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First of all, thanks for taking the time to read this!

I'm 28 years old, sane, and a mild mannered guy looking to get out more on SL. I'm from the south (United States), though I'm not your typical southerner I do have the charm and gentlemanly qualities a woman might expect. I'm looking for a woman (i.e. 21 and older in RL) to spend time with on SL. I do have a preference for older women but this isn't a requirement. Spending time together includes a large spectrum of activities from shopping, wandering through new cities, helping me decorate my home, going out dancing, lots of conversation, hanging out the beach, role playing, to adult playtime and whatever else there is to do here that interests you as well. Bilingual speakers (Spanish and/or Italian) are a plus, as I like to enhance my language skills. And please, by all means, have a proper and firm grasp of the English lanuage.


Things You Should Know and Be Alright With:

1. I'm not looking for commitment or a relationship. Just a primary (or a few primaries) to spend time with and have some fun on SL. No more than that.
2. I have many female friends on SL that I enjoy spending time with. Therefore, you should expect to spend some time with them too. Jealousy will not be tolerated nor reciprocated. I'm happy to spend time your friends as well.

3. I have many friends from all walks of life, including GLBTQ people, friends of many faiths, as well as different nationalities and ethnicities. In other words, if you are close minded or a bigot of some variety then don't waste my time or yours.

4. I only get on SL a few hours a week so your schedule should fit mine. I'm mostly on SL in the evenings around 8:00 p.m.- 11:00 p.m. on American eastern time. I'm also on a couple hours in the morning on weekends from 8:00-10:00 a.m.

5. Lastly, there will be no monetary compensation for this arrangement, though I will give you gifts and treat you well if we get along. Shopping sprees and other gifts of your choosing will come your way if you put in some time with me.

 

Thanks and I look forward to all of your responses!


-Del

 

 

 

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plainly you one of those "I m looking for a female companion" but I dont want comitment and I have a few other female friends, and and  haha

anyways, what I mean is, why you want a female companion if you already have many to spend time with?
 

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"Plainly you are (this) and HAHA"... the digital point and laugh? Really? Plainly you are exactly NOT what the OP has expressed interest in, and exactly what he clearly has expressed a DISinterest in.

Bewildered as to why these people are always so accurate and never miss hitting the post reply button.

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Dana Hickman wrote:

"Plainly you are (this) and HAHA"... the digital point and laugh? Really? Plainly you are exactly NOT what the OP has expressed interest in, and exactly what he clearly has expressed a DISinterest in.

Bewildered as to why these people are always so accurate and never miss hitting the post reply button
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Actually it seems the OP wants someone else to wrap their SL experirence around theirs...not the smartest thing a person should do as SL should be what YOU want and YOUR escape. Since as Syo said, it's a more friends with benefits, and it seems a bit selfish. If someone wants to do that, hey it's their decision. Why you had to reply to her with such rudeness is ridiculous. She is also entitled to her thought as everyone is, maybe if people did it without so much opinionated tone and harshness, threads would be actually interesting to read instead of using the topic as an excuse to be rude to another poster.

eta- not so bewildered as to why people hit the reply to another poster to push their opinion, you just as you did but I am sure you can justify it in your head :)

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Friends with benefits is all people see when they read my original post? I suppose I wasn't clear enough in my intentions. As I said, I'm looking for female companionship. No more. No less. I want to spend what few hours a week I have on SL with a fun, adventurous woman to do different activities with. That doesn't mean I simply just want to have a benefits only kind of deal. I simply don't dedicate enough time or energy to learning about SL so it would be nice to meet someone who knows the more detailed intricacies of navigating around. All of that with someone who is open minded. Furthermore, when a woman posts on these forums that she wants a sugar daddy all of the following responses are nothing but praise for her ability to ask for such a thing. A guy asks for companionship and he gets tore down for being a supposed user. There isn't much logic in that.

 

Shall we try again?

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First:

Do you know what a sugar daddy does? He buys the girl expensive presents and gets her attention, affection and sexual benefits for it. On the outside both pretend to have it as a "real relationship", but the reality is that both only want to reach their goal.

I prefer honest prostitutes and escorts over that pretending stuff.


