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I was unfriended by A guy i met on yesterday, because i didnt want to voice chat with him. I told him i wasnt ready for that right away because we had only met the day before. i let him know i wasnt looking for relationships only friendships anyhow. I am a rl female but i hate how pushy guys seem to be on here, with the voice chatting etc. Rl ladies do you voice chat with guys on here? I am two months old on sl by the way. I like it so far, but i dislike how pushy some of these guys are

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I was at a new club one time (not even open yet)  visiting my friend that was training to be a dancer, so to pass the time i asked if i could use a pole.   The owner said no, not untill we verify yo

Just tell the next one that you're actually a dog in RL, turn on the Mic and woof.   (Don't worry about pushy ones, it's a natural selection process, he just self certified himself out of candidacy

Brain verification! Surprising few pass that one.

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No, I don't Voice at all. I enjoy the quiet. If you aren't engaging in intimate stuff what's the point of "proving" one's gender, any way? Personally, I don't much care about the typist's gender. But, I'm honest so I hope for honesty in return, if the subject ever comes up.

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Sassy Romano wrote: [... ] (Don't worry about pushy ones, it's a natural selection process, he just self certified himself out of candidacy)

^^ Exactly that.

Other than that, I don't care to verify anything: whoever doesn't believe me, is free not to do so, and probably a good idea that we remain distrustful of each other.

 

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A no is a no!

If he can not respect that, he is not worth your time!

Another option of course is, make fun out of him before you let him go. 

Step one: make a voice verification of a couple of minutes

Step two: have steaming, none voice sex with him In-World

Step three: get voice morphing software

Step four: call him on voice (or skype) with a male voice and apologise for having make him believe you were a woman, tell him in the first call you used a voice morphing application.

This will confuse the hell out of him and he might actually learn his lesson!

 

 

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I do use voice a lot in SL, but not to verify anything. When I was new I was kind of seeing this guy who only liked to use voice, he was a builder and it was easier for him to talk while working than type. My mic jack wound up messing up and it was quite awhile before I was able to fix it, in the meantime, he accused me of being a guy in rl, saying I'd probably got someone else to talk for me all the times before that we'd spoken LOL. We ended it of course, why in the world would you want to be with someone who obviously doesn't trust you in the slightest?

Voice verifying doesn't verify anything. Next they'll want to cam to make sure, but cam doesn't verify anything either, so they'll want a full hoo-haa shot to make sure that your lady bits are where they should be. If you're really worried someone is going to think you're a dude, make sure your shrubbery is trimmed neatly so they won't be left with any doubts. Seems legit. :matte-motes-bored:

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I was at a new club one time (not even open yet)  visiting my friend that was training to be a dancer, so to pass the time i asked if i could use a pole.

 

The owner said no, not untill we verify you.

 

I said "how, live webcam shot of my **bleep**?".

 

He said "no, we voice verify".

 

I was annoyed so i said... "hold on one sec, i'll get my wife".

 

You never seen anyone kicked and banned from a club as fast as he did me.

 

:)

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I am not female, but I do not voice chat either...nor do I expect others to speak over voice to me to "prove" who or what they are.

I do not see why it would matter what gender someone would be in RL anyway, especially since no dating is involved.


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I was unfriended by A guy i met on yesterday, because i didnt want to voice chat with him. I told him i wasnt ready for that right away because we had only met the day before. i let him know i wasnt looking for relationships only friendships anyhow.

He had no business wanting something so personal -- I consider voice chatting / voice verifying personal -- from you, then pushing you when you said "no." Honestly it is just plain creepy when people do that, especially when they are utter strangers.


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[...] i hate how pushy guys seem to be on here, with the voice chatting etc. [...] I like it so far, but i dislike how pushy some of these guys are

Women are pushy too. I have had multiple women try to get me to voice chat with them, to the point of making accusations when I refused (I have a speech empediment in RL and it is too wearisome / embarrassing to try to talk to people in RL, much less SL where I have the option of typing).

Mind you, I am not trying to nullify your words -- many men in SL are pushy and irritating. I just wanted to add to your words, that is all.

