This a terribly wordy OP. I'm sorry. I really did try to prune it. I used to spend a great deal of time at a t-girl club called Las Princesas, now sadly closed. It was an 'all-purpose' venue; there were dance poles and strippers and possibly even some dancers who were available for more private things. There were also a lot of people who went there just to be comfortable and to enjoy the music and the conversation. A sort of community existed between the strippers and the DJ's and those of us wh