Second:

Nothing is wrong with somebody asking for companionship, but your post just sounded like those make.believe suger daddy thing. Even more, it doesn't sound like a fair exchange.

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Delaney Sixpence wrote:

First of all, thanks for taking the time to read this!

I'm 28 years old, sane, and a mild mannered guy looking to get out more on SL. I'm from the south (United States), though I'm not your typical southerner I do have the charm and gentlemanly qualities a woman might expect. I'm looking for a woman (i.e. 21 and older in RL) to spend time with on SL. I do have a preference for older women but this isn't a requirement.
Spending time together includes a large spectrum of activities from shopping, wandering through new cities, helping me decorate my home, going out dancing, lots of conversation, hanging out the beach, role playing, to adult playtime and whatever else there is to do here that interests you as well.
Bilingual speakers (Spanish and/or Italian) are a plus, as I like to enhance my language skills. And please, by all means, have a proper and firm grasp of the English lanuage.

Things You Should Know and Be Alright With:

1. I'm not looking for commitment or a relationship
.
Just a primary (or a few primaries)
to spend time with and have some fun on SL.
No more than that. 2.
I have many female friends on SL that I enjoy spending time with. Therefore, you should expect to spend some time with them too.
Jealousy will not be tolerated nor reciprocated. I'm happy to spend time your friends as well.

3. I have many friends from all walks of life, including GLBTQ people, friends of many faiths, as well as different nationalities and ethnicities. In other words, if you are close minded or a bigot of some variety then don't waste my time or yours.

4. I only get on SL a few hours a week so your schedule should fit mine. I'm mostly on SL in the evenings around 8:00 p.m.- 11:00 p.m. on American eastern time. I'm also on a couple hours in the morning on weekends from 8:00-10:00 a.m.

5. Lastly, there will be no monetary compensation for this arrangement, though I will give you gifts and treat you well if we get along. Shopping sprees and other gifts of your choosing will come your way if you put in some time with me.

 

Thanks and I look forward to all of your responses!

-Del

 

Shall we try again?

Most people may find that stuff offensive. People come to sl for their own personal reasons, just as you are saying in your post, you are posting YOUR reasons for being here. The thing is you seem to be making a lot of demands on another person's time in sl and wanting theirs to revolve around your and they have no committment with you lol. It would be sensible to post what you are looking for, but what you want someone to do for you. I don't think you will get such postitive results. I'll say it again, people come to sl for their own reasons, usually not to entertain some strangers whims and seemingly demsnds of time while here, that goes for males and females. I wonder if you would mind if they also had the tolerate no jealousy attitude (people really should get over that anyways) and had someone else, you know like you may have one or girls to hang with, if they blew you off on your limited time here to be with someone else? :)

btw, I think women wanting a sugar daddy is a bit over the top, pay for your way until you establish a relationship, better as friends first. I have someone I share my time here with for 1 /1/2 years, same person, we built a relationship, and he still wouldn't put demands on my time. Good luck finding the person to enhance your experience. Don't take this the wrong way, I am not putting you down for what you ask for, I am only giving you my opinion of how your post seems to come across and maybe you should refine it and make the prosepctive girl feel more inclined to hang out with you.

ETA: typos

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Here's what I don't understand...from your OP you posted:

2. I have many female friends on SL that I enjoy spending time with. Therefore, you should expect to spend some time with them too. Jealousy will not be tolerated nor reciprocated. I'm happy to spend time your friends as well.

In your most recent post you state:

As I said, I'm looking for female companionship. No more. No less. I want to spend what few hours a week I have on SL with a fun, adventurous woman to do different activities with. That doesn't mean I simply just want to have a benefits only kind of deal. I simply don't dedicate enough time or energy to learning about SL so it would be nice to meet someone who knows the more detailed intricacies of navigating around.

I'm confused that, since you have "many female friends" on SL, why you are looking for yet another woman for companionship or to help with the "more detailed intricacies of navigating around."  You also indicate you have limited time on SL to spend with a woman who meets your requirements, yet you also expect this woman to meet your female friends as well as you meeting her friends.

