Marigold Devin Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 1 minute ago, Beth Macbain said: My skin care routine at age 50 is far more convoluted, expensive, and insane than it was when I was 15! My skin is still pretty decent, but I get breakouts now like never before. Goofy hormones. Eczema was something that cropped up halfway through my menopause, and I was astounded when my doctor prescribed - actually prescribed for me - Aveeno cream, you know, the stuff advertised by Jennifer Aniston. I never saw her skin look anything less than perfect. I wash my face with extra moisturising baby bath (a supermarket own brand) along with the rest of my body, and that actually works better than any of the creams. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marigold Devin Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 1 minute ago, Beth Macbain said: Noooooooooooooo... just enjoy it for what it is! Reconnecting with an old friend! Thanks. Truly. That is exactly what my brother has said. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela Galli Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 19 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said: Yep. It has been 3 years since the monthly annoyance, yet I still find myself being oddly overly emotional at random times. Sometimes, between the emotions and the zits, it really is like being a teenager all over again All my life I have not been a crier (unless as my daughter points out, it had to do with WW2 but I digress). But the last three years I have cried several times a day,and always over the same thing: kindness. I am undone by kindness. I don’t know if it’s hormones or Current events, which I am taking really hard. 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marigold Devin Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 7 minutes ago, Pamela Galli said: All my life I have not been a crier (unless as my daughter points out, it had to do with WW2 but I digress). But the last three years I have cried several times a day,and always over the same thing: kindness. I am undone by kindness. I don’t know if it’s hormones or Current events, which I am taking really hard. When I was a child, everyone helped each other out. My mum used to go out to work as well as my dad, and so my friend's mum used to pick me up from school and have me at their house until my mum came home. When we had powercuts, we would exchange candles with a neighbour for a kettle of water heated on their gas stove. Kindness was in abundance back then. As time has gone on, there seems to be much less kindness. There seems to be no time for kindness, in the hustle and bustle of everyone having to rush here and there and everywhere, commuting to work, always with a face full of technology. And so any random act of kindness really makes an impact. But menopause, for sure, has made everything pin sharp in real time (but has taken a lot of my short term memory - you win some, you lose some!) 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy Evanier Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Absolutely broken. I have just had confirmation that my wonderful, amazing, perfectly imperfect partner lost his battle with cancer this morning. We almost made it to 11 years in this mad crazy world. I couldn't tell you all what was going on before now because I didn't want it to be true. I wanted the miracle though as we passed Christmas and into the New Year that started to look less and less likely. Words are not enough so here's our song. Everyone please hold your loved one tight as you never know when it will be the last chance. 25 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth Macbain Posted February 21, 2020 Author Share Posted February 21, 2020 @Cindy Evanier My heart is absolutely breaking for you. All we can do is wrap you in love and hugs and be here for you, and we will be. Anything you need, please let us know. Anything we can at all. And your song is one of my favorites. It's beautiful. I'm so sorry. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pamela Galli Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Oh Cindy, I am so so sorry. It sounds like an amazing relationship. If you do feel like talking about it we are here. <hugs> 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MrsSeren Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 20 minutes ago, Cindy Evanier said: Absolutely broken. I have just had confirmation that my wonderful, amazing, perfectly imperfect partner lost his battle with cancer this morning. We almost made it to 11 years in this mad crazy world. I couldn't tell you all what was going on before now because I didn't want it to be true. I wanted the miracle though as we passed Christmas and into the New Year that started to look less and less likely. Words are not enough so here's our song. Everyone please hold your loved one tight as you never know when it will be the last chance. Cindy; this for you right and I'm so sorry for your loss! 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Marigold Devin Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 27 minutes ago, Cindy Evanier said: Absolutely broken. I have just had confirmation that my wonderful, amazing, perfectly imperfect partner lost his battle with cancer this morning. We almost made it to 11 years in this mad crazy world. I couldn't tell you all what was going on before now because I didn't want it to be true. I wanted the miracle though as we passed Christmas and into the New Year that started to look less and less likely. Words are not enough so here's our song. Everyone please hold your loved one tight as you never know when it will be the last chance. I can't find the right words - it just shouldn't have happened, you should have had 11 or 22 or 33 more years. The song is beautiful. I'm so sorry. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MoiraKathleen Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Cindy, so sorry - my condolences on your loss. From little things you've mentioned from time to time, it sounds like you had a long, wonderful and fun relationship. <hugs> 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LittleMe Jewell Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 OMG, @Cindy Evanier - I am so very sorry for your loss. There are no words that can ease such pain. Just know that I'm thinking of you and sending many virtual hugs your way. 5 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rolig Loon Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 You must be devastated, Cindy. There's no way to be ready for times like this, even when you can see them coming from far off. We beg for more time to be with the people we love and care for. There's never enough. Hold the memories that you shared in your heart. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LexxiXhan Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 @Cindy Evanier - I'm so sorry. It must have been so hard keeping that to yourself! And now reality has been so cruel to you. All the hugs you need, and more xx 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajay McDowwll Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 (edited) (edited out of existence) Edited February 21, 2020 by Ajay McDowwll It seriously didn't belong in this thread anymore. