Couldn't We Be More Friendly?

[Suga Bunny]

Day after day I continue to SEE that kindness is becoming rare as a diamond......😥

[Scylla Rhiadra]

Yes, always.

But I am not seeing this becoming rare. Nearly everyone I associate with in-world is kind, generous, and friendly. And those whom I engage with most often here are too. So I'm not depressed or discouraged at all -- they are the reason I'm still here, all of them.

[Silent Mistwalker]

25 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Yes, always.

But I am not seeing this becoming rare. Nearly everyone I associate with in-world is kind, generous, and friendly. And those whom I engage with most often here are too. So I'm not depressed or discouraged at all -- they are the reason I'm still here, all of them.

 

Even when we are at our most finicky.

 

Or bearing gifts.

[Suga Bunny]

 

I mean Some people unconsciously do impolite things on a daily and don't realize it at all and some do it intentionally. 

I'm Curious What People Think or have experienced or noticed 🤔

 

Edited January 27, 2022 by Suga Bunny

[Madelaine McMasters]

31 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Nearly everyone I associate with in-world is kind, generous, and friendly.

Nearly?

...peers over her glasses at you.

[Scylla Rhiadra]

12 minutes ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

Nearly?

...peers over her glasses at you.

I don't think peering quizzically at someone over their glasses is "friendly." So there.

[Madelaine McMasters]

5 minutes ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

I don't think peering quizzically at someone over their glasses is "friendly." So there.

Such a sensitive soul you are.

[Sid Nagy]

In general, the SL forums are a lot more relaxed than a few years ago IMHO.
Of course trolls are a thingy right from the start of the Internet and will probably do the last post on the WWW as well.

And then there are the cultural differences.
I'm from the Netherlands and we Dutch are pretty straight forward when we talk to each other. That may sound rude at times for people from other countries.
To me the British are masters in not exactly saying what they want to say at times.
And so has almost every country its cultural thingies.

On top of that all non native English speakers don't always have the right vocabulary and finesses of the English language at hand to describe exactly what they want to say.
This might give wrong impressions at times as well.

And last but not least, people tend to think that all the countries in the western world are similar in the way people think and act.
That is totally not the case. Northern America, South America, Europe and Asia may understand each others English, but they are so different culturally, in the way of thinking, education, the way of showing emotions, politically and what not. Just because we buy each others cars and goods, does not make us the same.

That all comes together in international forums.
It makes it interesting to hang around in international forums IMHO. And never a dull moment (at least at times.)

Edited January 27, 2022 by Sid Nagy
Small adjustments and additions.

[StarlanderGoods]

24 minutes ago, Suga Bunny said:

 

I mean Some people unconsciously do impolite things on a daily and don't realize it at all and some do it intentionally. 

I'm Curious What People Think or have experienced or noticed 🤔

 

Not something Ive read, or that I could directly point out at the forum....  but, Ive met people who sometimes say or do rude things as fillers, to avoid uncomfortable silences or to shield themselves from appearing soft and vulnerable.  Snide remarks or general negative comments.  I am aware they dont intend to do any harm and usually it´s their way of being friendly, but it does get a bit tedious sometimes.

Was that what you were refering to?

[Theresa Tennyson]

In a kind moment, I didn't post a link to the thread I immediately thought of when I saw this one.

[tomm55]

51 minutes ago, Sid Nagy said:

On top of that all non native English speakers don't always have the right vocabulary and finesses of the English language at hand to describe exactly what they want to say.

This might give wrong impressions at times as well.

Exactly, that's my case. I sometimes write something and I am not sure whether it will be understood the way I wanted. It can be difficult sometimes to express yourself, especially if other people look for small nuances in the text. Also it can be difficult to identify the mood of someone's else post.

But maybe writing that I am not from an English speaking country could help.

Edited January 27, 2022 by tomm55

[Maitimo]

I agree with @Scylla Rhiadra, friendliness is not rare either inworld or here on the forum. I wouldn't be still here after 13 years if it was unfriendly. 

Sure, every community (even offline ones) have individuals who behave in a trollish way, and other people sometimes get fed up with them. These situations end soon enough in one of two ways - either the troll gets banned, or they get bored and move on.  And in time, there will be another one to entertain the rest of us. And sometimes there are people who, because of language barriers or cultural differences or because they're not neuro-typical, may say things that unintentionally appear to be unfriendly when they really aren't.

But these situations are by no means the majority and they are not typical of other users here.

And yes, @Madelaine McMasters regularly sets people on fire, but that's just her way of being friendly.

I've been a resident of SL for 13 years and a resident of RL for 50, and one of the things I've learned that's appropriate to both worlds is this.

If you meet a few unfriendly people in your life, it's probably them.  If everyone you meet is unfriendly, it's probably you.

[CaithLynnSayes]

3 hours ago, Suga Bunny said:

...rare as a diamond......😥

Diamonds are not particularly rare. In fact, compared to other gemstones, they're the most common precious stone found. ... Therefore, rubies, emeralds and sapphires are much rarer and, in turn, far more expensive than diamonds.

