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N-ot yet, there were two slight possibilities, but never happened. I have joined a group for SL/RL, but nothing promising yet Currently living in an odd area...

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I am not really in SL to meet people.  I am there to decorate, go shopping, explore and play dress up barbie.   I have no desire to voice chat, skype , or meet anyone from SL in RL.  SL is my stress relief from RL and I just want to keep that separate.

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7 hours ago, karynmaria said:

I am not really in SL to meet people.  I am there to decorate, go shopping, explore and play dress up barbie.   I have no desire to voice chat, skype , or meet anyone from SL in RL.  SL is my stress relief from RL and I just want to keep that separate.

One of these days I am going to figure out how people manage to separate from themselves and live. I mean, they still haven't learned how to separate every pair of conjoined twins that are born. If you have no desire to socialize (at least a little) then why are you posting on the forum? I don't ask because I need the answer, I ask because you need the answer.

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10 hours ago, Selene Gregoire said:

If you have no desire to socialize (at least a little) then why are you posting on the forum? I don't ask because I need the answer, I ask because you need the answer.

Actually what @karynmaria said was pretty clear and simple. She enjoys SL but doesn't want RL contact with SL people. 

She never said that that she didn't want to socialise @Selene Gregoire then you suggested that she question herself.

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2 minutes ago, Layla Claven said:

Actually what @karynmaria said was pretty clear and simple. She enjoys SL but doesn't want RL contact with SL people. 

She never said that that she didn't want to socialise @Selene Gregoire then you suggested that she question herself.

I am reasonably certain she is quite capable of replying to my post for herself. If she doesn't want to clarify what she meant, that is for her to decide. I'm trying to understand something that has never made sense to me by asking for clarity from a specific person that has said they keep SL separate from RL. I don't see how that is possible since you are the same person in RL that you are in SL. People don't just change into a completely different person instantly. Shapeshifters don't exist in the real world.

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5 minutes ago, Selene Gregoire said:

I am reasonably certain she is quite capable of replying to my post for herself. If she doesn't want to clarify what she meant, that is for her to decide. I'm trying to understand something that has never made sense to me by asking for clarity from a specific person that has said they keep SL separate from RL. I don't see how that is possible since you are the same person in RL that you are in SL. People don't just change into a completely different person instantly. Shapeshifters don't exist in the real world.

Ok, I understand that.

I know everyone is different in SL but I'll tell you how I am.

My main or oldest account is married to my RL husband. He doesn't go in to SL very often. (not great with PC stuff and would rather be playing his guitars)

Then I have Layla who sometimes has SL boyfriends which my husband is well aware of and has spoken to. 

I'm not a completely different person at all and emotions do get involved but who ever I am with in SL knows up front that I am married and it is just an SL thing. 

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SL is my hobby for building and I like to play around with the fashions.  I never came here with an intention for anything real life.  So, no is the answer for me. 

I can be your SL friend for casual fun...but nothing more.  I am divorced in rl after a very long time and I like being single and free to do whatever I want for the first time in my life.   Most of my SL friends know I am divorced and they even think it's a good thing to take time out from romantic relationships.

But, to meet in rl for friendship?  Not at this time...I'm just learning MAPS and been learning photoshop only 5 months (meaning stuff I never did in photoshop before AND stuff I've wanted to learn for 15 years).

 

 

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On 8/14/2019 at 4:35 AM, Selene Gregoire said:

...keep SL separate from RL. I don't see how that is possible since you are the same person in RL that you are in SL. People don't just change into a completely different person instantly. Shapeshifters don't exist in the real world.

although I am almost the same in sl with rl, the similarities are only in terms of beliefs, ideals, feelings. What I do not like in rl I do not like in sl too.I like the same music, I love the same arrangements, I like to explore new things in both worlds.at the same time, in rl I am constrained by many things that do not exist in sl. age and biology do not exist in sl, as well as geographical locations, or the need for transportation between them. My avatar is ageless, i'm not.if anyone likes me, it is for what I represent in sl. I don't think it's important that I am x, y, z years old, or living in the x, y, z, or that I have x, y, z weight, height, shoe numbers. I can have 10 children or none, maybe I am in my tenth marriage or I have never had a rl partner.how does this influence a dance with someone in a club or a few moments under the moonlight with someone?  no rl infos, no rl meetings because I do not use sl as a dating app, I am not physically interested in the person behind the avatar.

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1 minute ago, Kweopi said:

although I am almost the same in sl with rl, the similarities are only in terms of beliefs, ideals, feelings. What I do not like in rl I do not like in sl too.I like the same music, I love the same arrangements, I like to explore new things in both worlds.at the same time, in rl I am constrained by many things that do not exist in sl. age and biology do not exist in sl, as well as geographical locations, or the need for transportation between them. My avatar is ageless, i'm not.if anyone likes me, it is for what I represent in sl. I don't think it's important that I am x, y, z years old, or living in the x, y, z, or that I have x, y, z weight, height, shoe numbers. I can have 10 children or none, maybe I am in my tenth marriage or I have never had a rl partner.how does this influence a dance with someone in a club or a few moments under the moonlight with someone?  no rl infos, no rl meetings because I do not use sl as a dating app, I am not physically interested in the person behind the avatar.

You are not me. If someone can't accept me for who and what I am in RL they damn sure won't be able to accept me in SL.  And vice versa. That is the difference. If you can't accept me as I am... keep walking. I don't need or want your kind of person in my life. That is the long and short of it.

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I find it interesting that some people vehemently defend their right to separate RL and SL life, yet turn around and say things like I don't use SL as a dating app as if it is wrong.  I ask certain questions when i meet someone like "where are you from" and "how old are you"  Does it matter? Age certainly does to me. If i'm going to form a friendship that might end up spending a few moments under the moonlight i don't want them to be 19 years old with me being 57.   I don't want it to be a woman that i'm spending time under the moonlight either.  That's just me. If I am going to spend a significant amount of time with someone then I am also interested in if they have children or grandchildren, what they do for work, etc.  There are times that I want to discuss things and not be afraid to talk about them, like when my daughter sends me a cute video of my grandson or if i had a great day at work and why.  If it's 105 degrees out I may want someone to commiserate with.  I personally don't get why people are so against sharing such basic information about themselves.  If you are unwilling to share even that it would be a sure bet that we wouldn't become more than an acquaintance.  I have enough of those in my RL and would like to make some genuine friendships *and have* here.  If you have "RL is RL and SL is SL"  in your profile then I probably won't even strike up a conversation with you.  I also avoid people who say "NO DRAMA" in their profile too as it is pretty sure drama follows them. :) 

I met a very lovely woman that is my age and we live about 2 hours away from each other.  We are planning on getting together one Saturday for lunch.  If neither of us had shared RL we wouldn't have a chance to make a RL friend.  

One thing I want to add is that if you are contemplating meeting anyone in RL then get all the RL information you can before you do.  Make sure someone knows where you are going and and meet in a public place. All things that are common sense.  Unfortunately in this day and age it just is too dangerous not to get this information before you jump in and run off meeting a stranger.

 

 

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