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Man oh man I've been in sl for a long long time. In the early days I noticed it was a lot easier to find friends. Now not so much. My husband and I thought we had made a few connections but for some reason they always seem to flame out! We are a pretty chill couple. 40's real life so not super young.  We have both been around a long time with some breaks here and there. We just want some friends to hang out with! I didn't think it was so much to ask, but making friends somedays seem impossible!  So if your looking for a couple chill friends lemme know and we will hang out in world!! hope to hear from some people soon! 

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I have quite a few friends but we don't really "hang" out together. We'll hang at certain clubs and IM each other but not get together. The only exception was a group of us formed a Wed night greedy group and whomever could come would play for an hour or two.  Most couples tend to do things together or hang on their own. So it's not you guys, it's just the way it is I think.  I wish I had better suggestions for you. Maybe start with a game group or gather people for movie night and see how that goes. Invite a few people.  Also everyone in the group has to like everyone or at the very least tolerate them for a short period of time. 

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   Making friends in SL isn't particularly hard, I find, things have changed from how things used to be; not as many people standing around sandboxes tinkering and playing around with stuff since most of the asset creation has been moved off-grid, and many creators do their in-world testing in private as to avoid griefers or distractions. SL voice is also quite unreliable as a tool, and a lot of people (myself included) can do a large portion of the social bit on Discord or via IMs whilst running around shopping or playing dress-up/tinkering with stuff in my own home. But I'll still get together with friends when we do activities, whether it's board-games or mini-golf or vehicular adventures or such - long-lasting friendships tend to be easier when you have shared interests, not just a mutual desire for making friends.

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16 hours ago, Krysta Aquila said:

Man oh man I've been in sl for a long long time. In the early days I noticed it was a lot easier to find friends. Now not so much. My husband and I thought we had made a few connections but for some reason they always seem to flame out! We are a pretty chill couple. 40's real life so not super young.  We have both been around a long time with some breaks here and there. We just want some friends to hang out with! I didn't think it was so much to ask, but making friends somedays seem impossible!  So if your looking for a couple chill friends lemme know and we will hang out in world!! hope to hear from some people soon! 

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I think the problem is that people have forgotten how to communicate, hold conversations, know its okay to disagree and still like each other.  Mobile phones and the pandemic really have done a number on how people interact with each other and its quite sad.  I enjoy a good conversation or debate, but these days conversations inworld are like pulling teeth - painful and a challenge to get through, so I tend to tap out and not bother with them.  As for disagreements or debates?  You're labelled a "-phobe" or an "-ist" if you disagree with certain opinions or viewpoints, so again, what's the point?

And yet I am still hopeful one day I will find interesting conversations and healthy debates.

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I have come to realise that not having friends is much more peaceful on SL.  No one can harm you if you don't befriend them in the first place. I am not anti social - I like the company of others and happy to chat and socialise, but I no longer seek to have "friends." Why? because ultimately I learned the hard way how shallow it all is. When they ghost you for no reason. When they tick that box that makes them hidden from you when they are online. When you always have their back, but no one has yours. No thanks. 

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IMHO it's kinda important to keep in mind that how long your friends list is doesn't necessarily correlate to how many friends you have. Mine is relatively short, yet I have a bunch of friends in different places and communities. Many of whom it's always great to see again, on the list or not, and we might do stuff together or simply even just talk until the wee hours.

It's the usual advice. Find something that interests you, be open, and things may very well flow from there. And sometimes it just happens by chance. Someone asked me for help choosing and setting up a track the other day (not sold by me, but I was the only other person there and am a regular at the SIM where it was sold), and we ended up just driving and chilling on it at her place after we had set it up. It was a bit like in the early days, actually. 

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On 4/17/2024 at 7:54 PM, Jordyn McGregor said:

I think the problem is that people have forgotten how to communicate, hold conversations, know its okay to disagree and still like each other.  Mobile phones and the pandemic really have done a number on how people interact with each other and its quite sad.  I enjoy a good conversation or debate, but these days conversations inworld are like pulling teeth - painful and a challenge to get through, so I tend to tap out and not bother with them.  As for disagreements or debates?  You're labelled a "-phobe" or an "-ist" if you disagree with certain opinions or viewpoints, so again, what's the point?

And yet I am still hopeful one day I will find interesting conversations and healthy debates.

If you find you are being called a -phobe or an -ist, we might have a lot in common. IM me sometimes, I love to hang out and chat 😁

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