 

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Well, welcome to sl. You're going to get people, both male and female that will accuse you of being a male, just because. I used to be one of those girls that had no problem mic'ing or camming upon request. But like some of the other posters, it doesn't matter how much you verify, some people will call you a guy regardless. If you mic up, you're using a voice changer, if you have pics, they aren't you, if you skype you're using a recording...it's a little ridiculous. And there are a lot of psychos out there, I'll leave it at that.

 

My advice is only do what you are comfortable with and know this is pretty common with some people on SL.

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No, I don't Voice at all. I enjoy the quiet. If you aren't engaging in intimate stuff what's the point of "proving" one's gender, any way? Personally, I don't much care about the typist's gender. But, I'm honest so I hope for honesty in return, if the subject ever comes up.

Even if you are engaging in intimate activities, what does the RL gender of the avatar matter? I don't care what gender someone is behind the keyboard, just like when i meet a transgender when i am out with my kids.. if they are portraying a female, they are female.

(what is really sad is the SL spell checker says Transgender is misspelled.)

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VerityMorgan wrote:

No, I don't Voice at all. I enjoy the quiet. If you aren't engaging in intimate stuff what's the point of "proving" one's gender, any way? Personally, I don't much care about the typist's gender. But, I'm honest so I hope for honesty in return, if the subject ever comes up.

Even if you are engaging in intimate activities, what does the RL gender of the avatar matter? I don't care what gender someone is behind the keyboard, just like when i meet a transgender when i am out with my kids.. if they are portraying a female, they are female.

(what is really sad is the SL spell checker says Transgender is misspelled.)

^^ This exactly. For me a person is whatever they're portraying. A girl is a girl, a guy is a guy, and a talking cat is a talking cat. I don't care. I have had to ask a couple of times though, when I've thought of someone as a girl or guy and then they speak, and are obviously another gender, which they prefer to be recognised as. 

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I don't personally have a need to voice verify, for anyone, regardless of their gender. However, I have used voice, lots of times. I primarily use it with people I know, though. That's mostly because I have kids, and pets, and a household going on behind me....and people get annoyed when they hear background noise of any kind. Thankfully my friends don't give a rat's left nut, in fact most of them have been around to "hear" and "see" my kiddos grow up, so they're quite fond of my little midgets. However perfect strangers...yeah, apparently they expect everyone to live in a bubble. This is not just a house, it's a home, and it's rarely if ever quiet. I got tired of hearing people **bleep** and complain because god forbid they realize I'm not an avatar in real life, and I don't live in that quiet little bubble. So I don't use voice with folks I don't know for the most part, unless there is some dire need to do so. Such as helping a customer who has difficulty typing or reading, for whatever reason. 

I do believe all people should be respectful and mindful of others' comfort zones, whatever those zones may be. For those who do not wish to voice, others should respect that. For those who need that type of communication, others should respect that. If the two comfort zones, or wishes, whatever you want to call it, don't mesh well...then they don't mesh well. It's not the end of the world, we're not all compatible with one another. Regardless, communication of one's comfort zone is, imo, important. Pushy folks, regardless of which side of the fence they sit on...well, shrug them off. They exist everywhere, if it's not one thing, it's another. Anyone who respects other people, won't be pushy. Folks who are pushy, aren't respectful people, so, no need to pay them much mind.

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Personally, I don't care about anyone's RL gender or status because I have zero inclinations of taking SL into RL. I address and interact with everyone in whatever manner they choose to present themselves within SL, as in my opinion this validates the self-expressive side of SL and allows others to "be what inspires them" without someone trying to bring them down.

 

If anyone wants to meet others of similar mindset to what I described, we have an SL group called "The Acceptance Project" where people who prefer to interact with others -as they appear in SL- can network.

 

Many people who are new to SL or even new to virtual worlds in general often miss the nuance that Many people come to SL to be what they can't be in RL. They innocently assume that everyone uses SL sort of like Facebook and when they encounter people who are not as "open" about their Real Life as they themselves are; it's a problem.

 

Way back when I was playing City of Heroes before I found SL, there used to be a joke that MMORPG didn't really mean "Massive Multiplayer Online Role Playing Game" ; it meant "Many Men Online Role Playing Girls". There is a certain truth to that and it doesn't bother me.........although it positively freaks out some people. My RL and SL genders do not match and I don't make a secret of that; but not everyone is ready to be quite so open.

