what is ur hangout place?

[Jordyn McGregor]

16 hours ago, RowanMinx said:

Honestly, almost any place with a lot of people is quiet.  Rarely do I find anyone chatting in local.  That's not to say it never happens but it's the exception and not the norm in my experience.

I tend to freak out and mute people when they talk in main!!!  

[FairreLilette]

3 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

Yeah, Caer's right about this. The outfit is sort of mainstream "tamed" boho, not the 'real thing." It's made by one of the BIG women's clothing creators in SL, and can be thought of as sort of "Boho for Hip Soccer Mums." It's just boho enough to look a bit different, but safely uncontroversial at the same time.

But to be honest, the fact that it was the most "successful" of my outfits surprised me not at all.

Ah, I see.  You meant it's middle-of-the-road for Boho.  Got it.  Yeah, Boho does include peasant.  I'd say the peasant mostly comes from South American folklore we adopted here in the South West.  

 

3 hours ago, Scylla Rhiadra said:

To some degree, I think I've been sheltered from homophobia in SL. I've always had lots of gay (and especially lesbian) friends, so the communities I've been involved with, and the places I've gone, have tended to be very LGBTQ+ positive, with the result that I haven't heard a lot of outright bigotry (although of course I've heard some). That includes the forum: I can't recall, offhand anyway, any instance of open homophobia here, although I've occasionally caught some more subtle articulations of it. This is a pretty open space, mostly.

At the same time, being straight myself, I've never faced the personal harassment that my gay friends have. 

So it's possible or even probable that I have a rather overly-rosy view of how accepting SL is to the LGBTQ+ community.

I have too to some degree, been sheltered.  

And, so many of us would have no problem with same sex couples, but a few bad apples is all it takes to make one not so sure if it's safe to be yourself here. 

Perhaps clubs could state ALL-couples-friendly listed as those who are welcome in their listing, and have DJ's say "everyone's welcome - straight, same, gay, bi"...or however to appropriately word it.  

I often feel like time is standing still and feel like why haven't we advanced enough as a people not just in this subject but so many things as we just had a very emotional enlightening with Black Lives Matter and how much has been over-looked and is still in the Dark Ages and oppressive to POC, imo.  

Edited December 8, 2020 by FairreLilette

[Seicher Rae]

I think this is one of those threads where the OP will never be seen again. Apologies in advance if I'm just being lil ole cynical me, as I am wont to do. Amirite?

[Talligurl]

I hang out in Mother Road, not a lot of people but often more people willing to talk than in crowded sims. 

[CaerolleClaudel]

21 minutes ago, Seicher Rae said:

I think this is one of those threads where the OP will never be seen again. Apologies in advance if I'm just being lil ole cynical me, as I am wont to do. Amirite?

 Reminds me of the thread a couple days ago in which someone was asking advice on new music discovery, as they were a DJ. At least they did participate, but they basically did not even want to spend a few dollars a month on Spotify or apparently really put forth much effort. I have no idea what the motivation was for this one, but yeah, probably not coming back. That reminds me of something else, though, on another forum I have occasionally seen someone new make a controversial post, lots of replies follow quickly, eventually people say it was a troll, the OP is never coming back, then like 2-3 days later the OP posts something like, "Wow, I was busy a couple days and just now came back to the thread, I did not expect things to move so fast!" Either a complete idiot or a very patient, long-range troll.

[rushingaround]

On 12/8/2020 at 3:03 PM, CaerolleClaudel said:

IMO, SL is far better than RL, especially considering that I have spent my whole life in rural flyover country in the US (the 'Bible Belt'), where intolerance of pretty much everything beyond conservative white Christianity is the rule.

Honestly, those couple times at Fogbound, out of many times, was about the only time I have been harassed, and that was by patrons, not staff. Then again, I have always to the extent possible only frequented female-only, queer places, or places that were mostly female and the men were polite and well-behaved. That is a lot easier in SL than in the aforementioned RL in which I am enmeshed. If I lived in one of the largest cities in the county instead of the largest small town in the country, I could probably do that IRL, too, but for example lesbian bars and queer clubs in general had declined quite a lot even before the pandemic. Not that life is just bars and clubs, I think of Provincetown and areas in the big cities where you can exist in communities with very large queer contingencies. SL is like being able to immediately go to a place like that no matter where you are at the moment.

Probably the most grief I have taken is when men hit on me without reading my profile (first word: 'Lesbian') and then get mad when I talk to them politely and finally insist that no, I am not interested, I am gay, when they get to the point of wanting to have sex. I think they feel I have led them on or something. I have from time-to-time just immediately said 'Lesbian' when they said hi, lol, but that seems to lead to an argument, too. 🙄

I feel you.   I am a transgirl in SL and guys don’t read my profile.  I quit explaining until we are alone and they get surprised.     But i like to hang out in bare sun beach or Ku’lani beach