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I'm a casual player of SL for 5 years and I never really been in an SL strip club. But now I want to earn some $L in game and also use my huge collection of lingerie I never use lmao. And make friends. 

I did look into what it takes to be a stripper in SL years back, so I know about emoting and such. However, one thing that has changed is that whenever I go to any clubs now (ones with strippers and tip jars), it's empty! Back in 2018 I could go to a random club and see tons of strippers.

1. I'm looking for a strip club that isn't dead, but also beginner friendly.I don't think I could apply for LUSH (if their applications are even open) because my laptop isn't the best of the best. I works fine most of the time but obviously if there's a ton of people my game will lag. But I also don't want to apply for a new club that may or may not make it because from what I learned you need to buy your own board that costs $L100 a week. I wouldn't want to risk losing money. (No, money is not the sole reason I'm doing it. I also think that it'll be fun, and hey, no one wants to lose money)

2. BTW, I was trying to apply for this one club, but it asked me to join an "application" group that costed $L50, and that $L50 was "to show that you're serious/dedicated", and it's non-refundable. Is that normal? 

 

3. P.S. which headshot looks better

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35 minutes ago, Nightingalia said:

from what I learned you need to buy your own board that costs $L100 a week

This is also very questionable to me. I am not super familiar with adult work environment in SL, so maybe someone will feel like educating me on this. 

But from the common sense point of view - why would venue require it's employees to pay rent? Aren't they profiting enough taking a percentage of ladies' earnings? For freelance places that makes more sense, but I gathered those are not what you are looking for? 

 

Be very wary of people telling you to pay them for an "honor" of working for them. 

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This is a tough one. I've been off and on more than a decade now and usually in that field, including managing. Currently freelance escorting, but that's for my own reasons.

To answer some of your questions ...

Yes, many clubs will require you to rent an ad board at their location for a very nominal fee. This fee is usually less than a single decent tip, so you're never out any money. It's still a weird practice to me though, shouldn't the club be buying/featuring me an ad board to advertise that I am working there? 

Often times there are applications and interviews to go through. They want to see how you behave, emote, your personality, what your avatar looks like (clothed and naked), etc. Some of them have been harder than some of my RL interviews, which again seems unnecessary. Check me out, see how I do, if I don't work out, fire me. To require formal interviews and two hours of chatting is silly; it's easy to tell if a girl is any good in 30 minutes on stage just watching her emote and behave.

And yes, application fees are not unknown. I've paid them, and also refused to pay them. In the end, they feel scammy. Here's my 11 years of dancing/escorting experience, hire me or not. Like ad boards, just another way for the club owner to make cash to run their place.

Required hours. Most good clubs will require some commitment. Usually like 4-6 hours per week. And for the love of anything, don't go AFK when you are performing. But don't kid yourself, those 4-6 hours will feel like work when the customers are thin in the chairs. ;)

Tips. Most good clubs will take some small percentage of your tips. If it's more than 20%, the club can go rot, imho.

Freelance clubs. There are a number of large, popular, well-known freelance places where anyone can dance/entertain. The issue with these is that there are often 20-30 girls dancing, and a single guy or two as customers. I have never seen any place with as many customers as girls in these places, not even close. Even at the biggest two of these. If anyone tells you different, they're BSing you. Furthermore, most clubs and freelance places have rules about no IMing guys directly, to save the place becoming a feeding frenzy of desperate girls slamming a poor guy with 20 IMs all at once. You can only say hi in local chat until someone approaches you and IMs first. This does mean everyone has a fair shot, but also you're just one of 20+ semi-naked girls hoping for a nibble.

Owners. As someone who has danced through managed, I've seen them all. Misogyny is rampant, sadly, among the male club owners. the assumption that you'll "put out" for the male staff is a common, sad theme, even in some of the better known places. I'm there to entertain customers and have fun, not fend off persistent advances from some horny club owner. Run from those places. They are pits of drama and an environment of girl-vs-girl for popularity. And while many of the female owners are chill, I've also been in places where the women owners can often be far more toxic and mean than the men can be. It's a hard business to run, and girls and clubs are a dime-a-dozen.

You talk about clubs not being dead. Hmmm. I have news for you, even the popular ones? You can be on stage 90 minutes with another few girls and not see a single guy. Often. The other thing is a guy will pop in, say nothing, then leave 30 seconds later. this goes for big popular clubs and small ones. Fancy, well-run places, and dives. There are so many to choose from and this isn't 5-10 years ago when stripping was at it's peak. And while there are regular guys at every club, it gets expensive to visit frequently and have to tip all the time, without even the cost of escorting added in if the guy wants to take a girl home.

The other girls. One thing that weirds me out in this line of work is the diverse range of avatars in any one club. I'm not talking ethnicity here, and I am certainly not curve shaming, but I've been in (good) clubs where the girls range from nearly pre-teen look through to tatted up nearly 7' tall biker chicks with HH cup breasts, little fairy wings, and a butt the size of a wide lazy boy chair. It takes all kinds, but you can not count on consistency of looks and if that's important to you, check the place and staff out before signing on.

