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Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

I have no idea what you are talking about. Who said anything about faking?

I was talking about the need to commumcate what you like or don't like with your partner and unless you do that you can't complain because they aren't mind readers. As far as faking it, I said something abou it. as an example of not being a good way to be honest and open with a partner. I didn't say any of the posters here did that but some people do.

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Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

See that is exactly what I'm talking about. Having an arguement because someone didn't or couldn't climax. Give me a break. If that person whole heartedly loves you, it wouldn't even matter.

If you wholeheartedly loved the person it wouldn't matter to you if they ask in the first place.  So the answer is simple... don't bang anyone you don't wholeheartedly love.

...Dres

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Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

...To me, aftercare is more like kissing and cuddling...

...I don't really like dwelling too much on sex. I like for it just to happen...

...Some people think too hard and it ruins the mood...

...asking if I have had fun, that's fine, I ask guys if they had fun or are enjoying themselves but I don't ask, did you climax or are you wonking off...

I have little else to add, but I do wonder how many times you've said these things to your partner(s), instead of getting annoyed when they ask clumsy questions. Don't worry though; it's rhetorical.

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Actually it does matter for the simple fact that it's a dumb question and it shouldn't matter rather a woman climaxes or not and like I said it's pretty simple, if the person isn't enjoying it then they would stop it, at least I would. Who people choose to have sex with rather they wholeheartedly love the person or not is there perogative.

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Gamja , you come across as being very angry at men. maybe IM me inworld, prehaps we can chat

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Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

Hi there,

 

This is really for all the ladies out in sl and it's more a statement than a question. Alright, you're having a hell of a good cyber session with a guy, girl, shemale, whatever and you're really into it, it's a nice little scene all is well and then it comes to an end, everyone is happy and then he pops the question: Did you climax?

To me that just kills the mood and the scene and it really turns me off. It also turns me off when a person tell me that they are wonking off behind the pc. It's like, ok, we're all human and we do things and have our needs and I know men have to release, but asking questions like that just kills the mood for me because number one,
no I don't wonk or climax behind the pc.
Another thing is that they feel like you're not into it or interested if you're not wonking or climaxing behind the pc. That is so rediculous. Especially because a lot of women don't have orgasms. I have only met one guy that never asked me that question and god I miss him.

 

I have a serious question. If you don't "wonk or climax behind the pc" why bother with the sexual RP? What is the point if you don't get off on it and obviously don't care if your partner does? If you are doing it to get in the mood for your RL partner, you should be honest with your SL partner and let them know that.

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To answer your question, speaking as a woman who does have orgasms (i hope you are mistaken that "a lot of women don't"), i am not bothered if i am asked.  I do not understand, however, what a "good cyber session" is, if not sex.  Is it RP?  And if so, like other posters have said, communicate with a partner about what your RP expectations/limits are.  Maybe that will help.

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Storm Clarence wrote:

I never ask. I know she climaxed the moment she begins to snore.  

 

I always new when my Ex climaxed because she'd drop her nail file.

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I kind of find it a hot if a girl asks in im if I am wanking it in real life.  So for me it's a turn on, but as you said this is more for the ladies.  I never ask, I mean, if they are still playing then that's cool.  After the event I may ask: How was it?  And I'll get usually responses it was fun, or "I came twice" etc.  Who knows if they really did, but so what, I mean as long as you get something out of it I could care less if the other person did.

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Hmmm. Ive never asked. Been asked by a few ladies, and tbh it was kinda awkward when they asked when I told the 'no'. I dont "wonk" (as someone previous so elegantly put it) during sexual rp. Personally I like my Rp to last quite a while, and I prefer it to just serve to tease me, rather than get me off. So i've never been one to ask. I personally feel that involving rl in rp is strange.

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Hey all, i was just reading this and i have a question:

I am a man who enjoys RP sex, and when i play with a woman does she normally expect me to play with myself?

Or how would she react if i told her something like "no i didn't touch myself. Was i supposed to?"

I would rather enjoy the RP too instead of playing with myself and leaving a mess to clean up.

And no, i don't tell them things like "i just came so hard in RL i'm shaking..." and i dont ask them either if they play with themselves. But i have seen some girls doing it too. They mention their big red dildo and stuff like that.

But i did sometimes when it came close to the end, turn voice on and i was moaning softly. I know some guys like their girls to moan for them, so why not let the men moan for the girls too? Even if they dont touch themselves... or would you consider that "faking" then?

I mean... when i play with someone who has little kids, she can still Role Play without looking at the scene. But i don't think she would touch herself wile the kids are around...

