When did you last see a Bellessarian home available?

[RacyAcey]

10 hours ago, Izzy Harcassle said:

Just got a Traditional Home in Sweetmarsh! 

Congratulations, me too - we must be neighbors.

[RacyAcey]

4 hours ago, Gordon Nadezda said:

I just logged into Second Life and decided to see what houses were available. Wham, bam.....I got a Bellisseria-themed house (Traditional) on Greenbow!!!

Congratulations!

[RacyAcey]

3 hours ago, Elora Lunasea said:

6:00 am would be a dream. I wake up at 5:10 am, and I'm out the door at 6:15 am to head into NYC. 

The only good thing is I leave at 4:15pm, which is nearly 2 hours earlier than everyone else. After being there for 10 years, I finally was like - look, I'm up at the crack of dawn anyway to feed cats, so why don't I just come in, work through lunch (I eat at my desk) and just leave early so I actually enjoy my evenings?  Luckily, my boss was cool with it 😊 Works much better for me.

So jealous that you get to go to NYC so much....I love that town.....only been there 2x - but I wish I could live there.....I guess Bellisseria is the next best place.

[kiramanell]

6 hours ago, AlyceAdrift said:

One or two. Not nearly as many as you or anybody else thinks I have. I know for a fact that I'm not the only one trying for a better location.

Seriously no reason to hate on me for that. 

 

[Ciarra Lexington]

Just now, Beth Macbain said:

Yes, we are. As are Moles and Lindens. Everyone has things they are dealing with. You, my dear, don't know what's happening in anyone's world. 

What we can control, however, are our reactions. Someone has been reacting very badly on multiple platforms and she has been repeatedly called on it. I'll ignore a misbehaving child in a restaurant, but not a misbehaving adult in my neighborhood. 

But thank you for the lecture. 

I certainly did not say I know what's happening in everyone's world. I said the opposite in my post. NO ONE does. If attacking me for adding my opinion about this makes you feel important, Beth, more power to you. I'll even let you have the final say, so you can insult me again with another " You, my dear, don't know what's happening in anyone's world."  and "But thank you for the lecture." I was not the least bit unkind in my post, and it was not directed at only you. You chose to see it as a personal insult. I've said what I wanted to say, and that's it for me. Carry on, in whatever manner makes you feel good. 

[Sylvia Tamalyn]

1 minute ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

I certainly did not say I know what's happening in everyone's world. I said the opposite in my post. NO ONE does. If attacking me for adding my opinion about this makes you feel important, Beth, more power to you. I'll even let you have the final say, so you can insult me again with another " You, my dear, don't know what's happening in anyone's world."  and "But thank you for the lecture." I was not the least bit unkind in my post, and it was not directed at only you. You chose to see it as a personal insult. I've said what I wanted to say, and that's it for me. Carry on, in whatever manner makes you feel good. 

You were judging others.

[RacyAcey]

14 hours ago, Bitsy Buccaneer said:

 

Thanks for the kind thoughts.

The downside of waiting is that the more of Bellisseria there is, the harder it will be for a new community place to get noticed. When I first started trying, people were enthusiastically posting about the cafes and other places residents had made to share with the community. That's fallen off already and the "look what I found" posts are about the Moles' wonderful efforts. What will it be like in a year? I simply don't have the stamina or energy to do much to promote a place so I was counting on getting some of the Belli exploration effect to help. Meanwhile more infrastructure for things to do is being built, which is great for Bellisseria but does mean less attention to go around for everything else.

If it's two years, then I'll have to pay the increased rate to continue with the alt's premium in addition to the increased price for the two prems I use for my shop. All of that will be harder to justify with my limited income. Basically, when I made the alt premium to try for a Belli house, it was affordable and making a community space that would be used by others seemed feasible. The longer it takes to get there, the harder it will be and eventually it will cost more too.

As for right now, it's become like the rest of my life, with the limitations imposed by chronic ill health keeping me on the sidelines, observing others enjoying life and me exhausting myself trying to join in. I had thought it was something I could do, but it's become just another thing for me to fail at. For the sake of my health, I have to put a time limit on how long I'll continue to waste precious energy on it.

I do wish everyone else well and hope you all find lovely homes to build your dreams in.

I hope you are able to get a home soon.

[GinaFreumann]

I've already "Ignored" one really nasty person, & I'm much happier for it  😉

[karynmaria]

Just now, GinaFreumann said:

I've already "Ignored" one really nasty person, & I'm much happier for it  😉

I can't do it as I am afraid I will miss something!  I am just to nosey to put people on ignore. 

[Ciarra Lexington]

3 minutes ago, Sylvia Tamalyn said:

You were judging others.

Of course, Sylvia. I was "judging" her by repeating what she said to me, and her response of taking my post personally. 

[Sylvia Tamalyn]

2 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

Of course, Sylvia. I was "judging" her by repeating what she said to me, and her response of taking my post personally. 

I was referring to your earlier post, the one Beth was replying to.

[Layla Claven]

Well, you may as well 'judge' me while you're at it because I second Beth's response and I think you will find I'm not the only person to agree with it.

[kiramanell]

8 minutes ago, Layla Claven said:

Well, you may as well 'judge' me while you're at it because I second Beth's response and I think you will find I'm not the only person to agree with it.

 

Thirded.

[Ciarra Lexington]

Just now, Layla Claven said:

Well, you may as well 'judge' me while you're at it because I second Beth's response and I think you will find I'm not the only person to agree with it.

I wasn't judging anyone, Layla. What I was saying in my original post was that as people continuously responded to her with their own snarkiness, it just made her react even more. It wasn't helping anything, and the better course of action was to simply ignore her. If my post is being perceived as nasty and judgmental, I can't do anything about that. But I'm beginning to see how it may have developed into what it did with the member who was complaining. My post has been blown into something it absolutely wasn't. I was simply saying it was best to ignore her, and to try to be a better human about it. I was attacked for that. Wow. 

