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  1. Yes Angel it is role play but your right There are places where people study and get a degree to add to the authenticity and realism of the role play. Knowing as much as you can about the role your roleplaying makes the experience better for both your self and the people interacting with you. 2 schools I know of that offer Medical training for Second Life are Whispering Winds Medical School Hillman University I have a PHD from Whispering Winds, you have to pay like any University course and you have assignments, practical work and tests and final exam. It is a big committment but worth if you want to add that little extra sense of professionalism to your role play. I do not believe doing such courses gives you everything you need to be a proficient Medical role player but it is a good place to start as both courses require internships where you can learn observing and gives you some basic medical knowledge for role playing. You learn from others and from your life experiences as well. learning from a Person who is a real life medical prefessional is great. It is all about making the SL experience realistic and rewarding. All the best
  2. Yes gossip is bad for the soul so don't do it. Gosspip also involves using real names that is why it is called gossip. Helping people understand what can be done to them, to point out that we all must go slow and be careful in here as it can and is not only a fun place but a place where people can be hurt and manipulated is a good thing. It is also good for people to see that their own actions can hurt others. Love or what people think is love can indeed be blind and many seem to loose their wisdom, to be reminded now and again of being safe and treating others as we would wish to be treated is never bad. Vandeverre, go ahead an google if you like but what would you google for goodness sake and what do you think you can find. I am not an alt and I am not in hiding because I have done anything wrong. If the people involved read this maybe it might make them think but I doubt anyone knows who they are and that is fine it is not really the point to bring a name to any body that would be wrong, the point which you missed is for us to be wiser and treat people better specially our friends and people we say we love. Go slow and be certain there really is trust there. As for too much drama for SL I totally agree there, and I am glad I am not involved I come here to have fun and peace and I am very happy with my friends and what I do, but i am not blind that there is a lot of drama in SL because of the story I pointed out, people hurting others and not taking responsibility or acting wisely. I am truly sorry if you feel offended anyone, My heart is good and if sharing helps one person then it was worth sharing.
  3. What does an abuser do................they find out all they can about a person, even their likes dislikes, their strengths and weaknesses in particular. They then isolate that person from all their friends, then their family. They cut off that persons communication with others and they threaten them, either perceived or real. Usually vulnerable people fall into the snare of an abuser. Do not be fooled by thinking it is only Men doing it to women as right here we have a woman doing it to a man, assuming she is a woman that is. A man once tried to do it to me in here and I know he has done it to others also so be aware of what cna and does happen here in this seemingly safe world and guard your personal life well and take relationships slow, take time to get to know the person.
  4. Petar you know what I think that makes it so much worse that is was only the people you mentioned as the owner would know you were there without a doubt and she was not flirting to the crowd (a poor excuse anyhow) but directly to him and vice versa as if you never existed. Shame on them both. What is wrong with people it seems SL is a place with no boundaries about hurting people caring about real peoples feelings or respecting committments.
  5. You sound naieve and young nothing wrong with either but it makes you a target of those wishing for a free "use and dispose". I know from experience it is best to look at making friends be a friend and out of being a friend a romance may develop with one of them. True love is also friendship and many forget this, lasting love needs you to be friends, and like each other as well as love each other. Try going to places you like, you can also join groups of interests, like dance clubs, classes to learn things, even shopping you cna run into people. Most of all be yourself and have fun. Girlfriends are always nice to have so try to join things where you might meet them also.
  6. On the face of it I would also be upset if the sleeze was not told to stop as your happily partnered. Not making it known when your a DJ that your partnered is wrong when your getting hit on. It is one thing to playfully flirt with the crowd but to allow lewed and suggestive comments of the kind he made I think is over the top. Most DJ's I know actually introduce their partners if they are in the crowd and or have them somewhere mentioned in their profile. All round it appears to be very disrespectful. I would not think SL is a good place to meet if you want real life but people do and if you want that I would meet real quick in real life before hearts are broken. I believe SL should stay in SL i see it like a parallell universe a place to be and have the things you are unable for whatever reason to have in real life. A little note about married people not all come here behind their spouses back and it is not up to us to be the judge anyway, only they can know if their actions are justified. It is however anyones right not to choose to be with someone married and be respected.
