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Five days in. How to make my experience on second life more fun and exhilarating? BDSM RP

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Hey everyone my name is Sasha and I've been enjoying my time on second life. The first two days it was getting boring mainly cause I didn't step up my profile nor did I know how to do anything until I got into the process of looking and examining where I was going wrong. Looked though tutorials and even gone on and talked to people to get their thoughts and opinions. One person even mention since I had the animation (whenever I type) wouldn't look as I was being serious which I learnt to disable however as I don't want to confuse second and real life together i decided to just leave it at that. But was thankful for letting me know. 

 

A bit of my background. I've actually rp on other social media and know what I like what it is to be a dom, read up and even went out before to some bdsm clubs so my experience of bdsm isn't just chains whips and abuse which I heard so many people doing when they top that actually makes me wonder. I like giving back. Hugging creasing and just holding my sub gently. Discipline them when I feel they need it. Although sadistic side hits me more since I do love abusing yet I know deep down there needs to be a balance of giving and receiving and I'm highly sensual. 

 

In the past three days I've been overwhelmed people were begging me, most I've blocked since the very first things they says was "oh please dom me." = instant block,  to dom them. I've did four sessions. All four were all fun and one given up their entire  control even introduced me to a place where it seems to be fun and exciting she's cute and adorable.  Another i rlv, one was going into it slowly telling me they don't want to give up total control which I highly respect but he keeps messaging me for more. 

 

The girl who given me all their control told me that they like the way I dominate even though it was like the first day. Since I given her freedom to move about. We communicated and it was fun however as someone who is anxious I took what she said (mentioning that she hates being in a cage, locked up away for a period of time and pure control, even mentions I one of the best dom she had) and thought about it, why she would tell me that this early? Lack of self confidence? Lack of being with other top which I doubt since she mention she had a few tops before and saw how other take control and says she prefers the way I do it.  I don't lock her in a single position since I know some people would make alts as their tops don't treat them or just plain out ignore them. Even read it on this forum.  I just discipline her since she touched herself and I want her to have more control of her own senses. Given her a few cuddles and she mentions I'm exciting, I've even punished her just to tease her mind a bit. I asked her again and again if she's comfortable and she tells me she is.  

 

Now onto the main part.. I'm just now thinking about how to improve and keep our relationship going and even going further. I've always wanted to go horse riding and go riding on a motorbike and even go to some clubs.  But what are some ways to spice up mine and her experience?  I'm not one for a single sub. I like multiple max of three and i mentioned it to others whom I top and the subs seems to respect that. 

 

Sorry for such a long post but I just wanted to make sure I got the image of what dom I am trying to portray as I've seen and read so many people complaining about the way they been treated but thanks you for the advice. 

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1 hour ago, Feniox008 said:

In the past three days I've been overwhelmed people were begging me, most I've blocked since the very first things they says was "oh please dom me." = instant block

A common experience for all of us. There is certainly no shortage of submissives in SL. Some are sweet and worth the effort, most are just desperate for a quickie.

1 hour ago, Feniox008 said:

Now onto the main part.. I'm just now thinking about how to improve and keep our relationship going and even going further. I've always wanted to go horse riding and go riding on a motorbike and even go to some clubs. 

Horse riding is a lot of fun, especially when you do something like turn them into a horse and ride them around the mainland. Not ponyplay as it is normally done, but something more like the Teegle horse.

Sail, explore, find a common interest for example photography. Lots of cuddles and talking. Roleplay of course, think of a theme and run with it. I encourage one of mine to build things and help them learn by teaching slowly.

1 hour ago, Feniox008 said:

I've seen and read so many people complaining about the way they been treated

There are a lot of people who claim they are dominants but they are not fit to carry the honorific at all. Sometimes they can be spotted as they often have the display-name MistressLash or SirSnuffleBunny or similar. These are the people who really damage submissives, and they leave a lot of broken people in their wake. One of my subs tells me some horror stories about their past, and I have a few submissive friends who were also broken by bad, greedy people pretending to be dominants.

 

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18 minutes ago, Callum Meriman said:

There are a lot of people who claim they are dominants but they are not fit to carry the honorific at all. Sometimes they can be spotted as they often have the display-name MistressLash or SirSnuffleBunny or similar.

This!

My advice, take your time (in everything).  Explore second life.  There is so much out there.  Find places and activities YOU enjoy and then introduce them to the sub's you are meeting and see how those places you enjoy fit into your relationships.  I totally agree it's not all whips and chains.  A D/s relationship can work just as well riding a rollercoaster together as in a dungeon, with the right person.  

Best of luck

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2 hours ago, Callum Meriman said:

Horse riding is a lot of fun, especially when you do something like turn them into a horse and ride them around the mainland. Not ponyplay as it is normally done, but something more like the Teegle horse.

Turning them into a horse or just riding in a carriage with them might actually be something worth checking out. Although my question would be how to get money. I'm well aware that I can always exchange real cash but I don't want to put that as an addiction. Was just checking the marketplace and seems really expensive for the body. 

