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Where to meet nice women

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Hey gang, well I feel a little embarrassed posting this question, but here it goes. I am still relatively new to SL and was wondering where is a great place to meet a nice woman on SL for dating and maybe more if things went that direction. I have tried a couple of dating agencies and such but did not have much luck, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thanks again for your time :)

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In all honesty, I've found that, when trying to meet someone who matches your tastes, your best bet is to simply engage in the activities you enjoy. In this way, you'll find someone you actually like and enjoy doing things with.

If you haven't already discovered this, there are plenty of fun activities to engage in, in Second Life. You can bowl, golf, fish, sword fight, role play (a wide variety of themes, there), cosplay, go clubbing, create things for your private enjoyment and/or to sell to others, try long distance learning at one of the many universities located in Second Life, join one of the many religious groups and engage in discussions, fly planes and engage in dogfights, and go boating and/or engage in ship battles. And that's just the very tip of the iceberg. In other words, really take a look around and explore SL, find something you enjoy doing, and egage in it, wholeheartedly. Eventually, before you know it, you'll find someone you like and who likes you. Just like in real life, really.

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I got in some trouble the last time I mentioned something along this line, but I heard Scylla is available.  :matte-motes-bored:  

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You can meet nice people just about anywhere!  I met my three closest friends in three different places doing three different things.  Explore.  Join groups that have interests you share, or do not have interests you share but have things that interest you.  Have few expecatations and relax.  Your world. Your imagination!

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Jarrod, how can you NOT meet nice women? They are all around. It's virtually impossible to avoid them. Your question is improperly framed. A better question would be how could I get a nice woman interested in me? Let's assume you spotted a potential candidate and she responded to your brilliant opening overture of an IM say "hi" with the following request:

Tell me something interesting about yourself. Lie if you have to.

How do you respond? She has observed the exterior package and concluded that it meets minimum acceptable standards. She's now trying to gauge the person behind the avatar. Convince her your worthy. What do you have for us?

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What kind of 'Nice' are you looking for?

Not too long ago, I kinda helped someone fix his avatar (he was having trouble getting a girl) and showed him where to get clothes and all. Mind you this guy wasn't the easiest to converse with and he creeps me out a little. A few days back I checked his profile and there it is, him and his new girl in his Pick. The location of that picture was taken in Blarney Pub in Dublin.

I think you already have an outgoing personality, maybe all you need now is to get yourself a nice suit and great hair and head down to Dublin?

Oh and Yes, quality girls are either opinionated or very self-efficient ... You will need to keep up with her. Read more about Second Life, know how to use your viewer well, be most current with what's going on with the outside world (real world), have your lindens enough in the account, act as if you enjoyed what you are doing (like Randall said, Lie if you must), LAUGH Out Loud, Be adventurous and most of all act as if You are her knight in shinning armour. I have this friend of mine who I will always scream for help when I need to be saved from potentially, a bad date. One time, he got into fight with this teenager for calling me ugly... and another time he reprimanded an admin in an RP sim for being too late for her duty and made Me wait for her. Whatever you do, don't try or appear to be desperate... NICE women might shy away. Be Cool.

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A friend said once, "get them to talk about themselves because people love to talk about themselves".

Well, maybe.

Try it and see.

 

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Are you looking for RL or SL women? It shouldn't be too hard to run into the latter. Try Zindra, or any of the private adult-rated estates.

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I've met 'women' everywhere in SL but on Zindra.  I have been to Zindra once, as a female friend owned a parcel.  I guess, as I can not 'judge' a place I have never visited, the type and quality of the woman of your desires certainly has to be considered; along with your desires. Zindra is for adult entertainment. 

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Storm Clarence wrote:

I got in some trouble the last time I mentioned something along this line, but I heard Scylla is available.  :matte-motes-bored:  

She most certainly is not.

 

Besides, he wants "nice," remember?

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You are a liberal commie socialist blah blah.  I'm not.  I read you were free. 

The OP wanted 'nice' and you came to mind as I had no 'better' word come to mind; but  I read you were free.  Or why the 'chaste' peck and not a good...

 

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Storm Clarence wrote:

You are a liberal commie socialist blah blah.  I'm not.  I read you were free. 

The OP wanted 'nice' and you came to mind as I had no 'better' word come to mind; but  I read you were free.  Or why the 'chaste' peck and not a good...

 

Well, let's just say I am not "available."

Thank you for the characterization of me as "nice," though.  I suspect, however, that "blah blah" comes closer to the truth.

 

:matte-motes-wink-tongue:

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Jarrod1 wrote: “[...] where is a great place to meet a nice woman on SL for dating and maybe more [...]”

Others have already given you many correct answers, so I'm going to provide a different angle: if there was such a place, as in “just by *being* there, I will already meet them nice girls”... it would consistently be about 7000% over its maximum avatar capacity. So you couldn't possibly TP there. Ever :matte-motes-asleep:

It's not 'where', it's 'how'... and it's relatively simple: just be nice yourself... and you'll get your worth :matte-motes-wink:

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Ren Toxx wrote:


Jarrod1 wrote: “[...] where is a great place to meet a nice woman on SL for dating and maybe more [...]”

