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Ladies - what do you think about sex in SL?

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It's my fantasy, I do whatever I can't do in RL in here pretty much. With that said, I'm very choosy and if you walk up to me as some steroid shaggy haired mfer going "HI SEX NOW PLS" there's no chance. Put in the effort, please.

 

Oh, and emoting. Please practice emoting, it really helps the lady get into it. For example, I had a guy I was with where I'd write something descriptive and he'd respond with stuff like... "nice" and "good", and that'd be it. It was hard to work with and it didn't last much longer than that.

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5 minutes ago, epiclolz said:

It's my fantasy, I do whatever I can't do in RL in here pretty much. With that said, I'm very choosy and if you walk up to me as some steroid shaggy haired mfer going "HI SEX NOW PLS" there's no chance. Put in the effort, please.

 

Oh, and emoting. Please practice emoting, it really helps the lady get into it. For example, I had a guy I was with where I'd write something descriptive and he'd respond with stuff like... "nice" and "good", and that'd be it. It was hard to work with and it didn't last much longer than that.

I have to admit that I have brought some things back to RL that worked for me and my then RL boyfriend.  But that "HI SEX NOW PLS" stuff never works.  And depending on my mood, whatever guy tried it on me get's anything from ignored to being dropped into an active volcano.  

The emoting has to be interesting and exciting or it just won't work for me.  Or even worse, the clickers that jump between animations without a word.  Just leave them there doing whatever it is they're doing all by themselves and see how long it takes them to notice.  

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Lol the clickers are definitely those same people who respond to an emote with like one sentence and then afk for like 6 minutes at a time with no warning. Or I'm trying to fit a description with the pose currently happening and they keep changing it every three seconds. Give me time!!!

 

Aaaaand the ol ignore trick. It's hilarious when I do it and then the guy acts like I owe him something. I said "wazzup" to some guy in public chat like a week ago and then he IMed me asking "where are you babe" and then 10 minutes pass and he's like "soooo ???" I'm like did I tell you something was gonna happen? Lmao

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On 7/26/2017 at 11:31 PM, kurt28 said:

How many of you ladies are into SL sex?  Just wondering if I need to get good at it or not. 

I love SL sex; I'm very good at RP, too.  It's a real mood killer when I'm with someone in an erotic sim and I'm giving it my all but their verbal/writing skills are sub-par.  The fantasy is not just seeing the action onscreen, but the heated erotic chat or voice that provides the context and story of your shared sexual activities.  So yes, my friend, please get good at it.  Practice RP with escorts if you can't find a free partner, they're usually supreme role-players themselves and will be glad of the business.

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On ‎07‎/‎27‎/‎2017 at 7:33 AM, Talligurl said:

Me to, but I have no desire whatsoever to make SL sex more real by adding cams or voice or anything else. Sex is a part of my SL Avis life, it is a part of her story, which is separate from my RL story. As a creative person, a part of the appeal is in writing the story of a girl who is different than myself. I am a happily married wife, she is a wild promiscuous woman. She also has no problems with using sex for financial gain, either by directly acting as an escort, or creating pornographic images to sell, or just endearing herself to guys who might support her business propositions. You do not have to be good at it, but having some obvious financial resources doesn't hurt.

I could have written that, but probably not as well.

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been there, done that, taught that in free RP classes - I´ll pass on that

But that´s prolly because I found THE perfect man for me in RL  - suddenly all my characters in...any game, universe and version are single XD There´s just nothing that compares to him or gets me in the mood ever so slightly when he´s not involved. He is very interested and up to date with my SL but that´s enough for him. So it´s celibacy for Kasha. She´ll cope and she doesn´t have time for that anyways...

But yeah GET GOOD AT IT!!!! Be descriptive, don´t break the 4th wall - nobody cares what you´re touching where in RL and it kills the mood to get asked questions about the current RL actions...- and for heaven´s sake - DON´T IM people "I rape you" ! No matter what the sim description, no matter what the setting, her looks, the role you want to play in this - DON´T!!!! NEVER! READ her profile, ask if she´d be interested in IMs, maybe eye her silently, "notice" her in char with interest in local chat and see if she picks it up... Oh and just don´t whine and b.tch when she´s not interested! Make sure your looks are fitting to the role you want to play and of GOOOOOOOD quality. Even if you decide to be an ugly mug! 

