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Senobia Xenga

Q. for Married Men who partake in pixelated perversions

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I'll preface this by saying I don't wanna get into the whole "Married people have no business in SL" debate. That's not the intent of this post. This is a serious (to me) question that I've often pondered.

 

Joe Blow is on a pixel sex/RP sim trolling for a pixel piece of .....well, you know. He's a frequent visitor to these sims and loves, loves to partake in pixelated perversions. He has a profile and he tells you about himself, including a clause similar to this one:

 

"Not looking for relationships of any kind. I'm married to my one true love and soul mate in RL and couldn't be happier." (Made up on the spot for the sake of this thread. Any similarities between this statement and any user profiles is purely coincidental)

 

So a good old fashioned on the up and up 'relationship' is an absolute no no, due to your RL situation and defiling its sanctity, but rubbing a few off to the sound/sight of another woman's words/noises is totally acceptable.

*head tilt*

Thoughts?

(Yes, the same question could be asked of women, but I'd like to hear from the men in this thread.)

 


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How do you know they are " rubbing one off" not all are on her to fulfill a masturbator need .

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Cartoon porn is cartoon, but still primarily porn.  I would say most men on SL that do the pixel sex thing just see it as a more interactive porn session, and you know we don't develop any real feelings toward the porn, especially once we're "done".  There's no relationship there.

Dating and developing a real relationship in SL, however, is a very hazardous thing.  Lots of hurt feelings when it blows up at the end.

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Senobia Xenga wrote:

So a good old fashioned on the up and up 'relationship' is an absolute no no, due to your RL situation and defiling its sanctity, but rubbing a few off to the sound/sight of another
man's
words/noises is totally acceptable.

*head tilt*

Thoughts?

FIFY.

...Dres

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If I like watching war movies, or playing first person shooter video games, that doesn't mean I want to go running around my real life neighborhood with a gun, shooting everything in sight. It just means I like to watch a particular kind of fictional entertainment, for its entertainment value.

The same can be said for SL Pixel bumping. For a lot of people, they see it only as entertainment - like watching that war movie, or playing an interactive game. The characters are assumed to be strictly fictional, and the relationships are limited to fictional characters, and who cares what the real person running the other characters looks like, their gender, or their marital status? You aren't interacting with the real person, your fictional avatar is interacting with their fictional avatar. If you approach it as entertainment, and a purely fictional interaction between fictional characters, why should it matter if you're married or not in real life?

When you watch a steamy movie in real life, can you keep your hands out of your pants in the movie theater? Most people seem to manage that. Funny thing - most people can do that in SL too. Just because they are enjoying a sexy situation in SL doesn't mean their are doing anything at all in real life.

The important thing is not to lead anyone else on with the false impression that your real life self is getting just as enamored with their real life self as what the avatars are doing on screen. And that is what the type if person whose profile you used as an example is trying to make clear. They do NOT offer any real life affection to other SL residents, regardless of what they might have their SL fictional avatar do.

Unfortunately, there are also plenty of people in SL who see their avatar as a direct projection of their real life self. If they 'kiss' another avatar, they put the same emotional value on that as they would in kissing someone they met in a singles bar in real life. When that type of person tries to hook up with someone who sees SL only as fictional entertainment is when the trouble usually happens.

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for some married couples a woman should never smile to other man because she may be betraying the marriage, while some other maried couples allow each other to have relationships outside of marriage, who are we to judge? only themselves can define the moral values that will rule their lives.

Second Life has people from different cultural backgrounds and ideologies, so we are going to find some people that are too restricted or too libertine comparing them to our personal values.

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Could be they really aren't married in RL and just put that in there to avoid a SL wedding LOL.

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At least he's honest and up front and not some sneeky type. Men in SL want SEX or RL LOVE. Nothing in the middle. IMO. I'd rather know his intent before getting to know him. So kudos for the truth (not necessarily we like his truth).

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Slex is no different than many other kinds of porn to people. Gender doesn't really play a role at all. Seems sexist to think it does.

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Ladies are not exempt from this either.... Plenty of ladies do the same

The thing that seems odd. Is the fact that some people justify that this is cartoons and "not real" If it was not real or just cartoons . Then Why seek it? Why seek the "perverted pleasures"? . Is it a feeling they get when partaking of such activities? Is the feeling real? Uh yeah!  Obvously it does something to a person to "feel" joy , excitement, eroticism. etc etc

Seeking it for some sort of satisfaction they arent getting at home? lol

All those feelings are real...  So is it justifyable to be okay? Not in my book if I am married..

 

 

I always want to say to those people. "You may be able to lie to your self. But you arent fooling me any"  :)

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What "Married people have no business in SL" debate would that be then? Should be a barrel

of fun, just want to make sure I have enough popcorn on hand while I watch =^^=


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Senobia Xenga wrote:

I'll preface this by saying I don't wanna get into the whole "Married people have no business in SL" debate. That's not the intent of this post. This is a serious (to me) question that I've often pondered.

 

Joe Blow is on a pixel sex/RP sim trolling for a pixel piece of .....well, you know. He's a frequent visitor to these sims and loves, loves to partake in
pixelated perversions
. He has a profile and he tells you about himself, including a clause similar to this one:

 

"Not looking for relationships of any kind. I'm married to my one true love and soul mate in RL and couldn't be happier." (Made up on the spot for the sake of this thread. Any similarities between this statement and any user profiles is purely coincidental)

 

So a good old fashioned on the up and up 'relationship' is an absolute no no, due to your RL situation and defiling its sanctity, but rubbing a few off to the sound/sight of another woman's words/noises is totally acceptable.

*head tilt*

Thoughts?

