A friend would be nice..

[Johiro]

Hi, I'm 25 y.o, female and the name is Joi. Despite the sound of my name, I have social anxiety in rl and very very shy and introverted. I only talk to people who talk to me first and this is also reflecting very much of my second life. Initially when I first joined in this lovely virtual world, I told myself that I am going to be the opposite of what I am in real life, but that didn't happen. I spent most of my time in sl hanging out in a place where there are no people in it. Although there are times when I hangout in a crowded place, I find it hard to just IM a random person in fear that I might disturb what he or she is doing and also I have no idea what else to talk about. I don't like asking details about other people's real life so I get stuck after exchanging "Hi and Hello's". I know I sound like a drag.   I do get messages sometimes but most of them are about lewd stuff-  it's just getting old and annoying... so I'm back to my lonely hangout place. But recently, the owner told me she is going to close the place down. It makes me sad. I love that little place. 😢  I have grown quite attached to it. I don't know, I'm just a little lost in SL. A friend would be nice. 

 

Joia

[Madelaine McMasters]

Hi Joi, welcome to the forums!

Every Sunday, at 8AM SLT, there's a moveable feast hosted by someone in "The Breakfast Group". You'll find a few forumites there, and they're always happy to welcome new members, particularly if you like (or can pretend to like) bacon. They send a group notice every Saturday or so, announcing the venue for that week's breakfast. There is also "The Forum Cartel", a hangout and associated group for forum regulars.

I certainly understand your sadness over losing a quiet retreat in SL. I lived in Forgotten City for five lovely years before it vanished from the grid nearly four years ago. Now I'm a Nomad, generally standing like a tree stump in some quiet public place while I IM friends across the grid. Someday I might set out my skybox again, but not today.

Though you say you're very shy, you had the gumption to set foot in this madhouse, so I think there's hope for you. You can lurk here, observing us, or jump in and test the water. We might bark, but we don't bite.

Hugs,
Maddy

Edited June 9, 2019 by Madelaine McMasters

[Johiro]

Thank you Maddy. ❤️

[Madelaine McMasters]

You're welcome, Joi.

1 hour ago, Johiro said:

I only talk to people who talk to me first

I just scanned your profile and notice it's pretty bare. For those people who read profiles (like me), it's nice to see interests or other information there, to give both motivation and basis to talk to you first.

[Talligurl]

I will send you a friend request, my SL tends to be very haphazard and disorganized, but I would love to hang out sometime

[Bitsy Buccaneer]

I'm not inworld much, but

21 hours ago, Johiro said:

 I find it hard to just IM a random person in fear that I might disturb what he or she is doing and also I have no idea what else to talk about. I don't like asking details about other people's real life so I get stuck after exchanging "Hi and Hello's". I know I sound like a drag.

You sound kind and courteous, which isn't a bad thing at all. I wonder if putting some of this in your profile might help. With a positive slant, mind you   It would help anyone you're speaking to know that it's politeness not lack of interest on your part.

I'm not inworld much right now, but feel free to add me as a friend. I sometimes have problems starting conversations too because of health problems, but maybe we can muddle through together

[Bernadette Beningborough]

Hey! 
You can add me in SL 
Bernadette Beningborough  (long name I know) 

Would love to hang out with you! 

[BelindaN]

You can add me if you like, Joia.

I know some pretty and deserted sims myself, where I sometimes go alone for some peace!!

When you read the forums, you might think we're all out partying and socialising, but really, I, and others do spend a lot of time alone, working on outfits, taking photos or just shopping.

 

Edited June 17, 2019 by BelindaN

[Johiro]

On 6/12/2019 at 9:58 AM, Bernadette Beningborough said:

Hey! 
You can add me in SL 
Bernadette Beningborough  (long name I know) 

Would love to hang out with you! 

Thank you,  I will send you a request. 

[Johiro]

13 hours ago, BelindaN said:

You can add me if you like, Joia.

I know some pretty and deserted sims myself, where I sometimes go alone for some peace!!

When you read the forums, you might think we're all out partying and socialising, but really, I, and others do spend a lot of time alone, working on outfits, taking photos or just shopping.

 

Thank you Belinda  Will send a friend request when i get on.

[SusanPoora]

Hey, I love exploring alone most of the times, mainland 98% of the time, hehe. I hunt for freebies, and swim in the oceans! I just sit somewhere contemplating life at times toooo ^^ In-world name is, susanpoora resident. If you are interested to hangout sometimes, you are most welcome to♥ Hope to see that pop-up in my IMS! ^^ See ya, stay strong as you are, as always ^^

Edited June 18, 2019 by SusanPoora