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Be thankful for the silence, I encountered my first tummy talker last night. Disturbing. Disturbing on so many levels.

Wait a minute, soaked with tea? /me runs off to google "tea soaked eggs"

The latest in my ever changing scrambly egg concoctions is with mushrooms, onions, tomatoes, fresh basil and fresh grated parmesan sprinked on top. (I love it when a little syrup gets on my eggs too)

You took the word right out of my mouth.

About 12 hours a week. Not as much as I'd like to. It feels like much of that time is spent searching through my inventory for stuff and editing clothing. I definitely don't socialize as much as I'd like to, maybe only 3-4 hours a week.

/me scribbles down names of places to shop for hair besides Truth (I love Truth hair! But I'm always wondering if there's something else out there)

My reason was the same as Voids, to connect with my RL partner when we're apart. It fills in a lot where phone calls and texts can't. Being able to work on projects together for example, look forward to dates, add another layer to intimacy, it's been pretty amazing. Also because he's disabled, it's allowed us to do things we couldn't do in RL, like go dancing and do lots of exploring. Obviously it's not the same as RL, but we've found that the emotions that come along with doing these things together are very satisfying.

I think having one outfit is only bad if you're not happy about it. If you're happy then what does it matter? I have too many outfits. I'll get excited about a certain style of clothing I find and think "Oh this is IT. This is going to be my new look!" A week later I've forgotten about it and moved on to something else. Having the attention span of a gnat can get expensive.

LOL!! Nah, he's brown hair and dreamy green eyes, but you got the height right. Maybe I'm missing out on some fun and should give this a try! Any strangers have homes I can get naked and speechlessly wander into? Oh... no wait..... I just asked permission didn't I? That kinda ruins it.

Which dude? Me dude or another dude? Probably another dude since I'm the asker and not the sharer in this thread. Alazarin I listened to your music - definitely interplanetary! I thought you'd shared the links here but then realized I'd seen them in your profile. (your name makes me think if crimson pigment even though it's spelled differently) And Jo Jo, thanks! I'll definitely check out that venue!

I did hear something mentioned about Linden panties.

Oh this is good to know. Some folks were talking about this yesterday but it wasn't clear to me what had happened.

Omg that vid lol! Now that's exactly the kind of uninvited visitor we'd love. Running! . Thanks for the slight of hand tips Pussycat. Yeah, we each have a sky platform as well and realize that putting our homes up there would likely be the most effective way to handle things. This is the first time we've put our homes on the ground. We're going to do the security orb thing for our homes for now and keep the land open. We don't have visitors to this parcel really so it won't be a big deal with putting people on the list or whatever. We know it may not be the best solution overall, but we'll see what happens. Here's an update: Today my partner logs in to find our special visitor from yesterday (I'm over the naked thing) hanging out again, but this time she wasn't alone. At the end of her leash and on his knees was her slave. My partner says hello and asks if he can help her with something (depending on how she took that, it's kinda funny) and she says "No. We're playing." At least she was speaking today. He was being nice with her and also let her know that our parcel is our private residence and not a public area to play in. She wasn't so friendly. She said a couple of things and then something about how it's to be expected since we've given our land an Adult rating and then left. Her slave came back awhile later to apologize and to share how awful she is. Oy. Drama llama and really not my business. Only in SL right? It gave us some perspective and we actually had a good laugh about it. Eileen - agreed, a sense of humor about things is always helpful, and being pleasant but direct is also important. I think most people are not rude, I've run into very few rude people in SL, maybe this means I need to get out more. Plan B is to move into the sky if and when we've had enough. If things continue at this rate it could be next week.

I definitely see your point Pussycat. When I initially wrote this, it was bothering me that someone was inside my house naked and uninvited. In writing more about it and particularly when reading what Persephone mentioned about people dropping in getting old quickly, I think it's more about the uninvited people part, especially when they're uncommunicative, and what then feels like awkwardness of wondering what they're up to. We love living where we do, we like the freedom to sunbathe nude if we wish to, and we do. Surprisingly all but one of our neighbors are clothed anytime we see them. It wouldn't bother us if they weren't, people pretty much live and let live on our sim and they don't walk into each others houses uninvited. There is PUHlenty of action happening in the club above our sim, but on the ground it's quite mellow. I imagine we can expect this quite a bit, and clothed or not we'd prefer people not come hang out inside our houses uninvited. They can cam in to their little hearts content, but it's really our place to have time to ourselves. All of the above being the case, it probably seems odd that I'd mention the nudity thing in the first place. Having had only a rare visitor in another parcel we lived in, first it was funny that there were two in one day, one being our first nekkie drop in, then we began thinking that if people dropping in is the norm it might be a good idea to find out how others feel about it and handle it. Thanks so much everyone, your feedback has been really helpful.

If my house wasn't so open and had doors instead of curtains, I'd definitely lock my doors. I'm thinking that for us the security orb is the way to go and set it to give ample amount of time for the person to TP away. I doubt that the majority of people are up to no good, but it could get annoying quickly as Persephone said. I also like the idea of being able to set the range of the security to the perimeters of the house and to allow people to enjoy the landscaping if they want to. I can understand your feelings Persephone in regards to your pet wolf-dog, it doesn't matter if she's "real" or not. Your feelings about it are real. I'm ridiculously attached to my pixel kitty Sweet Pea. He may be made of pixels, but he reminds me of cats I've had in the past and it's been so much fun having him around. I agree about things depending on how a person responds. I've had some lovely conversations with people who have shown up on another parcel of mine. It didn't happen often but when it did it's been a nice experience. The notecard giver is something we could have fun with too.

