits at 50- exactly the middle. It makes most of my clothes sit in the right place and stuff like that, so I'm about "average" height in SL. That is NOT tall, in reference to everything around me as far as builds and most avatars go. However, my appearance editor says that it equates to about 6.5 feet tall. That means someone who is my "actual" rl height, in SL, is going to look really tiny next to me. Also, most people build and make clothes based on SL scale, not rl. I take mild offense to the deprecating terms being used to describe avatars that fit into SL by people being **bleep** and pretentious about numbers- you're not better than the person who fits into the SL environment just because you make things harder on yourself. It seems really silly to me to be so determined to let some number... based on WHAT, if not your environment... make SL so much more difficult for you. Being so picky about "realistic"(come ON people, we can FLY) height is going to mean more time spent editing, on top of getting kicked out of adult sims that have height requirements and everything else. It-is-not-RL. If I were you, I would fashion my avi to be shorter TO SCALE, IN SL, instead of fixating on what your height translates to irl. Find an a building and make yourself the same height you would be in a rl doorway, something. The simple fact is- "realistic" height is not realistic in SL. It can make you look like a child. You don't have to fit into the SL scale if you don't choose, but don't whine because other people don't want to change the way things have always been to suit YOU.(Not talking to the OP just there.) Marianne LIttle said: "I have seen very many small female avatars lately. They all seem to have narrow eyes, grumpy mouth and very, very wide hips. They reach up to my shoulders, so I wonder if short and angry is the new black? **Only uploaded images may be used in postings**://secondlife.i.lithium.com/i/smilies/16x16_smiley-surprised.gif" border="0" alt=":smileysurprised:" title="Smiley Surprised" /> Maybe the male height will shrink a bit too, as dance animations and other animations will be "off" between so different heights." I seriously hope this does not become some kind of "norm" that changes things, honestly. It looks ridiculous. especially since most of them have freakishly huge Mr Mackey heads. I don't know if this is because they're too lazy to edit their bajillion piece single attachment piercings and hair to fit a proportionate head, or whether they don't know any better- I just hope it goes away. ***edited to add*** since when is "a n a l" a curse word? Pfft. Censorhip blows.
  17. Yes, it's just a matter of those alpha layers not being the right length for your legs. IF you're seeing feet when you move the shoe up, however, you're not wearing alphas. Get ahold of me inworld and I can send you a bunch of full perm opensource alpha laters in varying lengths that may work better for you. I've had to use several of them, because sometimes simply moving the shoe up makes your legs look wrong/out of proportion.
  18. Despite their admission that it is full of bugs, Firestorm is still the best viewer right now, imho, for a few reasons. (Btw, if impatient people weren't being ungrateful asshats, the mesh update would proabably not be so buggy because we'd still be waiting and they wouldn't release it until it was ready!!) First and most important to me as a former devoted Pheonix user myself, is the ability to customize it to use many aspects of the UI to V1 style that I wasn't willing to give up, and that they give you step by step instructions for how to set that up. Secondly, SL runs better, with less lag and a significantly higher frame rate for me on Firestorm. My computer is only midrange, but I can play comfortably on ultra graphics now, where I never could before. With this update came a few of the Pheonix features I was missing, such as showing what others are looking at- that showed as an option on the last version of Firestorm, but it didnt' work, nor did it work to turn off broadcasting my own which is a pain... I like to pervcam ninjastyle! That appears to have been fixed. The thing is, all viewers are buggy. The development team @ Pheonix is just more honest about their issues than LL. The only way to know for sure which is the best viewer for you is to try them out, because everyone's machine is different.
  19. Rowan Villiers


    I created a male and female alt just to see how easy it is to build a good-looking avi without spending any Ls- or very, very few- so that I could be certain that my irritation with people who run around for a year looking like a noob is justified. It very much is. It didn't really take all that much effort even, except when I took my male alt through the MHOH, which was a bit time consuming but more than worth it. Each of my alts cost less than 200L, and they only cost that much because frankly, there really aren't any GOOD free/almost free AOs. But Oracul has a couple that are 150L each, and they are fine. None of them has a single item of clothing or accessories that cost more than 10L, and I'd challenge anyone to be able to tell. I don't really "play" them so much, but when I do they are rp characters only. As far as I know, no one knows they are me, however I am aware of the need to change my syntax... and I'm quite good at it... plus I don't use them to interact with people I am close to. To do that without telling them, I think, would be dishonest.
  20. "Also some people who gain become afraid to get naked with their significant other so they turn off the sex themselves, so it's no wonder a sex starved person might go looking for a sexual partner elsewhere because the person themselves is now afraid to get naked and have sex. This is circular reasoning. Simply stop the sugar and the french fries. I eat sugar-free treats mostly and I'm not diabetic. I eat sugar-free treats on purpose to maintain my weight. I will eat sugar once in a very great while as a treat. And I turn down those french fries because I love him more than I love french fries. " Ok, so on some posts you claim to be anorexic and barely eat because of that, but here you say you control what you eat because you want to "maintain your weight"... which, if you're *actually* anorexic, is probably under what's healthy. You do realize starving yourself and not getting all the nutrients and YES- FAT that you need is just as bad for your health as being overwieght, right? It's a more immediate danger, even. Also, a change in your partner's looks is never an excuse for cheating; how ridiculous. If you're not happy, leave. Cheating is for the selfish, who are unwilling to risk the discomfort of change to have what they want the honest way.
