arkie24 wrote:
This week I witnessed something I want to share so maybe even one person will think about. A long time good friend of mine who is severely disabled was caught having multiple relationships. Now like me you might think so what he deserves to have fun. Well the problem was even though he said he had a couple of others he made out they were never online. He told each one he was with he loved them. Still ok in my opinion, but as he was a little secretive however you did know he was not exclusive and never would be.
Along comes a girl who decided she wants him for herself exclusive and tries to make that happen, it does not happen but she still hangs around. Along comes another girl she also wants him for herself and she tries and fails but he does tell her she is the love of his life. Now along comes another and she also wants him forherself. So she makes him promise she is the only one. She offers him real time and that appealed to him. He has an Alt so he sees her mainly with this alt but one day she makes him use the other alt to force woment to contact him so she can know who they are and subsequently get rid of them and this she does.
She talks to each one recording conversations encouraging them to say how nasty he is for doing this etc and she invites them to her lovers home to check if they are on the security system if so she delets and bans them when they have left if not she adds them then bans them. Next she has a whole lot of juicy conversations to use against each woman should they try to see the said man again.
Now after an academy award winning performance of the hurt and professing never to see him again performance she removes all his pictures etc to make it look real. Now she is ready to deal with him. He returns and is now willing to do anything for her. She makes him delete every friend and put on both alts that he is with her just so there is no doubts. *LOL* Then she makes him another avatar that she can also control just for good measure. With a happy smug look she thinks now she has him all to herself. Think again little girl.
What man allows a woman to control them to this extent, 1.a weak downtrodden man, or 2.an ill, vulnerable man desperate for love. It is the last one i believe for my friend.
I know by now a lot of you are saying well he chose to do it and yes he did and he will wear the outcome of it.
She also has been bribing him, telling him she is remodelling her home for him so it will be all on one floor, she asked his shoe size to buy special shoes...............(this I laugh at because he has had partial amputations on both feet and would need to be present for any shoe making) she tells him about all her money and acomplishments and that she will bring him there.
I think this is downright dangerous to do to such a vulnerable person she has never ever met face to face let alone spent real time with. She has no knowledge of his needs or what really that will entail and even if they are compatible.
What will she do with him if it does not work out and lets face it the odds are not in favour of it working. Is he thrown to the street or worse.
So called love, and I am saying that because until it is tested in the real life situation in this case it is not proven love, is blind, stupid, cruel and just plain old dumb.
I feel for my friend very much and she has cut contact *LOL* I was never a threat and never will be but I would try to talk sense into him i suppose.
People please meet up in real life before making promises at least see if your going to be in with a chance first.
If you have to control another person to this extent you have no love and no relationship. It is doomed
Get rid of the girl before anything else. This girl is a psychotic. And no, I'm not using the term figuratively.
Start fresh. ENTIRELY. Delete the acct and start new. Stop lying to these very sick young women who cannot turn on and off illnesses . And get rid of the alts. It keeps everybody's hands showing. I am NOT in favor of monogamy, but I am in favor of saying it. And as someone already said VERY rationally, leave SL in SL ; its a pretend world leave it there.