(Yes, the same question could be asked of women, but I'd like to hear from the men in this thread.)

 


 

So now it's perverted to interact sexually in SL?  OK, so he is happily married in RL, so what? Maybe his wife has no issue with it since its not going to become RL. Maybe he get aroused by SLex and it spices up his marriage. Personally, i don't "Rub a few off" during SLex but i do get aroused, and my wife benefits from it. 

As stated on the wall of my Skybox.. "What happens in the cabin, stays in the cabin."

And just to ask... why shouldn't married people be in SL? Not every person in SL is here for the sex.

Perhaps your view of SL as a sex playground is the perverted thought.

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Harold Shelter wrote:

How do you know they are " rubbing one off" not all are on her to fulfill a masturbator need .

The character I outlined in my thread is. And my question was directed at married men who are. 

 

I'm not speaking for anyone. That's why I asked for their thoughts.

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Canoro Philipp wrote:

for some married couples a woman should never smile to other man because she may be betraying the marriage, while some other maried couples allow each other to have relationships outside of marriage, who are we to judge? only themselves can define the moral values that will rule their lives.

Second Life has people from different cultural backgrounds and ideologies, so we are going to find some people that are too restricted or too libertine comparing them to our personal values.

Nobody is 'judging' anyone. I couldn't care less if each and every **bleep** bearing creature boinked his way across the grid and back. 

I was just curious about this one, very common, scenario and wanted to get some answers.

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People are allowed to do whatever they want, as long as its "legal" ;) And when someone marries, in lets say it "modern" worl, that person is still free to have fun and explore new things. Marriage is not a prison. That guy was honest enough to state it in his profile. Reason is, he doesn't want any lady he's having fun in SL to hope for something more than that... He is preventing those types of people from being hurt. And you should respect that and try to find someone who is free for any possible RL thing:)

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Amethyst Jetaime wrote:

Could be they really aren't married in RL and just put that in there to avoid a SL wedding LOL.

Ha. There is that.....

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Scout Schwager wrote:

What like ladies don't do this too? Lots more females in SL than men.

Read the end of my post for the disclaimer.

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Kaelyn Melody wrote:

Slex is no different than many other kinds of porn to people. Gender doesn't really play a role at all. Seems sexist to think it does.

And it seems presumptuous to draw inferences that are clearly not there. I said I am curious about the male demographic only. 

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Dilbert Dilweg wrote:

The thing that seems odd. Is the fact that some people justify that this is cartoons and "not real" If it was not real or just cartoons . Then Why seek it? Why seek the "perverted pleasures"? . Is it a feeling they get when partaking of such activities? Is the feeling real? Uh yeah!  Obvously it does something to a person to "feel" joy , excitement, eroticism. etc etc

PERFECT
example of exactly what I was getting at. Thank you, Dilbert.

 

 

 

 

I always want to say to those people. "You may be able to lie to your self. But you arent fooling me any" 
:)

 

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Dilbert Dilweg wrote:

Ladies are not exempt from this either.... Plenty of ladies do the same

The thing that seems odd. Is the fact that some people justify that this is cartoons and "not real" If it was not real or just cartoons . Then Why seek it? Why seek the "perverted pleasures"? . Is it a feeling they get when partaking of such activities? Is the feeling real? Uh yeah!  Obvously it does something to a person to "feel" joy , excitement, eroticism. etc etc

Seeking it for some sort of satisfaction they arent getting at home? lol

All those feelings are real...  So is it justifyable to be okay? Not in my book if I am married..

 

 

I always want to say to those people. "You may be able to lie to your self. But you arent fooling me any" 
:)

so basically if a book stirs up those same things..they are still lying to themselves?

humans are curious by nature..and married people still keep on being curious..

a lot of the seeking can be because humans are a curious animal..

 

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Tamara Artis wrote:

People are allowed to do whatever they want, as long as its "legal"
;)
And when someone marries, in lets say it "modern" worl, that person is still free to have fun and explore new things. Marriage is not a prison. That guy was honest enough to state it in his profile. Reason is, he doesn't want any lady he's having fun in SL to hope for something more than that... He is preventing those types of people from being hurt. And you should respect that and try to find someone who is free for any possible RL thing:)

Thank you, Cap'n Obvious - for your commentary. Had you not pointed out it was legal, I would have never known.

And to set you totally straight so that there's no further confusion, I'm not trying to find 'anyone' for 'anything'. Imma big girl, I can get myself off, see. I'm merely curious as to why the double standard when it comes to their RL relationship being the reason they'd never, ever 'cheat' or get involved here in terms of a relationship when just making a deposit seems to be alright. 

If it's just RP and they enjoy RP and that's all they get out of it is RP - there's two million and one things NOT related to pixel sex that they could do instead. Yet it's always sex and it's always 'innocent' and it always 'means nothing'. 

 

Yadda frickin' blah. 

 

It's not that anyone cares what they do or who. It's that they won't recognize or admit the irony between their actions and their words.

 

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Ceka Cianci wrote:

so basically if a book stirs up those same things..they are still lying to themselves?

 

 

Books/movies don't type/talk back, shugah. 

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Senobia Xenga wrote:


Ceka Cianci wrote:

so basically if a book stirs up those same things..they are still lying to themselves?

 

 

Books/movies don't type/talk back, shugah. 

so what is real..because there is someone typing on the other end?

or does it become real because you learn something about who is communicating?

you can't dictate what is real for someone else..

you can have your opinions all day long..but when it comes to judging  others and setting up rules for others..

we're not back in the old days of the crusades here..

the sign says your world your imagination..i believe they were talkign to all of us..

ETA: is Shugah supossed to be you calling me sugar?

like some sort of bimbo?

 

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