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Hello Second Life residents, this is Lady Lanell (twilk14). I am single, and I am looking for a SL relationship. I am a straight female. I will only do a SL relationship, not one in real life. If you're interested in being a potential suitor and learning more, please send me an IM :)

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Hmmm, as a real life male your post throws up a lot of red flags. SL only for example. That says, I am married in RL and I don't have a rich sex life. On the other hand it is great that you are a straight female.

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6 hours ago, JoeDex said:

Hmmm, as a real life male your post throws up a lot of red flags. SL only for example. That says, I am married in RL and I don't have a rich sex life. On the other hand it is great that you are a straight female.

Judging much? We all have our reasons. Maybe she has been stalked online and wants to keep her rl private this time.As a stalking victim i can say its devastating and can easily drive one to a suicide.Also her sex life is none of your business lol..

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11 hours ago, JoeDex said:

Hmmm, as a real life male your post throws up a lot of red flags. SL only for example. That says, I am married in RL and I don't have a rich sex life. On the other hand it is great that you are a straight female.

So?, First off just because she wants her SL persona to be partnered, has no reelection on her RL sex life. Maybe she has an amazing relationship in RL with a guy who does not care to do SL, and she wants that for her SL as well. 

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@Rhonda Huntress @Jeny Howlett @Talligurl One of the anchors is to always tell the truth. As a male, which I assume you three are not, I read the post and it said to me married woman. Now I am not married but I can tell you I would not like having my wife, or significant other, having a relationship online. So am I judging; yup. Am I being honest; yup. 

As far as her sex life she states that she is a straight female. That would mean that her orientation and thus her preference in a partner is hetrosexual. That is not reading into anything; it is simply reading the post.  

 

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1 hour ago, JoeDex said:

Now I am not married but I can tell you I would not like having my wife, or significant other, having a relationship online.

But that is simply how you would view it, therefore it maybe is a red flag to you, but does not necessarily mean red flag to everyone else.

Speaking of which - it might be time for a Forum conversation (debate / argument) over what constitutes cheating in SL and RL.

There are actually people in RL that have 'open' marriages.  I know a few and while that is not a lifestyle for me, it is also not something that makes me think bad of them.

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20 minutes ago, JoeDex said:

@LittleMe Jewell I like your idea for a forum question. I would like to see what other people think on the subject. 

You could do a search of the forums.  It is an issue that gets debated here every year or so, sometimes more frequently.  The threads will sometimes even turn into quite a heated discussion since many folks are very, very adamant and passionate about their opinion.

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1 hour ago, JoeDex said:

I would not like having my wife, or significant other, having a relationship online.

Apart from all the other possible reasons why a woman might not want to allow a relationship, for many SL is not an extension of their life, but rather a story they right. Is it cheating for a married woman to write a story about a woman in a relationship?

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@Talligurl I think LittleMe Jewell had a good idea to start a topic. I will give you my honest opinion. Let me state that this is an opinion so you can read in what you want. I believe if a man or woman is married they can write what ever story they want but when you start a relationship that is cheating. Twilk14 is looking for a boyfriend. A boyfriend implies a love relationship. If, and I say if because I do not know for certain, she is married in my opinion that is cheating.

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Mat 7:1

 

I have a girl friend.  My husband knows about my girlfriend.  My husband encouraged me to have a girlfriend.  My husband introduced me to my girl friend.

Am I cheating?

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10 hours ago, JoeDex said:

I do not know for certain, she is married in my opinion that is cheating.

I think part of the. Issue here is that you are not fully understanding what SL only means, which is understandable because not everyone means the same thing when they use that term. It can mean they have an RL face to face relationship and want to find an RL long distance relationship that they keep secret from thier face to face partner, yes this is cheating.

What it should mean is they want a virtual relationship for their SL avi, which is no more real in RL than anything else in SL

This second version is difficult, but possible. It does not make those involved in it cheaters any more than flying a plane here makes you a real pilot, or any more than a married actor playing a married character in a movie is cheating on their spouse. 

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@Talligurl Yes, the second scenario that you described is certainly possible. It would be like putting a pair of dolls together and pretending that they are 'at it'. But I don't think that has much to do with this discussion, which I understand to be about actual SL romance, and that bleeds over into RL, and becomes an RL thing.

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Actually the discussion is about the intentions of the OP, which very well may be that second scenario.

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The OP specifically said that the relationship will be SL only.  We have no way of knowing what her RL situation is and therefore can only specualte and most certainly not be judging at this point.

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@JoeDex @LittleMe Jewell @Talligurl @Phil Deakins @Rhonda HuntressSorry for not answering to these, I haven't checked the forums in a little while. I am single in RL. I am not married. I am not looking for a relationship in RL right now, but I am in SL because I don't wish for a RL relationship at the current moment. I say SL only because I don't want anything in RL. I am indeed a woman. I am 24. I do not use skype, ftm, text, or social media to contact my SO in SL. I have learned a traumatic experience from doing so, and I would prefer to not go through anything of the sorts again. 

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@twilk14 I admire your candor. thank you for being honest. I am sure that you will find a special someone with your openness. I stand corrected on my earlier asumptions and duly apologize. Should you find your self at Big Daddy's while I am there I would love a dance.

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2 hours ago, JoeDex said:

@twilk14 I admire your candor. thank you for being honest. I am sure that you will find a special someone with your openness. I stand corrected on my earlier asumptions and duly apologize. Should you find your self at Big Daddy's while I am there I would love a dance.

That's your old hangout Pandy! Go get him! :D

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On 8/9/2017 at 4:34 AM, Talligurl said:

For many SL is not an extension of their life, but rather a story they write. Is it cheating for a married woman to write a story about a woman in a relationship?

Totally agree with you.
Have a SL relationship (without other direct contact via phone or video) is not cheating. Maybe is symptom you are bored, but is not cheating. Like is not cheating to read erotic literature, watch porn and *onanism*. These are ways to avoid cheating. Especially when the intention is to keep it strictly virtual.
You get it 100% when you said is like writing a romantic-erotic story. That is what SL really is, to write stories together with remote/anonymous writers. But of course can start a cheating when you go beyond and begin to have contact with the real person on the other side.
If i write an erotic story, that does not mean I have an affair with the reader.

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2 hours ago, Zsigmond Alcott said:

That's your old hangout Pandy! Go get him! :D

Pandora is banned; I checked xD

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It all depends if your staying in Sl But if you want real they gonna want the whole nine yards.

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