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From the flip side: Former admin of a huge 13 + medieval fantasy sims

As  a formal admin of these sims, one of, well many but I am not gonna list here of the things I dreaded during my time  admining

1. Players who was whining in my IM box about other players  not wanting to play with them when they:

Stood in a sim AFK for hours, had such a ridiculous looking avatar that nobody knew exactly how to engage them in a rp. Was a rude d* in OOC chat, never finished a rp , always crashed. Had a relationship with someone off sim and broke up with them so they suddenly left SL and came back 6 months later expecting everyone to rush back and play with them.

2. Other Admin who could not keep their S* together and allowed players to break rules behind other admins back because they was pixel sexing them off campus.. Admins who let players break the rules just so they can have bodies on sim.

3. Players who had no idea how to RP and didn't care to learn, never attended classes and had tantrums/meltdowns in OOC chat how the rules were not fair( If you knew how to RP an had attended classes you would not break the damn rules)

4. Dealing with non RP ass-hats who knew it was a RP sim but " Was just visiting/looking around" and interrupted other RPing going on. Other RPers coming in and seeing others just standing around, nothing going on in local just a bunch of idiots RPing in a  RPing sim in private IM or AFKing then wondering why nobody ever rpes there.

The list could go on, but over all I loved being a admin, I loved helping others learn, help someone developed a char, engage others, watch the story spiral. I miss being a Admin even the crappy parts of dealing with said above made the day interesting and issues did get solved. I had so much fun during my time as a ADMIN.

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DeathRokTheKingMasterOfAllHeSees looks over at Steve and thinks, "Man is this guy for real? For a dollar I'd curb stomp him." He shakes his head looking down at his cup, thinking to himself, "What a stupid outfit that guy has. Did his mother dress him this morning? If I went out looking like that I'd want someone to slap me in the mouth." He sighs and takes a sip from his cup before he looks out the window thinking, "I hope he goes the hell on somewhere else, I really don't want to waste my precious time talking to a nobody today."

RP where people talk smack in thoughts and feelings because if they gave someone a chance to react to their horsepucky it might mean they're not as cool as they think they are.

 

PS: If there actually IS someone named DeathRokTheKingMasterOfAllHeSees out there, I didn't mean you. Also....seriously?

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14 minutes ago, Harley Ravenhurst said:

DeathRokTheKingMasterOfAllHeSees looks over at Steve and thinks, "Man is this guy for real? For a dollar I'd curb stomp him." He shakes his head looking down at his cup, thinking to himself, "What a stupid outfit that guy has. Did his mother dress him this morning? If I went out looking like that I'd want someone to slap me in the mouth." He sighs and takes a sip from his cup before he looks out the window thinking, "I hope he goes the hell on somewhere else, I really don't want to waste my precious time talking to a nobody today."

RP where people talk smack in thoughts and feelings because if they gave someone a chance to react to their horsepucky it might mean they're not as cool as they think they are.

 

PS: If there actually IS someone named DeathRokTheKingMasterOfAllHeSees out there, I didn't mean you. Also....seriously?

I'm getting fashbacks to a roleplay server (in another game) I helped run for years. There was one player who did this all the bloody time. They played an elven woman they constantly described as 'succubus like' and filled their emotes with random shade about characters around them. I'm not exactly bothered by someone insulting my character, but it was downright tiring to see emotes like: *Looks over at the dumb/stupid/ugly whatever* and then on the flip side deal with this player complaining nobody wanted to play with them.

I had a long talk once where I explained to them that their emoting style made it sound like they, the player, was throwing shade at various characters and how they were played. They genuinely didn't understand why that was a bad thing. 

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whiny cry babies who hang around sexual RPs dressed like a porn star then playing like a wallflower if anyone approaches them, 
people who go around quoting lore and their interpretation on it and bashing anyone they feel are not following the same story.
Most role players in SL I have met are playing by their own rules. They want a character in every faction in the sim, making and retiring them daily. They want everyone to respect their story, but it changes with their mood. They do not read anything when it comes to combat rules or HUD use and complains about everything.
The SL role players in my few months of playing Secondlife have run me away from even taking part in it any more.

 

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On 11/22/2020 at 10:07 PM, BaronessVal said:

Ignore New players because they think they cannot RP....

New-is SL player but RPing since D&D was called Chainmail. You know, back in the early 70s. I'd love someone to make that mistake assumption with me. >:(

Running a City of Mist RP session online. Might try to bring it to SL.

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I have more..

