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I have several years experience as an RL domme. I am seeking a female or male submissive for scening and roleplay in SL. I am also looking for companionship. I like to explore, shop, decorate, and chat with friends. I am seeking someone who is loyal and intelligent with a good sense of humor. If interested, IM me in world.

 

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5 hours ago, VenKellie said:

im a meerkat that loves trains and cuddles, would that qualify me?

Careful, she can compare you to others very easily.

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Just a thought, but I had massively better success locating a Submissive by *not* looking here on the forums.  

The SL Forums involve only a small fraction of the SL population, of which only *some* are on the Scene.

Checking out the BDSM venue of your choice *or* using one of the Avatar Dating Services might work better as people who are “actively looking” can be found in either locale.

I’m unsure if I can actually Name the service I accessed (without getting in trouble) when I was looking for my Girl, but the results were abnormally good as their search base had lots of “possibles” to scrub through.

Specific to BDSM - its handy to be able to search by the particular Kinks and Time Zones you’re interested in.

There *are* unicorns out there - they just need to be hunted in the right places 😉

Big Datasets = Higher Quality Results

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3 hours ago, AmandaKeen said:

I’m unsure if I can actually Name the service I accessed (without getting in trouble) ..

   As long as the service's name isn't profane on its own, I don't think there'd be any issue. Suggesting somewhere one might find something they are looking for isn't the same as advertising.

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9 minutes ago, Orwar said:

   As long as the service's name isn't profane on its own, I don't think there'd be any issue. Suggesting somewhere one might find something they are looking for isn't the same as advertising.

Thank you Orwar....

This will be a shocker, but AvMatch.com did a great job of putting what I was looking for in front of -the right audience.

Avatar matching services are looked at with a good deal of skepticism, but for this specific purpose - top marks 🙂

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46 minutes ago, AmandaKeen said:

Avatar matching services are looked at with a good deal of skepticism, but for this specific purpose - top marks

   Online dating services are almost universally looked at with a good deal of scepticism, but occasionally they do work - I'd expect an SL service to preform similarly. One of the reasons for the scepticism is the whole thing of distilling a person into a couple of lines, which generally don't do much to give you a good understanding of what kind of person they are; but the same could be said of 'people in SL', so I'd almost expect them to work slightly better for avatars than people.

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21 hours ago, Orwar said:

   Online dating services are almost universally looked at with a good deal of scepticism, but occasionally they do work - I'd expect an SL service to preform similarly. One of the reasons for the scepticism is the whole thing of distilling a person into a couple of lines, which generally don't do much to give you a good understanding of what kind of person they are; but the same could be said of 'people in SL', so I'd almost expect them to work slightly better for avatars than people.

BDSM in Second Life is hard to quantify as “all one thing” because - just like in RL - it’s practitioners vary in ideology, motivation and the soft skills that underpin a good Dom/Domme.

This leaves us with trying to narrow down the specific fetishes the Domme/Submissives wish to address and what hard limits they might have. That information -can- be quantified on a list. The value of that on an Avatar matching service means you can narrow the field of possibles considerably, and much faster than talking to one person at a time.

The other virtue has to deal with anonymity. The person “seeking” has an opportunity to “screen” potentials without revealing their identity until they feel confident that they have a viable candidate. This reduces the chance of having people with a penchant for “stalking” behaving badly if they are -not- the One offered a Negotiation.

Many people have issues with Rejection, so the anonymity of using the service is probably an emotional cushion for people -not- selected as they might not even know their profile was considered. Less drama is always good for SL.

Avatar marching is no better overall than going door to door from the aspect of -knowing- who a person is; but it can help you rule out people whose compatibility would be low and spare everyone’s feelings in the process.

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23 hours ago, Orwar said:

One of the reasons for the scepticism is the whole thing of distilling a person into a couple of lines

I avoid the skepticism by distilling them into li'l piles of ashes.

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On 3/29/2019 at 9:41 PM, ariaangelfire said:

I have several years experience as an RL domme. I am seeking a female or male submissive for scening and roleplay in SL. I am also looking for companionship. I like to explore, shop, decorate, and chat with friends. I am seeking someone who is loyal and intelligent with a good sense of humor. If interested, IM me in world.

 

Hi Aria, just a couple points to touch on. Speaking as an SL Domme, with some RL D/s experience, you're entering an entirely different world, so to speak, from RL Domming. The tools used are somewhat the same, but different. You don't have the physical queues, of course. And RLV can be confusing to new users. As tools, they greatly enhance immersion on both ends of the leash. But it pays to know the effects of those tools before using them on a sub. Confidence and knowledge of how to use those tools greatly enhances the confidence a sub will have in you. Far more than any RL experience will.

As far as finding that sub.. well in my experience, there are many many subs looking for the right Dom/me for them. It's probably a better idea to frequent D/s clubs and sims to find one that matches your style and preferences. Play with the ones that pique your interest and eventually the right one will fall into your trap lap. My time on is a bit chaotic this week, but I'll be happy to steer you towards some of the more quality sims I know of if you want.

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