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Q. for Married Men who partake in pixelated perversions

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funkilicous wrote:

Just curious but in your other posts seems you use the same terms "rub one off" and that you would never do it but yet you found this "pervert" "trolling" on a sex/rp sim, I go to sex/rp sims for one reason. Its not for a relationship where this post was originally posted.

Is rubbing one or more off required when engaging in pixel sex? If that's the case, I've been doing it all wrong for three years cause the logistics of me sitting in my chair with one hand on my hoot nanny and the other on my keyboard just ain't there. I didn't find just one 'pervert'. I didn't call anyone a 'pervert'. This Q was directly solely at the men who have those kind of disclaimers in their profiles, of which I have seen many...MANY over the years.


funkilicous wrote:

Im still having a hard time grasping how he enjoys SL has any effect on your enjoyment.

Again, there is no 'he'. This was directed at the masses who have such profile disclaimers. Further, it doesn't affect my enjoyment of anything one iota. I was merely curious, wanted answers and decided to go to the source to get them instead of drawing my own conclusions.

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Senobia Xenga wrote:


funkilicous wrote:

Just curious but in your other posts seems you use the same terms "rub one off" and that you would never do it but yet you found this "pervert" "trolling" on a sex/rp sim, I go to sex/rp sims for one reason. Its not for a relationship where this post was originally posted.

Is rubbing one or more off required when engaging in pixel sex? If that's the case, I've been doing it all wrong for three years cause the logistics of me sitting in my chair with one hand on my hoot nanny and the other on my keyboard just ain't there. I didn't find just one 'pervert'. I didn't call anyone a 'pervert'. This Q was directly solely at the men who have those kind of disclaimers in their profiles, of which I have seen many...MANY over the years.

funkilicous wrote:

Im still having a hard time grasping how he enjoys SL has any effect on your enjoyment.

Again, there is no 'he'. This was directed at the masses who have such profile disclaimers. Further, it doesn't affect my enjoyment of anything one iota. I was merely curious, wanted answers and decided to go to the source to get them
instead of drawing my own conclusions.

I think what most are saying, is that you can't possibly get a consensus on such an issue.  Every person, male & female, will have a different perspective and this is a good thing.  It would be terribly boring if all men were created equal. 

So bottom line, the variety of answers in this thread should be a huge indicator that you are going to have to continue to draw your own conslusions on a person by person basis.

 

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On my Main I have been involved in the SL Adult community for some years, and this question pops up frequently :-)

We all participate in the adult aspects of SL of our own free will, therefore we should all take responsibility for our own morality and ethical bahaviour;

~If in your opinion, other people's Real Life behaviour and status affects how you interect with them in SL, put that in your profile limits "Only want to date people who are single in RL as well as SL"

Over time, one of my Rules is to not make character judgements of others based on their kinks.  My presumption is that the other party is grown-up enough (and age-verified) to take responsibility for the RL ethical and moral consequences of their actions.

Personally, I tend to shy away from people who require too much information about Real Life in order to interact in Second Life.  My preference is to keep my kink digital and my digital relationships OUT of my Real Life (I am up-front about the fact that SL will not extend into RL).  Thus, someone who *must* know all about my RL is probably on some level wanting to take the digital relationship into RL, and thus would ultimately be unhappy with my "digital only" limits.  This saves both of us drama :-)

I am not using SL as a means to find a RL mate, so in reality I do not care overmuch about the age, gender (lets be real, MANY SL female avatars are male in RL), relational status of the other avatar's "Typist".  

What matters to me is if our personalities are compatible and our interests compliment one another to make for an interesting  online existance.

That's just my opinion of course :-)

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I agree on the part with the real life informations, not only about getting asked to much to fast, but also about people telling unaksed about their whole real life self. Imagine a beautiful beach, soft music playing, sunset in the background and just meeting some good looking surferguy

.....

Perfect? Yes....untill he need to tell you the city he lives in, shows you a link to google maps and says he is 40 years old and so on.....

Hell....too much information! :catindifferent:

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Cartoon porn is cartoon, but still primarily porn.  I would say most men on SL that do the pixel sex thing just see it as a more interactive porn session, and you know we don't develop any real feelings toward the porn, especially once we're "done".  There's no relationship there.

 

What he said

 

As an aside to Amanda Keen:

Personally, I tend to shy away from people who require too much information about Real Life in order to interact in Second Life.  My preference is to keep my kink digital and my digital relationships OUT of my Real Life (I am up-front about the fact that SL will not extend into RL).  Thus, someone who *must* know all about my RL is probably on some level wanting to take the digital relationship into RL, and thus would ultimately be unhappy with my "digital only" limits.  This saves both of us drama :-)

 :manwink:     Smart girl!

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It's up to them. We really can't say. Maybe his wife doesn't mind it. A lot of people just see SL as virtual porn anyway.