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ajay McDowwll Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Cindy, I am so, so very sorry to hear this. I'll be thinking about you. Virtual hugs going your way, if they're welcome ❤️ 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bitsy Buccaneer Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 adding my hugs and sympathy and whatever else you need Cindy x 3 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ivanova Shostakovich Posted February 21, 2020 Share Posted February 21, 2020 Oh Cindy, I’m so sorry to hear. You have my sympathies and my tears. Other people can always say these things better than me. “When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.” -Kahlil Gibran 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kali Wylder Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 (edited) 9 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said: Absolutely broken. Oh Cindy! My heart goes out to you. I lost my partner to lung cancer back in December of 2014. He was in remission and then it came back with a vengeance in the Spring of 2014. I was incredibly messed up for over a year after that. I still think about him even now, but the pain has mellowed and I mostly just remember the love. I'm so sorry for you loss. Edited February 22, 2020 by kali Wylder and I love your song too 4 1 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scylla Rhiadra Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Oh, Cindy. I have no words really, or none that feel adequate. I'm thinking of you. 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy Evanier Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 Thank you everyone for your kind words and thoughts. It really does mean a lot. I have known for a long time that one day I was going to need this thread and that was why I got a bit ranty on occasions when it went off track I feel a strange peace today after a proper nights sleep. I know he is no longer in pain. I don't need to constantly check my phone every hour just in case he was able to send a text. I was too scared to phone him in the last couple of weeks and have his daughter or brother answer and have to start explaining who this crazy woman was in his life. Anyway I am sure there will be a lot of highs and lows to come but as always I will probably add my silly humour to it. Thank you all for being here. ❤️ 14 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bitsy Buccaneer Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 @Kirsten Linden can we PLEASE have a hug button? 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Panteleeva Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 6 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said: Thank you everyone for your kind words and thoughts. It really does mean a lot. I have known for a long time that one day I was going to need this thread and that was why I got a bit ranty on occasions when it went off track I feel a strange peace today after a proper nights sleep. I know he is no longer in pain. I don't need to constantly check my phone every hour just in case he was able to send a text. I was too scared to phone him in the last couple of weeks and have his daughter or brother answer and have to start explaining who this crazy woman was in his life. Anyway I am sure there will be a lot of highs and lows to come but as always I will probably add my silly humour to it. Thank you all for being here. ❤️ 19 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said: Absolutely broken. I have just had confirmation that my wonderful, amazing, perfectly imperfect partner lost his battle with cancer this morning. We almost made it to 11 years in this mad crazy world. I couldn't tell you all what was going on before now because I didn't want it to be true. I wanted the miracle though as we passed Christmas and into the New Year that started to look less and less likely. Words are not enough so here's our song. Everyone please hold your loved one tight as you never know when it will be the last chance. this is heartbreaking. my condolences and hugs! 4 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Madelaine McMasters Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 I'm so saddened by your loss. I wish you the best as you deal with it. 7 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said: ...and have to start explaining who this crazy woman was in his life. You are a crazy woman in more than one life, ya know. Thank you for that, Cindy. 6 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cindy Evanier Posted February 22, 2020 Share Posted February 22, 2020 I feel like I pulled the pin, threw a grenade and killed the thread... you guys can continue with your own posts PLEASE x 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Beth Macbain Posted February 22, 2020 Author Share Posted February 22, 2020 I'm feeling good today, though slightly introspective. My recent troubles with a certain person have made me look at my other squabbles with other forumites and realize how silly most of them were. I don't hate anyone, and though I might not agree with the opinions of some people, I don't even really dislike them. Some names are coming off my block list because even though we butted heads at some point, the truth is I still open their posts, read them, and usually enjoy and agree with them. I don't even hate the person who initiated this introspection. Oh, she's not coming off my block list, but I don't hate her. I feel sorry for her because there have to be things in her real life that are horrific to make her behave the way she does. @Cindy Evanier - You used this thread for what it was intended for, and I'm glad you did instead of not sharing with us. I just wish I could wrap you in a big squishy hug and hold on for as long as you need. We all have our troubles and some days one of us has troubles that far outweigh anything the rest of us are going through. This is your time to be in the middle of our fretting and fussing over because we want you to know you are supported and loved. So just hush and let us be here for you. Or don't hush. Let it all out if you need or want to. I understand how you're feeling today. That heavy sadness tinged with just a tiny bit of relief that his pain is over and the realization that you don't have to keep checking that phone - and probably a bit of guilt for that little sense of relief as well. Mourning is a process... all those stages of grief and they come in waves, and out of order, and never when you really expect them to hit, and it's different for everyone. We'll be here for whatever you need. So there! ...great big hugs... 8 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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