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I've been in and out of sl for years now - and I totally have to agree.
I want so badly to find a role-play or role-playing community to be apart of or to start learning how to create content. Just chatting would be nice.
But I haven't really come across a good way to do any of those things nor the communities I'm looking for.
What I have seen and found is a ridiculous amount of ways to get it on and the same amount of partners ready and willing.

I won't say that I haven't enjoyed some 'sl bad time' but I wish there was more to things here. I honestly feel sl is mostly about trying to look good and for no other purpose than to get laid at times.

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Based on volume, range, model detail & complexity of shoes compared to all other items, rebranding SL as "Shoe Life" makes a lot of sense .... might actually kill the weird sex stigma once and for

I thought relogging restored your virginity

Sex and gachas.

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When your stuck with a female avatar you get to see how most of the male population is and wonder how in hell you belong to that gender

When you are on the male alt, you wonder if there is a sign hanging around your neck saying "Male, alt, don`t talk to me!" and you need to wear a sign saying "Male, alt, no interrest in pixels!"

Making stupid sarcastic jokes with a female avatar and people are polite and some find it funny coming from a female avatar
Making stupid sarcastic jokes with a male avatar and people find you rude, impolite and a general ass

Ofcourse when they need something from you, it`s all fine and dandy and they don`t care, till finished...

Is SL about sex? yes
Most people, definitely males, on the lower creativity level it is
I doubt the average male IQ is abouve 31 heh

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just going from the title..no it's not ONLY about sex..

but it sure can be ..as much as you want it to be lol

but it's far from being ONLYjust about sex..

i would say it plays a big part of the popular market in a lot of things..meaning it seems to really be put out there more than all the rest that sl has to offer..

i mean just do a search on the market place  using the word mesh and you'll get a few mesh genitals popping up in the first couple of rows lol

but the rest of the mesh there outweighs it..

but just those few penises will burn an image in your mind that will have you remembering..omg  there was a peenis on that page!

where you may forget what the 5 skirts around it looked like or what color they were.. lol but there were 5 skirts there and just one peeenis lol

 

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Biller Longfall wrote:

Sex isn't good when it's infested the Sci-Fi RP sims and people don't focus on good RP's or character growth. 

Yes I agree but SL has so many facets. Sex is one of them. That was one of my first posts and I have learned a lot since then, However one thing still stays true, sex or no sex I am with the same man as then and our love has grown to a point where RL is on the table. I make no apologies, though I realize now our relationship is hardly typical of SL

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Zeta Zemach wrote:

I have been in Seoond Life for about a year now  (actually I have been there for 5 years, but I had a 4 year break and came back about a year ago) and it gets more and more clear to me that Second Life primarily is about sex and partnerships, and I often find the gender roles to be overly sexy and overly romantic. I know I'm stepping on somebodys toes here
:(

Im not interested in neither and for that reason I'm wondering if there is any future for me in SL. What I found was a lot of needy men who would defriend me as soon as they realized that I was serious about not having sex or relationships.

I'm in SL because I'm interested in virtual worlds and I like to talk to people from all over the world

What do you think? Does it make any sense to be in SL if you dont want to have sex or doesn't believe in SL relationsships??

 

...if LL banned slex SL would die w/in hours
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Jeanne

That's what the "prediction" was when LL banned in world gambling about 4 years or so ago.

 

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Zeta Zemach wrote:

 

@Tari: I agree -However I have tried to find sims that match my RL interests -and there were no one there LOL. People seems to gather in sims that has a romantic or sexual concept. 
 

Probably one of the main reasons you don't see people at places that match your RL interests is because events that attract the members of <whatever> area are generally run at specific times.  A couple of ways to find out when people are usually in your locale of choice is to check in the Events section on this website - there are sub-categories for Education, Charities, a few other categories, and Entertainment.  You can see a listing of events for the next 24 or 48 hours.

