irma1992 1 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 HiI want to askdid you ever having an affair and what it was like. Link to post Share on other sites
jujmental 0 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 I went to a fair once, but the rides made me feel sick. I also went to a really bad zoo once, that only had one dog in it; it was a shih tzu. © The Judge Link to post Share on other sites
Randall Ahren 69 Posted November 16, 2013 Share Posted November 16, 2013 Affairs are like a beautiful sunrise, promising everything and nothing. And then the clouds move in and rain begins to fall. Small drops at first and then a torrential drenching downpour that leaves you soaked and shivering like an addict deep in withdrawal. When it's over, you'll wonder how you survived. Link to post Share on other sites
Amethyst Jetaime 1,584 Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 I assume by affair, you mean cheating on a spouse or partner in a non role play relationship in SL. I've never cheated so I can only tell you what I have observed. Generally someone always gets hurt. The people having the affair when one of them decides it to end it or they get caught and have to face the music, The person being cheated on gets hurt when they find out. If you are the one cheating, it may feel thrilling at first but in the end you are just going to feel guilty and cheap. If the person you are having the affair with is the one cheating, remember that if you end up partnered or married, they will eventually cheat you you too. If you no longer want to be exclusive to a spouse or partner, do the right thing and tell them before you take up another relationship. Yes it may hurt them, but it will hurt far less than finding out you cheated. If you don't want to do this you are either a coward or worse, you are using the other person for some ulterior motive. EIther way it doesn't say much about you as a person. Link to post Share on other sites
jujmental 0 Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 Men are not made to be monogamous; women are. Which is why females who reply here will be full of splenetic condemnation (especially those who have been discarded) and any other men who can be bothered to respond will pretend to feel the same way, to be seen as sympathetic, all the better to get into the panties of the aforementioned. © The Judge Link to post Share on other sites
Blue Voix 0 Posted November 17, 2013 Share Posted November 17, 2013 Well played Sir, well played I think every word you wrote will manage to touch on someone's nerves. Link to post Share on other sites
irma1992 1 Posted November 19, 2013 Author Share Posted November 19, 2013 I said that if this happened in real life.I agree with Amethyst Jetaime, we should not commit fraud against our spouse Link to post Share on other sites
david2013ike 0 Posted November 19, 2013 Share Posted November 19, 2013 Hilarious! Link to post Share on other sites
Aislin Ceawlin 1,455 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Yet, from everything I've observed in my lifetime, true :matte-motes-bored: Link to post Share on other sites
Aislin Ceawlin 1,455 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 I don't believe humans (males and females alike) were meant to be monogomous. It's a lovely philosophy, but in practice, usually not so lovely. Link to post Share on other sites
Syo Emerald 5,900 Posted December 15, 2013 Share Posted December 15, 2013 Aislin Ceawlin wrote: I don't believe humans (males and females alike) were meant to be monogomous. It's a lovely philosophy, but in practice, usually not so lovely. Yeah....because people who **bleep** around, have kids from 3 different partners and every month a new love have such a stable life and provide such a relieable environment for said kids! Oh, and how well humans can deal with jealousy, ha, they can share their loved partner with a milion others! Ok...now back to reality. In what universe are you at the moment? Link to post Share on other sites
Aislin Ceawlin 1,455 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Syo Emerald wrote: Aislin Ceawlin wrote: I don't believe humans (males and females alike) were meant to be monogomous. It's a lovely philosophy, but in practice, usually not so lovely. Yeah....because people who **bleep** around, have kids from 3 different partners and every month a new love have such a stable life and provide such a relieable environment for said kids! Oh, and how well humans can deal with jealousy, ha, they can share their loved partner with a milion others! Ok...now back to reality. In what universe are you at the moment? You are certainly free to your beliefs. I never said that I don't also wish that it would be easier. I, personally, have never cheated on anyone. I just think that it is more of a societal based philosophy, based on need rather than what we are hard wired for. Women are less likely to cheat because they have more to lose, especially if there are children. I actually feel much the same as you, Syo. I was just looking at it from a purely scientific angle, rather than an emotional one. Link to post Share on other sites
Madelaine McMasters 25,882 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Aislin Ceawlin wrote: Syo Emerald wrote: Aislin Ceawlin wrote: I don't believe humans (males and females alike) were meant to be monogomous. It's a lovely philosophy, but in practice, usually not so lovely. Yeah....because people who **bleep** around, have kids from 3 different partners and every month a new love have such a stable life and provide such a relieable environment for said kids! Oh, and how well humans can deal with jealousy, ha, they can share their loved partner with a milion others! Ok...now back to reality. In what universe are you at the moment? You are certainly free to your beliefs. I never said that I don't also wish that it would be easier. I, personally, have never cheated on anyone. I just think that it is more of a societal based philosophy, based on need rather than what we are hard wired for. Women are less likely to cheat because they have more to lose, especially if there are children. I actually feel much the same as you, Syo. I was just looking at it from a purely scientific angle, rather than an emotional one. "In 2011, Emma Nelson of the University of Liverpool and her colleagues looked at the finger bones of ancient hominid fossils. From what they found, they concluded that hominids 4.4 million years ago mated with many females. By about 3.5 million years ago, however, the finger-length ratio indicated that hominids had shifted more toward monogamy." ... from this article. Social animals experience societal selection pressure, so your argument that it's more "societal based" than "hard wired" is perhaps a distinction without a difference. Link to post Share on other sites
