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On 7/16/2021 at 5:19 AM, Janette19UK said:

Ok Am a newbie this time around and some would probably say a little inexperienced in Sl,Whilst that is true have been in Sl Before and I cant help noticing that every time wit one exception have had sex with a Guy 

(a) few seldom do any meaningful foreplay.

(b0 Quite a few don't make effective use of emotes

that aside the majority at some point decide that my ***** and nipples are hard and am wet PLEASEEE GUYS Stop telling us that We are Girls we and only we know when we are wet and arosed its get ting more  than a little annoying. muc as I like Guys its in danger of turning me into a total Lesbian

There are several bits to this;

(1) Sexplayers are more common than ROLEplayers and many sexplayers likely do most of their practicing at “away from keyboard” poseball areas without an active partner.

(2) “Limited Real Life Experience” may be a factor.

(3) Selfishness. They are there to have their fun, not please you,  That may sound familiar…..

If you really want foreplay and a more complete  experience, you might consider a playmate thats a male avatar w a female typist.  This is more common in SL than you might think and (from a roleplay standpoint) might make for much more satisfying Story. I was at one time on the Sim Management Team for one of the larger RP Sims in SL, meaning I played NPCs as required to keep story moving. Speaking from experience, the week I spent as the NPC Girlfriend to one of the better  bad-boys in the sim (whose typist was female) was VERY interesting  and really “raised the bar” on the competition.

Sadly, I was just the Temp Help and my NPC was sent packing when the “regular”GF came back from vacation 🙂

We never had occasion to revisit that particular type of RP again, but have remained friends for about a decade now 🙂

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On 7/16/2021 at 11:53 AM, Rabid Cheetah said:

OMG, some dude starts talking to me in the third person, I'm leaving.  Be real, and I'll squeal.  But pull BS like "Johny Thunder slides his hands into your pants", and it makes me feel like a prop in their sex story.  Relate to me as a person or my legs stay closed.  Save that story stuff for November -- National Novel Writers' Month.

You are talking about a very different scenario from what Caroline was explaining. Paid sex is a different world from casual or relationship encounters. Emoting like that is a requirement. I don't know of any club that has an application form that doesn't require examples of emoting skills, including my partner's club. It's the woman who has to emote and please the client. I started as a female Escort in SL, so I've experienced it.

Personal sex, I totally agree with you. I like real as well. Then it's "personal".

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9 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

You are talking about a very different scenario from what Caroline was explaining. Paid sex is a different world from casual or relationship encounters.

Why would it be different? Why would someone use the third person just because the sex had been paid for? Wouldn't the client still want a personal experience, if anything even more so.

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There is no "real" sex in SL.  There is mutual self stimulation.  Emotive sex can be used either for sex workers OR more intimate friends.  It ALL depends on those involved.  You can't lump any of either into one category.

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18 minutes ago, Ayeleeon said:

Why would it be different? Why would someone use the third person just because the sex had been paid for? Wouldn't the client still want a personal experience, if anything even more so.

I can't answer that question, because I simply don't know. I find that confusing as well. Perhaps because it isn't a truly personal experience? That is a very interesting question. I have never paid for sex, so I don't understand the "turn on" of it. 

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Devil's advocate here...

Gender plays absolutely no role in this whatsoever. Women can be and are just as bad at this as men, and anyone else as well. Just reading some of the examples people pass out to others as good advice regarding emoting will give you all the proof you need that some people are just not at the same caliber or level you might be when it comes to emoting (which is why I tell people to take those examples and that advice with a grain of salt-a lot of it is really bad, even worse when it's supposed to be a paid job or employment, etc..). The experiences people have will color their viewpoint on this matter, though. If you're a straight female, and most if not all of your encounters of bad rp sex involve straight males, you're likely to think that a whole lot of them in general are really bad at it. You're probably wrong though, it's just that is all you've experienced, so it's all you know.  The same can be said for any other combination of genders and experiences.

I have witnessed way too many really bad emoting sessions to suggest that men are any worse at this than women. How often do women decide a man is hard right from the word go, or the second she does this, that, the other? Even when they think they're emoting wonderfully, they could very well be wrong, and probably are. The assumption that guys get hard at the drop of a hat is as bad as the assumption that women get wet at the drop of a hat too.  If the guy hasn't yet told you he's hard, you don't get to decide he is.  My own personal experience (after more years dedicated to this topic than most would likely admit, especially outside the context of just sl) is that women are far less likely to be accommodating of another's particular style or ability in this realm, more likely to be judgmental about, and less likely to be vocal about it until they have an audience with which they can complain about others' inadequacies after the fact as well. I have no idea why to be honest. 