People who feel they are beyond the sim's rules and use side steps to skirt around regulations, perfect example a sim I was RPing in has the tag predator and prey, in their website RP rules it explains if you wear the prey tag, you are open for kidnapping by any one wearing a predator tag. Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP. They now want a channel to Discord added to skirt the rule of "you are prey to anyone in the sim if you wear the prey tag." They want a Discord channel that you have to ask the person if they let you capture them but want to wear the prey label all the time but choose who can capture them. The rules state you wear the tag. You are prey, not you wear the title and pick and choose who you are willing to RP with.

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4 minutes ago, noobbot22 said:

I have more..

People who feel they are beyond the sim's rules and use side steps to skirt around regulations, perfect example a sim I was RPing in has the tag predator and prey, in their website RP rules it explains if you wear the prey tag, you are open for kidnapping by any one wearing a predator tag. Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP. They now want a channel to Discord added to skirt the rule of "you are prey to anyone in the sim if you wear the prey tag." They want a Discord channel that you have to ask the person if they let you capture them but want to wear the prey label all the time but choose who can capture them. The rules state you wear the tag. You are prey, not you wear the title and pick and choose who you are willing to RP with.

That sounds like a terrible rule to begin with, tbh. If I'm going to do a predator/prey scene of any form (especially sexual ones) I'm going to want to know I have at least the power to choose who I'm spending my time writing with. I'm playing a character being hunted as prey without the agency to stop it, I myself am not prey and required to consent to every scene that comes my way. 

I'd just avoid a sim with rules like that rather than go there and try to break them, but I understand why there would be a demand for more agency on behalf of the players involved.

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3 hours ago, noobbot22 said:

Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP.

   Even consensual non-consent requires consent, otherwise it's just sexual harassment/assault. Regardless of what the sim owners' rules are, no one can ever force anyone to do anything they don't to do with anyone they don't want to do it with. If you are unable to accept a 'no', you most certainly wouldn't be welcomed into any serious lifestyle communities, childishly whining about it only makes you appear, well, childish. 

   Whilst SL is virtual and no physical harm can be done, the freedom to say no and defend one's limits will always trump silly rules.

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3 hours ago, noobbot22 said:

I have more..

People who feel they are beyond the sim's rules and use side steps to skirt around regulations, perfect example a sim I was RPing in has the tag predator and prey, in their website RP rules it explains if you wear the prey tag, you are open for kidnapping by any one wearing a predator tag. Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP. They now want a channel to Discord added to skirt the rule of "you are prey to anyone in the sim if you wear the prey tag." They want a Discord channel that you have to ask the person if they let you capture them but want to wear the prey label all the time but choose who can capture them. The rules state you wear the tag. You are prey, not you wear the title and pick and choose who you are willing to RP with.

Regardless of whether you're tagged as prey, it's still RP and you still have a choice.  No one I know would be happy being captured by some day old noob with no RP skills whatsoever, just so they can fornicate with the prey.  At the very least, I'd need some RP build up beforehand to assess the level of skill the predator has and whether they're actually interested in RP or just random pixel humping.  

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4 hours ago, Orwar said:

   Even consensual non-consent requires consent, otherwise it's just sexual harassment/assault. Regardless of what the sim owners' rules are, no one can ever force anyone to do anything they don't to do with anyone they don't want to do it with. If you are unable to accept a 'no', you most certainly wouldn't be welcomed into any serious lifestyle communities, childishly whining about it only makes you appear, well, childish. 

   Whilst SL is virtual and no physical harm can be done, the freedom to say no and defend one's limits will always trump silly rules.

This ^ 

Prior to Covid I ran an IRL event center for BDSM events (which, obviously, are not safe during a pandemic) and my biggest pet peeve there applies to online roleplay too. 

We would have young people, usually men, who would present as dominant / master / predator types with next to no experience and zero respect for anyone who they thought was more submissive. Those people rarely lasted an hour into one of our parties and would get bounced by our very active security.

I usually see those type of people show up online, where they can't be held as accountable for their actions, basically demanding anyone roleplaying on the s side of D/s (be it predator prey, slave master, whatever) bend to their will OOC and treating them as useless sex objects. It's both crossing IC and OOC and just being generally gross. Everyone has the right to consent to any roleplay, scene, pixel humping, what have you. A sim that enforces a no-consent rule is likely to be thick with those types and horrible abusive drama because of it. 

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1 hour ago, Bitterthorn said:

This ^ 

Prior to Covid I ran an IRL event center for BDSM events (which, obviously, are not safe during a pandemic) and my biggest pet peeve there applies to online roleplay too. 

We would have young people, usually men, who would present as dominant / master / predator types with next to no experience and zero respect for anyone who they thought was more submissive. Those people rarely lasted an hour into one of our parties and would get bounced by our very active security.