Others have already given you many correct answers, so I'm going to provide a different angle: if there was such a place, as in
“just by
*being*
there, I will already meet them nice girls”
... it would consistently be about 7000% over its maximum avatar capacity. So you couldn't possibly TP there. Ever :matte-motes-asleep:

It's not
'where'
, it's
'how'
... and it's relatively simple: just be nice
yourself
... and you'll get your worth :matte-motes-wink:

Exactly. What goes around, comes around. Spread an air of confidence and exude an honest desire to be with and around others, and they will respond in kind.

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I realize how shallow this sounds, but one thing that makes a difference is having an avatar that's nice to look at.

And -- not coincidentally -- while you are shopping for your own look, you are likely to meet women,
because women like to shop.

When you do, you can ask their opinion of your skin or hair or clothes -- it's a great pretext for starting
a conversation.

 

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Say More, Dont be Afraid

Theres tons of Nice Womens Out there, Provide more Infos on what Type of girl You like, And You'll Probably get one

I Dont Have Much Tips (Well Since I'm a Girl xD)

But What Nice Womens (Not the Hookers) Always find in a Guy is their Personality, How Charming & Gentleman he Is, And Of Course Also by the Looks, Girls dont wanna get Embarrased from What Their Boyfriend/Husband Looks Like, But Sometimes Some Girls Doesnt Really care about your Looks, But to boost the Relationship you Have to Look Cool, Dont Look in Perverted Places for Real Nice Honest Women, But Sometimes there are some Nice Womens in Clubs

Make Sure The girl you Choose is right By Looking at how she Dress Ups, How She Writes, & How she Talks with Other Guys, Cause Usually SL Has tons of Hackers, Griefers, Fakers & Posers, I Suggest Making yourself look more as a Gentleman to get A Good Girl,

Hope it Helps

xx Rose

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You've already got so many fantastic suggestions.  Speaking as a female who has been in second life for some time, it feels like meeting people is almost impossible.  I'm going to have to agree that the "look" of your avatar really plays a considerable factor in whether or not i'll talk to you.  I know that may sound shallow, but it doesn't necessarily mean you have to spend tons of money on great skins or clothes.  I, personally, like to see that someone has taken time into customizing their avatar with their own look.  I love to shop, and spend a lot of time going to stores and playing with outfits, etc. so when I see a well dressed avatar, it always makes me take notice.  It doesn't necessarily mean you have to wear a suit, just put some thought into what kind of look you want your avatar to have, and run with it.  The best thing about second life is you can be whoever you want to be!  If you need any help at all, I'll gladly give you whatever tips you need on customizing your avatar!

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After reading this thread, my side hurts from laughing at everyone and thanks! I needed the perk up on Monday.

As for Nice Girls...scary thought as I would think most men come to SL to find girls who are not nice. :)

Perhaps you may want to try World of Warcraft. I would suggest the Alliance Side....much nicer girls there.

 

 

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Chelsea Malibu wrote:

After reading this thread, my side hurts from laughing at everyone and thanks! I needed the perk up on Monday.

As for Nice Girls...scary thought as I would think most men come to SL to find girls who are not nice.
:)

Perhaps you may want to try World of Warcraft. I would suggest the Alliance Side....much nicer girls there. 

I can personally attest to the "much nicer girls (in WoW)" comment ... because my son has several female characters there and he's a really nice person.

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Well I been in SL for a long time and Always the bridesmaid never the bride is me :D

So I probably am the worst to even add my 2 cents But why not :D

I personally think if you are a happy person with a goal in life (even a SL life) you tend to stand out more.

If you wanting to learn creative things in SL , goto some of the free classes you can find in search,you will meet people with the same  goal and interest . Being  creative with some one else has to be very high on my list of "charm" we are all looking for in some one .

I think like RL clubbing is fun ,you might find the fact that those kind of relations are normally driven by the moment and excitement of a event then the real interest in each other.

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Storm Clarence wrote:

I've met 'women' everywhere in SL but on Zindra.  I have been to Zindra once, as a female friend owned a parcel.  I guess, as I can not 'judge' a place I have never visited, the type and quality of the woman of your desires certainly has to be considered; along with your desires. Zindra is for adult entertainment. 

 

That's why I've made the distinction between women and "women" :) If the OP is looking for the latter, or simply doesn't discriminate between RL and SL women, Zindra and private adult estates are the places to go. But if he's looking for nice, unmarried RL women without too much baggage (meaning emotional baggage, psychological issues, physical weight, or a bunch of children)... well, good luck finding that holy grail.

ETA: The same can be said about men of course, although children and c-section scars are less of an issue when it comes to males.

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Storm Clarence wrote:

I got in some trouble the last time I mentioned something along this line, but I heard Scylla is available.  :matte-motes-bored:  

LOL Storm!  Hippie face palms!

 

Peace!

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Jarrod1 wrote:

Hey gang, well I feel a little embarrassed posting this question, but here it goes. I am still relatively new to SL and was wondering where is a great place to meet a nice woman on SL for dating and maybe more if things went that direction. I have tried a couple of dating agencies and such but did not have much luck, any suggestions would be greatly appreciated and thanks again for your time
:)

Hi Jarrod!  The important thing, is to be yourself.  Dont be hung up on yourself either.  Be pleasent, fun loving, and honest.  If you are, I am sure some "nice" girl will notice you,, and sink there hooks into you!  Dig?  Far out!

 

Peace!

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