Someone is stalking me from multiple accounts on Secondlife! PLEASE HELP!

[Kashoutt]

As of recently someone has been stalking me on secondlife. They are using someone in my virtual family's username. Initially I thought it was that it was my family member but I'm still on the fence about this. I dont talk to many people so I am not sure who it could be. I've blocked all the accounts but they just keep making more. I dont want to overeact and be wrong, so how can I protect myself from this stalker? 

Is it possible for someone to track me without knowing my location or sending me a tracking device?

How do I know if I have a tracking device on me?

If you have any suggestions please share because it's starting to make my time on SL unenjoyable.

 

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[Lindal Kidd]

The only risk with Chic's advice is telling your friends about your new identity.

There's a non-zero chance that one of your "friends" is an alt of your stalker.

If you hide out under an alt, best to make new friends and find new places to hang out.

[Rolig Loon]

Take a look at this advice from Linden Lab >>> https://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/Stalkers .  Then submit an abuse report (or several if you can report more than one incident).

[Chocolate Little]

Crazy. I'm getting stalked too. This person keeps making new accounts every day. Being crazy and delusional and even threatened to hurt me in real life. I'm not even exaggerating. I've reported so many times now and it seems like abuse reports are going nowhere. 

 

Have you found a solution yet for this type of harassment? Because I agree, blocking doesn't help if they make a new account every day and just follow you on the sims you regularly hang out at.

[Chic Aeon]

Just in case this is an actual TRUE thread (there have been others that were spoofs). 

Let all your friends know what is going on. 

Have IMs go to email

Make a NEW avatar (honestly it can be fun). 

Take a break, go new places. 

Keep in touch with friends via IM.

 

The stalker will get tired if you don't log in for awhile and then most likely you can go back to your old account.  

Log in on the stalked account ONLY when necessary and BRIEFLY.  

 

That's one logical answer. 

 

[Rolig Loon]

The only advice I can offer is the same as what I  posted earlier. Keep sending in abuse reports. Do not respond to your stalker in any way. Read and take advantage of the suggestions in the article that I referenced above. 

Idiots like that seem to get their enjoyment from knowing that they make you go nuts, so don't give him that satisfaction.  As hard as it may be, try to ignore him completely. Sooner or later,  he'll go bother someone else (or get himself banned).

[Wulfie Reanimator]

16 hours ago, Chocolate Little said:

I've reported so many times now and it seems like abuse reports are going nowhere. 

When writing abuse reports, make sure you give as much information as possible. If all you do is report each account with "this person is stalking me," it may be harder for LL to prevent future abuse. Keep a list of previous accounts, and mention at least a few of them in each report. This'll make it a lot easier for them to see that it's the case of a single person creating accounts.

There will always be a way around any ban, but there are a few things LL can do to make it harder. The quick and easy solution would of course be to move to a new account, at least temporarily (read: months).

[Leonardis Ducatillon]

If you do hide out under an alt for a few months, as others have suggested, one thing you could consider when returning to the main account down the line is to formally change your name (not just the display name in the profile) - it will cost L$ to do this (https://community.secondlife.com/knowledgebase/english/usernames-and-display-names-r79/#changing-usernames), but it will totally alter your name in search and so on.

Now, if your stalker's alts are still in your friends' list, that may not help entirely, but if you don't make a big song and dance of "I'm baaaaack!", the change may be enough to throw them off, as their attention will have moved on anyway. At this point, it might be an idea to prune your friends list down to those whom you truly trust and interact with regularly - even people who haven't done you harm whom you've not interacted with in years perhaps could be let go, just in case. If you go back to activities in groups with the new name, just start without the big announcement and see what happens.

Good luck.

[Chocolate Little]

Hey, everyone. Thanks for the advice.

On 2/21/2023 at 5:08 AM, Rolig Loon said:

Idiots like that seem to get their enjoyment from knowing that they make you go nuts, so don't give him that satisfaction.  As hard as it may be, try to ignore him completely. Sooner or later,  he'll go bother someone else (or get himself banned).

