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2 minutes ago, Selene Gregoire said:

It was not intended to be political. 

I'm just trying to keep myself sane like everyone else. I apologize. I won't do it again.

... grabs you and wraps you in giant squishy hugs just because I can do that here without spreading any sorts of ick and I think we could all use hugs right now...

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11 minutes ago, Selene Gregoire said:

It was not intended to be political. 

I'm just trying to keep myself sane like everyone else. I apologize. I won't do it again.

Sorry for snapping - that man is a major a-hole, but I just want to keep all of that out of my head when I'm in this thread or the How Are You Feeling thread.

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2 hours ago, FairreLilette said:

Yes, I'm thinking about what I can do.  The only thing I can do is do without some things.  The Governor of the State of California has asked us to stay in this morning 3/23/20 and not go out.  So, I am delaying my shopping for awhile.  Delivery may be possible in my area.  I need to check it out.  

What else I can do to help the sick other than washing my hands, using my sleeves to push the elevator button, and staying home...I don't know of any yet.  

No one in my building is sick.  We had a terrible vicious virus maybe "a self-diagnosed flu" in January.  No one is sick currently. 

I'll do what I can...but I gotta take care of myself too.  

I'm glad you're at least thinking in the right direction.

Well as Rodney Collin said, if you can't do anything else, if you have nothing else to give, you can at least give a smile, that costs nothing.

I think what many are slow to grasp now is the interconnectivity and interdependedness of human beings. If self-care doesn't involve an eye to the Golden Rule and basic decency and old-fashioned religious self-sacrifice, it's in fact damaging to the self in the long run. I bet we're going to hear enormous screaming from people whose Internet has slowed down or Amazon slowed or stopped as these services either turn themselves to mission-critical work or are ordered to do so by authorities.  We're going to hear an enormous amount of ranting and raving from Ayn Rand libertarians and Soviet-style socialists which abound in the Second Life community that "the man" has "trampled" on their rights, that either the Deep State or Evil Capitalism have crushed their special snowflakes.

Other-care *is* self-care now. And that's why I'm not going to be discouraged by notions of "staying on topic" that may be too limited. Even on a very good day, the forums are a toxic, self-centered, self-aggrandizing place with most posters never actually logging in world or sticking their head up above their hunker bunker to see what the rest of society is all about. So for self-care for some might quite rightly be simply ignoring forums like this, Reddit, Twitter etc if you don't have the ability to screen facts and usefulness out from insanity.

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I forgot to add something, and it was probably because...cranky....but

#-I forgot what number I was on, 12, 13, 50?...whatever it was...

A lot of people are now forced to homeschool, and I have found that I have a particular set of skills that come in handy here, having homeschooled my own children for, well, forever, lol.  I've used that set of skills to help others who are panicking about the new lifestyle being thrust upon them (and admittedly, also used it to knock some people down a few pegs who are patting themselves on the back for doing what they should be anyway...but that's cranky me).  Even people who have schools that are doing everything they can to accommodate students and their parents seem to need a bit more guidance now and then.

I'll extend that same offer here too...

If you're now aboard the homeschool train and finding yourself a bit lost, even if your child(ren)'s school is providing ample support and guidance, reach out and I can help find you some resources. There are more free and readily available resources than there have ever been in human history. Many normally paid programs and systems are opting to offer free services, some are instead choosing to offer services at a lower cost (I'm not fond of this model, I'm pretty judgmental of it really). There are also countless other resources available for parents and students alike. If you need help finding them, let me know. 

I consider this self care and a nice thing, because it makes me feel good, not for helping, but that some people are trying to educate their children no matter their experience and making a concerted effort at it. That's way more valuable than many people probably realize. 

 

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17 minutes ago, Tari Landar said:

There are more free and readily available resources than there have ever been in human history.

This is true.  I have found a lot but might take you up on that offer further down the line.  I was an early years educator over 12 years ago but initially the thought of homeschooling a 14 year old was a little daunting.  Today has been great and while he did an hour's reading I signed him up for a British sign language course which they are offering free at this time alongside a ton of other things we can be doing.  I am lucky he is an amiable child who is unlikely to kick back hard at me and this first day has been really enjoyable (even he said so).

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14 hours ago, Rhonda Huntress said:

You can procrastinate another 3 months!

We could, except these are 2017 taxes!  Yikes.

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14 hours ago, anniepany said:

...I do needle point and diamond painting which really helps me de-stress. ...

What is diamond painting, dahling?  (Channeling my inner Scylla!)  Is it painting ON diamonds with an itty bitty brush?  If so, I shall send you some reading glasses!  Or is it painting WITH diamonds?  That sounds like it could produce some truly extravagant works for our cafe/galleries!

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2 minutes ago, Lindal Kidd said:

What is diamond painting, dahling?

It's this. I've thought about ordering a kit many times but then I look at my cats and decide it's probably best I don't.

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The diamond painting looks pretty! I love sparkles! I glue them to myself 😉

 

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I don't feel like amending my post, lmao. 

