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Anyone encountered really mean people on here?

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I was curious as to whether you meant SL, these Forums or both ūüôā

The forums seem MUCH better than the drama-fest they used to be.

Within SL, it largely depends on where you go and what kinds of groups you belong to.

Unfortunately, there is an ideological schism between people who see SL as a ‚Äúgame‚ÄĚ where anonymous internet people trash talk one another, and those who see it as a virtual world populated with real people.

I am fond of Mute/Derender as a response to recreational griefers and Trolls.

I try to get along with those whom I merely disagree with however, as I am sometimes successful in differentiating between candor and trolling.

..and yeah; RL is pretty much just as bad :-)

 

...and the REALLY annoying ones ......

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Sure, but it¬īs a waste of time and energy to deal with them with the hope, that they would change their behavior. It will never happen really. People who have meanness deeply rooted in their personality don¬īt care about other people and possible sanctions like a ban.¬† Just block and leave them alone simply. It¬īs better to Interrupt any contact to them quickly before it ends a waste drama.

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On 3/16/2020 at 9:29 AM, Tolya Ugajin said:

First, mean is in the eye of the beholder.  Some people are just whiny cupcakes who cry over every perceived slight, real or imagined.  Perhaps there would be less "meanness" and "bullying" if people stopped being so darned fragile.

Second, SL is an anonymous medium.  People's worst tendencies are accentuated in such media.  That's why Farcebook is such a morass of jassackery.  That's why you see people (myself included) more open about their kinks and perversions here, among other things, while at the same time being extremely cautious of their RL information becoming public.  Meanwhile, the mentality that precious little snowflakes are entitled to an existence where no poopoo heads are ever mean to them is also exaggerated, because, well, the Lab should make everyone be nice.  It's like watching kindergartners cry sometimes.

Third, unlike in RL, you have the absolute ability to restrict who you hear - simply mute and move on.  Take control of your own SL experience rather than letting the jackinapes control you.

When my club was open and running high traffic, it wasn't the griefers and trolls and lag and cost that got me, it was the constant barrage of complaining about "Johnny is being a jerk" by grown adults who should be able to handle interpersonal issues themselves that finally made me close it.  I'm not sure what makes SL worse - the trolls and griefers, or the adult children who expect someone else to solve every little problem.  The world is full of Richards - deal with it.

I was raised on tough love ;) 

I gotta say that the latter is way worse through my experiences.  They whine over every little thing and then say something along the lines of: "Oh you're being insensitive" and whah whah, they wouldn't truly know what something insensitive really was. They just throw just words around willy-nilly.

In a ironic twist, I've found that most trolls are far more mature than most residents are. They just do these things to get a reaction out of these specific people and it works and these people then wonder why: "Why am I being trolled!?" etc etc. Shouldn't it be obvious? These man-children give them ammo for it.

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7 minutes ago, Simo Vodopan said:

In a ironic twist, I've found that most trolls are far more mature than most residents are. They just do these things to get a reaction out of these specific people and it works and these people then wonder why: "Why am I being trolled!?" etc etc. Shouldn't it be obvious? These man-children give them ammo for it.

Ahem, not that this describes me on the Forum at all, noooooo, not a bit!  Some times, and some people, it's just too darned fun to push their buttons.

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I have, but whatever mean things people say to me is their prerogative and I take them as such. I often find that when people are being excessively mean without the intention of trolling, they do that to deal with their insecurities for whatever reason, and sometimes when we don't take the mean things they say to heart and just treat it like a normal social situation they'll start to open up and we'll see the person behind the mean words :)

The best way to get over people's mean words is to not let them affect you, if you have low tolerance to insults you can block or mute them but learning how to not let them affect you in the first place is the best thing you can do.

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On 3/15/2020 at 11:34 PM, Axelfoxthefoxyfluff said:

I mean like toxic people who don't seem to know or care that when they are acting mean, that they are hurting real people with how they act.

The initial question here was really smart. Many people don't understand that some people are oblivious to how they act. Or they don't understand the ways that others are likely to perceive their actions. Combine someone who's oblivious to how they are perceived with somebody who's certain every slight is deliberate? That's where the really dramatic clashes begin.

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On 3/16/2020 at 1:34 AM, Axelfoxthefoxyfluff said:

I mean like toxic people who don't seem to know or care that when they are acting mean, that they are hurting real people with how they act.

Most of them have me muted, so in a way they are really being nice to me... i guess it's all just a matter of perspective that's all.

 

 

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Some people on here really have problems when they descend into anger, expletives and abusiveness within a few IMs the last I experienced yesterday one of these types of people ended with "I hope you die of Corona virus" because they didn't like what I told them, it's not my fault if a group called "Free Land" has never given away any free land in 11+ years despite the group description saying it would

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Although I hate generalisations, ........................those who descend into juvenile playground insults like "I hope you die of......" know they have lost the argument, and that's their last throw of the dice. I don't hear it very often, but I can just shrug it off, as the words of frustration and anger, and lack of rational thinking.

I'm half Vulcan by the way. :)

 

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I don't know, I wouldn't wish actual death on anyone, but if coronavirus made John Nobhead poo a massive Lego brick, I wouldn't be sad about it. 

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Recently I witnessed a vicious and truly nasty spat between a club owner and a DJ in the club's group chat.  I was actually quite shocked even though it was difficult to work out what the row was actually about.

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11 minutes ago, Conifer Dada said:

Recently I witnessed a vicious and truly nasty spat between a club owner and a DJ in the club's group chat.  I was actually quite shocked even though it was difficult to work out what the row was actually about.

I'm imagining the scenario at Club Nasty Pants with live screeching by club owner Pantsface Nasty and DJ Inyerface Nasty as they head to their third divorce this year.

Disclaimer: These people are not real.

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20 hours ago, BelindaN said:

Although I hate generalisations, ........................those who descend into juvenile playground insults like "I hope you die of......" know they have lost the argument, and that's their last throw of the dice. I don't hear it very often, but I can just shrug it off, as the words of frustration and anger, and lack of rational thinking.

I'm half Vulcan by the way. :)

 

and half Betazoid , maybe :) ?

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I've only ever encountered a few truly mean/toxic people in my time in SL thankfully. They end up on my block list.

The most commonly toxic person I find are those intent on finding anything and everything to dislike or judge others on if the person does not fit into a certain criteria. Those are the type I encounter most who like to tell me I'm fake because no one can be that nice.

I'm the same person here in SL as I am in RL. I'm not going to pretend to be someone I'm not. I'm sure there are plenty out there who feel I'm not good enough. I no longer worry about it. It's hard not to care what others think, but it's an important life lesson of survival to learn to let it go. 

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I've ran across more rude people than outright mean/toxic ones. In fact, I have the pleasure of saying no one has been exactly hateful to me. Rude, of course but not toxic. But if they do, well I've been told about this nifty little function called the BLOCK button. 

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