I've been reading this thread with some amusement and some disgust, to be honest. Carlotta, you've found offensive communities on SL and you're aghast. Got it. Where you're completely wrong is that YOU have to suffer this stuff. Maybe in RL if you stumbled upon an actual club, say something called Misogyne, and someone tried to put a boot down on your head, you'd have a case. But this isn't RL, this is SL. And there are places from one corner of SL to the other full of kinks, fetishes, etc. for anyone's tastes. Do I find some of them outright disgusting? Absolutely. But acting like I have no control over whether or not I go to them is me painting myself as a victim, which I am not and neither are you. The day, thank God, of women as helpless little flowers who need somebody to come and save them are over, in my opinion. Metaphorically, that's the same thing as somebody coming to save you from degrading advertising. I am against censorship anywhere consenting adults are and, as an adult in SL, it's your job to save yourself from it. If you can't do that, it's time to leave SL.
As for the quality of some of the men in SL and their degradation of women, I'd hazard a guess that you'll find a similar % of men in RL who hate/fear women as these posers do...some commenting on this very board. As an intelligent woman, it's your job to weed them out and move past them which is made infinitely easier in SL because you can TP away and never look upon their offensiveness again.