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The reason is simple enough: to have one's cake and eat it too.  It shouldn't be a big surprise.

Regarding the cheating issue, a lot of people are making assumptions.  Cheating is violating agreements.  Since we don't know what agreements the OP's example has with his RL, any assumptions we make about his situation are just that.  I've known people who have agreements with their spouses, who have monogamous RLs but all sorts of ... um ... "fun" in SL, and it's OK with the spouse.

What could be the reasons for that?  There are many.  The fear of diseases might be one reason to be monogamous in RL, but wouldn't apply to SL.  A person might feel jealousy for a flesh encounter but not an animated one, even if there's rubbing going on.  The full list would be as long and varied as there are different kinds of people.

Sure, I bet those cases are the minority.  Otherwise, it's just a matter of what one can get away with, or how far over the line one is willing to go.  While the points about SL relationships and emotions being real are valid, I still bet most of us would consider an in-the-flesh encounter to be a bigger violation of our RL agreements than an SL encounter.

Why the "taken in RL" notice?  Because it serves a purpose (avoiding entanglements, and avoiding misleading someone).  Nothing odd about that.

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Its very simple. You put that info bout your RL into your profile to make sure people who approach you in SL know in advance what they sign up for.  I would feel terribly bad in misleading someone to believe we can have a RL follow up on a SL romance/sex.  So I think its to warn people off out of respect. Especially because you cant tell by the avi name wheter that person sees SL as an extention of their RL self or as a fictional RP character. And then things can get VERY ugly VERY fast.

 

I am married irl and my rl husband is on SL too. We see our avis as characters, like an actor plays his part. Actors kiss too during romance scenes yet that doesnt mean they will divorce their partner. (ok sometimes that does happen but thats besides the point here)

 

Both me and my rl husband have no problem with SL romance and partnering. As long as what happens in SL stays in SL. We are both honest to our SL partners about this. In fact I am happy bout the fact my SL man is married irl too. This means we both get to have fun yet we know we dont hurt RL feelings with this.  It should be fun and not cause RL drama.

 

There are a lot of people who think they can judge the fact I am married AND in SL but they dont know my RL and they can absolutely not say a word about how happy I am in RL. I love my husband. I wouldnt divorce him for whatever prince charming I meet in SL. Because here in SL everything is perfect. There is no bills to pay, no toothpaste caps. no dirty laundry, no bad hairdays... so you can show the other person a perfect version of yourself. I am old enough not to believe in fairytales so I just take the best parts out of my SL experience and although I am very fond of my SL partner,  its good to know where we stand. I do have emotions towards him but we keep those in SL :) I wish people would be less judgemental and stop assuming theres something wrong with my RL relationship when I tell someone we are both in SL.

 

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I've been married for 12 years so far and I am in an open marriage so I don't think every man/woman that is married is commiting adultry in SL if they are intimate with someone here, only those that are in a closed marriage and feel the need to lie and hide what they are doing are.  You can't commit adultry if you have your spouses permission and open marriages are becoming more and more the norm these days. 

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SL is a game that has sex in it if u want.   Pixel sex AINT sex, it's what's called a "vicarious experience."   Same as watching porn aint the same as f---ing.   Same as watching movies and liking them, does not mean u actually DID what u saw others do even if it sorta felt like u were there kissing Sandra Bullock.  ;=]  Role playing is ony pretending, don't matter how GOOD it feels it aint u, its the medium that is making u feel that way.

Relax.  Don't condemn anyone for pretending something.  We ALL do it in one way or another and ull just wind up hating evryonewho aint The Pope..

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Beanstalkr wrote:

SL is a game that has sex in it if u want.   Pixel sex AINT sex, it's what's called a "vicarious experience."   Same as watching porn aint the same as f---ing.   Same as watching movies and liking them, does not mean u actually DID what u saw others do even if it sorta felt like u were there kissing Sandra Bullock.  ;=]  Role playing is ony pretending, don't matter how GOOD it feels it aint u, its the medium that is making u feel that way.

Relax.  Don't condemn anyone for pretending something.  We ALL do it in one way or another and ull just wind up hating evryonewho aint The Pope..

1. You necroed a thread from almost a year ago that was happily DIEING!!

2. You must be a fan of Bill Clinton.. "Pixel sex aint sex" So, phone sex isn't sex, sexting isn't sex, masturbation isn't sex. Yet all of those things can be used as just cause for a divorce.

3. Who said SL sex is role playing? I am very much not pretending any feelings I have with my partner in SL. I would bet most don't role play their feelings in SL.

4. It's not "the medium" hat makes people enjoy SL sex... It's the other person, what they say, how well they make you feel what they say. and of course, how good your imagination is. Just like when a spouse calls home on a business trip. their partner isn't in the room with them, yet they both can enjoy the other.