It was mentioned before that you brush up your profile, too, with a nice photo, picks of sims you like, likes and dislikes and your limits (which are vital in any kind of adult RP ). 

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There was a fad, back in the day, for Gorean Masters to abduct women from the one-on-one interactive playgrounds and take them away to eternal slavery in the inescapable Counter Earth (does that still happen?). Every single time, they would say, "I have brought you to another planet." Every single time, I would say, "Well that explains why the duty free was so crap." Every single time, I was dispatched back to Earth forthwith. 

No, sorry, I tell a lie. One time, the Gorean Master ignored that and said, "Surely you can feel the lesser gravity." I replied that yes, I could, and if that was the case the men here should actually be significantly weaker than on my inferior home planet, and if he didn't believe me or understand why, he should ask an astronaut. Then I was dispatched back to Earth forthwith. 

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On 12/16/2018 at 3:43 PM, Amina Sopwith said:

No, sorry, I tell a lie. One time, the Gorean Master ignored that and said, "Surely you can feel the lesser gravity." I replied that yes, I could, and if that was the case the men here should actually be significantly weaker than on my inferior home planet, and if he didn't believe me or understand why, he should ask an astronaut. Then I was dispatched back to Earth forthwith. 

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Oh my.. that is so hilarious. I guess most do not understand that if you were born and live on a planet with lesser gravity, you have lower muscle density and thus are weaker then anyone born on a world with a higher gravity level. Because the person living on the higher gravity world had to develop stronger muscles to do the same work.

I guess no one ever watched Buck Rogers and ever seen the episode where Buck fought with a person that had lived on Saturn, so that person seems to have superhuman strength compared to Buck.

And back to the topic itself. SL sex is just sex to me. It has its good points and its bad points depending upon who it's with and how good they are at emoting/rp'ing the scene. It doesn't have to be para-style emotes or replies but at least some effort and more than just two or three-word replies, "Oh baby yes!", and that's all you got or something similar repeatedly through the entire scene. Some more emotions and feelings and descriptions help keep the interest up. I am not great at rp myself but I do try and keep it interesting at least. and adapt to the other user in both length and style. if all they give is one sentence replies that are all they will get back. which at that point it's probably more just a poseball thing for them and just about the visual. which means the chance I will scene with them again is fairly low. I like a little more effort put into it.

if all they want is poseball slex then might as well go watch pron off the web, except they can't control the scene at that point. which is why they probably do it here instead. Or maybe to gain photos or vid of the act so they can then use it for pseudo blackmail attempts later on; "I've got a vid of you having sex and will show it to your prudish friends or coworkers or family". Yes, there are some here that will try that, and yes there are some here that like having that done to them. Which if that is their kink or part of a longer rp, its fine, it is after all their sl.

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On 9/21/2018 at 5:05 PM, Cindy Evanier said:

The size of some of those bits, they are never going to line up properly with anything other than a large tunnel

...when they come through your back!   hahaha

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On 12/13/2018 at 3:26 AM, Akasha Sternberg said:

But yeah GET GOOD AT IT!!!! Be descriptive, don´t break the 4th wall - nobody cares what you´re touching where in RL and it kills the mood to get asked questions about the current RL actions...-

God yes!  Thank you!!

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On 12/13/2018 at 1:26 AM, Akasha Sternberg said:

don´t break the 4th wall - nobody cares what you´re touching where in RL

OMG - I always hated it when guys started questioning me about this.  Or worse, telling me what to do to myself in RL.

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1 hour ago, LittleMe Jewell said:

OMG - I always hated it when guys started questioning me about this.  Or worse, telling me what to do to myself in RL.

yeah once they started that they pretty much ended up bawling in RL cos well... you can ask me nicely but you don´t tell me what to do in whichever life or form ^^

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Hi all,

I like sex in SL and mainly looking for people doing great roleplay, with emote, comment and not just dialog. I like read  chat as if I'm reading a book even if english is not my natal languages . I like also a quite elaborate scenario, and a slow evolution , not sex for sex about few minutes. I like to play in public place but that always difficult to note that other player around participate with the 2 main actor. Like realistic situation and realistic behavior.