I am a little confused... :-P

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Jayson Farstrider wrote:

Hey all, i was just reading this and i have a question:

I am a man who enjoys RP sex, and when i play with a woman does she normally expect me to play with myself?


 

Why do it unless you are going to get off?


Jayson Farstrider wrote:

 

Or how would she react if i told her something like "no i didn't touch myself. Was i supposed to?"


 

90% of the people who have SL sex do indeed "touch themselves." 


Jayson Farstrider wrote:

 

But i did sometimes when it came close to the end, turn voice on and i was moaning softly. I know some guys like their girls to moan for them, so why not let the men moan for the girls too? Even if they dont touch themselves... or would you consider that "faking" then?


Yes, that's faking it. If you are not touching yourself, why are you moaning?

 


Jayson Farstrider wrote:

 

I mean... when i play with someone who has little kids, she can still Role Play without looking at the scene. But i don't think she would touch herself wile the kids are around...

 

She should NOT be having SL sex while she has little kids running around in RL. Would you watch porn with kids in the same room? Talk about terrible parenting.

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Well yeah i do enjoy RP-sex in SL but its not the only fun thing to do here. And i dont ask or tell people what i do in RL.

I have to admit, this is only my "fun time alt". I have several shops on my main where i sell things, and... believe it or not: I am not in a relationship there either. But i am very happily married RL.

I have been talking to gorean Role Players too, and they said they don't care if the other person is **bleeping** at the computer while having sex or not. But mostly there is not much time to do so, because they have to concentrate on the emoting and everything...

 

 

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Considering that a few guys have weighed in on this ....

I have to agree with a few of the men and women here that are rather confused concerning the reasoning behind sexual RP and not being concerned with "getting off" or "getting their partner off". Yes, I do agree that one should enjoy the ride so to speak and that if one is not enjoying his/herself they would ordinarily cease such activities ...

That's not how it works more than half the time in real life however.

The number of males and females who have sex just to have sex is quite low to be honest. Most peple actually do want to "get off." The same can be said for sexual RP. If the purpose is not to work the other person to an orgasm ... then any level of detail beyond -fade to black- is not required.

On a more personal level ... While I will not ask such a question after mose sexual RP, I tend to do so if the "characters" involved were little more than place holders for myself and my partner. The types/species involved in that instance would matter little as the "characters" were invented on the spot to be used to fulfill some fantasy or to be able to do things which our minds know we ourselves cannot physically do.

It's not a matter of ego for me either. I am one of those rare males who derives pleasure from my partner's pleasure. More often than not, I derive more pleasure from them than I myself am getting.

Yep - it's nice if I am able to **bleep**. It's far better if my partner does however. No ego boost there either. If my partner cannot **bleep**, I'll still enjoy working them to a point of exhaustion (and lets face it, sex even without cumming is exhausting) or to a point where enough is enough.

Yes, some will look at that and assume I am not being honest about the whole thing ... To these types I can only say this: You're not me and thus have no idea what goes on in my mind.

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Solar Legion wrote:

Yep - it's nice if I am able to **bleep**. It's far better if my 
partner
does however. No ego boost there either. If my partner cannot **bleep**, I'll still enjoy working them to a point of exhaustion (and lets face it, sex even without cumming is exhausting) or to a point where enough is enough.

 

This statement confuses me.  If your partner cannot "complete" why would they want to become physically exhausted? And why would you enjoy "working them" till enough is enough? If it isn't going to happen call it a night and try again later.

I have never had my partner not finish. Usually she "finishes" several times. If. for whatever reason, her body was not responding and she felt she would not "finish" we would do something else. Why wear yourself out if she wont fully enjoy it?

 

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Yes, I know it's confusing Drake.

I have had one or two partners that enjoy the ride more than the destination - they're the type I tend to do such a thing with.

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I had one partner who couldn't **bleep** in RL while she was sitting at her computer,  It just didn't work for her.

We still **bleep**ed in SL.  She would RP her satisfaction when we did.

It made her very happy knowing she had satisfied me.

After she logged and went to bed she would **bleep** herself, replaying the scene in her mind.  Sometimes several times.  She said it was some of the best **bleep** she ever had.

I got great pleasure knowing the pleasure she would enjoy later on.

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Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

Hi there,

 

This is really for all the ladies out in sl and it's more a statement than a question. Alright, you're having a hell of a good cyber session with a guy, girl, shemale, whatever and you're really into it, it's a nice little scene all is well and then it comes to an end, everyone is happy and then he pops the question: Did you climax?

