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Where do YOU think the best place to talk about sex in Second Life is and why?

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Where are the best places (blogs, forums, websites, sims, etc.) to talk about sex in Second Life among adults with a frank and open discussion and information that is updated and kept current? Topics might include prim genitalia, etiquette, how-to for newbies, fetishes, paraphilias, NSFW & XXX content, sex sims, sex products, etc. And why? (Why is that the best place?) The question came up in the "Finding Current Info on SL Sex" thread here on SLF and I thought it might be interesting to get comments and referrals and maybe collect them into a helpful resource list. Thank you in advance and apologies for dupes.

 

I've already received the following leads:

 

1.  The BDSM forum sim inworld.

2.  Xcite.  (http://www.getxcite.com/ & https://marketplace.secondlife.com/stores/41563 & http://slurl.com/secondlife/Eventide%20East/147.226/106.271/39.3044)

3.  SLuniverse

4.  SLU's "Let's Make Sexy Time!" Social Group.

5.  SLU's "BDSM Interest group" Social Group.

6.   gotvirtual

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Pardon the obvious, Lee, but I think one of the very best places to 'talk about sex' in SL is between two consenting adults.  (Of course, for some, it might be 'two or more..'). 

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Actually, I think that is forum is a great place to talk about sex. It might seem counter-intuitive considering LL's PG rule and the relatively high level of moderation, but I've found that when it comes to adult topics, only posts with very explicit language are getting moderated. Which can be a boon rather than a bane, because it helps keep the discussion on a civilized level.

We have discussed even the most controversial topics here in the past, such as age play, BDSM (including edgeplay), or zoophilia. This doesn't seem to be possible over at SLU, where people who disagree with the vocal majority (which is surprisingly conservative when it comes to sex; SLU is a place where gays and liberal atheists rage against aberrant forms of sexuality in a way that would make a Baptist preacher jealous) are met with vigorous personal attacks and the most hateful and rude language. That's exactly the kind of thing that gets deleted here, and this forum is a better place for it imho.

At SLU, everything seems to be about moral outrage. A member of the in crowd starts a finger pointing thread (bruised skins and "Rape me" tattoos, OMG, how can LL allow this!) and everyone joins in the bashfest. That is not a discussion, it's a lynch mob in a feverish circle j***. Those who dare to disagree are torn to pieces and will be bullied in all future threads no matter what they post. I'd rather participate in a forum where I can speak my mind as long as I'm willing to self-censor a bit and use medical schoolbook terms or romanticized language rather than colloquialisms.

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The best place is with your partner(s).

Second Life can be a journey, a path for discovery. I prefer to choose my own adventure.

Sexual sophistication, is far from first on my list of ideal characteristics and traits of a desirable partner. 

The second best place to discuss functionality of a product or attachment is with the Creator or seller of the product. The Resident who made it, probably knows how the item works.

A Group for helping Residents in the Region Kuula, has a public Show-n-Tell event, the content must be General maturity rating but a format like that for sex in SL would be beneficial.   

 

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Yeah, i'm with Knowle.  And I really don't want to discuss what i've found out for myself -- or what i've yet to find out -- with a bunch of horny strangers.  No, thank you. 

You might consider starting an inworld group for your frank and open discussions.  You could dish out notecards periodically with how-to guides and best practice.  :matte-motes-delicious:

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squashy Beeswing wrote:

You could dish out notecards periodically with how-to guides and best practice.  :matte-motes-delicious:


 

I had to chuckle at this line, squashy.  Reminds me of RL work (too much)!

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Ishtara Rothschild wrote:

Actually, I think that is forum is a great place to talk about sex. It might seem counter-intuitive considering LL's PG rule and the relatively high level of moderation, but I've found that when it comes to adult topics, only posts with very explicit language are getting moderated. Which can be a boon rather than a bane, because it helps keep the discussion on a civilized level.

We have discussed even the most controversial topics here in the past, such as age play, BDSM (including edgeplay), or zoophilia. This doesn't seem to be possible over at SLU, where people who disagree with the vocal majority (which is surprisingly conservative when it comes to sex; SLU is a place where gays and liberal atheists rage against aberrant forms of sexuality in a way that would make a Baptist preacher jealous) are met with vigorous personal attacks and the most hateful and rude language. That's exactly the kind of thing that gets deleted here, and this forum is a better place for it imho.

At SLU, everything seems to be about moral outrage. A member of the in crowd starts a finger pointing thread (bruised skins and "Rape me" tattoos, OMG, how can LL allow this!) and everyone joins in the bashfest. That is not a discussion, it's a lynch mob in a feverish circle j***. Those who dare to disagree are torn to pieces and will be bullied in all future threads no matter what they post. I'd rather participate in a forum where I can speak my mind as long as I'm willing to self-censor a bit and use medical schoolbook terms or romanticized language rather than colloquialisms.