 

If you're stuck at home with or without children to educate, there are LOTS of virtual field trips you can take. I'm going to share some links, because they're cool (but, especially if you have children, you can touch on all kinds of subjects, keep them engaged and entertained, and not worry so much about whether or not yo're "qualified" to educate them). Some resources might repeat, since some of them are linked on multiple sites...but, you can cherry pick. I'm not now nor have I ever been associated with any of them 🙂 

If you have local zoos, aquariums, museums, etc..check out their websites and youtube because a LOT are posting things people can do from home 🙂 

This is one  list...(not too long, lol)

https://www.weareteachers.com/best-virtual-field-trips

This is another list (also, a good site, ftr)

http://howtohomeschoolforfree.com/huge-list-of-virtual-field-trips/

Now, some more of my personal lists 🙂 

Louvre Museum, Paris https://www.louvre.fr/en/visites-en-ligne 
National Gallery of Art, Washington DC https://artsandculture.google.com/partner/national-gallery-of-art-washington-dc?hl=en
Metropolitan Museum of Art https://artsandculture.google.com/partner/the-metropolitan-museum-of-art
Van Gogh Museum, Amsterdam https://artsandculture.google.com/partner/van-gogh-museum?hl=en
Uffizi Gallery, Florence Italy https://artsandculture.google.com/partner/uffizi-gallery?hl=en

Monterey Bay Aquarium https://www.montereybayaquarium.org/animals-and-exhibits/live-web-cams
Georgia Aquarium https://www.georgiaaquarium.org/webcam/ocean-voyager/
National Aquarium Virtual Tour http://samuraivirtualtours.com/example/nadc/index.html

Google maps are your friend...pick a destination, any destination...want to see Pompei? 
https://www.google.com/maps/@40.7489468,14.4848331,3a,75y,217.27h,79.14t/data=!3m6!1e1!3m4!1s1e-bu_kis-dL1BnVGZhDdw!2e0!7i13312!8i6656?hl=en

https://www.colonialwilliamsburg.org/webcams/

Virtually discover Yellowstone National Park https://www.nps.gov/yell/learn/photosmultimedia/virtualtours.htm

https://adventuresinfamilyhood.com/virtual-magic-kingdom-walt-disney-world.html


Khan Academy is pretty fantastic for all kinds of things, this is just one...
https://www.khanacademy.org/humanities/hass-storytelling/imagineering-in-a-box?CMP=ILC-DPFY19Q4wo0808190814190031F&fbclid=IwAR2j3ubvmYLU--JqYpsWpmNR4hPMtAw6Ck1rgeEdrWEQurmn4k6AyqFV1u8

If you have Netflix (or check other streaming services for similar)
https://homeschoolhideout.com/educational-shows-on-netflix/

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And for those with kids, Amazon has now unlocked all of the children's shows to allow streaming to everyone worldwide.   I have no clue if any of that is educational or just 'keep your kid occupied' type stuff.

 

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8 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

I have no clue if any of that is educational or just 'keep your kid occupied' type stuff.

 

Or keep the adult occupied by making her check for TV shows from her youth.

Also, self-care advice from the cats:

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17 minutes ago, Beth Macbain said:

 

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Cats should rule the world when all this is over... Mine would definitely do a much better job when running a country

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1 hour ago, Kimmi Zehetbauer said:

Speaking of cats.....catflatearth.jpg.a2ac55ff30d86447a139a1216f03e8a6.jpg

Unless they could make a bed out of it...

 

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Spotify is my friend. Right now I'm favouring chill out orchestral music. Or piano, or strings. This genre has become my go to music stream. I'm melancholy most of the time right now. Just because I hate the way society acts when there are perceived shortages. I wish that I could opt out of that world. Without dying!!

That's why SL is so therapeutic, because I can do just that. I can live happily alone, I can have a huge wardrobe, I don't need to shop for food. I can look good 24/7. I can please myself. All that makes me feel better. 

When I drop back into RL, it's hard right now. For lots of reasons.

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It's going to be another sunny day here so I plan to be outside again (in my own garden obviously).  Yesterday homeschooling in the afternoon involved taking plant cuttings and potting them up.  Putting up a bird box (a bit wonky).  Refilling all the bird feeders.  Clearing out the ponds. 

Being out there paid off when we noticed this little beauty (a peacock butterfly) sunbathing next to one of the ponds

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Top of my self help list is always going to be getting out in my garden.  It's not as peaceful as it can be right now as there are still 2 workmen next door building my neighbours kitchen extension 

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On 3/23/2020 at 11:25 PM, FairreLilette said:

Unless they could make a bed out of it...

 

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Cats can make a bed out of anything.

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For anyone feeling off kilter, this blog post by author Chuck Wendig is a good read. (Warning: in usual Wendig-ian style, it contains no small amount of swearing, but in that cathartic kind of way that's very satisfying to read.) http://terribleminds.com/ramble/2020/03/19/its-okay-that-youre-not-okay/

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We’re all in mourning from the death of normalcy. We’re all knocked off balance, like someone just kicked your bike as you were riding it. You ended up in the ditch. We’re all in the ditch with you. It’s okay to just sit here in the ditch for a while and say, “F***.” It’s okay to wait before you stretch, before you stand up with a groan and see what’s broken.

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Getting outside a bit, also continuing the spring cleaning...washing up some small china pieces after bringing them out to use. 
Taking comfort in everyday routine as well. I’m taking melatonin and sleeping better. So my outlook is more balanced now. 

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Soft kitty, warm kitty...

petting him and hearing his purrs is so calming. 

 

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