Why cant my partner see my avatar in secondlife even though i can see him

[LoveAngeL Lyre]

Hello PsyBer and welcome to SL Forums. Maybe you accidentally derendered him. If so, you have to remove him from the Asset Blacklist. It is under Phoenix Menu --> Select him --> Remove. If you still can't see him, or teleport out and back or relog.

[LoveAngeL Lyre]

Hello PsyBer and welcome to SL Forums. Maybe you accidentally derendered him. If so, you have to remove him from the Asset Blacklist. It is under Phoenix Menu --> Select him --> Remove. If you still can't see him, or teleport out and back or relog.

[Rolig Loon]

What does he see?  Nothing at all?  A gray av?  A fluffy cloud?  Is it only your av that he can't see?  Can anyone else see you?  With what little you told us, my first guess might have been the same as yours.  He might have derendered you by mistake.  Since you have checked the blacklist, though, you know that's not it.  It's more likely now that the problem is on your computer, not his.

I assume that you are using the same router. If not, then that would have been another weak link to focus on.  Appearance issues can often be traced to a weak Internet connection, and can be solved by rebooting the router (unplug it from the power for a few minutes and then plug it back in).  You can try that, but I suspect it won't cure your problem.

Try resetting the Maximum Bandwidth slider in Preferences >> Graphics.  If it is either too low or way too high, it can cause problems with sending baked avatar textures to SL's servers.  When Phoenix is installed, it usuallt defaults Maximum Bandwidth to something like 1,200, which is a good setting for most systems.  If yours was pushed higher than that, set it back to 1,200 and see if that helps.  If not, lower it to 500.  You'll see a drop in performance.  Your frame rate will lag, but if the appearance problem goes away, you'll know that you are on the right track.  Then try increasing it a little at a time until your performance improves but the appearance problem doesn't return.

If that doesn't solve the problem either, the next thing to try is clearing your cache manually, on the theory that your avatar file has been borked and needs to be rebuilt.  You'll find instructions for doing that here >>> http://wiki.phoenixviewer.com/doku.php?id=fs_cache_clear .