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On 12/30/2018 at 11:10 AM, LittleMe Jewell said:

OMG - I always hated it when guys started questioning me about this.  Or worse, telling me what to do to myself in RL.

I hate this so much too.  It's awful.  

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On ‎12‎/‎13‎/‎2018 at 2:26 AM, Akasha Sternberg said:

"...nobody cares what you´re touching where in RL and it kills the mood to get asked questions about the current RL actions..."

This is something I've wondered about a long time. The majority of the male partners I've had in SL wanted to talk about RL even though I had told them that I did not want to talk about RL at all. These were seemingly nice, stable people. They want to talk about their erection, what they are doing to stimulate themselves, etc., and they ask about my RL state of arousal and what (they assume) I am doing to stimulate myself. When I guide the conversation back to what we're doing in SL, they often persist. I am RPing having sex in SL. I wouldn't ever manually stimulate my genitals(inserted because the forum bot put ***** in place of the word that means that) while doing that. I might get mildly aroused, similar to reading a good erotic novel. I don't care if they are masturbating IRL, but I sure don't want to know it. Why do guys have such a difficult time understanding this?

What is others' experience? Do I just attract wiredos? Am I the weird one?

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1 hour ago, Jennifer Boyle said:

This is something I've wondered about a long time. The majority of the male partners I've had in SL wanted to talk about RL even though I had told them that I did not want to talk about RL at all. These were seemingly nice, stable people. They want to talk about their erection, what they are doing to stimulate themselves, etc., and they ask about my RL state of arousal and what (they assume) I am doing to stimulate myself. When I guide the conversation back to what we're doing in SL, they often persist. I am RPing having sex in SL. I wouldn't ever ***** while doing that. I might get mildly aroused, similar to reading a good erotic novel. I don't care if they are masturbating IRL, but I sure don't want to know it. Why do guys have such a difficult time understanding this?

What is others' experience? Do I just attract wiredos? Am I the weird one?

I can't speak from the "guy perspective," but I've never understood those people who take part in sexual RP or read sex-driven stories with no intentions of getting off on it. I even know a couple guys who are like that, who will spend hours in suggestive/explicit RP but claim to not be doing anything but pure and wholesome RP.

Wait... is it not just a joke when people say "I watch porn for the plot?"

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to watch it - no XD but... if we have SLex we watch and and act it.... plus imagine all those naughty authors and if they got off every time they wrote a passage... they´d either be lame, veeeeeeeeeeeeery slow - sloth-in-zoomania-slow with the letters - ooooor their bodyparts would hurt all the time from being sore ;) 

 

I think it´s the same as (teenage) girls see star - with all the horrible screeching and screaming. (I´m a fan of a British band who just started to celebrate their 30th birthday  so yeah... I remember the ringing of my ears, never being able to understand anything on concert DVDs cos the crowd was SO loud, stories of their homes being literally screamed down...) . I don´t know for certain but it seems to be some kind of trigger-switch that just kills normal thinking and rationality for a moment or two. Like they zone out if erection level gets higher than x . Might be super cool and considerate dudes normally but switch into those creatures stumbling around in little fail-puddles without knowing it. In Germany we have this proverb "ins Fettnäpfchen treten" - to set your food into a little bowl of fat  - if you have a fauxpas . I mean surely the word has spread around guys that this is not cool with most of the girls (who might have a switch like that, too and don´t mind but I think those are rare ;) )  so "not knowing"...hmmmmmm 

Has any of you ever had the chance of asking a guy outside of a heated RP situation? Maybe one that asked you? I found a guy in a chatroom being VERY thankful after sending me an unsoliced d-pick and me asking him why tf he´d do that, degrading himself like that and how foul I´d be to be excited over the pic. I know those are rare, too, most act like their member is a super special bodypart we should reduce them to and throw ourselves at them over a pic of it (what about pics of... forearms...or...elbows though? Knees? ^^) . I think that´d be quite interesting^^

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I like how the title of this thread implies that men don't have any worthy thoughts about SL sex at all, like it's only something women would turn their noses up at and that every woman who plays is a prude who's disgusted by the thought of people having sex in this game. Grody.