Aislin Ceawlin 1,455 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Perhaps, it was just a thought. Nothing I seriously investigated. Link to post Share on other sites
Madelaine McMasters 25,882 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 Aislin Ceawlin wrote: Perhaps, it was just a thought. Nothing I seriously investigated. Understood. Like almost anything involving people, as you said... "It's a lovely philosophy, but in practice, usually not so lovely." or, as the great philosopher Yogi Berra said... "In theory there is no difference between theory and practice. In practice there is." ;-) Link to post Share on other sites
Storm Clarence 495 Posted December 16, 2013 Share Posted December 16, 2013 irma1992 wrote: what it was like. It was an affair to remember. a/s/l? Link to post Share on other sites
Marigold Devin 5,711 Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 irma1992 wrote: Hi I want to ask did you ever having an affair and what it was like. I was tempted to have an affair when I was living with someone and they worked away most of the time. I confessed to him that I was tempted, and he was most understanding about it, saying that if I did go ahead and meet this other fellow, that he also expected that I would find alternative accommodation and kindly move out. I didn't have the affair, but I did move out. It wasn't love. Obviously. When I was 18/19 I was involved with a married man. He was having the affair. I thought it was fun at the time. The sex was ... ok. His wife seemed bored with him. But I would never wanted him to leave his wife. How stupid and naive. I broke us up. I would not have liked to have hurt his wife. And I would hate it even now if she should ever find out, but what has been done cannot be undone, and if you are about to embark on an affair, then simply DON'T. The repercussions will reverberate for the rest of your life, and too many people can potentially be hurt by the selfish actions of just one or two people. Link to post Share on other sites
Storm Clarence 495 Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 I was once married. I had an affair for almost 5 weeks during our marriage. We were only married for 6 weeks. I still consider my ex-wife to be the "one that got away." My ex-affair/love considers my ex-wife to be the 'affair' I had whilst having an affair with her.. 30 years later and I'm still confused. Carpe diem. Link to post Share on other sites
Marigold Devin 5,711 Posted December 17, 2013 Share Posted December 17, 2013 Storm Clarence wrote: I was once married. I had an affair for almost 5 weeks during our marriage. We were only married for 6 weeks. I still consider my ex-wife to be the "one that got away." My ex-affair/love considers my ex-wife to be the 'affair' I had whilst having an affair with her.. 30 years later and I'm still confused. Carpe diem. I think my signature line should now read "Fifty, fiercely single and no longer confused." ***** This too shall pass. :matte-motes-whistle: Link to post Share on other sites
CJ Farina 0 Posted December 26, 2013 Share Posted December 26, 2013 If you are in an exclusive relationship, why stress out by sneaking around? Either ask to take it Open or leave the relationship and remain unattached until you have successfully glutted your sex-drive and have a shot at staying with one person. Most likely, if you ask for an open relationship you will wind up single anyway........ Stable relationships require trust in the other persons integrity, if you feel that you sexual needs are leading you to stray - then free the person who expects you to be loyal from their false assumption and go do what you need to without deception. Link to post Share on other sites
steph Arnott 344 Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 The majority of men just can not cope being alone, were as women never are. Just because If a women has no partner, she still has many sisters. Link to post Share on other sites
jujmental 0 Posted December 28, 2013 Share Posted December 28, 2013 steph Arnott wrote: The majority of men just can not cope being alone, were as women never are. Just because If a women has no partner, she still has many sisters. This is quite simply, as my padawan The Farquhar might say, ******* ********. On the charge of talking antiquated feminist nonsense that has no relation to the contemporary civilised world: Guilty © The Judge Link to post Share on other sites
Jumpman Lane 118 Posted January 15, 2014 Share Posted January 15, 2014 Yup! Im a **bleep**! Link to post Share on other sites
Sherron Bluestar 0 Posted April 14, 2014 Share Posted April 14, 2014 My RL husband had a RL affair with someone he met in SL. She is from Norway and we are in the US.. She left her family to meet him in the US. What the idiot doesn't know is that he is also on SL as a female lesbian, and hanging out in B & D sims and screwing everybody in site. I am the wife and i am the one that hired a private detective, I know everything!!!!. When you hook up with someone in Sl you have no idea what you are getting involved in. My RL husband of 30 years and I are now in the divorce process and she is in love with a fantasy! I understand that 25% of the females on SL are men, I believe it! I never thought my husband would be one! I was devastated. Be careful of men on this site!!! Sherron Bluestar Link to post Share on other sites
Drake1 Nightfire 3,488 Posted April 16, 2014 Share Posted April 16, 2014 Sherron Bluestar wrote: My RL husband had a RL affair with someone he met in SL. She is from Norway and we are in the US.. She left her family to meet him in the US. What the idiot doesn't know is that he is also on SL as a female lesbian, and hanging out in B & D sims and screwing everybody in site. I am the wife and i am the one that hired a private detective, I know everything!!!!. When you hook up with someone in Sl you have no idea what you are getting involved in. My RL husband of 30 years and I are now in the divorce process and she is in love with a fantasy! I understand that 25% of the females on SL are men, I believe it! I never thought my husband would be one! I was devastated. Be careful of men on this site!!! Sherron Bluestar I'm sorry your husband is an A$$, but don't lump us all in with him. There are plenty of women who have cheated on their RL partners. Just say, be careful on SL. Link to post Share on other sites
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