how to play less seriosly

[HeathcliffMontague]

15 hours ago, Gabriel Isodo said:

 When you are banned the only solution is change your IP address and create a new avatar

 

Dude, you have only experienced a smigeon of SL. It's pretty vast. Don't get hung up on what may have happened to you in a single place. Explore. There's lots more to do and experience.

[Ayashe Ninetails]

7 hours ago, Gabriel Isodo said:

I read that I should join groups. But groups  is used to advertise not for socialise. I reveive notification that I never understand and delete. Finaly I uncheck the notification because I never see the advantage of group. It is like a mailing list. If you are interested  to buy things it is ok. 

It sounds like you're talking about store and event/shopping groups. Those do exist, but there are also social groups where people primarily just chat and organize their own group's events. Even some store groups can be pretty social, and some hangouts have their own groups, too.

You can use the group search to help find them using keywords you're interested in.

[InnerCity Elf]

On 4/13/2024 at 11:21 PM, Gabriel Isodo said:

. He gave me a long list of rules.  

If it's something you think you might enjoy and would like to do for a longer while, read the rules before you engage.

I do mostly role play, most of the role play sims have lots of rules, mythology, and whatnot. And while you might think, once you read the rules at one place, it's fine, they'll not be that different in another place, that can be true, but often isn't. I know it's annoying to read all that stuff, when you want to jump in, but if you don't know that certain things aren't allowed, because you didn't read the rules, and it's a "bannable offense", that's on you. 

I admit that, after having checked out dozens of roleplay sims over the years, I just skim rules, which tend to be the same or very similar, or self-evident, for the most part, and pay attention to things that might really make for trouble and can differ, like consent-sim or not, dresscode, and such. If it's a place that really seems I'd like, I'll read all the stuff. If I start playing without having checked all the info, and do something against the rules, and they'll ban me, too bad, I'll read more thoroughly next time. Might be overreacting on their part, in my opinion, but they might not want to waste their time on cretins like me who didn't read all the rules, or had a bad day, or whatever. Their sim/,game, their rules.

That's nothing to down my self-esteem, however. I risked playing without reading the rules, well, sometimes, it works out, great, time saved, sometimes not, next time, I'll spend that time, one 'fail' factor dodged. 

Don't take it personal. Until you're somewhat of an esteemed regular (which takes time, and rule-reading, in some cases), you're just a random person. And people who read and stick to the rules, might get cross with the 'management' if others don't read and stick to the rules, and still may play, many if not most people are like that.

[Love Zhaoying]

On 4/14/2024 at 9:20 AM, HeathcliffMontague said:

Dude, you have only experienced a smigeon of SL. It's pretty vast. Don't get hung up on what may have happened to you in a single place. Explore. There's lots more to do and experience.

Agreed, if banned from a place just forget it and move on.

[Kalegthepsionicist]

On 4/12/2024 at 2:04 PM, Gabriel Isodo said:

I would like advice how to play SL. I notice that this game is hard. 

* hard to start : hard to have decent avatar. The learning curve is very steep and noboy to help. 

* hard to be social. How to get friends or playing with other. Impression that all player want to play alone

* In secondlife you don't have a second chance. That part is the hardest. Maybe this is the reason why many people start with a new avatar.

 

My question : what advice you can give me to have fun and play with pleasure ? I try hard to have a nice avatar and make friends and even play games. But I do many mistakes and people don't accept my mistake. I have to be perfect from the first time. I try try try but I think it is like I do 10 try and the 9th is ok. But many times the 1st fails is definitive. 

Do I play too seriously ? SL is supposted to be a game. This game affect my mood. When I loose That affect me and My value of myself diminushed or digreas.  I have the right word. My selfconfidence go down each time I do a mistake of I fail. 

 

How to have less fails : I want to have 8 fails and then I success instead of 9. How to learn how to play? What is the correct way to play. Specialy socialy. Technicaly it is hard but I can learn it but socialy is the hardest part. Is it really a social game? 

What is your advice? Stoping playing ? (if I ask that question it is because I want to play) - Making break I already did it ? Read documentation ? change my mindeset. I try to be happy and optimistic but when I fail how to be optimistic. 

