Lifestyles and Relationships

[Dappyy]

Ok so first off,this is my BROTHER'S account.Not mine.

It all started when we met on a sim,we chatted and became friends.I didn't fall in love with him immediately,but he was sooo cute.He said we really think the same way ...He told me also that I'm not like other girls,obsessive and superficial..It was like a dream come true,no other guy made me feel the way he did.

Then we used to hang out everyday,I felt so happy with him and I couldn't believe when....

HE LEFT.Not forever though.4 months.I was so sad ,I even tried to cancel my account,SL didn't mean anything to me anymore.I left SL for a bit too.He then returned to the game and told me he was busy in rl ..After awhile ,he left again.I feel so empty.AGAIN.

Will he do that all the time?The leaving?I didn't tell him,but I'm really in love with him.I don't think he knows that,because I used to friendzone him.And,most important: Do you think it's my fault?What should I do,cause I can't think of anything to make him come back.I hope he's not mad at me for friendzoning him.

I'm screwed.I'm going to leave sl if he doesn't return.

[valerie Inshan Senior Helper]

I feel sorry for you Dappyy. It is always difficult (if not impossible) to give advice to others when we don't know you or your man, nor the details of of specific relationship. 4 months is quite a long time especially in SL. it may be true he's been busy in RL. Or not, sorry. But he came back. OK, now he left again and you are devastated which is only natural. Nobody but him knows if he'll return or not. I know how much it hurts and is hard to cope.

I can only speak from my own experience. My partner vanished for 4 weeks but it was for one terribly reason, he has a cancer and was in hospital. I've been waiting. I've been trying to open myself to other interests in SL. I learnt to build, I explored, I made new friends.

Only your heart can tell you what you will do with your SL. I cannot speak of gold and I am no one so knowledgable about human feelings to tell you what to do. But if I was you, I would not leave SL, at least not now, not until he returns (sounds to me he will one day or the other as he already did) and until you can have an open conversation with him about your relationship.
In the meantime, keep yourself as busy as you can. You'll maybe be surprise to see how one day you wake up and don't feel such a heavy and painful loss anymore. You have to be prepared to the eventuality that he does not come back at all too. It hurts, but you can overcome.

Wishing you the best and hugs you Dappyy.

[Drake1 Nightfire Member]

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Dappyy wrote:

Ok so first off,this is my alt.

It all started when we met on a sim,we chatted and became friends.I didn't fall in love with him immediately,but he was sooo cute.He said we really think the same way ...He told me also that I'm not like other girls,obsessive and superficial..It was like a dream come true,no other guy made me feel the way he did.

Then we used to hang out everyday,I felt so happy with him and I couldn't believe when....

HE LEFT.Not forever though.4 months.I was so sad ,I even tried to cancel my account,SL didn't mean anything to me anymore.I left SL for a bit too.He then returned to the game and told me he was busy in rl ..After awhile ,he left again.I feel so empty.AGAIN.

Will he do that all the time?The leaving?I didn't tell him,but I'm really in love with him.I don't think he knows that,because I used to friendzone him.And,most important: Do you think it's my fault?What should I do,cause I can't think of anything to make him come back.I hope he's not mad at me for friendzoning him.

I'm screwed.I'm going to leave sl if he doesn't return.

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hold up.. you aren't BF/GF and you are freaking this much? Obsessive much? You say you friendzoned him and you are going to leave SL if he keeps doing RL things. Do you know anything about his RL? Why does he keep leaving?

to answer your question, no its not your fault. he obviously has RL things to do. He could be spending time with his wife and kids. You did friendzone his butt after all.

[Betty Briand Honored Resident]

You just need to find something else or some other people to focus on. And mute him .. in case he comes back, well, again. Or just, delete your account and make a new one. Then you cannot trick yourself checking if he does return..

You can justify it all you want, telling yourself you caused this by putting him in the friendszone and what not you think you may have done wrong .. if he would feel the same .. he would be there, hunting you down well in a nice way ..

Move on, time heals all wounds, well not all but yours in not in that category... 

Just.. you know, what I think

[Izzabelha]

After a view of your profile and what you say you promote, you are not even worth one more sentence. Closing your account as another mentioned sounds like a gem of an idea to me.

[Betty Briand Honored Resident]

oh right .. well .. doesnt look like the dappyy knows what she is promoting there for real... if he/she had her teeth kicked in before, he/she wouldnt cry about a sl friendszone guy not loggin anymore ..

i wouldnt take that statement too seriously .. well gosh.. i hear you tho, seems like someone needs to grow up

[Dappyy]

Thanks,><

I feel a little bit better now,thanks for your long answer.

[Dappyy]

Yeah I know,lol,he doesn't have a wife and kids,but I suppose he has a GF in rl.

[Dappyy]

Yeah I know,I need to grow up and blah blah.

I just can't  get over him,you know?

[Dappyy]

Valerie your reply is the most helpful.Thanks alot!I really didn't feel like writing here,because I haven't done it before,but I felt like it was time to do it.