This ^^

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Ishtara Rothschild wrote:That is not a discussion, it's a lynch mob in a feverish circle j***. Those who dare to disagree are torn to pieces and will be bullied in all future threads no matter what they post. I'd rather participate in a forum where I can speak my mind as long as I'm willing to self-censor a bit and use medical schoolbook terms or romanticized language rather than colloquialisms.

Exactly.

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I always enjoy it when you pop up, Ian.  You are so very dry and a perfect antedote for (some of) the silly mush on this forum.

:matte-motes-smile:

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My first choice is with my partner.

My second choice is the SLU forum. Which is where I met my partner... :matte-motes-big-grin:

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Ishtara Rothschild wrote:

Actually, I think that is forum is a great place to talk about sex. It might seem counter-intuitive considering LL's PG rule and the relatively high level of moderation, but I've found that when it comes to adult topics, only posts with very explicit language are getting moderated. Which can be a boon rather than a bane, because it helps keep the discussion on a civilized level.

We have discussed even the most controversial topics here in the past, such as age play, BDSM (including edgeplay), or zoophilia. This doesn't seem to be possible over at SLU, where people who disagree with the vocal majority (which is surprisingly conservative when it comes to sex; SLU is a place where gays and liberal atheists rage against aberrant forms of sexuality in a way that would make a Baptist preacher jealous) are met with vigorous personal attacks and the most hateful and rude language. That's exactly the kind of thing that gets deleted here, and this forum is a better place for it imho.

At SLU, everything seems to be about moral outrage. A member of the in crowd starts a finger pointing thread (bruised skins and "Rape me" tattoos, OMG, how can LL allow this!) and everyone joins in the bashfest. That is not a discussion, it's a lynch mob in a feverish circle j***. Those who dare to disagree are torn to pieces and will be bullied in all future threads no matter what they post. I'd rather participate in a forum where I can speak my mind as long as I'm willing to self-censor a bit and use medical schoolbook terms or romanticized language rather than colloquialisms.

Sadly, quite accurate, but you forgot to mention how, even after you've removed yourself from the discussion, they will continue their frenzy, getting more and more personal with each attack.  I don't even bother going there anymore and wouldn't do so again unless it was something I just couldn't pass up (the epic Redzone thread comes to mind).

...Dres

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Ian Undercroft wrote:

I'm surprised no-one has yet volunteered him/herself as an inworld "sex teacher". 

When many of my friends came over to sl from another online game I offered to escort them all to a specific adult store and help them equip their avs(and then subsequently adjust and fix the parts after they broke them or wore them completely wrong, lol). That was a fun adventure in and of itself. I also helped quite a few of them find the lesser known places (back then) to engage in the activities they were looking for, buy the styles of furniture they were looking for, etc...Everytime a new friend joined us here, it was time for a field trip. Those were good times, I must say. Not that the adult places were the only ones we ever went to, lol. We had lots of field trips to the zoo, haunted houses, rainforest, mayan ruins, Africa-one of our fav places those zebras are awesome, random oddball hole in the wall type places too. But usually, the adult places were high on the list of "must see", lol.

I'd never volunteer to outfit a perfect stranger with such things, but I'd be more than happy to pass lms and information I have on to them, lol. I'm just not stupid enough to spend my lindens on someone who very well may be an alt. I didn't mind helping friends though.

As for the OP I think the forums are a great place, if they weren't so sensored they'd be even better. Even still, people can learn a lot from the forums and the folks who've been here for ages. There's a wealth of information right here. Information that someone can look back on later too. I wouldn't direct people to in-world groups unless they were looking for a specific thing and I was sending them to that store/place's group. I don't like inundating newbies with a bunch of groups though, and they also wouldn't be able to go back and read what was said at their own pace(unless they log chat, of course). I pass on information in IMs, LMs and notecards all the time though.

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It's rare to visit the Bits n' Bobs store without a total stranger asking you to test out poseballs with them!

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squashy Beeswing wrote:...You could dish out notecards periodically with how-to guides and best practice.


I used to teach a couple of classes that pretty well covered that.  I'm thinking of starting them up again :)

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Storm Clarence wrote:


Lewis Luminos wrote:

My second choice is the SLU forum. 

Why?

Because conversations there are usually thoughtful and there are many members there whose opinions I trust. Also because you won't get banned for using adult words.

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Lewis Luminos wrote:


Storm Clarence wrote:


Lewis Luminos wrote:

My second choice is the SLU forum. 

Why?

Because conversations there are usually thoughtful and there are many members there whose opinions I trust. Also because you won't get banned for using adult words.

The problem is that most of those "adult words" are used within the context of vicious personal attacks, which, if you're in good with the owner, then no, you don't have to worry about being banned or even chastised in any way.  But if, by chance, the owner disagrees with you and you find yourself on the receiving end of such an attack, then, to use the words of one such thoughtful, trustworthy opinion, "f-you".

...Dres

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