For some people better emoting skills, or at least what some might be expecting of them, may take them too far out of their comfort zone. I know a couple like that actually. One of them is pretty decent at it, while the other one kinda sucks (if one were to judge it anyway) but what's going on behind those words is worth more to the both of them than the words themselves. She can write novels, he can sometimes barely type grunts and one liners, and they've come to terms with this. It works for them. They've talked about it, he tries his best, but it's just not in his nature to type out everything going through his mind or playing out on the screen. If you need someone to type it all out for you, tell them, don't assume they're going to know what you want. Maybe that person's experience has been with people who emote as they do, so it's what they know. Help, don't hinder. 

If you're just there to get your rocks off, get your rocks off and be done with it, you probably don't actually need their input. If what you want is more of a connection, you're going to have to communicate that in some way. 

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2 minutes ago, Rowan Amore said:

There is no "real" sex in SL.  There is mutual self stimulation.  Emotive sex can be used either for sex workers OR more intimate friends.  It ALL depends on those involved.  You can't lump any of either into one category.

I understand how emoting can be used to enhance the experience, but it can be overused. Personally, I've found minimal emoting with a woman I'm with, and more personal conversation during sex. Perhaps because the client wants a portrait of the scenario in there mind.

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6 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I understand how emoting can be used to enhance the experience, but it can be overused. Personally, I've found minimal emoting with a woman I'm with, and more personal conversation during sex. Perhaps because the client wants a portrait of the scenario in there mind.

But again, that's YOUR experience and what works for you.  Personally, I don't do the slex with random people.  Never have as I just don't see the point.  If I do choose to engage in that, it's with someone I've already known for quite some time and the emotes from both sides flow naturally.  I've already had personal conversations with them, repeatedly.  Without sex.  If or when it moves to something more, the emotes are very personal and nothing more needs to be said.  It's quite lovely when you have to emote very little yet the person you are with 'feels' exactly what you're saying (emoting).

ETA.  As it says in my profile.  I don't need pages and pages.but I want to feel what you say.

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1 minute ago, Rowan Amore said:

But again, that's YOUR experience and what works for you.  Personally, I don't do the slex with random people.  Never have as I just don't see the point.  If I do choose to engage in that, it's with someone I've already known for quite some time and the emotes from both sides flow naturally.  I've already had personal conversations with them, repeatedly.  Without sex.  If or when it moves to something more, the emotes are very personal and nothing more needs to be said.  It's quite lovely when you have to emote very little yet the person you are with 'feels' exactly what you're saying (emoting).

Yes, it's my experience, and what works for me. I have random sex consistently.  But what you are describing is what I consider a relationship.  Personally, I prefer relationship sex.

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4 hours ago, Amanda Crisp said:

If you really want foreplay and a more complete  experience, you might consider a playmate thats a male avatar w a female typist.

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2 hours ago, Lillith Hapmouche said:

How the heck did this get back on track after otters and beavers?

Good question, I think maybe we should have stuck with the otters and beavers.

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7 hours ago, Bagnu said:

Paid sex is a different world from casual or relationship encounters. Emoting like that is a requirement.

 

Um, no.  I know of several women, myself included, who've made a lot of sex-related money without that impersonal b.s.  A requirement?  Really?  That emoting crap would have driven people away.

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That's not to say that I don't tell them, in detail, what I'd be doing to them if I were there in the room with them in real life...slowly breathing my hot breath all over their quivering naked flesh...mmmmm...yeah.  But I don't use third person, and I certainly don't tell them they have an erection or are getting wet.  They usually tell ME, hee hee!

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10 hours ago, Rabid Cheetah said:

That's not to say that I don't tell them, in detail, what I'd be doing to them if I were there in the room with them in real life...slowly breathing my hot breath all over their quivering naked flesh...mmmmm...yeah.  But I don't use third person, and I certainly don't tell them they have an erection or are getting wet.  They usually tell ME, hee hee!

That's what I consider proper emoting!!!

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1 hour ago, Bagnu said:

That's what I consider proper emoting!!!

Depends.

The lines between RP and slex play are blurred. It is hardly ever one or the other.

A hard core role-player would always use the /me (formats text different in most viewers) and describing their actions in third person as opposed to sex talk in first person. Somebody "just" role-playing sex doesn't mean, he does not getting turned on or doesn't get aroused by the scene he/she creates.

In turn somebody not being into playing a character, might as well use techniques used in Role-Play,  in order to be more descriptive about what he/she is doing. Whether that is done in a first person mode or in third person mode is simply a matter of personal preference. I'd call both "proper emoting" as long  as both partners sing from the same hymn sheet.

I typically start with classic role play method, unless or until I realize my partner/customer is not into that at all. Then I switch and adapt to his preference or style.
Easy peasy.

 

 

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3 hours ago, Bagnu said:

That's what I consider proper emoting!!!

Well make up your mind.  If I wanted flip-flops, I'd go to Famous Footwear.

At this point, y'all can talk to the hand, cuz that's all your getting tonight, hun.  😘

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