Newbie, lost and perplexed

[therolyte]

Hi! Hi? HELLO! I don't know how to start this.... haha

I'm just a common new person, super lost. I've been reading guides and helpful user distributed information but I can't seem to find the courage to just go up to anyone. I have gone around and seen some really interesting avies! Too shy to talk to them so I just stand super far away like a creeper.

 

Basically I just want a friend to talk to. If anyone can show me the ropes, I would appreciate it greatly but it's not necessary. Just having a buddy would be awesome~ Uh thanks for reading! *bow*

[Pamela Galli]

 When I first started I found an inworld community of like minded people who sort of took me under their wing. I also have made friends in group chat and in this forum. Some I have not met inworld, some I have. 

I hear people say they meet people through IM or inworld chat but I don't have much experience with that.

 

Role play is very popular in SL. I have not done any but it is good for shy people because they can pretend to be someone who is not shy. Which is one way to overcome shyness in RL, too.

[therolyte]

I will try looking for groups and maybe try roleplaying someone who isn't shy... it'll be tough though >.<

[Mackenzie Winchester]

Hi! I'd be happy to show you around. I've been in-world on and off since 2005. I'm unable to locate your profile though. Can you send me a message (Mackenzie Drascol)?

[Pamela Galli]

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therolyte wrote:

I will try looking for groups and maybe try roleplaying someone who isn't shy... it'll be tough though >.<

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If you do, report back here on your experience. I would not call myself shy, but I am pretty reserved -- except when I was a schoolteacher. Being reserved does not fly if you want to keep the attention of a room full of kids on the lesson. To do that I had to do everything but tap dance on my desk, all day every day. I in effect played a role, as if I was on stage. It was quite exhausting, but in an odd way I always felt I was most my real self when I was playing that role. That's why I think you should try playing the role of some other self besides your usual one. 

People come here all the time looking for friends, and announcing they are shy. What that tells people is that they will not be taking any initiative in a relationship. It gives the impression to others that they will have the burden on drawing the shy one out, filling the silences, etc. So I would just not mention it. SL is all about being whomever and whatever you choose. 

[therolyte]

Alright thank you for the advice!

[IzzyBrownie]

I joined last weekend and feeling much the same - dont know where to go or have people to explore with, so do IM me if you fancy teaming up

 

 

[Xuxu13]

Hey you can meet me in world and be friends . I like roleplaying too so I think we would be fine

[Persephone Emerald]

Sometimes having a cute or unusual avatar is a way to encourge others to start a conversation with you.  Another is to write something in your profile that says what you're interested in. Finding helpful people might also be a little easier at an Orientation, Newbie Help or Building help sim. Using the inworld Search to find groups & sims that interest you is a good idea too.

[haawwkeye]

It's alright to be shy. I know a lot of shy people and they are good friends. I'm always open to new friends to hang out with. Im me sometime