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3 minutes ago, Talligurl said:

There are lots of reasons not to voice besides trying to hide, some people have speech issues they come here to escape from, some might want to avoid any emotional attachment with anyone here and believe that not hearing the persons voice is a good way to do that.

Agreed. I have a lisp i also am autistic and didn't talk till i was 4 because of speech difficulties. I do my best an try cause thats all you can. Choice is there its preference since most seem to be paranoid on genders on sl avas. Each to their own. I agree fully. Thank you ♡

 

Also no doubt i will be trolled for admitting my difficulties lol but here is the thing... it does not bother me. Be fearless.

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2 minutes ago, AmandaKeen said:

When you tossed “game” into the discussion, you also sort of defined part of the issue; SL is not the same thing to everyone.

For some, SL is a Game. After they get used to the fact that we have no leveling system, Godmode or Raid system - they find other ways to have fun (or move on to more “gamey” games).

For people like me, SL is a virtual world that lets me be mistaken for a fully-functional human-being and to exercise my creativity (building, literary role playing, etc).

For others, it’s the Dating Game where they look for a RL mate inside a virtual world.

For still others, it’s cheap porn, a social network or Griefer Heaven....

It just depends on what you’re here for.

So how do you know who someone really is and what they’re here for?

You ask them.

If they don’t mute you for being pushy about their privacy; you might just make a  friend......

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Agreed. I mentioned game as it is a form of an online world be it virtual. Always believe the human beings behind avatar matter more. Great post.

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3 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

How about you stop writting garbage? I have a desk top and a laptop both have built in mic/cam functions..

Well bully for you, other people don't... Get over it...

4 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

but hey i am just another IT Tech i would know nothing i guess love

I spent a quarter of a century in Corporate IT Operations and Tech Support before I retired on health grounds... And that's not relevant to your "everyone should have mic and cam or I will go around slandering them" crapola, love...

Further, if "don't use mic and cam = must be a guy and doesn't play computer games" is an example of your problem solving approach, then I guess you are one of those IT techs who relies on a knowledge base written by somebody else to tell you what answers to give, right Love?

7 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

Most people on sl gamer chicks or gamer guys venture other gaming world too

Yeah well, apart from being piss poor English, don't assume everyone in SL is a "gamer" and don't assume every "gamer" uses mic or cam, I certainly never did when playing online games, never needed to, and not all of them supported mics let alone cams. Breaking news, not everyone plays games that NEED 3rd party Teamspeak streaming video systems.

10 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

Dear you can see how long i have been on sl.

10 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

i guess being in sl 11+yrs gives me that experience

Ah! 2nd Wave Lastnamer Entitlement Syndrome Sufferer... Feeling entitled to claim your SL IQ is equal to your SL age measured in weeks? You know where you can shove that garbage, love...

My experience in SL over the last 6 years has included FAR too many 2nd Wavers who couldn't find their own arses in the dark with both hands...

16 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

Just don't be shady and have something to hide

Not having or using mics and cams isn't being "shadey" or "hiding", it's quite normal for people not to want strangers in the street stopping them and saying "hey you're that chick on the internet...".

Frankly, considering my age, and the amount of surgery I've had due to my health, I'm probably doing you all a favour by not having a cam...

 

22 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

the whole point of thread is how to tell the difference.. not to write garbage to cover up your gender or be defensive dear.

The whole point of this thread was, as usual, the claim by some clueless asshats that THEY have discovered an infallible means to spot REAL BABES on the web by...

Then you get a pile of garbage about "lists of questions that prove they are dudes", or claims that you can tell by asking them their job and seeing if it's a "dudes type job", etc.

Working in IT is one of those classic "u mus b a dude cos u no about computas" infallible signals apparently, the ones people like you claim their experience instantly reveals. So, that makes you a "dude" right love?

I'm not defensive, I don't date in SL, don't cybersex, and really don't give a rats arse, I just get peeved when I see fools claiming they have some guaranteed method, that in fact doesn't work, or making those moronic "if they don't cam or voice they are dudes, dude" statements.

19 minutes ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

you probably can't grasp what pride is for where you come from

I was born in London, where we are quite proud of NOT being scousers... Love...
 

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1 hour ago, Klytyna said:

Well bully for you, other people don't... Get over it...

