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Musetta Fieschi

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  1. Me in 2010 at the Garden of Delight Me at home in 2020
  2. Pete's sake everyone, chill. It's a kink, just like any other.
  3. Totally and am. He's quite simply one of the most amazing people I've ever known...on or offline. Our relationship is open poly and it works mainly because he has mad relationship skillz. He's one of the few people I've met who is able to make each of his partners feel like the only person on earth. Which, in turn, makes it easy for us to be trusting, compassionate and to have compersion for both him and his other partners. We've been together a year and quite simply, I couldn't be happier and have never been happier with anyone.
  4. I tend to agree with people who say that trolling is self-gratification. As Selene asks, 'is there any virtue in self-gratification?' My thought is, the virtue is minimal. Though, I'll admit, while I'm a rule-loving good girl...my friends tend to have a mischevious streak in them mile wide. None of them are actual griefers. Anymore. I have a good deal of reluctant affection for griefers. But when it comes to trolls. I got nothing for trolls.
  5. I've never hidden that I was in second life. but most of my friends in rl (and sl come to think of it) are a bit older than myself and don't 'get it'. i talk about it in therapy as well...which, honestly, seems like one of the best applications of sl. working out emotional issues, etc.
  6. Agreed, particularly in RL. Though in SL...I'm not really sure if it's that straightforward. I'm sure there are some people who are attempting to pay bills sl/rl with this sort of relationship. But i wonder if more, if the transactional nature of it is the kink, as you explored in your comment. And this: It's just hilarious!
  7. I think it's a mix of a few things, some which have been mentioned, your thought included. Another reason might be the huuuuuuge babygirl trend. Some parts of which have morphed into sugar babies. Only to be expected in a way. Some, after learning it was possible to be involved in a relationship where one can be cosseted and looked after, have opted for monetization. There's a definite kink involved on both sides, in my opinion, even when the relationship is mainly about convenience/expedience; there's a reason for going SB/SD route to meet the needs.
  8. I spent most of my time alone not long after I first began. Of the friends who were with me in the beginning, one left sl and the other, we have kind of lost track of each other day to day. But we still see each other sometimes. I still like exploring, dancing at Sexy Nude Beach (great radio) or exploring. It was years before I found a social group. But then five years ago, I came back in to explore BDSM and found a fantastic community. These days are spent with my very special puppy. So I rarely have time alone. But we've been talking about how to arrange some solitude for me. Time zones and schedules usually mean that when I log on he's been missing me for a bit. While I've been sleeping and/or working, so either unconscious or frenetic. Not a lot of opportunity for missing someone. We're not super good at alone time when we can be together, times I've tried it I've missed him like crazy. But I know it's important because, without it, I get crazy myself.
  9. Don't feel bad, from what I've seen this is the primary stumbling block I've seen trip up a many a D/s relationship. We tend to assume the other person wants the same thing we do. It took an outsider to the SL BDSM community to see it clearly and put her thumb on the issue for me. And when she said it, 'that many people are here for roleplay and it doesn't occur to them that other's are looking for a serious relationship;' it really pissed me off. Because...well, I didn't want to believe it. Although I have found it to be true. And all these years later, though I ought to know better, it is the foundational piece of information missing from my own pick. It sounds as if you'd like to begin with an open, rather than poly, relationship. And there is absolutely nothing wrong with defining the conditions under which you will get involved. I'm confused as to people's issue with it. You've stated what you want, it's right there in your pick. You're not asking people to climb into your box and explain to you why you shouldn't have your choices honored. It would be one thing if you were climbing into the IM's of prospective Dom/me's and demanding they accept your terms. Personally, I'm fairly polycapable, but don't enjoy the 'family' dynamic. And I don't do restricted. I at least want the option of pursuing another relationship. Mostly because I find that while many dom/mes claim the title of poly, few are truly capable of managing more than one relationship at a time. A problem which leads to all manner of chaos. So if I'm going to do poly with someone, I refused to be shackled to 'sisters'. If a friendship with another of their subs develops naturally, fine. But these things are never successfully forced. I'm always clear from the outset. But you'd be amazed at the number of times I've had a dom smile and nod, then breeze right by my comments to start talking about how well I'll like being part of the family; or try to convince me of the wrongness of not being restricted. Silly. Do be more clear. Don't change your standards, unless you just feel like it. You'll run into someone willing to strike a deal eventually.
