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Well everyone has a story why they are here this a destinations as a getaway you build a connection see where it goes if you hit it off be whatever you both agree on not what other thinks as long done in a safe way.  I don't have anyone in first or the kitties in first life or Sl.  But its your SL you do what fancy someone that agrees with you and you do in safe way your person knows about it.  Not my thing but people can do what they want this a different life everyone can enjoy it how they want to.  

 

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On 5/3/2020 at 8:21 AM, snugglebeard said:

How many of you have a partner in RL and someone else in SL?

I'm taken in RL but would consider a SL partner.

Or is that weird?

its not weird, keeps you thinking, comparing the both... Long as it is not affecting RL go for it.   Happy journey'S

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On 5/6/2020 at 12:57 AM, Christina Mysterious said:

Well everyone has a story why they are here this a destinations as a getaway you build a connection see where it goes if you hit it off be whatever you both agree on not what other thinks as long done in a safe way.  I don't have anyone in first or the kitties in first life or Sl.  But its your SL you do what fancy someone that agrees with you and you do in safe way your person knows about it.  Not my thing but people can do what they want this a different life everyone can enjoy it how they want to.  

 

BEST ANSWER EVER... TOTAL AGREEMENT 

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On 5/7/2020 at 5:04 PM, rushingaround said:

My partner knows in rl and does not care.   I don’t usually do the sl relationship thing anymore.  Too much B.S. with people and feelings being hurt.   You come to SL you need to wear your big boy or big girl 👖 

EXACTLY, Make sure its understood.... but that too  much BS ( that part ) I can do without...

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On 5/3/2020 at 2:21 PM, snugglebeard said:

How many of you have a partner in RL and someone else in SL?

I'm taken in RL but would consider a SL partner.

Or is that weird?

Madison and I are both married (to other people, not to each other) in RL. Our RL partners both know about our SL relationship and both of them are happy with it. Our relationship in SL works only because there is this four-way trust, between Madi and I, and between us and our RL partners too. We would not still be together after so long if either of our partners had been unhappy about it, or if either of us had felt the need to hide our SL relationship from them.

If you are considering doing the same you MUST discuss this with your RL partner. It's not going to work unless you agree boundaries and stick to them, and it's also important that your SL partner understands and agrees to those boundaries too.  If there is any lack of trust with anyone involved, one of your relationships is doomed to fail. Whether it's your SL relationship that fails first, or your RL one, depends on your behaviour. 

Having a SL relationship when you're married in RL is not unusual. Neither is having one or both of those relationships break down because someone, somewhere, was not honest about it. 

Having a SL relationship lasting 9 years and counting, along with one RL marriage of more than 15 years and another of more than thirty, is unusual. but it's working for us.

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On 5/3/2020 at 3:21 PM, snugglebeard said:

How many of you have a partner in RL and someone else in SL?

I'm taken in RL but would consider a SL partner.

Or is that weird?

Partnering in SL has a very different approach then partnering RL , of course. I'd reconsider to partner just for the sake of having SLex. If that's what you are after then maybe checking out escorts first would be a better alternative before you invest a lot of time into a relationship.

If you want to invest in a purely romantic relationship, I do find your significant other in RL should know about it first ( which can lead to RL tensions you might not wish for ).

Many in SL partner without the need for SLex. Those partnerships are based on collaboration or have other reason to be connected. If that's what you are after, you hardly will have any issues with your RL partner about it.

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On 5/3/2020 at 11:52 AM, snugglebeard said:

Thanks for the information everyone. It seems to me that I may just not take this all that seriously. I haven't been around that long but for me it's kinda like a virtual dollhouse if that makes sense.

I'm not trying to demean anyone who thinks differently. It's all just not real to me.

That's fine, and many people feel the same way.  What we are telling you is that what is important here is not how YOU feel about it, but how your Real Life partner (and for that matter, your SL partner) feel about it.

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