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So you meet someone in SL and you seem to click, one thing leads to another and you would like to progress further and possibly into RL.

You find out that they sell RL nude photos online, would you encourage them to continue their exploits or would you ask them to stop?

Would love everyone's opinion.

Edit* If you were the ones taking the pics would you also stop if your partner asked you to?

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I know quite a few people who do this, it can be affirming, fun or just a way to make a buck. But whatever the reason, it's up to that person to decide to keep doing it or not.

Like it or lump it, but don't presume you can, should, or have the right to try and change someone.

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8 hours ago, Teyla Firethorn said:

If you were the ones taking the pics would you also stop if your partner asked you to?

If she had a better idea to earn a living, sure.

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Tricky situation. I can of course imagine, how this can be uncomfortable, but considering that the other person has been doing this all along its also "part of the package", isn't it? I feel some empathy for the person selling the pictures, when I imagine someone would get with me and then demand to have a say about parts of my life, for example my hobbies.

Figure out how you feel about it and why you feel that way and then seek a conversation. Ask them whats their motivation and then tell them how you feel, but don't expect to change them. I think being open about it is the best option. Nothing is worse than built up negative feelings, when the next argument arrives.

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That would probably go under my personal relationship rule of not dating prostitutes, escorts, erotic dancers or porn industry workers. Which is a bit of a weird rule considering I do have a lot of friends and acquaintances in those fields. It was implemented after it was found out that the depression and general psychological decline in my then-partner was caused by built up guilt over escorting behind my back to fuel her shopping and Gacha addiction.

Anyway, that's just me. Whether you want to deal with it as it is, try to find a resolution of some kind or just walk off is up to you.

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Neither. I certainly have no right to demand that they stop, so I probably wouldn't continue a relationship with that person, unless it was always intended to be strictly SL-only.

 

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Do you both agree on progressing it into real life?

If yes, then even though I agree it is a part of the package, its also something you should talk about if it bothers you enough to make it a deal breaker.

Two things can happen: Your partner understands, agrees and think you are more important than selling the pictures. Or is not willing to change and you have to make a choice.

Talk about it. You would be surprised how many issues that seem huge can be trivial once its talked about.

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On ‎5‎/‎12‎/‎2018 at 3:42 PM, Teyla Firethorn said:

So you meet someone in SL and you seem to click, one thing leads to another and you would like to progress further and possibly into RL.

You find out that they sell RL nude photos online, would you encourage them to continue their exploits or would you ask them to stop?

Would love everyone's opinion.

Edit* If you were the ones taking the pics would you also stop if your partner asked you to?

This phrase has a lot of vagueness. You find out how? There are only two methods that have even a sliver of validity: the offer's in her profile OR she tells you about it in an IM. Even then, who's to say the pictures are really her?

If the idea of pics bothers you, then what LittleMe said: walk away.

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If the nude photos are of congressmen, I'd absolutely encourage them to continue.

If the nude photos are of me, I'd demand 90%.

If the nude photos are of the person in question, I'd buy one and then move on.

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9 minutes ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

If the nude photos are of me, I'd demand 90%.

Pfft... 90% of nuthin'.

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Looks between Madelaine and Snugs.

... I would never have realized you were two different people if I didn't actually see you both post after one another. 

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4 hours ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

If the nude photos are of the person in question, I'd buy one and then move on.

The holy grail rule, never ever pay for anything you can get for free. :)

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23 minutes ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

...looks at Orwar's signature and starts wondering.

;-).

Covers up my moobs.

Oh wait, you meant my forum signature. Err... Yeah, totally. What was the question again?

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I do not know her background it may be what she doing to pay her bills or even eat maybe get down to her level.  Educate her guide her protect her lift her up get her out of this loop. But its up to her if she wants to do this if you both go further.

Know that these are from D/s but can also be used for different lifestyle also.

Dom seeks to make you better, educate, nurture, and fulfill your needs. Not break you down. .

Protect her guide her respect her grow her take care of her treasure her lead her Be the man she needs and she will be the women you want.....

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Depending on the kind of photos, if tasteful or not, what kind of selling is involved, again if they are art professionally taken stills etc, that differs from porn etc. Regardless, if she stops or not, the photos exist, so that is what you need to concentrate on, is that something that you can live with, you have no say in her life choices of the past, and it will depend on what you can have a say on in the future, as a couple. 

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I’m of the opinion that you take someone as-is. You can not make anyone change. Sure, you can have discussion but you put yourself at unnecessary risk of disappointment and heartache if you walk into the relationship right from the start wanting someone to change. 

“Other fish in the sea” and all that jazz. 

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Unless it had a direct negative impact on me or our relationship, I'd do nothing.

Chances are - they were engaged in this activity long before you met them, and will continue to be long after you leave. Never enter into a relationship with the intention of changing someone, because more often than not, they will rebel and your union will not last.

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Another thing to consider is that if you become involved with this person they may pull you into selling RL nude photos of yourself or selling RL nude photos of yourselves as a couple.

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20 minutes ago, Bree Giffen said:

Another thing to consider is that if you become involved with this person they may pull you into selling RL nude photos of yourself or selling RL nude photos of yourselves as a couple.

Where do I sign up?!  I think you'd find me in the "niche" section though.

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19 hours ago, Madelaine McMasters said:

...looks at Orwar's signature and starts wondering.

;-).

As usual for me, I paid no attention to any of the bells and whistles here; I just  came for the conversation. I had no idea we had signatures in this version. Turns out my old signature is still there. I just had to flip the switch to allow viewing of signatures.

 

I guess this belonged in TIL, but whatever.

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So let me get thos straight. I could possibly have a RL relationship with someone who looks good enough nude to make money selling pictures? They can do anything they want as long as I get the live show.

and I had totally forgotten the signatures here, and the fact I have one, it needs to be updated.

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To OP, it all depends.

 

Personally, I'd agree to it and maybe even volunteer, but only if I would be able to remain relatively anonymous, as well as demand no less than 25% of all sales. Would make 'em sign a contract, too.

Unless you mean of them taking said images without the people's knowledge. In THAT case, I wouldn't interfere, but I wouldn't defend him if he gets caught, either.

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On 5/12/2018 at 5:42 PM, Teyla Firethorn said:

So you meet someone in SL and you seem to click, one thing leads to another and you would like to progress further and possibly into RL.

You find out that they sell RL nude photos online, would you encourage them to continue their exploits or would you ask them to stop?

Would love everyone's opinion.

Edit* If you were the ones taking the pics would you also stop if your partner asked you to?

id  get all the info i can from her n then use it against her for either money or whatever 

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