I spent a quarter of a century in Corporate IT Operations and Tech Support before I retired on health grounds... And that's not relevant to your "everyone should have mic and cam or I will go around slandering them" crapola, love...

Further, if "don't use mic and cam = must be a guy and doesn't play computer games" is an example of your problem solving approach, then I guess you are one of those IT techs who relies on a knowledge base written by somebody else to tell you what answers to give, right Love?

Yeah well, apart from being piss poor English, don't assume everyone in SL is a "gamer" and don't assume every "gamer" uses mic or cam, I certainly never did when playing online games, never needed to, and not all of them supported mics let alone cams. Breaking news, not everyone plays games that NEED 3rd party Teamspeak streaming video systems.

Ah! 2nd Wave Lastnamer Entitlement Syndrome Sufferer... Feeling entitled to claim your SL IQ is equal to your SL age measured in weeks? You know where you can shove that garbage, love...

My experience in SL over the last 6 years has included FAR too many 2nd Wavers who couldn't find their own arses in the dark with both hands...

Not having or using mics and cams isn't being "shadey" or "hiding", it's quite normal for people not to want strangers in the street stopping them and saying "hey you're that chick on the internet...".

Frankly, considering my age, and the amount of surgery I've had due to my health, I'm probably doing you all a favour by not having a cam...

 

The whole point of this thread was, as usual, the claim by some clueless asshats that THEY have discovered an infallible means to spot REAL BABES on the web by...

Then you get a pile of garbage about "lists of questions that prove they are dudes", or claims that you can tell by asking them their job and seeing if it's a "dudes type job", etc.

Working in IT is one of those classic "u mus b a dude cos u no about computas" infallible signals apparently, the ones people like you claim their experience instantly reveals. So, that makes you a "dude" right love?

I'm not defensive, I don't date in SL, don't cybersex, and really don't give a rats arse, I just get peeved when I see fools claiming they have some guaranteed method, that in fact doesn't work, or making those moronic "if they don't cam or voice they are dudes, dude" statements.

I was born in London, where we are quite proud of NOT being scousers... Love...
 

Keep writting garbage then. This is how you fill your days of intellectual trolling. Lol.

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3 hours ago, Serenityfirefly McMahon said:

Not hard to see who is a girl and guy by how they act and ava style. 

So if someone is paying attention they don't really need voice or a cam.

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3 hours ago, AmandaKeen said:

When you tossed “game” into the discussion, you also sort of defined part of the issue; SL is not the same thing to everyone.

For some, SL is a Game. After they get used to the fact that we have no leveling system, Godmode or Raid system - they find other ways to have fun (or move on to more “gamey” games).

For people like me, SL is a virtual world that lets me be mistaken for a fully-functional human-being and to exercise my creativity (building, literary role playing, etc).

For others, it’s the Dating Game where they look for a RL mate inside a virtual world.

For still others, it’s cheap porn, a social network or Griefer Heaven....

It just depends on what you’re here for.

So how do you know who someone really is and what they’re here for?

You ask them.

If they don’t mute you for being pushy about their privacy; you might just make a  friend......

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HEY HEY HEY!! Ain't nuthin cheap about my porn, sister! I pay top L$ for my actresses.. Well, i would.. But i am loyal as all get out to my main mama. You know who you are *winks* 

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2 hours ago, Drake1 Nightfire said:

HEY HEY HEY!! Ain't nuthin cheap about my porn, sister! I pay top L$ for my actresses.. Well, i would.. But i am loyal as all get out to my main mama. You know who you are *winks* 

OK, SL is also the home of SOPHISTICATED porn too!
Just no more washing my mouth out with soap........

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Edit:  This is my 555th post. Numerologists; go wild!

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28 minutes ago, AmandaKeen said:

If I get there quickly, do I win a prize ? Besides being identified as a possible spammer?

An invitation to be napalmed and photographed for posterity at the next Forum Clique Beach BBQ... (Bring your own marinade body lotion...)
 

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Ok but seriously, unless you're a super fit, young,  hot chick on the other end, ready and willing to accept all my flaws...

PLEASE DO NOT TURN ON YOUR CAM OR MIC!

(I'd rather just enjoy your company, charm and intellect in blissful ignorance and suggest that you may wish to do the same in return. My imagination is a fantastic place, sometimes dark and mysterious but I like it that way.)

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That moment when your date pushes you into a video chat (yes, she asked for it, I even had to go buy a webcam) and she lights a joint all casual like...