[Sylvia Tamalyn]

3 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

try to be a better human about it

There's another judgment.

[Brat Spicy]

52 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

If reading her posts rankles your nerves, it's simple. Don't read them.

Yep, she got on my nerves. Simply because this is a positive topic, not a moan and whine topic. We already have 3000 of those. Here people help eachother, are happy for eachother and keep track of what they see. You coming in here hours later with your statement is not very constructive either.

[kiramanell]

47 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

Because of RL obligations, I knew I was going to miss today's release, so I came here to see which one it was, some general info, etc. While following the chat, I noticed one particular person (not mentioning names) who is frequently venting her frustration over not getting a perfectly located home. Many of you were responding to her posts in an equally snippy way, and this makes no sense to me at all. Why keep it going?

 

Now, here's a thought that's really going to bake your noodle, later on... wait for it... Indeed, why keep "frequently venting her frustration over not getting a perfectly located home"? 😁 I mean, seriously, why keep it going? I get it, she's not happy. Why does the community need to hear about it a zillion times? As others have said (and far better than me), ppl are getting frustrated with the constant whining; and yes, it's whining: saying you're sad you don't have a home yet, fully understandable; maybe even vent, to get it out of your system; been there, done that. But we're not even talking about not being able to snag a home: just the 1st world problem of not finding the perfect location (and subsequently having abandoned several homes in the process). There is only a limited amount of homes, and, naturally, an even more limited amount of perfect spots. I think she just needs to find a way to live with that -- you know, like most everyone else has.

[Layla Claven]

To be honest though @Ciarra Lexington this person is pretty difficult to ignore when she is constantly moaning in group chat then carries it on in to here when in actually fact there is nothing for her to moan about.

For example when one of my children have said 'I want' or 'can I ?' and my answer has been no, you can guarantee the next question is going to be 'why ?'. I'm not an irrational person, there is always a reason as to why my answer has been 'no'.  What I don't understand is why when something is explained to a child, they get it, that's the end of it. So doesn't an adult?

 

[LittleMe Jewell]

1 hour ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

Because of RL obligations, I knew I was going to miss today's release, so I came here to see which one it was, some general info, etc. While following the chat, I noticed one particular person (not mentioning names) who is frequently venting her frustration over not getting a perfectly located home. Many of you were responding to her posts in an equally snippy way, and this makes no sense to me at all. Why keep it going? If reading her posts rankles your nerves, it's simple. Don't read them. But, if you're quoting her and adding your own sarcastic or snarky remarks, you're truly not any better. And sure, you could say the same about me for adding this post to the mix. The difference is, mine is purely intended as a gentle reminder that even the crabbiest of us are people, too. You don't know what's happening in their world. You don't know why something like this is so important to them. Don't judge. People are going to complain, that's just human nature for many. However, those who rant without an audience, will quiet down a lot faster once they realize no one is listening. Peace, all. 

 

38 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

I wasn't judging anyone

 

The bolded part of your original post, shown above, would be the judgmental part.

 

[Ciarra Lexington]

1 minute ago, Layla Claven said:

To be honest though @Ciarra Lexington this person is pretty difficult to ignore when she is constantly moaning in group chat then carries it on in to here when in actually fact there is nothing for her to moan about.

For example when one of my children have said 'I want' or 'can I ?' and my answer has been no, you can guarantee the next question is going to be 'why ?'. I'm not an irrational person, there is always a reason as to why my answer has been 'no'.  What I don't understand is why when something is explained to a child, they get it, that's the end of it. So doesn't an adult?

 

I agree with you. I wasn't saying she should be entitled to constantly complain here. It seemed to just get her going even more when people responded to her, so it seemed the best way was to ignore it, and eventually (maybe, maybe not) she would stop. I don't know if that would help, but I do know she's been posting this way for a while, so she'll probably be back on the next release day, if not sooner. So, everyone can just keep poking to make her growl louder, or simply leave her alone, and maybe she'll tone it down. That's what I was saying, and I was attacked from all sides for it. It makes me wonder if she started out with a simple, frustrated post, and it grew into what it is now. If you read my original post, I wasn't the least bit hateful. I was suggesting a solution, and from that, had my words and my supposed intentions twisted and thrown back at me. I've never enjoyed these forums because of this very thing, and only started now because of the new homes. I'll find another way to get the info I need, to avoid this. 

[Ciarra Lexington]

3 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

 

 

The bolded part of your original post, shown above, would be the judgmental part.

 

That's not me judging, they are facts, if you read through the chat history. 

[Sylvia Tamalyn]

[LittleMe Jewell]

4 minutes ago, Ciarra Lexington said:

That's not me judging, they are facts, if you read through the chat history. 

I'll accept that you don't think it is judgmental and apparently did not intend it as such.  However, I've re-read it a few times and it still sounds judgmental to me.

 

The nature of forums - there is no tonal inflection or body language and thus we all read posts with out own biases, often not interpreting things the same way, and sometimes not as the poster intended.

[Ciarra Lexington]

2 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

I'll accept that you don't think it is judgmental and apparently did not intend it as such.  However, I've re-read it a few times and it still sounds judgmental to me.

 

The nature of forums - there is no tonal inflection or body language and thus we all read posts with out own biases, often not interpreting things the same way, and sometimes not as the poster intended.

You're certainly entitled to your opinion, as am I. I've just learned that this forum isn't the place to have one, at least for me. I became the new target from one well intended post, and yes, judged for it. Good luck to all who are still waiting for a home. Peace and blessings. 

[Sylvia Tamalyn]