Source: https://www.truefacet.com/guide/makes-diamonds-valuable/

Don't shoot the messenger

----

I live in Belgium, grew up in the Netherlands and i'm half Icelandic. So i'm not even sure what culture i'm suppose to have, but i can relate to what @Sid Nagy said. I too just say it like i feel it. I've noticed being in SL and interacting with Americans that i seem to unintentionally 'offend' them. I don't mean to do that to be fair, but it sometimes is a bit difficult for me to know where the border is if you know what i mean. I hope that made even a little sense  

Edited January 27, 2022 by CaithLynnSayes
Reason for edit: I forgot to put a capital B on Belgium. If my country found out i did that, i'd be shot!

[Maryanne Solo]

3 hours ago, Suga Bunny said:

Day after day I continue to SEE that kindness is becoming rare as a diamond......😥

Payment info on file matters. 😹
ALTernatively, so does honesty and transparency. 🤔

[Sid Nagy]

"Oh hi there baby, I've got payment info on file 🥴"
That could make a great opening line. No?
🙈

Edited January 27, 2022 by Sid Nagy

[Kylie Jaxxon]

"If you meet a few unfriendly people in your life, it's probably them.  If everyone you meet is unfriendly, it's probably you."

^THIS^

Perfectly stated, Maitimo

[CaithLynnSayes]

2 minutes ago, Kylie Jaxxon said:

"If you meet a few unfriendly people in your life, it's probably them.  If everyone you meet is unfriendly, it's probably you."

I know someone here who needs to hear this, but i'm not going to say who, and all of you know who it is!  

[Maitimo]

4 minutes ago, CaithLynnSayes said:

I know someone here who needs to hear this, but i'm not going to say who, and all of you know who it is!  

I actually deleted a few lines from my original post because... well, because of that.

13 minutes ago, Sid Nagy said:

"Oh hi there baby, I've got payment info on file 🥴"
That could make a great opening line. No?
🙈

Size matters... 😁

[Sid Nagy]

"Oh hi there baby, I've got huge payment info on file. The best payment info there is"*
Like this then?

 

 

* No reference to a still living American political person intended.
Pure coincidence.
Honestly.

Edited January 27, 2022 by Sid Nagy
Man, this is the second thread I'm pulling of topic this week. Sorry.

[CaithLynnSayes]

3 minutes ago, Sid Nagy said:

Edited just now by Sid Nagy
Man, this is the second thread I'm pulling of topic this week. Sorry.

Technically i did that. But sure, i'm totally up for pinning that one on you!  

[Marigold Devin]

4 hours ago, Suga Bunny said:

Day after day I continue to SEE that kindness is becoming rare as a diamond......😥

Day after day I am certainly encountering more snarkiness. What is wrong with everyone? Sugar butties needed all round maybe. 

Not everyone, but quite a high proportion of folk. 

Edited January 27, 2022 by Marigold Devin
It might be me. Ohgoditsmeee !

[Marigold Devin]

3 hours ago, Sid Nagy said:

In general, the SL forums are a lot more relaxed than a few years ago IMHO.
Of course trolls are a thingy right from the start of the Internet and will probably do the last post on the WWW as well.

And then there are the cultural differences.
I'm from the Netherlands and we Dutch are pretty straight forward when we talk to each other. That may sound rude at times for people from other countries.
To me the British are masters in not exactly saying what they want to say at times.
And so has almost every country its cultural thingies.

On top of that all non native English speakers don't always have the right vocabulary and finesses of the English language at hand to describe exactly what they want to say.
This might give wrong impressions at times as well.

And last but not least, people tend to think that all the countries in the western world are similar in the way people think and act.
That is totally not the case. Northern America, South America, Europe and Asia may understand each others English, but they are so different culturally, in the way of thinking, education, the way of showing emotions, politically and what not. Just because we buy each others cars and goods, does not make us the same.

That all comes together in international forums.
It makes it interesting to hang around in international forums IMHO. And never a dull moment (at least at times.)

Off all the Dutch I have come across, you are the least "spikey" and either your attitude or your level of English are just tip top. Hope you don't mind me saying. 

Cor lummy, it's like I've been given the truth drug or something!

 

[Shiera Kealoha]

4 hours ago, Suga Bunny said:

Day after day I continue to SEE that kindness is becoming rare as a diamond......😥

It's not that rare on here, it seems! Just IRL that there are barely any kind gems out there.

[Sid Nagy]

15 minutes ago, Marigold Devin said:

Day after day I am certainly encountering more snarkiness. What is wrong with everyone? Sugar butties needed all round maybe. 

Not everyone, but quite a high proportion of folk. 

I think that It might be the global plague attack that's starting to take its toll from people. We want our old lives back without masks, vaccinations and restrictions.
And if you are in America, the sharp political division lines through every aspect of the society are starting to take their toll on that side of the pond as well IMHO.

Edited January 27, 2022 by Sid Nagy

[CaithLynnSayes]

1 minute ago, Sid Nagy said:

I think that It might be the global plague attack that's starting to take its toll with people. We want our old lives back without masks, vaccinations and restrictions.

Exactly, i got my booster shot the other day and while i was driving up there i was thinking to myself "right, this is it, i'm done with jabs in my arm now and that mask can go pretty soon now as well"