Oh, I ignore it and have for longer than a year before actually mass reporting it (I know I should have done so sooner, but I hoped in good time it would go away). I do not let it bother me, but the messages can be pretty graphic and it's more 'annoying' to deal with it than anything. When I posted this I was just frustrated with (what I thought) my reports going nowhere. 

To the advice to g a new account:

On 2/21/2023 at 5:06 AM, Chic Aeon said:

Make a NEW avatar (honestly it can be fun). 

Creating a new account feels like, I have to invest new money into another character and make it completely water proof not tell anyone. I like to play this game because of friends, not without. So that is sadly not an option I'm going for.

 

To conclude to future people and people that have taken their time for the advice: The abuse reports eventually lead somewhere. It just takes a while. 

It went from 1 day to 3 to 5 to now a 7-day ban. 

So my personal solution to my case and maybe for future people dealing with this is like Wulfie said, to write in detail but also concrete with the information, the list of accounts include it in every report and just be patient is my 2 cents to add to this. And also of course like others said to ignore it as best as you can. 🙂

[benchthis]

2 hours ago, Chocolate Little said:

Hey, everyone. Thanks for the advice.

Oh, I ignore it and have for longer than a year before actually mass reporting it (I know I should have done so sooner, but I hoped in good time it would go away). I do not let it bother me, but the messages can be pretty graphic and it's more 'annoying' to deal with it than anything. When I posted this I was just frustrated with (what I thought) my reports going nowhere. 

To the advice to g a new account:

Creating a new account feels like, I have to invest new money into another character and make it completely water proof not tell anyone. I like to play this game because of friends, not without. So that is sadly not an option I'm going for.

 

To conclude to future people and people that have taken their time for the advice: The abuse reports eventually lead somewhere. It just takes a while. 

It went from 1 day to 3 to 5 to now a 7-day ban. 

So my personal solution to my case and maybe for future people dealing with this is like Wulfie said, to write in detail but also concrete with the information, the list of accounts include it in every report and just be patient is my 2 cents to add to this. And also of course like others said to ignore it as best as you can. 🙂

Submit a support ticket explaining the situation and ask them to escalate the abuse reports to management is what I would do in that situation. 

[Mingdre]

On 2/4/2023 at 9:45 AM, Rolig Loon said:

Take a look at this advice from Linden Lab >>> https://wiki.secondlife.com/wiki/Stalkers .  Then submit an abuse report (or several if you can report more than one incident).

Linden do nothing about personal dispute between sl users. They don't get involved

[Rolig Loon]

42 minutes ago, Mingdre said:

Linden do nothing about personal dispute between sl users. They don't get involved

No, you've misunderstood. You are right that the LL TOS (Sect 6) says, "You are solely responsible for your interaction with other users of the Service, whether online or offline. We are not responsible or liable for the conduct or content of any user. We reserve the right, but not the obligation, to monitor or become involved in disputes between you and other users." That is, they don't promise to intervene, but they can and will if they see a good reason to. They will exercise their right to become involved when there is a continued pattern of abuse. The link I posted at the top of this thread, in fact, makes it clear that you should make full use of the AR system, including the advice: "File each incident as it happens and always include the name of the offender and mention that it is a continual event so that LL is aware that it is ongoing."  

[Mingdre]

20 hours ago, Rolig Loon said:

No, you've misunderstood. You are right that the LL TOS (Sect 6) says, "You are solely responsible for your interaction with other users of the Service, whether online or offline. We are not responsible or liable for the conduct or content of any user. We reserve the right, but not the obligation, to monitor or become involved in disputes between you and other users." That is, they don't promise to intervene, but they can and will if they see a good reason to. They will exercise their right to become involved when there is a continued pattern of abuse. The link I posted at the top of this thread, in fact, makes it clear that you should make full use of the AR system, including the advice: "File each incident as it happens and always include the name of the offender and mention that it is a continual event so that LL is aware that it is ongoing."  

oh i don't question their right to intervene. Sorry dear i disagreed , in my opinion it a wasting time, but i do respect your point of view. thanks