Another way would be to join a group in your area of interest and ask in group chat when the events are held.  Or contact the owner of the group to ask.  Educational facilities such as Builder's Brewery, NCI, Happy Hippo, and others generally have upcoming class schedules posted at their tp in spot.  And they have groups that will keep you posted.

The reason you're likely to see people more often at dance venues is that, especially the larger more well-known clubs, have continuous "events" meaning basically that they have hosts, etc. 24/7 to cover all time zones.  I've gone in many, many dance venues that were empty, either due to not being as well known or only holding maybe one event a night.

I hope you've been able to find a "niche" you enjoy in SL. :)

 

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When I first joined, it seemed to me that nobody was crazed over sex as much as people do now. But I left and came back, nearly everyone is sex crazed. That or they are damn master & slaves or whatever that crap is now. I love to RP, but I don't hardly RP anymore because everytime I do RP, you mostly just see whores. What is the point of pixel grinding? Nobody cares about story growth anymore, it's hard to find someone to RP with. Everytime I RP, they just want to have RP sex for like three minutes then go on to the next male or female. 

You can't really find a long time loyal person who understands the concept of RP is about story and character growth anymore, that's very hard in the Sci-Fi world. I want to RP with someone that has a strong character and I know I can RP with that character in a good written RP story that doesn't include any of that master or slave junk, more than once, not just a one time stand. Sci-Fi RP was fun when people cared... if anyone cares, IM me, I'm sure as hell that I would love to RP with you.

 

Is it COMPLETELY about the sex? Probably not. But, is it mostly about the sex now? Sadly, yeah. It's been a struggle here, because all of the respectful people who did more than just that, are gone now. I can probably see why though.

I agree there are plenty of people who ARE crazed, in one way or another with sex in general(is this anything unlike rl? Nope, it pretty much mimmicks it) But I respectfully disagree that SL is mostly about sex. Maybe people just aren't going to the right places. Maybe they're going during times when only the crazed are on. I don't know. But I can easily hop the grid and find way more places with people not even remotely interested in sex. Or at least places that, generally, don't revolve around sex, rp and otherwise. I know far more people, personally, that while slex may have some role in their sl lives, it does not overtake them, than I do people otherwise. Maybe that's just me, but I highly doubt it. I don't know why you'd consider someone who does enjoy slex, for whatever reason(no one's place to judge, imo) as not being a respectful person. The two have nothing in common with one another. There are disrespectful people all over the grid, sure, but what that has to do with the question "is sl only about sex" has clearly gone right over my head, lol.

As suggested before....you're likely looking in all the wrong places. I don't participate in RP the same as many others, but I HAVE visited a ton of rp places. Some are geared, a lot, towards sex and the more intimate side of things. But there have been plenty that have/had nothing at all to do with slex. If it happened during the RP, wonderful, but the RP itself wasn't revolving around it.

I won't comment on the master/slave/whore/whatever other stuff because my thoughts on that are simply just my thoughts and I tend to offend when I share them. Suffice it to say you're not alone in your dislike for them, which is exactly why I know others out there with the same opinion exist. You just have to find them. They aren't the minority some seem to think. At least, that's not been my experience.

 

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I won't comment on the
master/slave/whore/whatever  


Statements and generalizations like this are bound to get people riled, why be so insulting? Do people sit in judgment of your bedroom play? That I chose to submit does not make me any less a woman than you, nor does it make me a 'whore'

I suggest attending a few classes inworld to better educate yourself on the subject before mouthing off about something you clearly know nothing about. The Master/slave dynamic is a means of commitment no less valid than any other.
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Leia36 wrote:

I won't comment on the
master/slave/whore/whatever  


Statements and generalizations like this are bound to get people riled, why be so insulting? Do people sit in judgment of your bedroom play? That I chose to submit does not make me any less a woman than you, nor does it make me a 'whore'

I suggest attending a few classes inworld to better educate yourself on the subject before mouthing off about something you clearly know nothing about. The Master/slave dynamic is a means of commitment no less valid than any other.