Ask the club owner about turnover of staff, traffic stats, how much the average girl earns in tips (and keep a spreadsheet of your hours, tips etc so you know if you're earning what you want), how long they have been in business, customer numbers and how much they spend on average, etc. If the owner won't share those with you, they are hiding something. And don't let the "that's a business thing" line of BS stand ... it's SL. Remember, if they are putting you through an interview, interview them right back. You get to ask hard pointed questions too, you know. Give me the info I need to commit and make a decision, or go away. Honestly, it's not anything you have to hide, unless you're not what you say you are. I've seen that one countless times.

If you want to reach out to me in game I'll give you some recommendations of decent clubs, but many of them will have some degree of the above requirements.

Hope this has helped somewhat. :)

The second picture, btw.

ps. Come and stop by my small freelance club sometime and chat. I'll tell you anything you want to know about this crazy business.

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The one thing I've noticed is that regular clubs, not specifically strip clubs, that feature dancers along with regular club activities such as dis and dance floors, attract a more diverse group of people and are usually busier than a strictly strip/escort club.  Men like to go where women are and not just women who are employees.  If you're working at a regular club with men and women present, you'll probably have more luck.

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1 hour ago, Rowan Amore said:

The one thing I've noticed is that regular clubs, not specifically strip clubs, that feature dancers along with regular club activities such as dis and dance floors, attract a more diverse group of people and are usually busier than a strictly strip/escort club.  Men like to go where women are and not just women who are employees.  If you're working at a regular club with men and women present, you'll probably have more luck.

Quite true. Strip and escort places, especially the ones with a brothel vibe and side biz, are less trafficked because guy (and girls) come into there only for the one thing, and it's usually not socializing beyond hooking up. Lots of good dance opportunities in more mainstream clubs, and there's less pressure, without the need to strip/escort.

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At the moment the best money you make at Lovense enabled clubs, IF you have a Lovense toy that is.
The way it works is this: You wear your Lovense toy in RL. The tip jar is connected to the toy and every time somebody tips you the toy reacts for a few seconds, depending on the amount being tipped.

Fun.

 

 

 

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On 7/12/2021 at 8:44 AM, Sapphire Dakota said:

Freelance clubs. There are a number of large, popular, well-known freelance places where anyone can dance/entertain. The issue with these is that there are often 20-30 girls dancing, and a single guy or two as customers. I have never seen any place with as many customers as girls in these places, not even close. Even at the biggest two of these. If anyone tells you different, they're BSing you. 

I've now received two private emails from other girls slamming me for either saying this out loud, or claiming it's BS. To the one slamming me, I just want people to understand the truth behind the business, there's no reason to hide these facts. To the one who claimed I'm BSing, you are less than 6 months old here ... I have more than 10 years off and on, so I do know what I'm talking about.

For example, here's the stats from my last two-and-a-half hours worked at one of these very popular places, one morning hour and one evening (SLT+3) ...

Morning shift: 90 minutes, average 24 girls and one guy dancing/escorting. Total male customers appeared? 2

Evening shift: 60 minutes, between 22 and 30 girls (they were popping in and out like crazy). Total male customers? 3

I'm not making this the bad/slow parts of this life up, sadly.

There are very few places where the number of customers looking to be entertained is anywhere near the number of available dancers on a consistent basis. The good sex clubs like Breathe and Lusthouse usually get a good ratio of guys/girls, as do some of the specialty hook up places like Queen of Spades, but the strip and escort places often never do these days. Even if you are in a smaller strip/escort club with maybe 3-4 other girls? The times you'll see more than 2 guys in the club at the same time will be considered rare. All clubs may have moments of busy, but it's usually a slow grind.

I have no worry spending that time not making any L, because my freelance escorting regulars and new clients who find me keep me fed. If I was relying on dancing/stripping for my sole source of income, I'd have quit this line of work long ago.

PS. Voice or cam girls can make a decent living but there is a LOT of competition.

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Work freely and speak freely at your own pace.  Adult cage club teaches new comers people coming back to sl shows how to use tip jar and pole it's free can use self use no fee.  You can ask one of the helpers if you need help.    Starters places:  Sexy nude beach , adult cage club , sweet domination club , house of v.  

 

 

Can even do  Fetish modeling , Gogo Dancer , burlesque.

  But at any place new to   good to read the fine print and the rules and so on to see how the vibe of the place is how people treat others. You want to be in a good vibe tribe  Atmosphere where you feel at home. Each place is different, try it if not for you walk slowly away just say thanks just things came up and have to go.  Go to places to be freely to find friendship of companionship. As many gave you advice above really great. . The classy to casual erotica in the lifestyle places good start also.  My friend started at the trophy room more women are freely to be themself  not really a selling point but can give bit enlightenment  and get you to the upper in things  she learned  photography , boudoir ,  burlesque ,Grow on fine art  & literature as aConnoisseur , Classy intelligent   conversation mixing and mingle with people , Finding the right people  at right places at the right time. 

