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On 5/9/2020 at 7:35 PM, AdoringMinx said:

Based off the title, i wanted to get different perspectives on this problematic trend. On several occasions while in a sim, some random dude will IM me claiming i'm a guy as if he figured it out. I'll respond to them saying i'm indeed a female, and born with female parts but they insist that i'm not. While I don't feel the need to prove my sex to some random person on the internet, I am however curious as to what about my avi screams "THAT'S A DUDE!!" 

Is your av female? Thats good enough for me. I really dont care the gender of the person at the keyboard. I come to SL to escape from RL. If you want to be female, go for it. If you want to be male , same applies. Want to be a roaming gelatinous cube, I'm cool with that. Just enjoy SL and leave the idiots to be idiots. Block, mute and move along. Too many fools to start worrying about them all. 

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just tell them "and i'm looking for your bootie boy"  or something like "yes and you'll be surprised by my size" and they may stop bothering you :D
or like other people said and just ignore them .-. 

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13 hours ago, monykony said:

just tell them "and i'm looking for your bootie boy"  or something like "yes and you'll be surprised by my size" and they may stop bothering you :D
or like other people said and just ignore them .-. 

Or send them a dick pic!

LOL

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On 5/9/2020 at 7:35 PM, AdoringMinx said:

Based off the title, i wanted to get different perspectives on this problematic trend. On several occasions while in a sim, some random dude will IM me claiming i'm a guy as if he figured it out. I'll respond to them saying i'm indeed a female, and born with female parts but they insist that i'm not. While I don't feel the need to prove my sex to some random person on the internet, I am however curious as to what about my avi screams "THAT'S A DUDE!!" 

a photo might help

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I've been asked a few times if I'm a guy just because I won't share certain bits of info about my life or because a friend I hangout with on SL is a male using a female avatar that also states on his profile he is male. 

If someone says to me "You're a guy too."

I just say "No I'm not. I cut my dick off ages ago. I'm just kidding... I tuck it between my legs."

 

But in all seriousness. We don't need to prove ourselves to anyone. Be whoever you want to be and if you feel comfortable opening up in your own time then do it. But don't feel pressured by anyone. 

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Lol, i've had men on SL question both my gender and age due to how i speak and act! Which is funny and crazy since i literally have my Instagram linked in my profile on the RL part of my profile.. I guess people don't really read profiles before speaking to other people! It's always been men too, never women. I usually just let it go, you either believe me or not! that's up to you.

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On 5/9/2020 at 7:35 PM, AdoringMinx said:

I am however curious as to what about my avi screams "THAT'S A DUDE!!" 

This may not be about your AVI but a lot of times if someone sees a female avatar with a description that says something like "Sorry guys, I'm only into girls", they immediately think that the user is a man. Reasoning is, of course, that all women only love men and that all the females on SL couldn't possibly be lesbians. 😀

I've played many female avatars on SL (as dancers and escorts...and did very well) and no one ever knew that I was a guy. I had a funny story once that while my avatar was "working" some guy called me a guy because I wouldn't voice or cam with him. Granted he was right, but it was only because I wouldn't show him that I wasn't a real girl. 

One of my other avatars has a picture of a girl (from the waist down, lying on a bed) wearing a pair of panties. I have NEVER once had anyone accuse me of being a guy. Go figure.....😭

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I think the guys who come on caring about voice and cam are using SL as a cheaper alternative to similar RL services!!!

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On 6/25/2020 at 9:24 PM, Tex Monday said:

I've played many female avatars on SL (as dancers and escorts...and did very well) and no one ever knew that I was a guy. I had a funny story once that while my avatar was "working" some guy called me a guy because I wouldn't voice or cam with him. Granted he was right, but it was only because I wouldn't show him that I wasn't a real girl. 

Amusingly enough, I can relate to this story XD Wayyyy back in the day, my RL hubby made a female av to work as a stripper with me. We used to dance on the stage at the same time. He had more regulars than I did. Clearly a dude knows what a dude likes.. so his av was just overboard on everything and all the boys loved it :D The part that killed me was the time I was accused of being a guy playing a female av. The guy told me I should try harder and be like my husband's av if I wanted to be more convincing. We just sort of looked at each other across the room and burst out laughing. 🤣

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It's OK you are whatever you are and you play your SL the way you like it, you got no obligation to explain anything to anyone and of course they are not being forced to interact with you either.

(as long as your actions DO NOT do physical/psychological damage to others)

There are some who take SL way too seriously and those who really don't care what the other person is BUT seriously come on now what matters in life is not what others want you to do and who they want you to be but what you want for yourself.

Life is simple.

 

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This is an amusing problem if you’re somewhat vocally-impaired, but one with a simple solution;

”Don’t hang around with people who care about that.”

Mute/Derendering people who insist on being a pest about this is also useful.

SL makes it possible to *only* have to deal with whatever you’re willing to put up with, if you use the tools.

Note: This won’t completely stop a dedicated Stalker, so the trick is to rezz the mean ones out of your world before you get into a protracted argument with them and put them in Psycho Mode

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With my male alt I had a funny story. He was just born and I strolled around a freebie place. A woman started talking to me. She was probably out there to help newbies. We talked briefly and I made sure she knew, I'm an alt and not a newbie. I thought I was super neutral, but suddenly she asked if I'm female. I should have asked what gave me away, I still have no idea.

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On 5/9/2020 at 5:35 PM, AdoringMinx said:

Based off the title, i wanted to get different perspectives on this problematic trend. On several occasions while in a sim, some random dude will IM me claiming i'm a guy as if he figured it out. I'll respond to them saying i'm indeed a female, and born with female parts but they insist that i'm not. While I don't feel the need to prove my sex to some random person on the internet, I am however curious as to what about my avi screams "THAT'S A DUDE!!" 

People like that are not worth your time.  I have been accused of that a few times in the past.  My response to them is "If I am guy, then the PMS I have suffered is a very cruel joke...." 

 

 

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I've always been accused as male, even way back in the full sculpty days of SL.

When I first came here it was back when the teen grid existed, I left because I got grounded and my mom deleted my account and revoked my pc.

Yes.  Even then, I was accused of being a boy because of "how I acted" or "how I talked", it was usually over something dumb like I wouldn't date them or have naughties.

Now a days I get accused of being a guy because I refuse to have voice naughties.

I don't voice because trying to get my headset to function is a pain in the arse.

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8 minutes ago, Mortified Wanderer said:

I've always been accused as male, even way back in the full sculpty days of SL.

When I first came here it was back when the teen grid existed, I left because I got grounded and my mom deleted my account and revoked my pc.

Yes.  Even then, I was accused of being a boy because of "how I acted" or "how I talked", it was usually over something dumb like I wouldn't date them or have naughties.

Now a days I get accused of being a guy because I refuse to have voice naughties.

I don't voice because trying to get my headset to function is a pain in the arse.

That's..mortifying!!

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On 5/10/2020 at 1:53 PM, Lyssa Greymoon said:

Maybe it's a clever ruse to get you on mic and sex you up.

yes so many people desperately try to sex someone up. i have this experience as a woman. 

they never talk to you about real contents 

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