I respectuflly suggest you read what I actually said...."I won't comment on that". I wasn't even remotely insulting, I was't bashing, I wasn't mouthing off. I didn't devalue anything, or anyone, and I don't understand why you seem to believe anyone who doesn't think like you on this subject does. Personally, I don't give a fig what others do as far as their relationships go-it's not my place to care. I never said one thing about commitment or validity. I also never said one thing about you, or anyone, being less of a woman. I know what I like, and dislike, just as you do. I know what I find as ideal, just as you do. Which is why my personal opinion on that particular matter doesn't really have anything at all to do with the topic (just as the portion of post I replied to, which mentioned it, had nothing to do with the topic, either). You really should take words at face value and if unsure what someone meant by something, ask for clarity before spouting off about others being insensitive, rude, bashing, belittling, uneducated or whatever other negative spin you want to throw on things/people.

You are entitled to your opinion, I am entitled to mine. The difference between how we share them is that I don't feel a need to insult others at every turn when they don't agree with me. I can respectfully agree to disagree. You should try it. :)

 

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Whore is a term to insult women who take money in exchange for sex. Therefor incorrect as a term for submissive women or women as slaves, pets and what not. BDSM relationships aren't my cup of tea too, but I don't see the need to insult people just because they have this kind of relationship.

Also I wouldn't use the term whore for what it is meant for, because I see it as a form of sexism. Why isn't the insult going towards the men who pay? Why is it go if they have paid sex, but the women is the one to be blamed?

Call them prostitutes or escorts, but stop judgeing something that doesn't harm anyone.

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Whore is a term to insult women who take money in exchange for sex. Therefor incorrect as a term for submissive women or women as slaves, pets and what not. BDSM relationships aren't my cup of tea too, but I don't see the need to insult people just because they have this kind of relationship.

Also I wouldn't use the term whore for what it is meant for, because I see it as a form of sexism. Why isn't the insult going towards the men who pay? Why is it go if they have paid sex, but the women is the one to be blamed?

Call them prostitutes or escorts, but stop judgeing something that doesn't harm anyone.

Generally speaking, whores look down on their John's.

 

eta, there were no puns intended.

 

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Syo Emerald wrote:

Whore is a term to insult women who take money in exchange for sex. Therefor incorrect as a term for submissive women or women as slaves, pets and what not. BDSM relationships aren't my cup of tea too, but I don't see the need to insult people just because they have this kind of relationship.

Also I wouldn't use the term whore for what it is meant for, because I see it as a form of sexism. Why isn't the insult going towards the men who pay? Why is it go if they have paid sex, but the women is the one to be blamed?

Call them prostitutes or escorts, but stop judgeing something that doesn't harm anyone.

You're incorrect in assuming I believe the term applies to only women. You're also incorrect when you assume I was judging them. I wasn't, I was replying to a post that mentioned them, period. I wasn't the one who used the term originally. I also didn't insult anyone. The post I was replying to did.

 

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Perrie Juran wrote:

Having watched this thread for several months I am beginning to wonder if the real question is whether Real Life is only about sex?

I know I cant imagine a real life with out sex.


Deep thought if any of us really  look at it. There's no one standing to the edge of the populous in SL herding any of us toward sex in SL. Some, it has sounded like around the forum, are more than content without it or at least with it to lesser measures. So we know the freedom is there. If its seeming that so many are into it or that its popping up in a greater amount then its that folks are bringing their rl interests and wants for it INTO sl. Looking around in rl, I for one see folks "obsessed" with it. If they're not doing it or admitting it verbally they sure are always dressed for it . At least where I am geographically. So then maybe sl is just reflecting the first one. 

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SinfulPrince wrote:

 

Perrie Juran wrote:

Having watched this thread for several months I am beginning to wonder if the real question is whether Real Life is only about sex?

I know I cant imagine a real life with out sex.