I think people take it too seriously, I've done it before and it comes off as goofy. Like, yeah, the text aspect can be a turn on. I've read women enjoying smutty writing and visualizing it in their heads more than men, who react better to pictures, but idk where I heard that so take it with salt.  But hence why the overwhelming majority of erotic fiction/fanfiction is by/for women.

I learned cocks with jiggle physics exist in-world yesterday, and BOY they do not look pleasing lmao. It's like watching someone hold a hot dog in their fist and flail it around.

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On 1/10/2019 at 10:45 AM, Panteleeva said:

after i became mesh,i dont need SL sex,lolz

<Groucho Marx>

Well I've heard of hardening of the arteries before..

*waggles eyebrows*

</Groucho Marx>

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16 hours ago, StrykerHawk said:

There are women interested in SL sex if you dont mind who is behind the avatar

OOOH! Necro-thread resurrection! ...or is that erection? JustThinkingAloud...

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Does her best to not make jokes on dead (threads), sex and necro-anything... 😏

What do I think about sex in SL? I think it's sorely lacking. Most men don't emote, click through all the animations one after the other, mutter the same "mmm baby, feel so good, you sexy" crud, want some sort of RL involvement, get offended if you don't drop everything to entertain them, want to know if you're getting off too, and log immediately when they're done.

The real kick is the vast majority that look even worse; like a badly-proportioned classic pre-mesh body and genitalia the size of a tree trunk five shades darker or lighter than their 2009 skin is supposed to be so arousing to the point I shouldn't be able to resist! By and large I have to overlook most of what I see in the hopes of getting something more cerebral in terms of satisfaction, which is so rare it's barely worth the effort.

I'd almost go so far as to say most men simply don't care so long as they get their release - though the same could probably be said just as easily for a lot of women too. I wouldn't hazard a guess on the ratio there because I generally see more "good looking" women than men (good looking in terms of actual effort put into creating the avatar), but that doesn't include those essentially "pimping" themselves out for the sole purpose of attracting SL sex clad in various chains, cuffs, collars and not much else.

As horrible as it sounds I almost expect that most men (or at least a great percentage) who emote are probably women behind the avatars (especially when it comes to SL sex) but I've actually been proven wrong on  several occasions so really who knows? I don't care if it's a RL woman playing as a man that I'm involved with. Half the time I actually prefer it that way since they don't push for RL info and tend to describe better (but again, that's not always the case) - it's just a shame I'm not into the visual aspect of women in that way or I'd probably be a lot happier with potential SL sex partners, that's for sure! 

For those who say I'm shallow and looks don't matter as much as the emoting/RP ask yourself why are we so heavily invested on creating avatars in the first place. Most of us want to enjoy what we see. We can text-RP on other formats or the forums, or in emails, or other places other than SL. SL is a visual platform. A good many of us pour thousands of lindens and countless hours creating these avatars for our visual satisfaction. The virtual world AND our RL world is so appearance-driven. If looks didn't matter there would be far less lonely old barflies drowning their sorrows at the local watering hole come closing time around the world because they'd all have dates with Victoria's Secret supermodels no less! 

I don't think I'm a snob but I am far more selective these days. But this only comes after spending so many years wasting time with the virtual barflies. There's only so much "settling" one can do before it starts feeling like charity. If they are the only person getting any enjoyment out of it then what am I doing there? They may as well just rez a sex doll and have fun with that instead. 

When SL sex is done right it can almost feel better than the real thing. It gets the heart racing. The scene plays on my mind for days later. It's a happy medium somewhere between watching p.o.r.n. and reading an erotic story. I can honestly say in the many years I've been in SL I've had maybe five ERP experiences that I can say I thoroughly enjoyed. The rest... not so much. It's a shame really but people have their own expectations that aren't always going to align with mine. Or my mood. Or my timezone. Or availability in terms of giving them my undivided attention and focus. Rare is the man that can capture that. Rarer still the one who can keep it or make me want to come back for more.

*Settles into single virtual parenthood for the rest of her virtual existence* 

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