5. It's not a game, it's a virtual world. learn the difference.

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Delayed adulthood thesis? More sociological rubbish. That's the problem with sociology degree in order to get one you have to agree with every idiotic thesis to pass and then write another thesis to prove them wrong and as i have one i am entitled to make an opinion. Worse degree i ever did, suspect statistics, warped and twisted data, etc. World be far better without that profession.

ADDED:" Only in mathmatics will we find truth.." Cardinal Borusa 

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steph Arnott wrote:

Delayed adulthood thesis? More sociological rubbish. That's the problem with sociology degree in order to get one you have to agree with every idiotic thesis to pass and then write another thesis to prove them wrong and as i have one i am entitled to make an opinion. Worse degree i ever did, suspect statistics, warped and twisted data, etc. World be far better without that profession.

ADDED:" Only in
mathmatics
will we find truth.."
Cardinal 
Borusa
 

Presumably Cardinal Borusa was a semi-literate ESLer.

Or would that be your own error?

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LOL, no he was a Time Lord. This was a bit of a joke that you obviously did not get.

ADDED: By the way if you actually have a degree please say, because I think you need to give it back or stop pasting pretentious rubbish to make you look clever, also stop trying to compete with people that actually have spent 4 years studying because its making you look like a moron. Also if you read the thesis you would understand that taking two parts from two different sections is just plain dumb, because it is meaningless. People with learning difficulties are just normal people that struggle, people that try to be clever to boost there lack of self esteem are trying to find their place in a unforgiving world, but plain bull is, well, sanctimonious drivel, Give me one of those people that struggle any day, they honest. And ending, i read all your post answers and there is a predominant attitude of putting people down, lack of good English grammar, seems to be your usual comment or just plain insult and if you really want to go down the English  language route " ESLer." is a non existent word, its a slang gutter word.

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steph Arnott wrote:

By the way if you actually have a degree please say, because I think you need to give it back or stop pasting pretentious rubbish to make you look clever
,
also stop trying to compete with people that actually have spent 4 years studying because
its
making you look like a moron. Also if you read the thesis you would understand that taking two parts from two different sections is just plain dumb, because it is meaningless. People with learning difficulties are just normal people that struggle
,
people that try to be clever to boost
there
lack of self esteem are trying to find their place in a unforgiving world, but plain bull is, well, sanctimonious drivel
,
Give me one of those people that struggle any day,
they honest
.
And
ending,
i
read all your post answers and there is a predominant attitude of putting people down
,
lack of good English grammar
seems to be your usual comment or just plain insult and if you really want to go down the English  language route "
 ESLer." is a non existent word,
its
a slang gutter word.

Have a degree? I lecture, supervise and occasionally have to teach (which is an entirely different concept) people that would like to have degrees. Most of them will get one, usually undeservedly because higher education nowadays is more about leeching donations from alumni and exploiting foreigners who pay extortionate fees than raising the level of native intellectual activity.

You, I presume, might fall into that "exploited foreigners" category, particularly if you wasted the most important years (Four? Did you have to repeat a year? In my country a degree takes three.) of your life studying the risibly academically unrigorous discipline of sociology, as a previous post suggests. I would also suggest that you ask for a significant refund from whoever was responsible for teaching you English.  I don't suppose, however, that you paid anything for your self-humiliating attempts at remote diagnostic psychological profiling, but if you did you should demand all of it back and spend the money on therapy to correct your own inferiority complex, along with psychic cosmetic surgery to have the metaphorical chips removed from your shoulders.

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Then you should cosider refraining from constant put downs. Your English is my fifth language and the reason it was four years is because I was do a Biology BSc Hons degree at the same time.

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steph Arnott wrote:

Then you should
cosider
refraining from constant put downs.

Why? I reward public stupidity with public disapprobation.


steph Arnott wrote:

Your English is my fifth language

Perhaps you should consider using your first four more in the relevant forums.

 

 


steph Arnott wrote:

the reason it was four years is because I was
do
a Biology BSc Hons degree at the same time.

At the same time as what?

 

 

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Sad man, no friends. Just likes to feel good being  rude. Comes on line to insult because you just a sad old loser with no real friends to make you feel good. Have a great life, you not worth answering any more as you  Intellectually deficit.

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You might want to consider stopping there.  If not, you may need a bigger shovel cause you are way out of your depth here.  When you have to attack the person instead of the argument you have lost.

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I'd seriousally just ignore him. He is VERY SAD. He's a troll and a grammer nazi. He's done this to me many times. He doesn't actually ARGUE anything of substiance he only insults your intelligence by spell checking you. What he doesn't get is that ANYONE can spell check if they really wanted to it's a download away. He doesn't really understand the concept of CASUAL conversation. Basically what I'm  saying is don't feed the trolls. Literally DO NO RESPOND TO ANYTHING HE SAYS. He will only continue to antaginise you and insult you. It's not even worth it as you can not even ATTEMPT to reason with the guy he's just RIDICULOUS. I know I've tried.

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