Deep thought if any of us really  l
ook at it. There's no one standing to the edge of the populous in SL herding any of us toward sex in SL. Some, it has sounded like around the forum, are more than content without it or at least with it to lesser measures. So we know the freedom is there. If its seeming that so many are into it or that its popping up in a greater amount then its that folks are bringing their rl interests and wants for it INTO sl. Looking around in rl, I for one see folks "obsessed" with it. If they're not doing it or admitting it verbally they sure are always dressed for it . At least where I am geographically. So then maybe sl is just reflecting the first one. 

"If they're not doing it or admitting it verbally they sure are always dressed for it ."

Thinking now of one of the main "party streets" here where I live, it can be a real joy for a girl watcher.  During the summer most of the girls wear skirts so short that you wouldn't have to hike them up to have sex with them.  In the winter it tones down a bit but not much.

But your coment also reminded me of this.  Sex sells.  And it is used as a sales tool.  Consider this image I clipped from the log in page for SL:

 

privacy.jpg

 

I hadn't got around to it but I was going to start a thread about that "more privacy" statement in the ad.

 

"Some, it has sounded like around the forum, are more than content without it or at least with it to lesser measures."

I do enjoy SLex.  Very much at times.  But sometimes it bothers me to no end when I meet girls who that it seems to be all they are interested in.  And while yes I know some of them may really be men, I am certain that most of them are really women.  I like to do a lot more than just Slex around in SL.

 

"So then maybe sl is just reflecting the first one."  

I've always maintained that SL is like a mirror, that you are looking at a reflection of yourself in the computer screen.  Your thoughts, feelings, etc are being reflected in what you are doing and saying in Second Life.

 

 

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Perrie Juran wrote:


SinfulPrince wrote:

 

Perrie Juran wrote:

Having watched this thread for several months I am beginning to wonder if the real question is whether Real Life is only about sex?

I know I cant imagine a real life with out sex.

Deep thought if any of us really  l
ook at it. There's no one standing to the edge of the populous in SL herding any of us toward sex in SL. Some, it has sounded like around the forum, are more than content without it or at least with it to lesser measures. So we know the freedom is there. If its seeming that so many are into it or that its popping up in a greater amount then its that folks are bringing their rl interests and wants for it INTO sl. Looking around in rl, I for one see folks "obsessed" with it. If they're not doing it or admitting it verbally they sure are always dressed for it . At least where I am geographically. So then maybe sl is just reflecting the first one. 

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If they're not doing it or admitting it verbally they sure are always dressed for it .
"

Thinking now of one of the main "party streets" here where I live, it can be a real joy for a girl watcher.  During the summer most of the girls wear skirts so short that you wouldn't have to hike them up to have sex with them.  In the winter it tones down a bit but not much.

But your coment also reminded me of this.  Sex sells.  And it is used as a sales tool.  Consider this image I clipped from the log in page for SL:

 

privacy.jpg

 

I hadn't got around to it but I was going to start a thread about that "more privacy" statement in the ad.

 

"
Some, it has sounded like around the forum, are more than content without it or at least with it to lesser measures.
"

I do enjoy SLex.  Very much at times.  But sometimes it bothers me to no end when I meet girls who that it seems to be all they are interested in.  And while yes I know some of them may really be men, I am certain that most of them are really women.  I like to do a lot more than just Slex around in SL.

 

"
So then maybe sl is just reflecting the first one."  

I've always maintained that SL is like a mirror, that you are looking at a reflection of yourself in the computer screen.  Your thoughts, feelings, etc are being reflected in what you are doing and saying in Second Life.

 

 


I started reading this thread and the first thing I thought was wow, 15 pages already, sex even sells on the forums.

Also, when I saw that LL ad, the very first thing that popped into my head was, wow ... awesome advertisement.  Sensual, romantic, and the reference to 'more privacy' .... most definitely advertising the sex aspect of sl.

As for the topic, there is much more to sl other than sex, otherwise, nothing would get built & we'd all end up walking around naked & shoeless, no hair, no nails, etc etc.  JMO :P

 

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