2 hours ago, Callum Meriman said:

Sail, explore, find a common interest for example photography. Lots of cuddles and talking. Roleplay of course, think of a theme and run with it. I encourage one of mine to build things and help them learn by teaching slowly. 

Photography does sound great. I actually love modeling too. Plus the girl I am with tells me she gets lazy so actually engaging in some activity like that might do wonders and your right about taking things slowly. I'm just trying to get to know her better  instead of just beating around a dead tree. 

2 hours ago, Callum Meriman said:

Sometimes they can be spotted as they often have the display-name MistressLash or SirSnuffleBunny or similar. These are the people who really damage submissives, and they leave a lot of broken people in their wake. One of my subs tells me some horror stories about their past, and I have a few submissive friends who were also broken by bad, greedy people pretending to be dominants.

I'm sorry but those names are just far too cringy. Although I guess that's why they are easy to spot. My sub tells me she's scared of me changing my style since the place she introduced me has a lot of other doms there whom apparently were more abusive more than once. Which  hit me hard. 

2 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said:

My advice, take your time (in everything).  Explore second life.  There is so much out there.  Find places and activities YOU enjoy and then introduce them to the sub's you are meeting and see how those places you enjoy fit into your relationships.  I totally agree it's not all whips and chains.  A D/s relationship can work just as well riding a rollercoaster together as in a dungeon, with the right person.  

First few days all I really wanted was to see the D/S relationship since that attracted me to the place and how they are but now that I'm seeing a lot more regularly. Wondering how I can fit and balance it. I'll actually see if my sub would also like to explore with me. That way I can keep her at sight and at the same time it would help our character grow. 

 

There's really a lot of things to do in second life is quite overwhelming to just pick out one. 

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Just a general reply and not a "dom" thing, but quite a lot of folks will look at your profile and see how new you are and not really take you seriously (or try and take advantage of all you don't know yet). So TIME in general will be on your side and you will learn all that you need to know in all realms of SL.  

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3 hours ago, Callum Meriman said:

There are a lot of people who claim they are dominants but they are not fit to carry the honorific at all.  Sometimes they can be spotted as they often have the display-name MistressLash or SirSnuffleBunny or similar.

...peers over her glasses at you while directing your gaze to her last name.

I do think the name "SirSnuffleBunny" has potential.

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48 minutes ago, Chic Aeon said:

Just a general reply and not a "dom" thing, but quite a lot of folks will look at your profile and see how new you are and not really take you seriously (or try and take advantage of all you don't know yet). So TIME in general will be on your side and you will learn all that you need to know in all realms of SL.  

That's what I'm trying to do and work my profile up. Any general advice or should this be in a different topic? 

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5 minutes ago, Feniox008 said:

That's what I'm trying to do and work my profile up. Any general advice or should this be in a different topic? 

I just looked in world.  What you have written sounds fine.  Your profile pic is not rezzing for me.  It's just grey.  That is probably a whole other topic and not sure if its my issue or yours :/

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Profile photo gray for me also.  You need to drag the photo to the profile window and make sure you say SAVE.  If you put the photo up on the website instead of in the profile in the viewer, there may be an issue on that end. I never do it that way so don't know.

 

Your profile sounds fine.

 

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I'd guess that the grey photo may be related to the issues that were going on - based on a comment by Whirly in another thread

https://community.secondlife.com/forums/topic/423035-asset-server-broken/?do=findComment&comment=1755775

 

 And should now be resolved based on a very recent update to the Grid Status

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3 hours ago, Cindy Evanier said:

I just looked in world.  What you have written sounds fine.  Your profile pic is not rezzing for me.  It's just grey.  That is probably a whole other topic and not sure if its my issue or yours :/

 

2 hours ago, Chic Aeon said:

Profile photo gray for me also.  You need to drag the photo to the profile window and make sure you say SAVE.  If you put the photo up on the website instead of in the profile in the viewer, there may be an issue on that end. I never do it that way so don't know.

 

Your profile sounds fine.

 

Just got my picture up through the use of another viewer.

 

29 minutes ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

I'd guess that the grey photo may be related to the issues that were going on - based on a comment by Whirly in another thread

https://community.secondlife.com/forums/topic/423035-asset-server-broken/?do=findComment&comment=1755775

 And should now be resolved based on a very recent update to the Grid Status

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A lot of SL dominants act bossy and spoiled and have no idea what it means to actually dominate another person. That's why so many complaints. On the other hand most subs are there only because they are bored and want someone to entertain them and don't really offer anything in return but their "physical" presence. It's all about finding a person who goes with your flow. I myself think of it more about a double fantasy realization where you and your sub can both enjoy whatever you do together, it's not about taking but sharing a moment where you are the conductor. If that makes sense. 

 

Now for your questions I think she told you that because it's mostly SL norm to tell other likes and dislikes prior anything to make it easy to find someone compatible. I think the best thing you can do is literally chat with her and get to know her better.

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