Sighs.

And then she cries a bit because her mother took custody over her child... Crying and smoking pot, me sitting there like, 'what the what'. But hey, she did have the she-bits. Unfortunately that's not my only criteria. 

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In almost 13 years here, I have ONLY ever been asked to voice or cam by straight cisgender men terrified of talking to other men.

Many of them had female avatars .. 

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9 minutes ago, CoffeeDujour said:

In almost 13 years here, I have ONLY ever been asked to voice or cam by straight cisgender men terrified of talking to other men.

Many of them had female avatars .. 

Strange, I came to the same conclusion in only slightly more than a year... OK one female Gorean asked me too - but let's be honest a female Gorean actually lets me suspect cisgender male anyway (to stay with the spirit of the the thread ;) )

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2 minutes ago, Fionalein said:

Strange, I came to the same conclusion in only slightly more than a year... OK one female Gorean asked me too - but let's be honest a female Gorean actually lets me suspect cisgender male anyway (to stay with the spirit of the the thread ;) )

Our RL flatmate is a heavy Gorean RPer .. Roleplay Gor is overrun by women playing all the roles, mainly because the legit men  have difficulty stringing together a subtle and (imo) excessively verbose roleplay in which almost nothing happens (and takes hours). Cap combat play to loose humping Gor (shh no more talking) is mainly guys. 

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14 hours ago, CoffeeDujour said:

mainly because the legit men  have difficulty stringing together a subtle and (imo) excessively verbose roleplay in which almost nothing happens (and takes hours). Cap combat play to loose humping Gor (shh no more talking) is mainly guys.

"Yuse slavy gurl usin dem big wurds wot famus Gor worrior Gonad da Boybarian havin trubel understandin! U shud speekin mor propa, lyk wat Gonad dus, an leernin propa RP!

Slavy gurl bringin Gonad Paga now! *quaff quaff* Ah dat betta, now to luv furs, slavy gurl assume position, face down ass up... SAUSAGE TIME! Dis r propa inti-lekt-ul Caste feemed fantazy RP!"

...

Hey! Wow, I can RP being a typical Gorean male RP person... SKILLS!
 

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39 minutes ago, Klytyna said:

"Yuse slavy gurl usin dem big wurds wot famus Gor worrior Gonad da Boybarian havin trubel understandin! U shud speekin mor propa, lyk wat Gonad dus, an leernin propa RP!

Slavy gurl bringin Gonad Paga now! *quaff quaff* Ah dat betta, now to luv furs, slavy gurl assume position, face down ass up... SAUSAGE TIME! Dis r propa inti-lekt-ul Caste feemed fantazy RP!"

...

Hey! Wow, I can RP being a typical Gorean male RP person... SKILLS!
 

I'm curious what btb sims have you been to? I seen abunch of paragraph RP, when visiting Svago, or Jasmine. Where it's TLDR.

And Iknow you're not talking about GE because they don't RP at all... just pew pew.

 

Edit: About the topic though, you can't really tell. If someones a man/women. That's why you get on discord or some voice program, where you can chill abit get too know one another. If they don't want to voice, then they're probably the opposite gender then their avatar. For example, Manthers -cough- Panthers on the continent located around GTS store has a bunch of em.

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2 minutes ago, Haselden said:

I'm curious what btb sims have you been to? I seen abunch of paragraph RP

I don't visit Gore-Bore sims... But I don't have to, to encounter Gore-Bore-eans...

One of the things you notice when female and on BDSM/Fetish sims in SL, is all the Gore-Bores trolling around looking for "nu gurls wot to makin slavys of"...

I've lost track of the number of Gor-Boys I've had to tell to fornicate off, over the years, and 99% of them were knuckle dragging quasi-illiterate misogynists, and yes that includes the GE crowd too.

The 1% that can actualy read and write... Tend to smarm at you...

"Hello my dear, would you like me to teach you about an exciting Medieval Fantasy themed Caste based RP system, it's a lot of fun..."

Then when you point out that you have no interest in entering ePeener vs ePeener Lag-Combat armed with a potatoe, with the knowledge that defeat means you get raped on the "Love Furs" by some retarded idiot who's 25 going on 15, they say...

"Oh you know nothing of the rich and varied Gorean Lifestyle...."

