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9 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I can't disagree with you, because I haven't run into that. 

If you are lucky, you won't.  But chances are that you will if you are here for any length of time.

9 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I have no patience for anyone abusive, and I have made it very clear here in the forums

Yes I have seen you say this before and I did address it in that thread, but my reply was removed.  I have also seen where you do support someone who is abusive on these boards.

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Is it wrong that I was licking my screen?

Personally, I'm wary of anyone visiting an escort area but hey, that's just me. 

I think there is probably an initial "attraction", so to speak, of who you are drawn to, because let's face it, we're shallow!  But it does take more than pretty pixels to keep interest and maintain a

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9 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I have met some with truly creepy AV's. Stuff that RL scares me.

Me too.  Some have turned out to be just as creepy as their AV but others, not.  

 

31 minutes ago, Jordan Whitt said:

Some of the most hot and gorgeous avi's I know are completely trash people - they hurt people, use and abuse people.  Then you have the ones who may not have the most amazing avi's who are awesome people.  

 

This.  Says it all.  Never go by appearance alone.  You might miss out on some amazing people.

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2 minutes ago, Jordan Whitt said:

If you are lucky, you won't.  But chances are that you will if you are here for any length of time.

Yes I have seen you say this before and I did address it in that thread, but my reply was removed.  I have also seen where you do support someone who is abusive on these boards.

Yes. I have met that person inworld a number of times, and  have told them to listen to me. 

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2 minutes ago, RowanMinx said:

Me too.  Some have turned out to be just as creepy as their AV but others, not.  

 

This.  Says it all.  Never go by appearance alone.  You might miss out on some amazing people.

I mean truly creepy. Where it scares more people than just myself. And we are BDSM.

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3 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I mean truly creepy. Where it scares more people than just myself. And we are BDSM.

Not sure exactly what bdsm has to do with anything but...The ones you really need to beware of are the ones who look the right way, say the right things, appear to be normal in most respects.  They're the type who do things subtly.  Although one's personality will show eventually, this type is far more disturbing than someone who just had a creepy, unattractive, goofy AV.

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People can hide everything and can pretend to be anything as long as they want to, especially online, same way for example a woman or man can cheat their husband/wife and .. nobody knows, nobody has any idea they live happily like cute pigeons. Just stating facts.Those of us who take SL to RL pay attention to such stuff due to the risks taken and also by experience due to talking with many people from SL on Skype video calls etc..Play safe.

Now regarding creepy avatars since now the thread is more specific that's a whole different story but then again what is creepy for a person might not be for another, creepy avatars are also those that are in to vampire roleplay for some but for others aren't  so just pay attention on how a person interacts with you and if they start acting weird send them home.

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4 minutes ago, RowanMinx said:

Not sure exactly what bdsm has to do with anything but...The ones you really need to beware of are the ones who look the right way, say the right things, appear to be normal in most respects.  They're the type who do things subtly.  Although one's personality will show eventually, this type is far more disturbing than someone who just had a creepy, unattractive, goofy AV.

I totally understand. What is strange though is when someone shows up in a dedicated Escorting location with a very unusual looking AV. I wish I had a pic to show you. It bordered on young looking, but old as well.. All of us were disturbed. and avoided him.

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2 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I totally understand. What is strange though is when someone shows up in a dedicated Escorting location with a very unusual looking AV. I wish I had a pic to show you. It bordered on young looking, but old as well.. All of us were disturbed. and avoided him.

Personally, I'm wary of anyone visiting an escort area but hey, that's just me. 

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1 minute ago, RowanMinx said:

Personally, I'm wary of anyone visiting an escort area but hey, that's just me. 

LOL. I can't avoid that!!!

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I'm totally with those who mentioned conversations and profiles being deciding factors. What I meant with the av possibly (but not always) reflecting ourselves is, for example, anime avs likely indicating their interest in anime and that may attract like minded people. I get IMs from guys more when I'm in my human av. But when I'm in a cute animal av, other non-human avs would come hang with me.

In a crowd, unless I peek through everyone's profile I tend to be more curious when their avs are a bit quirky or different 'cause it makes me think maybe they might have a fun weird personality or a sense of humor. But of course it's not proof of those things but just something to go off. Avs that are all suited up in their bdsm gear, I assume are into s3x stuff here, always keeping in mind assumptions can be way off.

Even though I'm all meshed up, I like people who look past all that and don't exclude non-mesh avs.