Or you can  try the auctions but find ones that allow you to be you and have a say in who you pick what both agree on. Not everyone at auctions is looking for sha bang bang but conversation some go dance with exchange of education in the lifestyle, taken in hand  lead the way  companion,  emotionally invested before getting hooked.  I had a friend did slave auction a lad  bought her poster board for  10k  he wanted to get to know her win her over first ,  go dancing , saved her from a mess , guided her took her hand cherished her for a week was  not about pixel bang just good company , conversation and the adventure.  If you wanna take further relationships that up those who for each and Their own.   Sl is whatever you make it Just have fun you don’t have to do things you don’t feel like doing but set  boundaries  Trust is earned with energy shown can say no if not for you. Someone should respect  you as  person as goes both ways  not go after over your body even if adult and sex connection and attraction. Just because your women deserve respect as goddesses you are, they should be glad to be part of your temple. Little Classy to casual with erotica dress to please you first for you but embrace it. Sheer lace , and dots , Hats and gloves and frilly things little art to it whatever comes to your mind what inspires you.    Keeping to the imagination showing very  little, not too much , don't give them everything or they take it and run , let them think and slowly work the way let them win you over if they are willing to have this gem.     Don't have to beg or chase, be discrete but open, use your mind and your body to let the energy set you free.Don't have to put everything in profile you can be very discrete as well put in note card put in a blog keeping bit positive and alive.       Little inspiration ,Art of seduction , Luxury & self  seduction ,  erotica.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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20 hours ago, Sapphire Dakota said:

I own several pairs of Dita's name brand stockings.

Soooo luxurious.

I have some but its from secretsinlace. Bebe has some like in sl and few other places. Sheer stockings make the legs shine.

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  I get high on intelligence. That is some pretty sexy intelligent  info there.    

On 7/29/2021 at 2:56 AM, Emz Evergarden said:

Work freely and speak freely at your own pace.  Adult cage club teaches new comers people coming back to sl shows how to use tip jar and pole it's free can use self use no fee.  You can ask one of the helpers if you need help.    Starters places:  Sexy nude beach , adult cage club , sweet domination club , house of v.  

 

 

Can even do  Fetish modeling , Gogo Dancer , burlesque.

  But at any place new to   good to read the fine print and the rules and so on to see how the vibe of the place is how people treat others. You want to be in a good vibe tribe  Atmosphere where you feel at home. Each place is different, try it if not for you walk slowly away just say thanks just things came up and have to go.  Go to places to be freely to find friendship of companionship. As many gave you advice above really great. . The classy to casual erotica in the lifestyle places good start also.  My friend started at the trophy room more women are freely to be themself  not really a selling point but can give bit enlightenment  and get you to the upper in things  she learned  photography , boudoir ,  burlesque ,Grow on fine art  & literature as aConnoisseur , Classy intelligent   conversation mixing and mingle with people , Finding the right people  at right places at the right time. 

Or you can  try the auctions but find ones that allow you to be you and have a say in who you pick what both agree on. Not everyone at auctions is looking for sha bang bang but conversation some go dance with exchange of education in the lifestyle, taken in hand  lead the way  companion,  emotionally invested before getting hooked.  I had a friend did slave auction a lad  bought her poster board for  10k  he wanted to get to know her win her over first ,  go dancing , saved her from a mess , guided her took her hand cherished her for a week was  not about pixel bang just good company , conversation and the adventure.  If you wanna take further relationships that up those who for each and Their own.   Sl is whatever you make it Just have fun you don’t have to do things you don’t feel like doing but set  boundaries  Trust is earned with energy shown can say no if not for you. Someone should respect  you as  person as goes both ways  not go after over your body even if adult and sex connection and attraction. Just because your women deserve respect as goddesses you are, they should be glad to be part of your temple. Little Classy to casual with erotica dress to please you first for you but embrace it. Sheer lace , and dots , Hats and gloves and frilly things little art to it whatever comes to your mind what inspires you.    Keeping to the imagination showing very  little, not too much , don't give them everything or they take it and run , let them think and slowly work the way let them win you over if they are willing to have this gem.     Don't have to beg or chase, be discrete but open, use your mind and your body to let the energy set you free.Don't have to put everything in profile you can be very discrete as well put in note card put in a blog keeping bit positive and alive.       Little inspiration ,Art of seduction , Luxury & self  seduction ,  erotica.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  I get high on intelligence. That is some pretty sexy intelligent  info there.    

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On 7/30/2021 at 7:02 AM, Emz Evergarden said:

I have some but its from secretsinlace ... Sheer stockings make the legs shine.

That's where I buy mine! God I love thatstore.

On 7/30/2021 at 7:20 AM, RiceStevens said:

That is very sexy on women you have some great taste.

*blushes*

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