  10. Find a person willing to act as your guide and discuss those things with them. In fact, feel free to message me, I'm happy to be your guide during this early stage. Welcome to SL.
  11. 'Love exciting and new, come aboard, We're expecting you And love, won't hurt anymore' Anyway, Yes I'm here for the love. I love to men here and two friends. Oh yes and the writer's group, I love that. And The BDSM discussion circuit. I'm totally addicted to that. Oh and clothes. I love them. Apart from the former and pretty beaches with good radios and classy dance venues...I can't think...oh wait and cool explory places. i can't think why i keep coming back.
  12. I have a pretty lengthy block list, mostly objects; sometimes the people attached to them...if I couldn't get it to shut up any other way. apart from that, I tend to use block as a way of 'walking away from an argument' with strangers or people I don't know that well, whom I would like to become strangers. I'm not averse to the occasional tussle with an idiot, but once i'm no longer having fun, block is awesome for really saying, 'i'm done with this'; unblocking them after a few hours. The only time I've really had to use block consistently was for an ex who wasn't that into me, but once I stopped dating him decided to annoy me during discussions I facilitated; and his ex who stalked me when she found out he'd started dating me. Apart from that, there are a few annoying people on the BDSM discussion circuit whose voices I have turned all the way down. That's about it.
  13. Good for you for knowing what you want and need and asking for it!
  14. God, I saw this and am currently putting off the inevitable poverty. Sigh.
  15. I don't think she said or implied it was racism, just that she wanted a way to get in touch with black people who are in sl. There are plenty of us, some of us have avatars which reflect our skin color and others...Well let's say there are any number of people of various ethnicities in sl who are 'here but hiding' or just choosing to experience it in an avatar whose race is different from their own.
  16. Hmm...Okay. So for you, it's about helping the person see themselves as others may, in hopes they'll make choices you (and by extension, possibly others) find more pleasing. That's interesting. I was right in my post in thinking, it's not a reason I would ever consider. If someone has (to my mind) poor taste, it a) doesn't occur to me that my offering advice on any one particular issue would help them with the taste issue, and 2) doesn't occur to me to care they had bad taste. Thank you for answering! Truly the reasoning was totally passing me by. I appreciate the explanation.
  17. @ThorinII and maybe others. Snarkiness aside, and this is me asking out of genuine curiosity. I've forgotten that I have a slightly higher than normal curiosity threshold when it comes to my fellow beings. But it's in odd places. For instance, if there is a disturbance outside, the likelihood that I won't even glance out the window is high. I am just not interested. On the other hand I'm fascinated by everyday conversations in public places. How people whose lives are interrelated behave with one another and what might that mean, etc. That's probably the writer thing. Car accidents, people being pulled over, people fighting...zero interest. So probably, in this conversation, I've not made enough allowances for how people see things differently. Because honestly, hand on heart, for another avatar's proportions to trigger my interest is a rare thing. Right now, as I sit thinking about why I don't feel the need to comment, I realize it's mostly because I'm just not interested. It's not that I'm a super special nice person. When the curvier avatars first came out, it was note/comment-worthy because it was such change from the super skinny thing that was popular during my early days in SL. I know I must have commented to a friend. But it's impossible for me to fathom circumstances where I'd feel a need to mention it to the person. Again, not holding back, just not interested. But my interest in other people is triggered by quite odd things, probably. Long way around to ask a question out of sincere curiosity. What motivates you to address someone's appearance with them? What are you thinking/feeling/hoping to accomplish? That is if you feel like answering. No judgment. I think we all know where each other stands on the rightness or wrongness of doing so, so I won't be re-hashing that. And not 'the person should expect/be okay with blank if they wear/are thus and so'. But why do you feel a need to comment to them?
  18. I don't think I said that everyone must respect everyone at all times. It isn't something I believe. At some point, you get what you give as far as I'm concerned. And when it comes to the opinions expressed, people can share them as much as they want. My reaction is not guaranteed. Though to be fair, my response was a little cranky. We all have peeves. One of mine is when people roll up in a conversation and attempt to place themselves above the dialogue by saying, 'your feelings are invalid, because my thus and so RL experience proves it'. Given that Waleu conducted a reasonable amount of this as she says, in b*tch mode"; surely she can take it.
  19. Happy Rezday!!!! Do many celebrate their rezdays with parties and such? What's your best one so far?
  20. looks like fun! /me hops on Princess Buttercup to come check it out.
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