"I would say he does have permission as "YOU GAVE HIM THE PIC".......Unless you know someone very very very well, like in RL, you should not give out RL information. I am sorry for you dilemma"
He obviously no longer has permission to use the picture, so that's a moot point. You could know someone for 20 years inside and out and have a falling out and they could do this or worse to you. It's not her fault he's being a child about it. Victim blaming is wrong, and can be seriously damaging. It gains you nothing and only hurts already hurt people.