  21. There's a lot of good posts here, and I agree most witht the one that says it's honesty that's been underrated. Dishonesty is the real issue, not the type of relationship. Any type of relationship is ok in my book, as long as it's honest and between adults. Take that "Sister Wives" show, for instance- I've never watched it because it is utterly disinteresting to me, but I understand the concept- these women are ok with sharing this man. If that works for them, great. I don't believe it entirely... because as a woman and knowing women, it's pretty likely that at least some of those chicks secretly hate each other... but hey, just my POV. At least they all know about each other, and for all appearances it's good. Some people have "open" relationships, as mentioned, where they do what they like within whatever ground rules they set. In those relationships, monogamy is not prized, but still I don't think "overrated" applies. Once again, there's nothing wrong with this kind of relationship, because the people involved are supposed to be honest with each other, and everyone's eyes are open to what's going on. I believe monogamy is completely possible, and people who pretend to be monogamous while doing whatever they can get away with are among the worst kinds of people. It's emotional manipulation to promise someone something to get what you want, and then not make any effort- or at least, not enough effort- to keep those promises. Anyone who claims they just can't be faithful, but doesn't have the intestinal fortitude to be up front about it, is just selfish and has some serious growing up to do. If you can't keep yourself from cheating and lying, then don't be in a relationship- it's that simple. If that ends up being lonely oh well; as was also mentioned, pleasure has it's price. There are plenty of benefits to being monogamous- the sex is good because the person knows what you like(people who are getting bored are doing it wrong!), you don't have to worry about all the nasty diseases out there, your kids get to have both parents(which has proven benficial), you have someone you can depend on in the long term, someone who knows you better than anyone. There may not be any such thing as complete security- we're all human, we're going to have moments of doubt, jealousy, etc., but if you put as much into a relationship as you expect in return, those times will be much fewer than they would when you're going through multiple relationships and not being with anyone long enough to know what's normal and what should worry you about their behavior. In conclusion, I'd say that monogamy is neither overrated nor underrated in general- only honored, dishonored, or ignored by people as they choose. ETA: I think it's really sad to see so many people say they think it's too much to ask to expect their partner to be monogamous. It's quite a commentary on where things are going, I guess. I wouldn't be able to trust someone who betrayed me that way ever again, and there's a certain amount of foolishness and a sort of... smile and hope for the best attitude implied in doing so. Like, "ok, I know you stabbed me last time, but I'm gonna go ahead and give you this knife back because you're sorry and you swear you won't do it again". How many times do we staunch the wound and give back the knife before we get out with what's left of our self-respect?
  22. Please, please, pleaase... if she must have the "pregnant" experience as well, don't get a talking belly. On behalf of anyone she might happen to be around during the duration, I ask this. It is probably the least-liked thing in all of SL, and people will mute her after the first time they hear it talk.
  23. I fell in love with an extremely popular content creator who shall remain nameless when I had been in SL for 7-8 months. At the time, his now-huge store was fairly new and he also owned a club where I worked. He spent over a year convincing me that he was the most amazing man on the planet. Even when the romantic part of our relationship fell apart(because he decided he was polyamorous irl and I'm not down with that), after a brief period of hurt hostility after I broke it off, he continued to seem to want to be close to me as a friend, a confidant. He even continued a bit of dirty talk with me under the guise of "helping me learn to love myself" while he was with someone else later on- and as that part of the relationship was always intense, I played along. That is, until I guess he found what he really wanted in a woman and didn't need to be that confidant- during the worst and most painful time I'd gone through in the years we'd known each other he stopped talking, stopped returning my messages. Then after several months of being ignored, I finally let him know how that let me feel, and he basically ripped me apart- called me horrible things, said he was too busy to listen to my problems anymore, and that I needed to quit "hitting on him" because he was happy in his relationship- and I wasn't at all hitting on him. He was the one who convinced me that I should always share my feelings. Basically- this guy is a total piece of garbage who is a hell of a good actor. I'm glad his store is failing now and he might have to give up his sim. Just the childish, vindictive part of me. >=) So yeah, my veiw of SL relationships may be slightly skewed by bitterness. I would say, keep all the standard cliches in mind- look out for #1, if it seems too good to be true it probably is, and most importantly- fool me once shame on you, but fool me twice and shame on me.
  24. I have friends in SL who have my home phone # and know where I am; I've known them for years, though. Pretty much what everyone's saying works- use your discretion. Don't think there's anything harmless about a "simple cell number" though; with that number and less than $10 I can find out a suprising amount of information about you on any of several people search sites.
  25. My major was Sociology, which is closely related, and I didn't claim to be an expert- only to be obviously more educated on the subject than the person I was actually talking to. Save the snarkiness for someone actually claiming to know things they don't. ETA- the ignorant fat joke was a classy touch.
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