I notice also that very often I am lost in the game. I am somewhere and I don't know how to do how to play. It is like that I am lost. 

I understand what d u mean with lost in game.imo in  SL people try build self imaging, thas why many play alt, the main avi is the focus avatar they try to build the ideal self image, best personaluty they want to crwate, and to play bad they use alts.

the problem if this can distort your real eprsonality, unleass you are healthy mentally , so theres no problem but if you havrle issue with your personality this games is baaad.

Edited April 16 by Kalegthepsionicist

[Kalegthepsionicist]

On 4/12/2024 at 2:04 PM, Gabriel Isodo said:

 

How to have less fails : I want to have 8 fails and then I success instead of 9. How to learn how to play? What is the correct way to play. Specialy socialy. Technicaly it is hard but I can learn it but socialy is the hardest part. Is it really a social game? 

What is your advice? Stoping playing ? (if I ask that question it is because I want to play) - Making break I already did it ? Read documentation ? change my mindeset. I try to be happy and optimistic but when I fail how to be optimistic. 

I notice also that very often I am lost in the game. I am somewhere and I don't know how to do how to play. It is like that I am lost. 

you want to success ? well , follow the crowd become the  people pleaser, do what they want you to do or react.

accept their view event yoy dislagreed.

sort answer,

be faked and deny youw ownself

[Gabriel Isodo]

"

you want to success ? well , follow the crowd become the  people pleaser, do what they want you to do or react.

accept their view event yoy dislagreed.

sort answer,

be faked and deny youw owns"

 

I don't understand what you means? Can you explain in simple words. 

[Randy Pole]

First of all stop thinking about Second Life as being a game - it really is not a game. It's a 3D social thingy.

Just as in RL it is often hard to meet people and socialise. The best thing I can suggest is do not try to hard as that may make you appear to others as pushy and attention seeking.

If you are new to SL then take advantage of the new resident help places. There are lots of people willing to help you learn there and you will probably make tons of friends.

Nobody expects a new resident to look amazing - if you do then they know you are not a new resident but are instead a recycled resident.

Second Life is supposed to be for relaxation and enjoyment - if it is not providing you that then log out, take a break. Go outside and  enjoy the sun on your face instead of the glow of a computer screen.

As for finding places use the destination guide. Do not look at the popular now section - explore some of the other places instead. Find places that resonate with you and maybe you will also find some people that share the same thoughts.

[Ingrid Ingersoll]

On 4/12/2024 at 2:04 AM, Gabriel Isodo said:

* hard to be social. How to get friends or playing with other. Impression that all player want to play alone

Unfortunately a lot of people in sl have bought into the idea that having a nice avi somehow makes them amazing and they get quite snooty about who they talk to. Don't take it personally. It's hilarious when you think about what's probably behind the avatar.

 

Edited April 26 by Ingrid Ingersoll

[Love Zhaoying]

2 minutes ago, Ingrid Ingersoll said:

Unfortunately a lot of people in sl have bought into the idea that having a nice avi somehow makes them amazing and they get quite snooty about who they talk to. Don't take it personally. It's hilarious when you think about what's probably behind the avatar.

 

I was going to suggest, that one way to "play less seriously" is to create an avatar intentionally "bland" or "unattractive" (by some standards). 

That way, some people may see you as either "fun" or "trolling" (it's on them, not you), and your focus won't be on something "serious" like making your avatar look a certain way.  Instead, you may find yourself focusing on exploring, doing other things, and you'll learn a lot about people from how they treat you.

 

[BilliJo Aldrin]

wanna “play” Second Life less seriously?

Then take a line from my profile:

”I’ll accept everything that you tell me, but at the same time, I won’t believe a word of what you say”

That is all, carry on 😂

[Love Zhaoying]

11 minutes ago, BilliJo Aldrin said:

wanna “play” Second Life less seriously?

Then take a line from my profile:

”I’ll accept everything that you tell me, but at the same time, I won’t believe a word of what you say”

That is all, carry on 😂

I don't believe you!

[usedcars]

i would say don't always mimic real life.   The avatar in SL is not necessarily  you.