  7. No being disabled is not a free pass to cheat or to lie. I mentioned it because I understand that in particular disabled people come here to have some kind of normalcy they can't have in the real world, like being able to walk, run, jump, dance, etc. It is a fantasy world for sure but to many people it be can become their alternative real world. In understanding this it does not excuse his side of things at all my point is why can't he be allowed by people who want exclusivity to be who he is and loved inspite of it, it might allow him to be more open and honest that he is not a one woman man. If you don't want just one why can't it be ok. Why does this one woman have to threaten an already vulnerable person (my second reason for mentioning he is disabled) to do what she wants him to do and be what she wants them to be. My third reason for mentioning his severe disability is this.........................why committ and accept committal from some one you never met who has very high medical needs and costs, wouldn't common sense dictate you should meet first and spend time together. All this seems wrong what ever way you look at it disabled or not. I just hate seeing vulnerable people in particular taken advantage of, even when he did ask for it by being to her, that which he is not in SL and making promises he cannot keep. Desperate people unfourtunately make poor choices. I think she gained access because she made him give it to her my threatening him she would leave and by holding her money up and what her money could do for him.
  8. This week I witnessed something I want to share so maybe even one person will think about. A long time good friend of mine who is severely disabled was caught having multiple relationships. Now like me you might think so what he deserves to have fun. Well the problem was even though he said he had a couple of others he made out they were never online. He told each one he was with he loved them. Still ok in my opinion, but as he was a little secretive however you did know he was not exclusive and never would be. Along comes a girl who decided she wants him for herself exclusive and tries to make that happen, it does not happen but she still hangs around. Along comes another girl she also wants him for herself and she tries and fails but he does tell her she is the love of his life. Now along comes another and she also wants him forherself. So she makes him promise she is the only one. She offers him real time and that appealed to him. He has an Alt so he sees her mainly with this alt but one day she makes him use the other alt to force woment to contact him so she can know who they are and subsequently get rid of them and this she does. She talks to each one recording conversations encouraging them to say how nasty he is for doing this etc and she invites them to her lovers home to check if they are on the security system if so she delets and bans them when they have left if not she adds them then bans them. Next she has a whole lot of juicy conversations to use against each woman should they try to see the said man again. Now after an academy award winning performance of the hurt and professing never to see him again performance she removes all his pictures etc to make it look real. Now she is ready to deal with him. He returns and is now willing to do anything for her. She makes him delete every friend and put on both alts that he is with her just so there is no doubts. *LOL* Then she makes him another avatar that she can also control just for good measure. With a happy smug look she thinks now she has him all to herself. Think again little girl. What man allows a woman to control them to this extent, 1.a weak downtrodden man, or 2.an ill, vulnerable man desperate for love. It is the last one i believe for my friend. I know by now a lot of you are saying well he chose to do it and yes he did and he will wear the outcome of it. She also has been bribing him, telling him she is remodelling her home for him so it will be all on one floor, she asked his shoe size to buy special shoes...............(this I laugh at because he has had partial amputations on both feet and would need to be present for any shoe making) she tells him about all her money and acomplishments and that she will bring him there. I think this is downright dangerous to do to such a vulnerable person she has never ever met face to face let alone spent real time with. She has no knowledge of his needs or what really that will entail and even if they are compatible. What will she do with him if it does not work out and lets face it the odds are not in favour of it working. Is he thrown to the street or worse. So called love, and I am saying that because until it is tested in the real life situation in this case it is not proven love, is blind, stupid, cruel and just plain old dumb. I feel for my friend very much and she has cut contact *LOL* I was never a threat and never will be but I would try to talk sense into him i suppose. People please meet up in real life before making promises at least see if your going to be in with a chance first. If you have to control another person to this extent you have no love and no relationship. It is doomed
  9. Ziggy, one wonders why are you in SL, but I really do not need an answer to that especially as you think everyone is dishonest and all women are fat and ugly or have mental illness? Your comments are quite a put down to women and yourself also, now i am feeling sorry for you if those are all the people you have met here. Us women all had a laugh because one thing for sure is you need a good sense of humour here. As far as your comment about relationships and not asking what a person wants, it is assumed that before one would do that they at least know the person some first and both want to take it further. it is a bit like asking someone who bought a fresh cup of coffee, is it hot, are you going to drink it and enjoy it..............who asks that!!!!!!! Do not be so quick to assume what another writes or says beyond their words if your not sure ask them. One thing I did agree with was a lot of people are not always 100% honest at first meeting, because after all they come here for the fantasy or what ever it is they seek. I have found though if you can't be honest down the road it will bite you in the ass and could hurt you if your wanting an honest relationship. I think be cautious is good and instead of being dishonest have boundaries of where you will take things like personal questions until you feel it is appropriate to share more. Liars are every where, here is no different they are in the real life situation to and if they lie there they most likely lie here to. Remember Ziggy there are exceptions and many people here have found them and are very happy. If you want to be here emersed only in fantasy then why share any truth at all that is up to you. It is up to us to seek like minded individuals to be friends with.