So basically:

*You have limited time on SL

*You already have an established group of female friends but for some reason none of them fulfill what you seek - epecially when you state you are not looking for a committment or relationship.

*You have a legacy last name but don't know how to navigate the intricacies of SL

I'm confused if you want a companion or a tour guide. ;)

As an addendum - I have not posted in the "Sugar Daddy" threads, but I am neither praising nor "tearing down" those posters; I feel the same about this post - neutral.

Edit: clarification

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This is exactly what I have been talking about. I hate when people are like they are just really good friends. Its more a of a friends with benefits type of deal. Its not a real relationship.

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A person looking for a friend(girl or otherwise) to enjoy spending time that also includes sexual relations of any sort without the actual commitment is friends with benefits. That's exactly why people say that's what you're looking for. It is what you're looking for. You want a female companion to spend time with, enjoying each others company whenever it fancies you(either of you) up to and including sex, without commiting solely to one another. That's a benefits package. Lots of people have that sort of relationship with someone, or someones. Calling a spade a spade isn't always a bad thing.

On the sugar daddy front, very few people would actually give those women any kind of kudos or pats on the back specifically for wanting that. Sometimes I'm pretty sure the people who seem to, aren't being serious. But then I wouldn't give kudos or pats on the back to anyone for stating what they want. I don't see a need to. It should be a given to be clear and obvious about your desires.

I could never be someone's sugar daddy. I don't like the clingy nature. I could also not be someone's friend with benefits. Now I could be great friends, and I am, with many women. But even if there were sparks between us, there will be no sexual anything without some sort of commitment to one another. That's just my personal preference. I don't begrudge others' their desires, but I can say that neither would suit me well and they're not  qualities I like, or necessarily agree with, generally speaking. Others are free to do whatever makes their ticker tick, just don't expect me to agree with your methods.

I don't think there is anything wrong with stating exactly what you are looking for and want in an ideal partner, friend, lover, whatever have you-whether or not I agree with your ideal(s). There's just no need to be offended when others point out what they see you asking for. All those people are doing, is stating the obvious that, for whatever reason, you're avoiding stating lol.

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OMG why can't you ever let people post thier views? She didn't come across rude to another poster as someone else did here, she responded to another poster who had the same view. It's funny how you preach to everyone but your replies are the same thing you are preaching to other people not to do. I couldn't even read the whole post, they are always too long and dismissing others views.

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Delaney Sixpence wrote:

First of all, thanks for taking the time to read this!

I'm 28 years old, sane, and a mild mannered guy looking to get out more on SL. I'm from the south (United States), though I'm not your typical southerner I do have the charm and gentlemanly qualities a woman might expect. I'm looking for a woman (i.e. 21 and older in RL) to spend time with on SL. I do have a preference for older women but this isn't a requirement. Spending time together includes a large spectrum of activities from shopping, wandering through new cities, helping me decorate my home, going out dancing, lots of conversation, hanging out the beach, role playing, to adult playtime and whatever else there is to do here that interests you as well. Bilingual speakers (Spanish and/or Italian) are a plus, as I like to enhance my language skills. And please, by all means, have a proper and firm grasp of the English lanuage.

 

Things You Should Know and Be Alright With:

 

1. I'm not looking for commitment or a relationship. Just a primary (or a few primaries) to spend time with and have some fun on SL. No more than that.

2. I have many female friends on SL that I enjoy spending time with. Therefore, you should expect to spend some time with them too. Jealousy will not be tolerated nor reciprocated. I'm happy to spend time your friends as well.

3. I have many friends from all walks of life, including GLBTQ people, friends of many faiths, as well as different nationalities and ethnicities. In other words, if you are close minded or a bigot of some variety then don't waste my time or yours.

4. I only get on SL a few hours a week so your schedule should fit mine. I'm mostly on SL in the evenings around 8:00 p.m.- 11:00 p.m. on American eastern time. I'm also on a couple hours in the morning on weekends from 8:00-10:00 a.m.

5. Lastly, there will be no monetary compensation for this arrangement, though I will give you gifts and treat you well if we get along. Shopping sprees and other gifts of your choosing will come your way if you put in some time with me.