 

Realistically, SL Mentors should probably brief New Residents that SL on this stuff. That way Reality would not be such a shock :-)

 

My standard answer when I get that IM asking: "UR hot, R U a true gurl?" goes something like this; "If it's important to you that I am, then you should probably keep looking". It saves a lot of drama :-)

 

People have numerous reasons for not wanting to Voice, sometimes it's the presence of minor children, sometimes it's a disability, sometimes it's as a courtesy to people who are present who CAN'T voice ( at work, etc ). It's not wise to jump to conclusions .

 

In the past some longtime SL residents have poo-pooed the utility of groups like TAP as no longer serving a purpose; that we're past all the "voice verified" or "Verified Female" stuff.

 

Then someone starts a thread like this :-)

 

Feel free to friend me, I'm always glad to meet new Residents and no..... I don't Voice :-)

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I get very much where you're coming from. In the last week I've 2 men unfriend me because I wouldn't voice. They didn't seem to understand that one of the reasons I wouldn't was because I didn't have a microphone. I moved recently and so much stuff got thrown out that I can only assume my headsets were among them and my PC doesn't have an inbuilt one. It really didn't bother me that much, as their attitude towards the problem stank. When I can I'm quite happy to verify i'm female, until then its their problem, not mine. I know I'm a woman and if they can't wait well....

Stick to your guns and don't let yourself be bullied by these morons. 

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I think voice takes away the magic from SL... If I should think a dog in here is cute, I would not expect to hear it barf a "wuff" in the mic either, to proof it really is a dog in real too. For me people can be, who ever they are in real, I only concentrate of the behaviour of their avas inworld.

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Drake1 Nightfire wrote:

Even if you are engaging in intimate activities, what does the RL gender of the avatar matter? I don't care what gender someone is behind the keyboard, just like when i meet a transgender when i am out with my kids.. if they are portraying a female, they are female.

(what is really sad is the SL spell checker says Transgender is misspelled.)

 BRAVO....WELL SAID, DRAKE!!

I agree 100%...if the guy can't deal with the fact that you won't voice with him, then f**k him (not literally of course, although I'm sure that's what he's looking for anyway). he's not worth it and move on.

I've RP'd with lots of men who are playing women in SL..never using voice, of course (and lots of men have played with me being a girl in SL :matte-motes-sunglasses-3:)...and as long as they look the part and act the part, I don't care if they're Bigfoot in RL. Who....cares???? You are here to enjoy yourself. Avoid his drama and, if you'd like, I'll tell him to **bleep** off....he'll love my deep, sexy voice (I did radio in college a long time ago and people always tell me I have a disk jockey type voice...:matte-motes-sunglasses-3:)

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My 10 year old made a transgender woman cry the other day.. We were at the grocery store and she was ahead of us in the deli line and my daughter walked up to her and told her she hoped she was as beautiful as her when she grows up. I have to admit, i had tears in my eyes. I am always blown away by how accepting kids can be when raised correctly.

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Drake1 Nightfire wrote:

My 10 year old made a transgender woman cry the other day.. We were at the grocery store and she was ahead of us in the deli line and my daughter walked up to her and told her she hoped she was as beautiful as her when she grows up. I have to admit, i had tears in my eyes. I am always blown away by how accepting kids can be when raised correctly.

Children are a remarkable species all on their own. It is we, adults, who manage finding ways to screw them up along the way.  Thankfully, not all of us pull off this devastating act.  I would venture a guess that your daughter is as accepting as she is, because you, yourself, are an amazing parent. :)

Kids never cease to amaze me, to be honest. They are a perfect example to us adults, yet we rarely look to them as such :)

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This is a fairly common problem for some reason.  I have male avs ask to voice with me all the time.  I'm personally not comfortable with it, even though I've nothing to hide, one reason being that I do not want to do simulated sex and especially not on mic and it appears the ones who insist are most often leading up to exactly that.  So I have learned that a disclaimer in my profile works pretty well.  Simply state that you do not voice or cam (if you don't want to that is).  And if they want simulated sex, there are escort services available in sl for that (again, if you don't wish to).  That kind of filters out the ones who are only interested in voice or cam for that reason right from the get-go. Saves you time.  Occasionally there are some who did not bother to read my profile disclaimer.  When they ask to voice, I point them to the profile.  I do mention I am female in rl on the 1st life tab, but if they believe it or not is not my concern.

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