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Does your Sl adult activites have any impact on your RL?

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Hi,

 

Just thought it might be worthy of discussion what impact if any you Sl adult activities have on your Real Life (rl) love life.

 

If you have a partner,

 

1 Does it enhance your lovelife, take away from it because you spend too much time on Sl or because you get the excitement in SL that you would be better having with your partner in rl?

 

2 If you haven't a partner in real life,

 

Does taking part in adult activities in sl stop you from devoting more of your time in real life to finding that partner?

 

This is not a trick question, just wondering what others think

Sting

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At the time when I had someone in sl, rl guy didn't care what I do there and we were mentioning sl maybe once a week, but sl guy was asking too many questions. Today, when we are only friends and don't speak often, he still asks about that rl guy. I hate it.

Both lifes have impact on each other but its not something I can explain in a few sentences, its a matter of specific situations, feelings and personalities. 

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Ever thought about the possibility that life doesn't only know the two states of "having a partner" and "searching for one"?

Thats like asking if masturbating would keep someone away from being interested in sex with other people.

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I was the single status when I went into SL, seeking dark/horror rp.  Was very content to remain single, but the type of guy who holds a good job, keeps fit, and RL social contacts.  I just never had an interest in vanilla relationships, found that out later in life.  However thanks to what I Roleplay, and those who I did with, lead me to education about BDSM, and a much healthier acceptance of myself in the way I am. 

That made me visit the more RL BDSM sims around, and start to read up about it, go to the sites committed to it. 

Now it’s lead me to RL BDSM, knowing my community locally, and getting myself ready for one of my slaves is moving in soon.   

So, if anything, it’s been the polar opposite…has motivated me to spend time on the RL side.  I certainly miss not being around so much in SL.  I found that being a good RP’er seemed to really open trust…and I never abused that trust.

I’ve also known I’ve revv’ed up a few of my RP partners, to be rather more…in the mood with their RL partners.  Which I like to think…it helped their relationship.  Maybe…usually avoid discussing RL with most.

I’ll miss my good friends here, as I’m now winding down, my presence is much less than it used to be.  It’s been a good run….and certainly never planned for this when I first stepped in SL.  If anything, if I read this two years back, it’ll probably make me not want to go into SL!   This is not, by far, over yet.

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Well, being Single in real life. And close to being taken in SL, and the many adult activities i protake in in SL..

I don't think it impacts me by much, unless i shake it too much. I don't know.

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I like your way of looking at it Syo.  I agree, it doesn't have to be two states.  SL is fantasy fun with real relationships.  

So my question, is it masturbating if you **bleep** in RL while having sex with a partner in SL, or is it more like having real sex?

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Good question Thabiso!

I don't consider having sex in SL unless my SL partner at the time is also going to enjoy it in their RL while we do it in SL. With both of us doing this in RL at the same time as in SL, it makes it so much more meaningful to our relationship. The intamacy level is higher, the eroticism is almost pure fantasy and the satisfaction is complete. When you voice, its almost like what I would imagine phone sex is like but between two ppl that feel and care for each other and not just a paid event. IMHO, doing it any other way is like a cartoon. 

As far as RL is concerned, weather its porn, by myself or a requested sexual event with my RL partner, releasing myself is for me. When I do it in a relationship, its for the other persons sexual desire. (To address the masterbation issue.) My SL is actually a second life. Its boundaries are limited to SL. Yes there is a person behind the avatar but by mutually agreeing that there are boundaries and those being SL, then what I have found is that it makes for a solid sexual and real relationship in SL and my relationship with my RL partner more meaningful as well. I love them both that much stronger. And yes, I cannot explain why but it does. Still working on that.   

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Hello, not only sex related - my wild days on SL are gone for long ..., with SL relations of any kind i learned alot about myself. What i want and need and how to communicate that to others.

RL doesn´t mean you don´t talk about sex, poorly most just go down.

One thing i learned on SL, i´m useless at all this BDSM, sub, slave buisness because i have to laugh then, nervousity or plain ignorance ??? That means no RP of any kind. It´s me both worlds.

Monti

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Sort of, but not really.

 

More often than not, what I experience in SL merely serves as idea fodder for RL, or even what I RP with between my significant other and I. It helps to keep ideas fresh.

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Some guys get mad at me I invited him to play it with me just cause I thought it be fun to play a video game together and he got mad cause I'm an escort and accused me of trying to get him to hire me as an escort in this game he never played before.

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