Pandora Drezelan Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 I was going through some of my noob pics the other day when I remembered a comment from someone who was on my contacts list a long time ago. I wore angel wings when I first started in SL and while I'm not into RP I do love the fantasy aspect. however the person in question bluntly informed me that I would have to 'lose the angel wings' if I wanted to be taken seriously in SL and even though I don't wear them anymore. 'not for that reason' I still have them. in fact I accidently deleted them and went back to a freebie place and got myself a new set of the same wings. isn't SL about being who you want to be and who wants to be taken seriously? lol I mean SERIOUSLY not. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kaluura Boa Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Never judge a book by its cover... If anybody asked me to change anything on my avatar to be taken seriously, this person would fall down at the bottom of the list of people worth knowing. Judging people by their appearance is a caracteristic of a very hollow, superficial personality... especially in SL where you can be anything you want. I would take more seriously an avatar who looks like a wooden cube with a rational discourse that another one in tie and suit who brings a PR-type behavior into SL. Avatars are like bottles... the thicker the glass is, the less contents they hold. Just keep your wings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Void Singer Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 that's a pretty goofy thing for someone to say, although I'm sure it's true with certain people, maybe even certain groups, it's DEFINITELY not true of SL in general. what does seem to be true in general is having a "cohesive" and "quality" appearance... people subconsciously tend to react better to people who look as if they aren't just thrown together from random junk.... that doesn't mean wings are out, but they should "match" the rest of your style... similarly quality counts (not price, there's plenty of cheap free good stuff, and expensive crap stuff) just like in RL people subconsciously react better to what looks like effort (particularly in grooming for RL) themes are a-ok, even when the theme is mismatched items... as long as it looks like that was the intention, but only assuming the viewer gets it. doing a 3d picasso will win you some fans, but only if they know picassos work, otherwise they're likely to be put off. but NONE of those generalities is a bar to people taking you seriously once they get to know you... they only open the door of first impressions a little wider to start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marianne Little Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Never belive those who say that your appearance does not matter in SL. Of course you are judged by your appearance. I know that sometimes people think this is a perfect world, but the typist behind the avatar is still human, with all the human flaws. And ready to pass judgement based upon your appearance. You find lots of smallminded humans in SL, afraid to look a bit different, always striving for the mediocre, "safe" look. If you wear wings, you are silly. If you wear horns, you are a satanist, If you wear elf ears, you are a stupid Tolkien fan, if you wear glasses you are a nerd, if you are a furry you are a sexcrazy pervert.... The list is endless. And if you have a human avatar with the standard beautiful look, you are of course a braindead "fashonista". Judgement goes both ways. The best is to just wear what you like. But you can't please all, that is simply not possible. But who cares anyway? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Venus Petrov Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Why would you give any credence to someone whose negative comment you remembered from long ago while perusing some early photos of yourself? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Angelique LaFollette Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 "Taken Seriously" By whom i wonder? In situations like this I'm reminded of something my Aunty always said to me; "Be Yourself, people who matter won't mind, and people who mind don't matter". SL is an environment where you will meet people (And animals, and robots, and aliens and conscious inanimate objects) of every possible size and description so this persons claim that wearing wings will somehow damage your credibility with people strikes me as rather spurious. Looking forward to seeing you soaring through the skies. Angel. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lanas Criss Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Who wouldn't take Wings seriously? Enjoy whoever you are and whatever you want to be! Lanas Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deej Kasshiki Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 When I was fairly new I was sitting alone at an outpost of the RP group I was in when I was joined by a person dressed in an amazing blue angel (or maybe fairy) avatar. We started chatting and it turned out that she was an artist and had joined SL to explore the cultural and artistic communities. After a while she commented about how sad it was that in a virtual world where we could fly, live in the clouds or underwater and choose any form we liked that the majority of people made idelized human avatars and lived in suburban style houses. That conversation has stuck with me to this day and it's so true; most people are followers and either unwilling or unable to use their imaginations or to think outside of the mundane. When they see someone wearing wings, or dressed as a tiny wind-up toy or an anthropomorph it jars their concept of "normal" and they sometimes lash out. The best way tro deal with these types is to understand their self-imposed limits and simply ignore them. A person once asked me why I didn't want to be "human" here. I turned it around and asked him why he did? He couldn't answer the question. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cody Guardian Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Some of the most fascinating people look or act differently. I can't see shunning someone just because they have a different appearance. They may have an interesting story! I don't avoid someone that looks new or unfinished either. They may be new or just more interested in things other than theri appearance. I've met some of my best friends and most fascinating people by getting to know them rather than sorting them by appearance. Most of the time I'm not a stereotypical human and have a great time with different avatars. Have a great time in SL! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela Galli Posted September 18, 2011 Share Posted September 18, 2011 Deej Kasshiki wrote: After a while she commented about how sad it was that in a virtual world where we could fly, live in the clouds or underwater and choose any form we liked that the majority of people made idelized human avatars and lived in suburban style houses. That conversation has stuck with me to this day and it's so true; most people are followers and either unwilling or unable to use their imaginations or to think outside of the mundane. This sounds to me just like typical "people who choose differently than I do are inferior/defective/sheeplike/etc." and it doesn't matter what avatar or lifestyle they choose -- someone who looks down at human avatars is no different at all from someone who looks down on non human ones. Kind of like in RL. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deej Kasshiki Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Um, no. Not at all. Since the vast majority of people who are my friends in SL wear human avs that would be pretty illogical of me to think that way. I most certainly don't "look down" on anyone's choice. That's their business, not mine. Just making an observation regarding the people who are vociferous about insisting that everyone should be like them, e.g. the "you won't be taken seriously if you wear wings" person from the OP. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Love this. Thank You and yes I have the wings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Lol. yes well now I am a certified model. so things do change and people too. still I found the comment a bit shallow at that point in time. especially considering I was still new and the wings are very nice. not that I wear them anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 It was simply a thought so I posted this question for other peoples views. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Oh THAT PIC IS CUTE lol. very nice hun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Yes I try to keep the aspects of fantasy alive in my SL and thanks for your reply. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amethyst Jetaime Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Actually I like the wings Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Thank You. I deleted the first ones by accident and went to a freebie shop to get another pair lol. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pandora Drezelan Posted September 19, 2011 Author Share Posted September 19, 2011 Thanks. I wear them on my rezz day now and I'm coming up to my second one in December. that will be fun. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela Galli Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 Deej Kasshiki wrote: Um, no. Not at all. Since the vast majority of people who are my friends in SL wear human avs that would be pretty illogical of me to think that way. I most certainly don't "look down" on anyone's choice. That's their business, not mine. Just making an observation regarding the people who are vociferous about insisting that everyone should be like them, e.g. the "you won't be taken seriously if you wear wings" person from the OP. Well I will just quote you again then because the only person you were referring to that insisted that everyone should be like them was, well, the one you referrred to: Deej Kasshiki wrote: After a while she commented about how sad it was that in a virtual world where we could fly, live in the clouds or underwater and choose any form we liked that the majority of people made idelized human avatars and lived in suburban style houses. That conversation has stuck with me to this day and it's so true; most people are followers and either unwilling or unable to use their imaginations or to think outside of the mundane. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deej Kasshiki Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 What is this, pick a fight day or something? I must have missed the memo. What is your issue here? You might want to go back and refer to the guy in the OP who stated that someone wearing wings wouldn't be taken seriously. Yeah, my opinion is that SL could be more than people all looking like 8' tall glamazons living in castles but hey, do they have the right to do so? Yep. Do I respect their choice? Sure do. Not my cup of tea but, their world, their imagination.I just chose something different. Just because I don't like it doesn't mean I disrespect it. And now it's time for me to bow out. I've had enough of this nonsense. If you want to argue argue with yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela Galli Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 My issue is that it doesn't matter whether it's someone saying wings are silly or no wings is sad -- both cases, it's someone making the judgment that someone else's choice is in some way inferior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kattatonia Wickentower Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 nerds wear glasses? really? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kattatonia Wickentower Posted September 19, 2011 Share Posted September 19, 2011 I like wings too. I have a whole folder full of them. Thanks for reminding me, I haven't worn any in ages. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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