Thanks so much for your replies. Ban lines aren't allowed on this sim, which is fine by me. We've only been there a month and this is the first that it's happened so it may be an isolated incident. I might have asked naked lady if she was she looking for someone, then tell her I was busy with a project and thanks for stopping by, have a fun rest of the day. I have no problem being direct with people, so if she didn't take off I'd ask her to move along, then I'd have to ban her if she didn't go. We're not offended by nudity either, not at all. But I'd still prefer people not hang out at our house naked, between the two of us in different time zones, we spend many hours a day on our parcel and we always are working on projects etc. Nudity can be destracting! I was kinda kidding about showing up and stripping Good points about people not knowing whether they're welcome or not. How are they suppose to know unless they're told right? Especially since most folks have different feeings about this. I've had similar experiences of showing up on people's property unintentionally or accidentally, but if they were there I've always let them know what was going on. I also don't want to keep people out necessarily, but if we end up deciding we need to do that, then the security orb might be the best option. What I'd like is for people to be considerate, I like talking to considerate people and obviously I can't control that. 

The unnanounced visitor thing happened twice today to my partner. We have a parcel in a residential adult sim where we each have a home. (because we both have so much fun creating and putting together our homes we decided to go with two - which is really beside the point) Earlier today he was working on a project when he heard his front door open and discovers a woman has let herself into his house and is walking up the stairs checking things out. He said "hello", and no response, tried again to talk to her and nothing. Eventually she TPd out. Just a few minutes ago, he TPd to our parcel and discovered a woman completely nude standing in my living room. I realize this might be a dream come true for some guys, but the fact that she was unannouned and completely undressed took him by surprise and was a bit awkward for him. I thought it was kinda funny myself. I don't mind that much if people pop in though I'd much prefer to invite them. If they're respectful and don't linger if I tell I'm busy, it's okay. I'm not sure I'd want to put a security orb on my place, part of it is open and doesn't have doors, and I like that open feel. (can I even use a security orb when I don't have doors?) I would however prefer people not pop in naked, yes the sim is rated adult, but at ground level it's all residential and it seems a bit presumptuous to assume that it's okay to hang out in someone's home uninvited and wearing nothing. Maybe the fact that there's no security and on adult land tells people it's okay to come on in and strip? What do you say to someone in a situation like this? I wouldn't want to be rude unless it became necessary.

Happy Belated Rezday Shadow! Of course you should throw yourself a party, doesn't matter that it's late. I would think six years has earned you that.

Wow, thanks Melita! I'll be referring to this thread in the future and your list will make things much easier.

Hi Mariah, I hope you were able to get the help you needed and that you do find friends who have similar interests as yours. SL can feel like a very big place and is much more fun when shared with others. It was pretty gracious for Smoothie and Kasya to reach out to help you, I'd have been so grateful if someone had done that for me when I first joined. My partner and I ran around aimlessly our first few weeks of being in SL, not knowing where to change, and bumbling along trying to figure things out on our own. As time has gone on, our experience has been that there are far more people interested in being helpful and kind than are out to create problems in SL. You'll come across people who's profiles make it apparent that their interests are very different from yours, and some will include things that you're not comfortable with. That doesn't mean that those topics of interest will ever come up between you and that person. It's highly unlikely that they'd ask if you if you want to join them in a (insert activity you find objectionable here) any more than you'd ask them to accompany you to a dog show. Help may come in the form of what you may consider unappealing sources. That doesn't mean the help is any less valuable, the heart behind is it any less worthy of being treated with respect, or at the very least common courtesty. It's not a bad thing to be mindful, but really there's no need to be fearful on your journey in SL.

Thanks kryptic, I'll check out the places you mentioned. I think my partner might really enjoy them as well, his tastes run more to the metal/industrial/goth side of things. Mayalily thanks for the suggestions! If you come across the jazz place you mentioned at some point, I'd love to know what it was. Feel free to shoot me an IM or LM inworld if you want to.

Alazarin I don't think it's surprising at all that your favorite music venue is yours. Bliss indeed! Rebuilding whenever you get bored and running your own show sounds like a great set up. I'm curious as to what kind of instrument(s) and music you play?

Ahhhh the dance packs, yes, that makes sense! That would cagegorize them at least. I guess it wasn't purely by chance I found the couple of dances I liked, I'd finally taken to watching the vids (they've got tons of the dances on youtube) and was writing down the numbers to go check them out. It took me so long to find the numbers I'd written down, (I think I got lucky) and I gave up. They are good dances, I wonder how many people don't take the time to figure it out and go elsewhere.

I'll second Akeyo, Animazoo and 3FX. Henmations - that place is so frustrating to me. Hundreds of dances with no categories other than women's, men's, and couples. If my memory serves me correctly the similar types of dances aren't even grouped together. I'd found a couple of really nice dances there purely by chance, but I don't have the patience to check them all out. Does anyone else find shopping there to be difficult? I wonder if it's just me.

hmm, I probably should have put this in favorite destinations.