  10. It would not bother me but I can see it being abused by stalkers. Another things is I find people do not have manners any more and just TP'ing to anyone announced or asking if it is ok is just plain rude. It is like walking into someones house without knocking and waiting for an invitation.
  11. Well it depends on proving the truth of it, if that cna be proven then i would report it to SL certainly and if it was proven he was doing real life stuff with the 16 year old I would consider taking it further. You need to be careful you have real facts here and not a role playing couple.
  12. Because I come to SL basically as myself I will feel betrayed and want to know why not just be honest upfront. if i knew upfront i might still spend time with them and have fun, but find out later makes you feel your been taken for a fooland "used".
  13. I just find it interesting in my short life here I have learn't these things and wanted to share because it has helped me understand myself in the Second life setting and Second Life itself better. Everyone has their own agenda here and unless they share it with you up front, you could find your not on the same page. Broken hearts occur because of this and not being clear and honest. People are here for many reasons we know that, but it is also important to realise we all want different things. Respect is key here because someone wanting to share certain information about themselves might be ok for one but not another. How people view information and circumstances is different also. How a person lives their 1st life is unique to them and is neither right or wrong if it creates limits in 2nd life. If that clashes with your wants then you have a choice accept it or move on. Do not however criticise another's limits because you disagree with them. It is unfair to make any one feel judged or treated with prejudice for their choices in their 1st or 2nd life. Be open and honest, if you want the same afforded to you. If you don't then do not expect it of another for that is just being a bully and a hypocrite. Try to find out at the beginning of a relationship what is it the other person wants and is able to give. Explain what you want and what your prepared to give. I have learned people say things in order to, impress, attract, or give you what they think you want. This is not only dishonest it is dangerous as sooner or later the truth seems to come out. Dealing with what you know is power and knowledge and is much more likely to have a favourable outcome then omitting certain truths that are important to building trust. SL is a place where anything goes, we come with a diverse array of desires and fantasies etc. Why oh why then should there ever be a need to lie, but like in the real life world people do, to cover up, decieve and cheat. How is this giving you, I or any one the best of experiences here. If you tell me you have 10 wives and i will be #11 right up front from the beginning, I have a chance to choose then, but if you lie saying I am only wife or #1 or whatever and later i discover i am #11 then I am hurt, others maybe also and so might you. See my point is lies never hold on to people or make them do as you want them to. They just hurt. I have learned there is such as thing as being too honest, giving too much info about your real life and self can be used to make assumptions about you. It is difficult in SL to be monogamous, you need be very very clear on this. If you want that, make sure it is what the other person also wants. It is a tall order to ask for and does not always work. I believe it is better to put it all out on the table clearly and state what you want and what it will look like and what boundaries you want or are prepared to give. I learned many have alts so they can have other romances etc. I am not going to comment too much except to say how do they find the time and money to do that. Much better to say I want you to be mine but when your not here I need the freedom to play, and then discuss it from there. I also just recently learned that a person cna be online with their alt with them at the same time, digest that one *LOL* Could be innocnet like for testing things, but could be very sinister as well to entrap people, deceive etc. Why can't us humans play nice. Since I have only been here a very short time I am bound to learn a great deal more but I hope i can meet some decent honest, loyal people like me along the way. Most of all have fun isn't that why we come here.
  14. Very well put, good to see someone thinks and expresses thank you.
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