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Sofiee Aiten
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Why can't I make friends?

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I have been on second life for almost a year and I have NO friends. I'm starting to think that I'm boring or not likeable. I'm really sad because I spend time on second life shopping alone and visiting places and I have no friends to talk to and visit placess with, etc. I'm always nice to people but I guess I don't have much to talk about. I'm also 18 irl so maybe that's a factor. If anyone could give me advice here or inworld that would be great. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. I'm sofiee aiten in world. 

 

sorry. Besides shopping i like to visit new sims. I like all music except for country. I am a new KittyCatS addict and I have a few cats right now so I visit lots of breedable sims also. I still don't know what all there is to do on second life ( sad huh?) =P

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Hi Sofiee.. I love shopping alone... never really certian when I'm dressed.. Yikes.. But express your interests, please.. EHere do you go dancing, what type of musis.. and you can friend me also.. (when I get my lappytop fixed) /kicks HD...  ohhh right sorry (mubbling) But what do you like to do while not shopping?

 

 

 

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Sofiee Aiten wrote:

I have been on second life for almost a year and I have NO friends. I'm starting to think that I'm boring or not likeable. I'm really sad because I spend time on second life shopping alone and visiting places and I have no friends to talk to and visit placess with, etc. I'm always nice to people but I guess I don't have much to talk about. I'm also 18 irl so maybe that's a factor. If anyone could give me advice here or inworld that would be great. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. I'm sofiee aiten in world. 


Hi Sofiee, I noticed that you said that you "spend time on second life shopping alone and visiting places".  Both of those activities are fun, but to meet people you need to interact with other people.  There must be a reason for you and the other people to talk to each other. 

Just like in real life, if we just went shopping and exploring, we would not have as much human interaction.   So, what I recommend is doing activities in SL that require you to interact with other second life residents for longer periods of time.  Some excellent ways to meet people, and also become a more well-rounded SL resident, is to take some building and creating classes.  Not only will you learn to create, but you'll meet other people who have this same interest. 

Or, join some role-play sims, and do some roleplay, if there are some that you find appealing.  Basically, you need to find some activity that you can do, that others are doing too, and which will allow you to interact with other SL residents for longer than just the most casual of conversations.

Join some inworld groups that plan and have activities.  Also, there are SL communities that are well known for having frequent activities for their residents, and this is a good way to meet people.  

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Tamara Artis
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Hello Sofiee!

First I wanted to tell you is, since you're really young, to forget SL and go out find some real people. But I guess you have your own reasons to play lol

I would advise you to try something. Next time when you login, go shopping alone, like you usually do. You will buy all you need to create one new character. That character will be whatever you wanted to be when you were 5 years old. Anything!

Think about it good, and make that character real. Except the look, you will also need an attitude of that character, so in the next few days try to do that simple rp.

If you get stuck, open a world map, tp to the first place you see that has many green dots, and go ask someone there. If it fails, it will be a fail of that character, not yours.

When you create that character, find some adventures, some funny things to do. (well ok if you wanted to be a doctor then find a hospital lol but you get my point) Non-friendly search will be your best source and best friend.

Make a scenario in your head and just play it. Think of it as your personal movie. Every time you login, you will have a new part of that movie. And just make it enjoyable for yourself! When you enjoy it, you will express it through your character. And that will attract people that enjoy same things.

Let us know how its going:smileyhappy: and have fun!

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I would also advise you not to get too hung up on the whole "friends" thing. :smileyhappy:  IMO, "friending" is way overrated; there are a whole bunch of people in SL whom I interact with all the time -- people who show up nearly every Monday night when I DJ at Bubblegum Music Factory, people who live on the parcels right next to mine, people whom I've roleplayed with numerous times at certain sims... but none of whom are specifically on my "friends" list.

I've been in-world for close to four years now, and my actual friends list has maybe a dozen people on it at most.  

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Hi Sofiee and you are not the first one to post something like this here. It seems like lately it has become more difficult to meet people with common interest in SL which may be in large part due to the fact that many people here are settled into their circles of friends or really don't have as much time to hang out.

However, one thing I have learned in the many years I have been here is that of the friends you have today, many will not be in SL over time.  Many on my friends list haven't logged on for years and others seem to have gone off in a different direction.

Why don't you hit me up in world and you can join a group of my friends that go out dancing every Friday night.  They are a pretty wild group with little inhibitions but all great people who range from new to very old in game and of all age groups.  I am sure you will make many new friends.  I need to do a little shopping beforehand as well and maybe you can share with me some of the shopping spots you found.

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Look me up I will go shopping with you! :smileyhappy: I love the whole SL shopping experience! :matte-motes-big-grin:

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Ill be your friend add me my username is nancy hilltop

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Sofiee Aiten wrote:

I have been on second life for almost a year and I have NO friends. 


So sad. A few suggestions. First, there may be a mistake in your profile regarding this sentence: So if you love breed able, IM me. A slight revision would probably result in you being much more popular. So if you love breeding, IM me.

On a more serious note, what you need is a plan to tackle this head-on. A twelve days of Christmas plan. There are now 12 days until that special holiday celebrating peace on earth and goodwill, when a star shown brightly over a hick town in a far flung province of the Roman empire. 

Each day until xmas, go to a popular infohub and stay there until you have added at least one friend or alternatively until at least one person has declined your friend request. They all won't turn out to be good friends, but one or two probably will. As Stalin noted, quantity has a quality all its own.