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1 hour ago, AdminGirl said:

In a crowd, unless I peek through everyone's profile I tend to be more curious when their avs are a bit quirky or different

Lets say you are in a crowd who do you consider to be more fun and chill to play SL with? (we are talking about friends not dates)

All of them is Nick = same online personality

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2 hours ago, Nick0678 said:

Lets say you are in a crowd who do you consider to be more fun and chill to play SL with? (we are talking about friends not dates)

All of them is Nick = same online personality

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In terms of who I'd most likely approach for fun and chilling, it'd be in the reverse order - so punks not dead first and shirt guy last - which just reflects what seems quirky and approachable to me. But I think that also proves a point that relying solely on av appearance is flawed 'cause like you said, they are all you. Same person.

For netflix and chill, then the opposite of what I just said 😄

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1 hour ago, Nick0678 said:

Lets say you are in a crowd who do you consider to be more fun and chill to play SL with? (we are talking about friends not dates)

All of them is Nick = same online personality

nick.thumb.jpg.7849a7be009b60ffc8dfd1e5d9b27bb7.jpg

Is it wrong that I was licking my screen?

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I don't think it influences me.  I have a friend who is stuck in 2009, has never spent a L$ on his avi and lives in freebieland  but is one of the most lovely guys I know.  I have a close friend who can be a T-rex one minute and a pomeranian the next.  I may be judgemental about oversized shirtless males with a gob as big as their biceps but I will give them a chance. 

I did threaten to block and remove my best friend when he decided to be a creepy clown avi in the middle of us dancing 🤬

Generally I think I am more judgemental about what they say than what their avi looks like.  

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8 hours ago, Bagnu said:

Do our AV's influence who we become friends with???  I have conflicting opinions on this.

Absolutly. There are certain types of avatars I would not start a conversation with, so that makes it less likely that we would become friends.

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9 hours ago, Nick0678 said:

Well ... i wouldn't bet on that.

Anything we created is a reflection of the creator, so if someone puts thought and effort into thier avi, then that avi will be a reflection of who they are. Of course some people don't do anything other than choosing a pre-made avi, but then even that choice says something about the chooser. Of course it is only a partial reflection. It does not represent the whole person behind the avi.

 

A lot of people have talked about the fact that they are more likely to IM certian people based on how thier avi looks. This of course works both ways. I have been noticing recently, since I adopted my current look, see the picture threads if you don't know what that is. I get way more attention from much more interesting people. Less of the "hey baby wanna have fun" and more "your avi is amazing" followed by a delightful conversation. 

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7 hours ago, AdminGirl said:

II think that also proves a point that relying solely on av appearance is flawed 'cause like you said, they are all you.

Yes and it is funny how our expectations are based on something simple as how a virtual character looks, rarely use the first one unless with clients or sometimes when playing skill games and being bored of swapping outfits.

7 hours ago, Jordan Whitt said:

Is it wrong that I was licking my screen?

Sounds totally healthy to me. Can i buy you a drink?

 

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12 hours ago, AdminGirl said:

I'm totally with those who mentioned conversations and profiles being deciding factors. What I meant with the av possibly (but not always) reflecting ourselves is, for example, anime avs likely indicating their interest in anime and that may attract like minded people. I get IMs from guys more when I'm in my human av. But when I'm in a cute animal av, other non-human avs would come hang with me.

In a crowd, unless I peek through everyone's profile I tend to be more curious when their avs are a bit quirky or different 'cause it makes me think maybe they might have a fun weird personality or a sense of humor. But of course it's not proof of those things but just something to go off. Avs that are all suited up in their bdsm gear, I assume are into s3x stuff here, always keeping in mind assumptions can be way off.

Even though I'm all meshed up, I like people who look past all that and don't exclude non-mesh avs.

I find I'm influenced both by appearance and conversation, hence my conflict.. I want nothing to do with guys who run around naked with hardons. That's a moving dickpic. Whenever I see someone with an AV I like, I send them an IM telling them. And usually we become friends. So my initial reason to approach or not approach is based purely on appearance.

And then there are these forums, where we can't always know what a person's AV looks like. I love chatting with you AdminGirl, but I haven't the slightest clue about your AV. So this where I conflict with myself. 

But maybe not as much as I think. Here our personalities are our AV's.

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13 hours ago, RowanMinx said:

Not sure exactly what bdsm has to do with anything but...The ones you really need to beware of are the ones who look the right way, say the right things, appear to be normal in most respects.  They're the type who do things subtly.  Although one's personality will show eventually, this type is far more disturbing than someone who just had a creepy, unattractive, goofy AV.

What I'm talking about is not a goofy AV. We saw one recently at work, where we all got really "bad vibes" and avoided him. Wrong AV at the wrong location suggests something about the creator.