So then you ask them how many players they have taking the roles of the Giant Hyper Intelligent Space Ants With Orbital Laser Cannon Satellites, and they look at you blankly and claim they don't understand what you mean.

It's so much less hassle to simply make the following two assumptions when dealing with male Goreans...

1. Male Gorean = Knuckle dragging quasi illiterate misogynist in a tunic with a sword, screaming "Bring me Paga now!"

2. Male Gorean Evolved = Knuckle dragging quasi illiterate misogynist in biker jeans on a Harley, holding an AK47, screaming "LGBT must die!"



 

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Meh, it's not just the Gor scene. The BDSM scene in general has a lot of guys thinking that putting a little 'Master' tag (preferably with an illegible quasi-font) means that everyone ought to treat them with respect and submission. Whenever a guy steps into a BDSM club with 2-3 women in tow in particle chains and goes on to hit desperately on everything that moves, just, ugh. 

They don't even bother to figure out whether a person is taken or not, or if submissive at all or if they're trying to collar a domme (even if a lot of people put it at the top of their profiles). But if you say 'Hey, I saw you're interested in geometry in your profile? That's neat!' to one of their subs, oh they going to want to smash you up for encroaching on their property.

I've even had guys IM me saying 'You know, I'm a Master, you should call me SIR. We're not on first-name basis.' (My standard response of 'Well excuse me, princess' usually does not fall too well).

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11 minutes ago, Orwar said:

I've even had guys IM me saying 'You know, I'm a Master, you should call me SIR. We're not on first-name basis.' (My standard response of 'Well excuse me, princess' usually does not fall too well).

But but those are most fun of all... drag them to a place where they made a sub a place moderater and watch as they commit social suicide by mod.

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43 minutes ago, Klytyna said:

I don't visit Gore-Bore sims... But I don't have to, to encounter Gore-Bore-eans...

One of the things you notice when female and on BDSM/Fetish sims in SL, is all the Gore-Bores trolling around looking for "nu gurls wot to makin slavys of"...

I've lost track of the number of Gor-Boys I've had to tell to fornicate off, over the years, and 99% of them were knuckle dragging quasi-illiterate misogynists, and yes that includes the GE crowd too.

The 1% that can actualy read and write... Tend to smarm at you...

"Hello my dear, would you like me to teach you about an exciting Medieval Fantasy themed Caste based RP system, it's a lot of fun..."

Then when you point out that you have no interest in entering ePeener vs ePeener Lag-Combat armed with a potatoe, with the knowledge that defeat means you get raped on the "Love Furs" by some retarded idiot who's 25 going on 15, they say...

"Oh you know nothing of the rich and varied Gorean Lifestyle...."

So then you ask them how many players they have taking the roles of the Giant Hyper Intelligent Space Ants With Orbital Laser Cannon Satellites, and they look at you blankly and claim they don't understand what you mean.

It's so much less hassle to simply make the following two assumptions when dealing with male Goreans...

1. Male Gorean = Knuckle dragging quasi illiterate misogynist in a tunic with a sword, screaming "Bring me Paga now!"

2. Male Gorean Evolved = Knuckle dragging quasi illiterate misogynist in biker jeans on a Harley, holding an AK47, screaming "LGBT must die!"



 

I wish all this was true, but it's certainly not.

Like damn, the only time I can get away just using a Lightsaber in GE is when Halloween week is going down, and people aren't doing the Medevil clothes. No one legitimate makers script AK47's yet. 

However,  as for BTB stand point I've met so few that are illiterate. MOST BTB Goreans just cannot fight.

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2 minutes ago, Fionalein said:

But but those are most fun of all... drag them to a place where they made a sub a place moderater and watch as they commit social suicide by mod.

The problem is that many venues tell their staff to just go along with it because they don't want drama and they don't want to lose revenue through people leaving (although to be fair I think that kind of guys may scare off more people, but that's just a theory).

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15 minutes ago, Haselden said:

Like damn, the only time I can get away just using a Lightsaber in GE is when Halloween week is going down, and people aren't doing the Medevil clothes. No one legitimate makers script AK47's yet. 

