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Kaidin Ulrik

Do friendships even really exist anymore... will things ever get to the relationship

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I enjoy Second Life as an escape from the reality of my day to day. Although I do thoroughly appreciate the company of my friends in SL I always become slightly taken aback when people get offended at the lack of RL contact. I don't do phone calls, meeting up in person, texting and the likes. That's no reflection on the people I meet but rather my own desire to keep fantasy and reality seperate. I understand that behind each avatar is a living, breathing human being, and I treat people as such. However, this is the internet and it would be unhealthy for me personally to put my 'second' life on par with my first, very real life. 

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The idea of friendship turning into love is a nice one, and I think such relationships have the potential to be very happy. Sadly many people have a very fixed checklist when it comes to a potential partner, men often including specific looks in this checklist, women rather profession, social standing etc. I think people in relationships that came to happen like that are amongst those who enter SL to have "SL romance" strictly seperated from their "real", "checklist" lives.

If someone has a romantic nature but lives alone, he or she will hope to find someone anywhere, that is natural. Those who are rather introverted and find it hard to socialise in places like pubs, bars, or clubs will hope that interactive media like chat or Facebook or SL will make it easier for them, that is also natural.

I think it is counterproductive to say "If you are expecting too much, you will only get disappointed", or "Place in the internet X is a bad choice if you look for true romance, all cool people seperate their real lives from the internet" etc. Finding someone to love is the most important goal in life for most people, so if they are alone, they will be open for it anywhere. Lonely people who dare to still have hope, even on the nternet, shouldn't believe they are naive or strange. If you have hope you may indeed get disappointed, but without being open and having hope, chances to find someone - anywhere - will only get worse.

I know of two marriages between people who got to know each other in boring, old-fashioned, 2D chatrooms. (I liked chatrooms because I liked real time conversation with people I didn't already know. Sadly chatrooms seem to be dying, at least here in Germany.)

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I havent read all the responses so sorry if this was already said but it seems to me that youre looking for a real life relationship/friendship. 

 

I wouldnt use SL to meet RL friends because you never know who is behind the Avatar and even if you bond closely, that person could live 1000's of miles away. 

My Advice: Start speaking to people in the Real World.

Saying that, i met my fiancee in Second Life!!

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