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1 hour ago, Bagnu said:

What I'm talking about is not a goofy AV. We saw one recently at work, where we all got really "bad vibes" and avoided him. Wrong AV at the wrong location suggests something about the creator.

I'm sure that 'bad vibe' might be appropriate in some instances.  I will say that I and friends have dressed up in odd/creepy/inappropriate avatars just for sh**s and giggles.  I'm not creepy (at least I don't think I am) yet I do love to just goof around at times.  I would agree though that anyone who appears to not be an adult, does not belong anywhere near sexual content.  THAT is not only creepy but reportable.  

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1 minute ago, RowanMinx said:

I'm sure that 'bad vibe' might be appropriate in some instances.  I will say that I and friends have dressed up in odd/creepy/inappropriate avatars just for sh**s and giggles.  I'm not creepy (at least I don't think I am) yet I do love to just goof around at times.  I would agree though that anyone who appears to not be an adult, does not belong anywhere near sexual content.  THAT is not only creepy but reportable.  

I have no issues with fun creepy lol!  What I mean by creepy is possibly reportable creepy. It get's grey though sometimes. I met two child AV's in a Satanic Church. I chased them out, but nothing sexual was going on, so I had nothing to report. But I know sexual things have gone on there. I am no fan of child AV's!!!!

And this has nothing to do with any Satanic groups inworld. It was purely a private church.

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16 minutes ago, Bagnu said:

I find I'm influenced both by appearance and conversation, hence my conflict.. I want nothing to do with guys who run around naked with hardons. That's a moving dickpic. Whenever I see someone with an AV I like, I send them an IM telling them. And usually we become friends. So my initial reason to approach or not approach is based purely on appearance.

And then there are these forums, where we can't always know what a person's AV looks like. I love chatting with you AdminGirl, but I haven't the slightest clue about your AV. So this where I conflict with myself. 

But maybe not as much as I think. Here our personalities are our AV's.

Thank you Pearl ❤️ And yeah I completely agree that there's a conflict. We assess people based on clues that are given to us but sometimes we can be wrong about them.

 

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20 hours ago, Bagnu said:

Do our AV's influence who we become friends with???  I have conflicting opinions on this.

Indirectly for me, sometimes. I am more likely to send out an IM someone if I think their avatar is unusual, interesting, cute or otherwise different from the usual regular human. That often leads to interestign conversations which in turn can lead to friendship. On the other hand I may do the same from reading a person's profile, or seeing what they've been talking about in local chat, so it's by no means the only way I make friends. Just one of several ways.

I am unlikely to make contact with someone who has an unintersting avatar, a blank profile and has said nothing worth responding to.

19 hours ago, Nick0678 said:

Sure but as long as someone doesn't know who/what the other person really is those are only assumptions.

This. It's all very well saying you only go for personality, but you can't know that on first meeting, so you still need to make a decision based on other factors. One of those factors is going to be the avatar's appearance (unless you are using a text-only viewer, or you are legitimately blind).

15 hours ago, Nick0678 said:

Lets say you are in a crowd who do you consider to be more fun and chill to play SL with? (we are talking about friends not dates)

All of them is Nick = same online personality

nick.thumb.jpg.7849a7be009b60ffc8dfd1e5d9b27bb7.jpg

I'd message the bottom two for sure. The top two, maybe. It would depend more on the profile in those two cases. And the responses so far prove that appearance is very much a subjective thing. Everyone has different opinions on what they consider to be an attractive or interesting avatar. Heck, some people even think my avatar is unusual and interesting 😄

4 hours ago, Bagnu said:

I find I'm influenced both by appearance and conversation, hence my conflict....

And then there are these forums, where we can't always know what a person's AV looks like. I love chatting with you AdminGirl, but I haven't the slightest clue about your AV. So this where I conflict with myself. 

But maybe not as much as I think. Here our personalities are our AV's.

I don't think there's any conflict here at all.

As thinking (I hope) human beings, we all make decisions based on a multitude of different factors, not just one thing at a time. So there is really no conflict between basing your interest on avatar appearance AND conversation.  And if any of the data is missing (an avatar you haven't seen, or a blank profile, or a person who is yet to speak), you can only go by alternative factors.

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Being the typical shallow guy, I am initially attracted to the look of an avatar.  I will then look at the profile to see what that person has put there.  Sometimes there is an interesting tidbit in there and I may say hi and something about that.  People generally like to talk about themselves so that can be a good ice breaker.  That being said, the conversation that follows tells me more and quickly will overshadow the looks.  I usually seek out the less mainstream looking people because that usually implies a sense of humor which is important.  

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