about transgender

[claudiatrans]

Hi,

how can i find out a trans female avatar?

if any...

Ty

Claudia

[Nova Waifu]

I'm replying to this because I figured you might be transgender yourself and the person who answered your question seems to think violent slurs are totally fine and I wanted you to know that not all Second Life residents are like that :3 

[Syo Emerald]

Just for clarification, because I assume Mery hasn't been in SL for long or has stayed in a very sheltered mainstream area of SL, I'll explain that a bit further:

The term "shemale" isn't used as a slur in SL and not meant to be one here, just like "neko" doesn't descripe a animal, but a avatar style. When you see the term shemale used in SL, it usually refers to a certain style of avatar, that is more a cartoonic porn fantasy than anything else. You will also find "futanari" used in the same way. Those avatars always use a female body as base and then go into the extreme. Hung like a horse with boobs like a pornstar, to say it plain.

But like Valerie already mentioned, its up to you how your avatar looks like. You might have to search for a while and piece parts together to form what you want to look like. First deciede if you want to base your avatar on a male or a female shape and then alter that shape until you like it. Then find skin, hair, eyes, clothes and whatever else. Its just like every other avatar...maybe with the difference that your end result may require a bit shopping for male genitals.

[Nova Waifu]

Excuse me Syo, but Second Life is not a vaccum. Slurs are slurs not matter what pretty little context you're trying to give them. Definitions don't change just because they're in a virtual world. "Shemale" is a violent slur used against transgender women and by using this ingame to mean something else is appropriation of things that do not belong to you and potentionally extremely damaging to people who actually have emotions.

[Nova Waifu]

Intent is not magic, and just because you want to believe a violent slur means something else in a virtual world doesn't mean it's going to be like that for everyone. The reason I don't encounter this often is because I hang out in all the places straight, non-transgender people are afraid to visit, where transphobia and slurs aren't tolerated.

[Alwin Alcott]

4 hours ago, CDTrish said:

Well Mery maybe if you would have thrown out the acceptable term instead of beating around the bush so to speak...those folks wouldn't have made the mistake. And blowing up like a party balloon with with your rant did educate anyone,  or advance the cause. maybe a paragraph on how you and the rest of us would like to be referred to. I've most probably been dressing longer than you have been alive....so  when  you get older and get a thicker skin you'll do just fine I think and not be butt hurt in the future. best of luck to you and may you have a good journey in life.

 

Trish

2014 ...

[valerie Inshan]

Assuming you mean what is called "shemale" in the SL jargon, any female avatar will do. Then it will all depends on the "attachments" you'll want her to wear. You'll find plenty of them on the marketplace in the Avatar Accessories listings.

[valerie Inshan]

Thanks for your very explanative post, Syo. I've seen Mery's comment just as I was leaving work and spent a hole hour in the metro scratching my head as to where I said something wrong!!!

[Syo Emerald]

Calm down, Mery. Seems I was right about how you never leave your sheltered place.

I was explaining how the term is used here, how its seen, how its NOT used towards transgendered people.  Its a fact, not something you can discuss away how its used here and it won't vanish just because you chose to ignore context.

I'm afraid to tell you, you are the only one I ever saw complaining, because everyone else wandering out of the mainstream places knows damn well whats meant. And if claudia aims for this "over the top" fantasy style (we don't know, her question lacks specific details), thats one searchterm to go by, to find places, stores and products, which might be helpful.

Again, it is never used towards real life transgendered people. Got that?

While you are stepping out of your shell: There is a whole bunch of other stuff in SL that would be offensive, if the context is ignored. Just saying...

[Trish Heartsong]

Well Mery maybe if you would have thrown out the acceptable term instead of beating around the bush so to speak...those folks wouldn't have made the mistake. And blowing up like a party balloon with with your rant did educate anyone,  or advance the cause. maybe a paragraph on how you and the rest of us would like to be referred to. I've most probably been dressing longer than you have been alive....so  when  you get older and get a thicker skin you'll do just fine I think and not be butt hurt in the future. best of luck to you and may you have a good journey in life.

 

Trish