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Carl Thibodeaux

Do people ever reconnect with the ones they lost?

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Carl Thibodeaux wrote:

Curiosity killed the cat, So can't let it kill me.

Do you ever find the person you lost or missed?

I was told by my mother that the full saying is Curiosity killed the cat, satisfaction brought it back. Not sure if she was telling the truth but it works for me. 

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In my experience, it doesn't usually happen through the forum.

Every so often, you'll hear from someone who's heard from that person, but most times no.

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i lost contact with my best friend in all of second life about a year ago and we- just this past month- got back in contact. not through the forum but my god it was a beautiful experience.

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I would say: Some do, some don't.

I started in 2007, then deleted my first account in 2009 and made a new one. I only told 4 people about my new account.

And after some drama i deleted that one and made a new one in 2011. I never told anyone where i went, i just moved on.

My old SL-mom had her account for 8 years, had bought a sim, an expensive house, she did drag racing and worked for NCI... and all of a sudden she deleted all of her alts (the ones that i knew). And nobody knew what happened to her.

I am sure she is still around somewhere. People just don't quit SL like that. But many people just leave everything behind and move on.

And its hard to find them. If you're lucky and they want to get back in touch with you then they will :)

 

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Okay, that cracked me up.  I am sure we all have some of those but to my thinking, every experience with another gives you something valuable you can take away from it if you think about it. 

I think the most difficult thing for us is to embrace the fact that everything has a season.  People can be in your lives for just a season and it is okay.  In fact we are not here to acquire but to lose.  If we are in any life(First or Second) long enough, we will lose a lot.  Even our own bodies.

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I think some people do reconnect yes, but I think more often than not once reconnected things are never really the same as they used to be.  We tend to have our own way of remembering how things were and sometimes it wasn't the same way the other person remembered it, not to mention, over time we all change.  If when you lost someone it was a not so great parting of ways, it is hard and often impossible to find that groove, that fluidity that you once had with them again, so you are always left wishing, dreaming, hoping to have and feel what you had in the past again and you end up never truly satisfied.

Just my opinion and experience from reconnections with people here in SL over time.  I guess that is why now I try and never go backwards when its over it is over (ok, I do have a bad habit of looking back, but I try to not actually go back now) , only forwards.

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The fact is more often than not people do not reconnect with people from their past SL lives. There are many reasons for this. They could have ha d abig falling out and were just never able to move past it and trying to reconnect with them would just never work. Also a person may have just to much drama in their life and decide to say  enough and just abandon their  avatar and move on to a new one with a fresh start ( sometimes leaving behind people that actually cared because it was all too much).

 

2 years ago i had a falling out with a sister/old friend over something petty and stupid. I thought we were done for good and slowly over time i realized i was completly rediculous about the whole thing, but by then i felt it was too late and that she wouldnt ever want to be friends again. Long after this i was already using a second account as my main having got bored with my other one. Well one day a few months ago i made the leap to contact her. We are close as ever now. Its like our friendship picked up where it was back before the argument.

 

So 2 years later and we reconnected. It is possible. There is no guarentee if you reconnect that it could ever be the same as what you had before. You may just end up  saying a few words on ocassion but never really having much of a friendship again. Do give it time though if you try.

 

 

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