 

Thanks and I look forward to all of your responses!

 

-Del

 

 

 

Greetings, Delaney

I think its great that you know what you want, jolly marvellous that you already have a wide circle of friends with whom to spend time in Second Life.

You might be lucky finding someone who will meet your very specific criteria, although the odds are stacked against that happening from advertising yourself here on the forums. Nonetheless, if someone has a friend of a friend, I am sure they would happily put you in touch, and it never hurts to cast your net as far as possible.

You would probably be wise to continue exploring inworld alone for now, and see who you encounter during those few precious hours you are able to make it into world. If you have not already done so, you could put on your profile that you are not seeking a committed relationship, but friendships are always most welcome.

I feel I am teaching granny to suck eggs somewhat, but that is my two pennies worth of opinion/advice.

Good luck in your quest to find the one who slots into your SLife.

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Allisah wrote:

OMG why can't you ever let people post thier views? She didn't come across rude to another poster as someone else did here, she responded to another poster who had the same view. It's funny how you preach to everyone but your replies are the same thing you are preaching to other people not to do. I couldn't even read the whole post, they are always too long and dismissing others views.

Huh?

I wasn't preaching anything, lmao. My post was in reply to the OP ;)

I didn't dismiss anything. The OP asked why people saw the  post as asking for friends with benefits and why girls looking for sugar daddy isn't looked upon the same.

Maybe you should have actually read what I said.

 

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No, you weren't preaching anything lmao to you as well. I did read your post and maybe YOU should think before you hit the reply button to whom you are replying to or at least correct the mistaken reply as Miserlie is not the OP.

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Allisah wrote:

No, you weren't preaching anything lmao to you as well. I did read your post and maybe YOU should think before you hit the reply button to whom you are replying to or at least correct the mistaken reply as Miserlie is not the OP.

Yep I hit the wrong reply button. It happens, and I can't change that once I've already replied or I would have. I really do wish there were a way to correct that sort of thing, because it happens quite often, to a lot of people all over the forums. I did think it was obvious from my answers they should have been directed to the Op, however, since they were direct answers. Maybe I wasn't very clear in that.

Even with my flub of hitting the wrong reply button, or if it had actually been directed at the person I accidentally directed it towards, your reply to me makes no sense. My post had nothing in it you said it did. That's why I found it funny.

 

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The Edit option is available to all. No, it didn't make sense, you replied to a person who mentioned friends with benefits which you spoke of right away in your post. I am glad you found it funny, Don't assume, we don't always come across to everyone the way it was intended, no matter what we think in our heads.

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Allisah wrote:

The Edit option is available to all. No, it didn't make sense, you replied to a person who mentioned friends with benefits which you spoke of right away in your post. I am glad you found it funny, Don't assume, we don't always come across to everyone the way it was intended, no matter what we think in our heads.

Editing a post does not change the name of the person you clicked "reply" to.

Even if my reply actually was directed to Miserlie, my post doesn't dismiss anything Miserlie said. In fact my post actually agrees, as we both see the OP's response(s) as wanting a friends with benefits relationship. It seems from Miserlie's posts, we share the same thoughts on the matter. So I still fail to see how I was dismissive of Miserlie's opinion, or preaching. It's all good, I don't have to understand everything others say and do, or why. Earth wouldn't be a very fun place if I did.

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"Edit to add - sorry this post was not directed at you Miserlie but to the OP" Simple. As if you didn't know. I am no longer going to see your posts as it's apparent you want to continue to go on about nothing. MUTE.

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Allisah wrote:

"Edit to add - sorry this post was not directed at you Miserlie but to the OP" Simple. As if you didn't know. I am no longer going to see your posts as it's apparent you want to continue to go on about nothing. MUTE.

Just an fyi:  The mute on these forums do not work like the previous ones, ie. when you mute someone on these forums it just means you will not receive forum PMs from the person but you still see their posts.

Edit: clarification

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I just wanted to say thank you to all of the ladies who have reached out to me both via e-mail and inworld. The responses have been very encouraging and I look forward to getting to know you. Once again, thanks for taking time out of your day.

 

-Del

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