Tama Suki Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 When a complete stranger sends you an unrequested friend request suddenly, how do you react? Of course there is a profound difference if the subject is a noob or if he has an account born ten years ago. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rowan Amore Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 22 minutes ago, Tama Suki said: When a complete stranger sends you an unrequested friend request suddenly, how do you react? Of course there is a profound difference if the subject is a noob or if he has an account born ten years ago. I have Reject All.Friend Requests turned on so I don't have this issue any more. Before I started using that, I just ignored unsolicited requests. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tama Suki Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 2 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said: unsolicited Unsolicited was the word I was looking for! My English is so primitive! Yes, my reaction is the same as yours lately. But I always have a certain tender attention to noobs. On the other hand they cannot be condemned for such an uneducated attitude as they are mostly people who need to understand where they are. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maitimo Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I ignore the request. If the other person is new, I'll ask them if they need any help, otherwise I don't respond. 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilNosferatu Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 For me, there's no difference whether the account is 2 days old or 5 years. I look more at the profile's bio, groups, and picks -- if there's a bunch of sexual stuff, I just ignore it. If they seem a bit more legit, I might message them with a "hello? can I help you?" and try to engage them in conversation. If all they can manage is "hi" then I ignore. There's been a select few times that I got an IM or friend request completely out of the blue, but they turned out to be pretty chill and saw me somewhere and wanted to say hi, and were able to hold conversation. So on the off-chance it ends up leading to a good interaction, I try to be open and give them the benefit of the doubt. But that is a rare occurrence and 99% of the time I just end up ignoring them. 7 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rowan Amore Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 3 minutes ago, Tama Suki said: Unsolicited was the word I was looking for! My English is so primitive! Yes, my reaction is the same as yours lately. But I always have a certain tender attention to noobs. On the other hand they cannot be condemned for such an uneducated attitude as they are mostly people who need to understand where they are. I've had new people I've helped ask to be added to the list. I explain how I don't add anyone to my list and then also explain calling cards. Calling cards are underused in my opinion. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orwar Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Random person: *sends friend request out of the blue* Me: WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEEE?! What happens next is up to how they respond to that. 5 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tama Suki Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 1 minute ago, Orwar said: Random person: *sends friend request out of the blue* Me: WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEEE?! What happens next is up to how they respond to that. Right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LilNosferatu Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 1 minute ago, Orwar said: Random person: *sends friend request out of the blue* Me: WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEEE?! What happens next is up to how they respond to that. LMAO. I feel like you've gotten some interesting reactions to that. 😂 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tama Suki Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 Just now, LilNosferatu said: LMAO. I feel like you've gotten some interesting reactions to that. 😂 As for me, after analyzing the profile of the subject, if this is a noob I approach it amicably and ask him if he needs help explaining that SL in some way and in some respects requires the same etiquette of reality. If, on the other hand, it is a fairly old account, I first of all log on my two hundred and twelve huds. 😋 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maitimo Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 9 minutes ago, Orwar said: Random person: *sends friend request out of the blue* Me: WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM MEEE?! 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Orwar Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 5 minutes ago, LilNosferatu said: LMAO. I feel like you've gotten some interesting reactions to that. 😂 Not as many as one might have hoped for. Most either don't say anything at all or get really confused and feel awkward - those people are rejected for being 'no fun'. On occasion though, you'll get a fun response which might prompt a conversation which, if satisfying, might earn them an accepted friend request. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bagnu Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 Unknown friend requests are very suspicious to me. I usually engage them in conversation to find out where they know me from. If I'm in one of my female AV's, I'll ask them for money for sex. But I've never become friends with anyone sending a random request, or had them pay me. I find it's usually more for them to annoy people than anything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Caroline Takeda Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 2 hours ago, LilNosferatu said: "hello? can I help you?" and try to engage them in conversation. If all they can manage is "hi" then I ignore. Thats what I typically do, especially the ones with lots of sex groups in profile. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystina Ferraris Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 3 hours ago, Tama Suki said: When a complete stranger sends you an unrequested friend request suddenly, how do you react? Of course there is a profound difference if the subject is a noob or if he has an account born ten years ago. No difference, if I don’t know them and have only spoken once I don’t friend. I log off and poof lol 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tama Suki Posted December 21, 2021 Author Share Posted December 21, 2021 7 minutes ago, Krystina Ferraris said: No difference, if I don’t know them and have only spoken once I don’t friend. I log off and poof lol Logging off because you received an unsolicited friend request seems like a pretty radical action to me. 😁 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cinnamon Mistwood Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 A couple people have mentioned poofing when an unsolicited IM comes in. SL has a lot of different kinds of personalities. I admit that I can have an anxious moment when I hear the ding of an unexpected incoming message. I am one of those people who has to prepare myself to be social. Some days I can jump into a conversation with an unknown person. Some days I can't. If the IM is just a friend request with no other dialog, I have no problem not replying at all. I figure the person sent out a request to everyone in the region on a fishing mission to add numbers to the friend list. Socializing with everyone all the time is exhausting. Being "on" all the time is an awful feeling I try to avoid. I need down time and I go into SL to get it. I understand that many people thrive in busy social conditions and want to constantly interact. They get anxious being alone and want instant IMs from friends the second they log in. Others get anxious if they feel forced to have conversations to be polite and they will leave the situation. Sometimes a conversation is effortless and flows beautifully and other times it is awkward and feels forced or fake even when just in text. SecondLife is full of all these contradicting personalities. Just look at these forums and how many seem to think that only they approach things correctly and only their opinions are correct. The kindness of understanding and accepting that people are different is sometimes missing in our quickness to judge from our own standards and values. People can panic and poof at the first sign of interaction. It happens. You may see it as extreme or rude. They see it as a survival instinct. 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moles Quartz Mole Posted December 21, 2021 Moles Share Posted December 21, 2021 Please, keep individual arguments about "why did you send me a friend request" to IMs or somewhere other than this forum, which really isn't the place for that kind of thing. 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ayeleeon Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I accept them. I always have. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. If accepting turns out to be mistake. I unfriend and block. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nick0678 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I accept everyone even randoms, another name in my contacts list is just another name, doesn't have to mean something and usually at the end of every year i remove those that we don't play SL together and start fresh. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TT120 Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 5 hours ago, Rowan Amore said: I have Reject All.Friend Requests turned on so I don't have this issue any more. Before I started using that, I just ignored unsolicited requests. That explains why you won't be my friend. I thought you just didn't like me.......😁 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sam1 Bellisserian Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 (edited) If I get one from a guy it's usually because they are lazy and just want to friend as a placeholder. I now have mine turned off and have this message if a friend request comes in. I don't accept friend requests unless you are actually a friend first. Thank you for your understanding. Edited December 21, 2021 by Sam1 Bellisserian 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystina Ferraris Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 3 hours ago, Tama Suki said: Logging off because you received an unsolicited friend request seems like a pretty radical action to me. 😁 Yes I know, I can’t handle that and the inevitable questions that arise after I don’t respond to the friend prompt. I don’t like to be in that situation and I don’t want confrontation, so I poof. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Krystina Ferraris Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 31 minutes ago, Sam1 Bellisserian said: If I get one from a guy it's usually because they are lazy and just want to friend as a placeholder. I now have mine turned off and have this message if a friend request comes in. I don't accept friend requests unless you are actually a friend first. Thank you for your understanding. I am going to do this, I learnt something new and useful. Thank you Sam 🙏 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleMe Jewell Posted December 21, 2021 Share Posted December 21, 2021 I've considered changing my auto-response to "Sorry, but I'm not really a people person". 4 1 2 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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