I usually see those type of people show up online, where they can't be held as accountable for their actions, basically demanding anyone roleplaying on the s side of D/s (be it predator prey, slave master, whatever) bend to their will OOC and treating them as useless sex objects. It's both crossing IC and OOC and just being generally gross. Everyone has the right to consent to any roleplay, scene, pixel humping, what have you. A sim that enforces a no-consent rule is likely to be thick with those types and horrible abusive drama because of it. 

I have to agree some new users (not all) have no respect for those in the lifestyle including when it comes to those as Master or Dom. I've had my fair share on a female alt account I made last year but I don't use it because I tested it out just to see what would happen. (Most demanded me to have RLV on or to follow them around in private Im's when I told them I wasn't interested they would call me names that were rude. (Not bullying) but would constantly say "Hey babe wanna hook up?" "Hey follow me now." sort of things. I tested it out in a few "A" places and realized I'm not up for that sort of thing. Respect and consent is what I like more in RP like respecting limits and things like that in RP (I have a few limits even on my main because some stuff I don't like to do in RP). As of the seeking for lifestyle people even in RP more so before you go to be with that person make sure you take the time for them to get to know you fully in RP and OOC before making a huge step into being owned in the lifestyle.

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12 hours ago, noobbot22 said:

I have more..

People who feel they are beyond the sim's rules and use side steps to skirt around regulations, perfect example a sim I was RPing in has the tag predator and prey, in their website RP rules it explains if you wear the prey tag, you are open for kidnapping by any one wearing a predator tag. Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP. They now want a channel to Discord added to skirt the rule of "you are prey to anyone in the sim if you wear the prey tag." They want a Discord channel that you have to ask the person if they let you capture them but want to wear the prey label all the time but choose who can capture them. The rules state you wear the tag. You are prey, not you wear the title and pick and choose who you are willing to RP with.

Sorry but that's not how it really works. You still do need consent no matter what tag or title you wear ever. No one has the right to ignore anyone's consent ever. Not even if it's in the sim rules. Those who think they can are not predator or dominant or master.. they are just narcissistic misogynistic abusive manipulative jerks. Who doesn't deserve anything from anyone. And have no right to complain either. They don't deserve anyone's submission or faithfulness or loyalty or respect at all or ever as long as they continue to believe in that bs attitude.

You sir are what is wrong with the sl bdsm groups in general. People like you who think you can ignore choice or consent or limits or boundaries or safewords or think logging out of rlv is cheating. Or having limits is cheating. Or that limits are meant to be pushed or ignored or broken. People like you are just disgusting.

Consent and personal preference trump all sim or group rules always. No sim or group owner ever has any say any different ever. 

It doesn't matter if it's a carp sim or not consent trumps all rules. So if a person refuse to consent it's their choice regardless what anyone likes or not. It's not your right to force anyone against their will ever. No matter your title or tag. The fact you don't understand this is the problem.

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On 11/26/2020 at 6:28 AM, noobbot22 said:

I have more..

People who feel they are beyond the sim's rules and use side steps to skirt around regulations, perfect example a sim I was RPing in has the tag predator and prey, in their website RP rules it explains if you wear the prey tag, you are open for kidnapping by any one wearing a predator tag. Still, they only want to be kidnapped by someone of their choosing, not taking the role of prey by the rules of the RP. They now want a channel to Discord added to skirt the rule of "you are prey to anyone in the sim if you wear the prey tag." They want a Discord channel that you have to ask the person if they let you capture them but want to wear the prey label all the time but choose who can capture them. The rules state you wear the tag. You are prey, not you wear the title and pick and choose who you are willing to RP with.

If it is the sim I think it is, they've always been very clear that it's a 'consent' sim. And the predator and prey tags are there to help RPers find each other, not to force anyone to RP with someone they don't want to. As well as the discord channel discussed was for people to let others know they're looking for prey or predator RP and what kinda scene they're currently interested in. Of course people are gonna pick and choose who they play with. They're not mindless robots there just for your entertainment.

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53 minutes ago, Nyx Karas said:

If it is the sim I think it is, they've always been very clear that it's a 'consent' sim. And the predator and prey tags are there to help RPers find each other, not to force anyone to RP with someone they don't want to. As well as the discord channel discussed was for people to let others know they're looking for prey or predator RP and what kinda scene they're currently interested in. Of course people are gonna pick and choose who they play with. They're not mindless robots there just for your entertainment.

I have to agree Consent is required with that tag. I know a sim that has that tag and those with the Prey listed in picks and in profile are to contact in private IM's to discuss the limits and things to do in a RP scene. They do pick and choose to RP with if someone doesn't seem interesting in RP or won't respect limits. The discord channel thing to me is a good idea if no one is on Sim and wants to do discord RP scene with them. If one doesn't respect a prey's limits they won't be on sim or in the discord server. respect of limits and having consent is 100% needed.