In an RP community where people actually trust each other they would just release a "build your own weapons" devkit as may of the the other meters do, ... but even Gorenas know what to think of Goreans,... so they installed a silly "you cannot fight with weapons of your own design and all weapons must be approved by the UBER-GOR buddy commitee" which effectivley kills the main drive for many creations (the "I want to have one of those myself" one)

That my dear friend is why you still run around with primmy weapons, while the rest of us have this thing the ancient prophecies called mesh ;)

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19 minutes ago, Orwar said:

or if they're trying to collar a domme (even if a lot of people put it at the top of their profiles)

Mid 2013... Bunch of us hanging out on a place, I'm sat on the edge of the low roof, just above the paved area where we tended to gather, down on the paving is this Domme...

Old Old School English Lesbian Domme, 20 odd years RL in the scene type (we'd chatted, we used to go to some of the same RL clubs and remembered some of the same people).

Her avatar was an 8'2" vampire, with a punk haircut, dressed in an edwardian frock coat, with embroidered waistcoat, and wing collar shirt, smoking a cigar and wearing black shades, carrying a silver headed walking stick in one hand (her leash holder).

Profile was pretty clear too...

Then HE arrives! M***** P*****, the Hypno-Master! Well that's what his group tag said. He looks around, ignores the naked girls in gorean collars, and the latex wearing subs, and bondage neko chicks, and settles on... The 8 ft tall Vampire Les Domme from Planet Tough...

So he starts talking to her.

" I... am... ze... hypno... master... the... sound... of... me...talking... really... really... slowly... will... put... you... into... a... trance... and ...bring... out... your... sub...side... zo... you... will... kneel... before... my... groin... prim..."

"What the **** are you talking about you moron, first of all not everyone can be hypnotised  by text on a screen, and second, I'm a lesbian domme, I don't HAVE a ****ing sub side"

"ah dacord... I understand, you are anglais oui? Zo, when did you become a sissy and start dressing as la femme?"

"What the ****, you ****ing ******** *******, you can ******* well ***** your self with a ***** you moronic ******* meat based excuse for a [battery operated personal massage device intended for female use]. We should have left the Germans in charge of Paris in 45..."

...

Their conversation went downhill from there until he left, with blood running out of his ears, that girl could curse! It's one of the reasons we gathered where we did, when noob masters attacked, she'd drive them off by shouting at them until they wet themselves and went back to their mommy's basements!



 

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9 minutes ago, Fionalein said:

In an RP community where people actually trust each other they would just release a "build your own weapons" devkit as may of the the other meters do, ... but even Gorenas know what to think of Goreans,... so they installed a silly "you cannot fight with weapons of your own design and all weapons must be approved by the UBER-GOR buddy commitee" which effectivley kills the main drive for many creations (the "I want to have one of those myself" one)

That my dear friend is why you still run around with primmy weapons, while the rest of us have this thing the ancient prophecies called mesh ;)

Again don't even know what you're talking about. Infact, for this upcoming bow tournament. WHICH are doing major cash prizes. You're only allowed to use weapons from the following makers. Which are The Forge EZ, Equinox, LR, VF, Markz, PFC & GTS. All those weapon makers are MESH.

It's like this for most raids as well to PREVENT cheating. If you're using an illegal weapon, you get ejected pretty quickly. For example as a hit report earlier from nearby chat.

 

 [22:53] zCS Haselden Resident starts to unbind keymosabi Resident.
[22:53] zCS sherdare Resident leashed keymosabi Resident.
[22:53] Rob Rynus (haselden) has sheathed the previous weapon and draws his sword...
[22:53] [EZ] DawnFyre, (Sword) -firo1.03: #Drawn (Short)
[22:53] [EZ] DawnFyre, (Sword) -firo1.03: HIT keymosabi Resident
[22:53]  Mααχ Oραlιиε Ðαякωαтcн (maaximum): .unleash
[22:53] Rob Rynus (haselden) sheaths the previous weapon and draws his bow...
[22:53] [GTS] Brutal Beast Bow~2.2~E-volution: Drawn
[22:53] [EZ] DawnFyre, (Sword) -firo1.03: #Sheathed
[22:53] GTS-Arrow-v.2.0-S-(50)-F1: ElijahMOriginal Resident - direct
[22:53] zCS ElijahMOriginal Resident hit you with EQ#Hades Axe~3.00 [Sword] [PRO] - sword (40%).

 

If you're using an Illegal weapon, not from a legitimate maker, you could possibly as well get banned from the sim for a week. I do not have examples of "Illegal" weapons for you, but usually its weapons saying This guy hit you with "Sword" prim. Doesnt say the sword, and Maker. Like example above.

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