To me that just kills the mood and the scene and it really turns me off. It also turns me off when a person tell me that they are wonking off behind the pc. It's like, ok, we're all human and we do things and have our needs and I know men have to release, but asking questions like that just kills the mood for me because number one, no I don't wonk or climax behind the pc. Another thing is that they feel like you're not into it or interested if you're not wonking or climaxing behind the pc. That is so rediculous.
Especially because a lot of women don't have orgasms.
I have only met one guy that never asked me that question and god I miss him.

 

Sorry about my tardiness to the thread.  But I had to comment on the bit - a LOT of women don't have orgasms. 

Is that true?  I didn't get the memo obviously...am gonna have a complex now :P

Seriously .. in this day and age?  I'm from the free love, peace generation.   Peed in a field (although not at Woodstock but something very close) & I fought for rights to have an orgasm!  Didn't burn my bra though - new one just wasn't in the budget.

I think if those are statistics taken from somewhere, the person needs to take an upgrade course in gathering statistics. 

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Rival Destiny wrote:


Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

Hi there,

 

This is really for all the ladies out in sl and it's more a statement than a question. Alright, you're having a hell of a good cyber session with a guy, girl, shemale, whatever and you're really into it, it's a nice little scene all is well and then it comes to an end, everyone is happy and then he pops the question: Did you climax?

To me that just kills the mood and the scene and it really turns me off. It also turns me off when a person tell me that they are wonking off behind the pc. It's like, ok, we're all human and we do things and have our needs and I know men have to release, but asking questions like that just kills the mood for me because number one, no I don't wonk or climax behind the pc. Another thing is that they feel like you're not into it or interested if you're not wonking or climaxing behind the pc. That is so rediculous.
Especially because a lot of women don't have orgasms.
I have only met one guy that never asked me that question and god I miss him.

 

Sorry about my tardiness to the thread.  But I had to comment on the bit - a LOT of women don't have orgasms. 

Is that true?  I didn't get the memo obviously...am gonna have a complex now
:P

Seriously .. in this day and age?  I'm from the free love, peace generation.   Peed in a field (although not at Woodstock but something very close) & I fought for rights to have an orgasm!  Didn't burn my bra though - new one just wasn't in the budget.

I think if those are statistics taken from somewhere, the person needs to take an upgrade course in gathering statistics. 

This article may be of interest to you.

http://abcnews.go.com/Health/ReproductiveHealth/sex-study-female-orgasm-eludes-majority-women/story?id=8485289#.UIBmpGduCSq

 

 

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Perrie Juran wrote:


Rival Destiny wrote:


Gamja Myanamotu wrote:

Hi there,

 

This is really for all the ladies out in sl and it's more a statement than a question. Alright, you're having a hell of a good cyber session with a guy, girl, shemale, whatever and you're really into it, it's a nice little scene all is well and then it comes to an end, everyone is happy and then he pops the question: Did you climax?

To me that just kills the mood and the scene and it really turns me off. It also turns me off when a person tell me that they are wonking off behind the pc. It's like, ok, we're all human and we do things and have our needs and I know men have to release, but asking questions like that just kills the mood for me because number one, no I don't wonk or climax behind the pc. Another thing is that they feel like you're not into it or interested if you're not wonking or climaxing behind the pc. That is so rediculous.
Especially because a lot of women don't have orgasms.
I have only met one guy that never asked me that question and god I miss him.

 

Sorry about my tardiness to the thread.  But I had to comment on the bit - a LOT of women don't have orgasms. 

Is that true?  I didn't get the memo obviously...am gonna have a complex now
:P

Seriously .. in this day and age?  I'm from the free love, peace generation.   Peed in a field (although not at Woodstock but something very close) & I fought for rights to have an orgasm!  Didn't burn my bra though - new one just wasn't in the budget.

I think if those are statistics taken from somewhere, the person needs to take an upgrade course in gathering statistics. 

This article may be of interest to you.

 

According to that article (which is poorly written, confusing failure to orgasm with failure to orgasm during intercourse, something which every woman, including the author, should be able to easily understand) 10-15% of women don't have orgasms at all. According to Johns Hopkins, 18 million US men over the age of 20 are affected by erectile dysfunction. The US population is 315 millon. About a quarter of those are children and if we figure a 50/50 M/F split, that leaves about 120 million male adults. And that means that about 15% of males are affected by ED.

I've no idea how ED compares to failure to orgasm, but at first blush, it appears men and women are in the same boat, or in the same water, depending on how you look at it.

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