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I didn't RP much on SL, I quickly figured it was very different from every other forms of RP/creative writing I was used to and I didn't enjoy it as much as I thought I would.

What bothered me the most, though, was how some people just kept ignoring what my character was saying or how she was acting/reacting because it didn't match their expectations or what they wanted. 

I believe that a rp is a story created with four hands and two minds, and not a single person forcing his little fantasy world on you, ignoring half of what you're saying 😆. Sometimes it was more subtle, like very poor hints in the other person's rp ("/me thinks how nice it would be if she stopped being so rude") and sometimes it was even more annoying, with plain, boring godmodding, explaining how my character was feeling . Well, not gonna work with me.

So I know I've been annoying too, fighting a lot IC instead of just give up the rp and leave, because I was trying to make a point. Sometime quite violently, giving *****ty preds a taste of their own medicine. But, hey, I regret nothing, Buffy is my spirit animal 🤭

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On 11/23/2020 at 12:33 PM, Bitterthorn said:

I've always found the third vs first person debate a bit interesting. I see it listed often as a hard limit in RP for some. 

Personally, I roleplay in third person because I'm playing a character, not myself. That seems to be the rationale I hear in most RP sims that enforce third person RP. 

I would be curious to hear reasoning why some folks prefer first person!

Because when I'm doing RP I set up my avatar to be the RP character with a titler to show my name and prefer to react as that character not tell a story about the character like I'm some meta being overlooking the game board. I've never been to a sim that enforces a rule like that but I certainly wouldn't RP in one or with somebody who insisted on doing it that way. That's my preference and if others are ok with 3rd person, then good for them and I hope they enjoy doing it that way.

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From the moment i log in to SL till the moment i log out everything is RP for me so the only annoying thing is when people can't understand that and confuse the RolePlayer (Nick0678, Nicolas Deischer, etc) with the Real Person.
Once they start making silly claims that we are friends and they know me well or that we are having a real relationship just because we got partnered in SL and other silly stuff like that i just ask them to tell me what is the name of my real brother.
That usually brings them back to reality although some still try to act like we really know each other..
Other than that i don't mind anything else (as long as it doesn't somehow affect me financially).
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11 hours ago, Nick0678 said:
From the moment i log in to SL till the moment i log out everything is RP for me so the only annoying thing is when people can't understand that and confuse the RolePlayer (Nick0678, Nicolas Deischer, etc) with the Real Person.
Once they start making silly claims that we are friends and they know me well or that we are having a real relationship just because we got partnered in SL and other silly stuff like that i just ask them to tell me what is the name of my real brother.
That usually brings them back to reality although some still try to act like we really know each other..
Other than that i don't mind anything else (as long as it doesn't somehow affect me financially).

I've watched this happen a few times and while I am with you on the 'people crossing IC and OOC' I really hope you're making it totally clear to the folks you talk to that they're getting a character 100% of the time. 

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11 hours ago, Bitterthorn said:

 I really hope you're making it totally clear to the folks you talk to that they're getting a character 100% of the time. 

 
Being mature and grounded they should already know the answer to that so i actually have no need to explain anything but yes when i am in the mood i ask them to come over to my RL house and have some pizza, if they don't know where it is they eventually get the message that they know nothing.
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1 hour ago, Nick0678 said:
 
Being mature and grounded they should already know the answer to that so i actually have no need to explain anything but yes when i am in the mood i ask them to come over to my RL house and have some pizza, if they don't know where it is they eventually get the message that they know nothing.

Intelligent people should know that theres too much variety in how people use their SL to assume they should know critical details about a niche playstyle.

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2 hours ago, Nick0678 said:
 
Being mature and grounded they should already know the answer to that so i actually have no need to explain anything but yes when i am in the mood i ask them to come over to my RL house and have some pizza, if they don't know where it is they eventually get the message that they know nothing.

At least everyone on the forum should be well aware about it, considering how thats all you ever talk about.

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6 hours ago, Nick0678 said:
 
Being mature and grounded they should already know the answer to that so i actually have no need to explain anything but yes when i am in the mood i ask them to come over to my RL house and have some pizza, if they don't know where it is they eventually get the message that they know nothing.

I'm sorry, but that just sounds genuinely mean spirited. 

If you are IC 100% of the time and in no way directly flag that to people (aside from on these forums which a tiny percentage of SL users read) and then wonder why you run into people who think they have a genuine connection with you, the issue is your communication. Suddenly acting holier than thou and having pre-prepared statements meant to hurt them is cruel. 

That's not just people confusing IC and OOC. That's withholding information from them and then getting mad they didn't know it. 

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